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cw// r*pe, murder

in 2019 alone, at least* 1006 women were victims of femicide in Mexico

in 2020, the statistics have skyrocketed - already over 1000 women have been murdered this year as COVID-19 restrictions trap women in dangerous domestic violence situations

Mexico experienced its most recorded female murders in April 2020

just last month, in Mexico, 103 women were killed in femicide crimes. 36 were killed in their own homes, 60 in public, and 1 at her place of work.

in july 2020. a cop in Zacatecas abused a citizen by r*ping her

in march, women protested and were also involved in a digital protest where women stayed home and didn’t use social media, to simulate how life would be without women

the average age of victims of femicide is 25; however, the oldest women killed was 80, and the youngest was a 1 year-old.

heads have been found in plastic bags and bodies have been found with signs of abuse

today is 3 August and the first this month of femicide in Mexico has already occurred. her name was Genebit, a 20 year-old from Mexicali

more reading: femicides in Mexico: impunity and protests

petitions to sign:

no a la reducción de presupuestos para las mujeres - say no to budget cuts for the National Women’s Institute in Mexico

Niñas Sin Miedo (girls without fear) - demand to the State that girls live without fear

Sanción a quienes publicaron fotos de Ingrid Escamilla - petition to punish those who published photos of Ingrid Escamilla, a women who was brutally murdered and dismembered by her partner in her own home

Justice for Nadia Rodriguez - Nadia Verónica Rodriguez Saro Martínez was murdered on March 8, International Women’s Day. she was found in her car brutally shot to death. she was 23 years old

Justice for Leonila - Loenila de la Cruz was an indigenous woman who was sexually abused and murdered in her home

exigir cese a los femicidios en México

share and support:

amplify voices of women in Mexico because your voice and public pressure can help victims obtain the justice they deserve. movements against femicide in Mexico (and latam) can be tracked on social media with #niñassinmiedo #undíasinmujeres (#onedaywithoutwomen) and #niunamenos

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If you’re European, in a couple of weeks you will be denied any and all access to fandom contents on Tumblr and everywhere else on the internet. Here’s why.

On June, 20th the JURI of European Parliament approved of the articles 11 and 13 of the new Copyright Law. These articles are also known as the “Link Tax” and the “Censorship Machines” articles.

Articles 13 in particular forces every internet platform to filter all the contents we upload online, ending once and for all the fandom culture. Which means you won’t be able to upload any type of fandom works like fan arts, fan fictions, gif sets from your favourite films and series, edits, because it’s all copyrighted material. And you won’t also be able to share, enjoy or download other’s contents, because the use of links will be completely restricted.

But not everything’s lost yet. There’s another round of voting scheduled for the early days of July.

What you can do now to save our internet, is to share these informations with all of your family members and friends, and to ask to your MEP (the members of the European Parliament from your country) to vote NO at the next round, to vote against articles 11 and 13.

Here you can find more news and all the details to contact your MEP:

https://saveyourinternet.eu

Also, sign and share this petition:

https://www.change.org/p/european-parliament-stop-the-censorship-machinery-save-the-internet?recruiter=50668942&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=psf_combo_share_initial

We have just a couple of weeks to stop this complete madness, don’t let them dictating the way we enjoy our internet.

#SaveYourInternet now!

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stop promoting netflix’s 365 days

so a few friends and i watched the netflix film 365 days. you’ve probably heard it, it’s the film about the woman who gets kidnapped and told she won’t be allowed to leave until she falls in love with her kidnapper. hopefully, that premise already seems sickening to you, as i would have assumed was obvious, but nonetheless, i’ve seen several people i personally know, as well as many many people on social media recommend and treat this film positively, commemorating it for being forward-thinking and sexually positive. so i’m going to go into a  deep dive run-through of this film and discuss why those people are absolutely mistaken and are promoting a film that is not only horribly written, directed, and acted but is also full of sexual abuse masquerading as a sensual romance flick.

this is not an attack on the actors of the movie. i’ve noticed that both (maybe more so michele morrone) have gained quite a large fanbase as a result of the film’s popularity, and i’d like to say i don’t hold anythng against them. i’m sure they’ve lovely people, but the film they participated in is abhorrent and harmful.

please, if you find any of the topics listed below as triggering, please give this post and the movie a skip. if you’re one of the people currently obsessed with this movie, please just take a moment of your time to read this and consider that the media you are praising has some very, very harmful messages and just try to consider it critically for a second.

tw for following mentions of: rape, kidnapping and physical, mental and sexual abuse. please read at your own discretion

365 days follows polish executive laura who is kidnapped by italian mafia boss massimo and told she has a year to fall in love with him, if she doesn’t she is allowed to go, but she is not allowed to leave him until that time is up.

so, right off the bat this film will heavily feature a case of stockholm syndrome. for those who don’t know stockholm syndrome, according to healthline.com is “… a psychological response. It occurs when hostages or abuse victims bond with their captors or abusers.” it is believed to be “… a coping mechanism, or a way to help victims handle the trauma of a terrifying situation.”

i’m not an expert on the condition in any capacity, and don’t claim to be able to speak on it as psychological concept as a whole. however i would like to discuss the concept of a relationship foundation being a kidnapping in context of this film. laura is unable to walk away from massimo. she is unable to remove herself from association with this person and she tries to run away several times at the beginning of the movie. her inability to leave factors into her inability to consent in any degree to a mutual relationship and therefore mutual consent to sexual activity. her lack of choice is not sexy, it is textbook abuse. i don’t know how i can paint it any more simply, but the film portrays this “relationship” as a choice for laura to make, which it is not. she may be allowed free one day, but that is a whole year of captivity. i can’t grasp how someone can see that this is a woman who has been placed in a situation where she is a prisoner and sees anything that happens within those confines as sexy, let alone, at the bare minimum, consensual.

so that’s the foundation of the movie, which is enough to make me angry, but even more enraging is the way in which it’s dealt with by the characters, namely laura. more on that in a moment. 

so, after being told she won’t be able to leave for a year and getting her phone and laptop confiscated, laura is taken shopping, during which she momentarily seduces massmio (more on this in a moment), attempts to escape (and this) and i stopped and returned to massimo’s mansion where they have dinner. during this dinner, massimo expalins to laura that he wants her to teach him, “how to be gentle.” lets unpack this bit by bit, shall we:

a) the seduction: for a good portion of the film, laura is shown to understand that she is a prisoner and shows great resentment towards massimo for kidnapping her. but after a while, i realised this film had no intentions of handling a kidnapping in the way it should be - as a serious and traumatic crime. instead, laura decides she’s going to, on several occasions, seduce massimo with seemingly no intentions of actually sleeping with him - i draw this from the times she approaches him seductively, etc. and then walks away. personally, i think it’s incredibly offensive to paint a kidnapping victim this way, boiling something as horrifying and damaging as being made a prisoner to an occasion where she can just be sassy and flippant and playful, but i also understand that there is no one way to react “correctly” to something like this, so interpret that as you will.

b) the escapes: by this point, laura has attempted to escape several times, all of which have been met by rough intervention by massimo. The first two times, during the scene where she’s being told she’s been kidnapped, this rough, physical intervention includes massimo groping her breasts, pressing his body against her and grabbing her face. i don’t think i need to tell you that this is all sexual abuse. blatant, textbook sexual abuse. there is no two ways about it.

c) “how to be gentle”: in short, it was clear to me at this point that this was some ridiculous, abhorrent attempting at making a kidnapper appear sympathetic to the audience which is, again, textbook abuse. also, it’s stupid film making as well because at no point is it brought up again in a cinematic context, but i digress.

 so already we have:

1. a situation where she is physically unable to leave;

2. several instances of sexual and physical assault when she attempts to leave and/or fight back against her kidnapper;

not great, but it gets worse.

the issue of an inability to leave comes up again later on. during a scene in a hotel wherein, again, laura goes to seduce massimo and then decides to leave, the hotel room door is locked. she cannot leave. she asks to leave and in response, massimo restrains her to the bed while she is struggling and wriggling to get away, gropes and sexually assaults her in several ways and then brings in a prostitute to perform a sex act on him in front of her. after that, massimo says (threatens) he will have sex with laura (portrayed in a sexy “i’m gonna fuck you so hard” kind of way) while he’s pressed up against her. he assaults her again while she’s still restrained and while she is saying “please” and “i am begging you”. 

something to note here is that i do not know if those comments were meant to be taken in a way as she’s begging him to continue or begging him to stop - the film does not make that clear, but therein lies the issue. it is not clear if she consents. she never says no, but not saying no is not saying yes. i’d like to add here that this is all portrayed as a sexy, desirable scene and not portrayed as it should be - as sexual assault and attempted rape. the scene ends with laura being untied and ordered to dress up to go out (note: she dresses in a similar way to what the prostitute did. take that as you will.)

so, at this point, i’m exhausted. i’m angry, i’m upset, i’m drunk and i hate this film and everything it stands for.

the next scene is in a club with laura attempting to seduce and rile up massimo by dancing on another man. this man tries to rape laura which massimo freaks out (because only he’s allowed to do that) in a moment seen in several romances (ie, twilight) in which a woman is heroically rescued from one scum man by another. i get it. it’s a fantasy thing but also it’s boring, and overdone and i hate it. but again, i digress.

so now we’ve had:

1. a situation where she is physically unable to leave;

2. several instances of sexual assault when she attempts to leave and/or fight back against her kidnapper;

3. another incident of sexual assault and two of attempted rape. 

and there’s still an hour to go.

the next morning, laura, massimo and massimo’s mafia friend is on massmio’s yacht. there’s some stupid subplot hear about the trouble laura is causing amongst the family and their deals or whatever but at this point i do not care. laura gets angry at massmio for blaming her for her attempted rape (not by him, by the other guy - rest assured his attempted rape is never brought up) and during the argument, laura falls overboard and is rescued by massimo. when she comes to and after a small discussion between the two of which i don’t remember much, there is - and i shit you not - a five minute sex montage of them having aggressive sex on the boat. i’m not here to kink shame anyone who enjoys hardcore sex, but within the context of this film and the violence seen from massimo already, this montage is uncomfortable to say the least. i guess now laura is just okay with still being a prisoner and now it seems that she and massimo are on the same wavelength and happy or whatever. again, this is my problem with the way this victim of kidnapping, several instances of sexual assault and two cases of attempted rape is being portrayed. offensively, is the word for it.

the rest of the film spirals into this horribly written and acted mess of a romance movie, but i’m going to add it anyway just to round out how awful this movie is:

after a masked ball wherein someone threatens to kill laura, there’s another sex scene and after a declaration of love, massimo has laura sent back to warsaw with, from what i saw, no reason nor contact. so now this victim of kidnapping, sexual assault, attempted rape and sufferer from stockholm syndrome is cut off from someone she supposedly is in love with. any realistically written character would at this point be severely traumatised, but of course not, this is a fun romance film! 

so instead, she and her best friend go out drinking, laura meets her ex-boyfriend who follows her back to her apartment, and back again to save her from unwanted male attention is massimo. the two fight which ends in dubiously consented to sex and laura herself confesses her love for massimo. the two get engaged and head back to italy where he informs her she’s not allowed to have anyone except for her best friend at their wedding. her best friend is flown out, and there’s a glimmer of hope for me as she tries to convince laura that she’s “in a cage” and asks her to leave massimo, but this is brushed off because laura is pregnant and she decides she’s going to stay with massimo. 

then she, uh, dies? i don’t know, it’s stupid, i don’t care, but something happens, it’s a cliffhanger: i’ve heard there’s possibly going to be a sequel and that it’s a book series and she’s actually just kidnapped (again, but i doubt that kidnapping will be as sexy as this one !) but at this point i’m almost blackout drunk and i don’t care for anything anymore.

so, to draw a conclusion, this film is a portrayal of a kidnap, sexual assault, attempted rape victim who is cut off from her family, and paints her in a sexy, heavy romantic relationship with a violent, abusive kidnapper. this film romanticises abuse and stockholm syndrome and people are acting like it’s the new fucking pride and prejudice movie because both of them are attractive people.

please, please, please. if you have made it this far, please reblog and spread the word. my best hope is that people who are claiming this film is good are just blindly naive and ignorant to what abuse is. if you have anything to add, please do so.

if you enjoyed this film, i highly recommend you reevaluate why and if you still continue to defend this film, you are choosing to defend a film that, again is a portrayal of a kidnap, sexual assault, attempted rape victim who is cut off from her family, and paints her in a sexy, heavy romantic relationship with a violent, abusive kidnapper. i can’t put it more simply than that.

again this is not an attack on either of the actors nor on people who enjoy a more kinky sex life. it’s simply an explanation of why this film is harmful and horrendous to be promoted as a sex positive, good film. there are plenty of other kinky sex positive films out there! we can bring a positive like to less mainstream sex in a way that doesn’t involve coerced consent and abuse.

please spread the word that this film is deeply harmful to women who are survivors and women susceptible to this kind of disgusting romanticist of blatant abuse. i cannot stress this enough, please stop promoting this film.

thank you.

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I HAVE TO TALK ABOUT THIS AND I HAVE TO PUT MY PLATFORM IN GOOD USE.

IM SO FUCKING PISSED RIGHT NOW.

HIS NAME WAS GIOVANNI LÓPEZ. HE WAS 30 YEARS OLD. HE WAS A CONSTRUCTION WORKER. HE WAS TORTURED AND BRUTALLY KILLED BY MEXICAN AUTHORITIES IN GUADALAJARA JALISCO BECAUSE “HE WASN’T WEARING HIS MASK”. HE HAD HIS MASK IN HIS HANDS.

WE’RE GETTING KILLED BY THE PEOPLE WHO SWORE TO PROTECT US. WE CAN’T STAND THIS. AS A MEXICAN PERSON, IM SO FUCKING PISSED RIGHT NOW.

PLEASE. PLEASE. SPREAD THE WORD. GIOVANNI DIDN’T DIE, HE WAS KILLED BY THE POLICE.

JUSTICIA PARA GIOVANNI. JUSTICE FOR GIOVANNI.

HERE ARE SOME PETITIONS YOU CAN SIGN:

https://t.co/65XTRJw0ZQ

https://t.co/RVqT1HdV6N

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happy pride month to all my lgbtq+ brothers, sisters and gender non conforming friends 🎉🏳️‍🌈🌈🎉🏳️‍🌈🌈🎉🏳️‍🌈🌈🎉

please remember to stay safe, look out for each other and celebrate ourselves and our history this month!

💘💝💖💗💓💞💕💌❤🧡💛💚💙💜❤🧡💛💚💙💜

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This is the official petition that will be brought directly to the U.S. government if it gets 100,000 signatures by June 28, 2020. Confirmation email after signing will come around 10 minutes afterwards. You don’t have to live in the U.S. or be of age to sign so PLEASE sign

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black communities have been witnessing executions like the one that happened to George Floyd throughout generations of oppression. this is terrorism, and it is not the burden of these communities to demand change. so, white people. how can we show up to support our black communities during this time?

1. call the mayor of Minneapolis, Jacob Frey: (612) 673-2100 and the DA: (612) 348-5550. demand the prosecution of all of the officers involved in the murder of George Floyd, including Derek Chauvin (badge 1087) and Tou Thao (badge 7162).

2. text “Floyd” to 55156 and demand that the officers in charge of George Floyd’s death be charged with murder.

3. black people are asking that we STOP sharing the video of George Floyd’s death. we do not need to witness a murder in order to care about it. cruelty like this exists and it is REAL. period.

George Floyd was face down on the ground with a grown man’s knee in the back of his neck, begging them to let him breathe. the officer’s knee remained there even after losing consciousness. the officer continued to kill him. no one deserves a death of that manner and we should all be outraged. to be black in the U.S. should not be a death sentence.

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I’ve seen a lot of posts on my dash tonight about users who are threatening suicide, with other Tumblr members posting in effort to try to get ahold of them. I think you all should see this:

IF THERE IS EVER A TUMBLR USER WHO HAS POSTED A GOOD-BYE MESSAGE, SUICIDE NOTE, VIDEO, OR ANYTHING OF THE SORT, PLEASE FOLLOW THIS POST.

1. Scroll to the top of your dashboard.

2. See the circular question mark icon at the top? It’s the third one over from your home symbol. Click on that, and a screen similar to the one in the picture will come up.

3. Where you can type in questions, the box with the magnifying glass at the top, type in the word “suicide.”

4. Click on the first link that shows up. It should say, “Pass the URL of the blog on to us.”

5. Type in the user’s URL and tell Tumblr admin that the user is contemplating suicide and has posted a message indicating that they are going through with it or will be attempting. Hit send! Tumblr administration will perform a number of actions to contact the user and take the necessary steps to prevent the suicide.

TUMBLR: THIS COULD SAVE A USER’S LIFE. PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE SUICIDE THREATS.

Reblog this to keep other users aware. Suicide isn’t a joke, and neither is someone’s life. If you didn’t know this, someone else may not, either. Pass it on.

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[INFO] SM Entertainment confirms Chen and his wife have welcomed the birth of their daughter on April 29th.

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Please take your time to read this and maybe even consider sending some money to help! If you don’t have any spare money please share this so it reaches even more people who could help!

Hello everyone! Hope you are all being healthy and safe with all this sickness going around. I am a 19 year old, broke college student. I am looking to buy myself a crappy car so I can be more independent and not have to rely on my abusive parents. My dad is physically abusive and my mom is verbally abusive. I’ve handled it pretty well for the past 19 years because I thought that was love, but the more time I spend with them the worse my mental health gets. I only recently realized that I was living in an unhealthy environment. My parents never let me have a job because they wanted me to rely on them and I need to move out of this place as soon as possible. I secretly got a side job that’s helping me earn some money, but very slowly. It’ll take me about a year until I can have my own place and until then I’ll just live in a car so I am begging you to please help me in anyway you can. I would be grateful for even a penny. If you truly can’t spare me anything then please just reblog this so others can see it. Thank you so much and have a great day!

My Venmo is @amajj1834

My Cashapp is $amanyalhajaji

If anyone would like to chat, you can text me at +19729877695. You could also use this number for Zelle or PayPal

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Happy birthday angel♥️. I love you and miss you everyday. The brightest smile, the most contagious laugh, the purest soul, the most calming voice, the world's biggest heart. You are and will always be all those things. The moon, the stars, the sun. The moon is full today because of you I assume. You shine brighter than anyone and everyone. You deserve it. Thank you for giving me endless memories. I hope you're well up there. My favorite person. Words can describe what you mean to me nor will I be able to even write them. You are amazing. I hope you always feel our love. I know you're smiling looking at all these messages and I hope that someday we can meet in the diamond sky. Thank you for gifting us with words that continue to comfort and help is through dark times. I love you to the moon and back many times. I hope you know how special you are. Thank you. You're okay right? I love you and I miss you.

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(04/08) happy jjong day! 🥰🥳💐✨

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Idols go through a lot to deliver a good performance and always work very hard to show the very best of themselves. But credits must also be given to the amazing staff working swiftly and on point behind the scenes. And I don't mean company CEOs and whatever, but the managers, hair dressers, stylists, dancers, assistants and many others, who rise before the idols and go to bed after them. Of course there are always exemptions from the rule, but most of them are very close to the groups and do so much without it being noticed by fans, it is truly admirable. I salute you, you're the real MVPs

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reblog to have good concert luck

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thank you. ikonic’s, the b’s, and stay’s will forever have you three in our hearts. it will be hard and something will be missing, but we hope you are happy and healthy. we hope to see you again soon.

thank you hanbin. thank you woojin. thank you hyunjoon.

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I'm so sad because of the news of Hwall leaving The Boyz. I'll miss him so so much. I really hope he'll get better and it hurts me that he is in pain this whole time. Hwall will always be a part of The Boyz to me.