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ily, menswear guy

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I don’t think there are any memories that are okay to forget. None. I think…. I want to live with all my memories. Even if they’re sad memories. Even if their memories that only hurt me. Even if they’re memories I’d rather forget. If I keep them and keep trying, without running away… If I keep trying, then someday…I’ll be strong enough that those memories can’t defeat me. I want to think that there’s no such thing as a memory that’s okay to forget. | requested by @haroldtea ♡

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Haru S2EP04

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You ever notice how a washing machine 10 minutes is actually about 17 minutes human time

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@theopeninvite on Instagram

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hey ddf tumblr… this one‘s for you… ❤️

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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the highest demand that television has ever placed upon its actors

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hinata and friends!!!

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one of the jobs my roommate and I applied to had us take a personality questionnaire and I need yall to look at these images

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It was that simple

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SMOOOOCH

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If nandermo storyline doesn't continue after 5th episode I'll go fucking crazy👹👹👹

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Everyone gives Sherlock Holmes a hard time about being mean about Watson's writing, but honestly imagine you told your roommate "sure, you can write up an account of my work for the newspaper," thinking it would be like, about the murder, but then he publishes it and it's 90% about you, as a person, and it's a huge hit and now everyone in London knows that you hoard newspapers and do cocoaine when you're depressed. Because I think you'd be little miffed too.

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The Platypus Plays