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Zorella, the centaur pop queen ✨

Thank you to everyone who helped me by voting on her final design in the poll from last week! I'm so so so happy with how she turned out 🥰

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Many things can be orientational, or part of one's identity, and they don't all have to be sexualities. People can have orientations related to things like friendship, or familial relationships, or even meta orientations about how they relate to their orientations.

For some people polyamory is an orientation—a relationship orientation, not a sexual orientation.

For others, like me, it's a strong preference.

monogamy and polyamory are both lifestyle choices not inate sexualities send tweet

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Fat people on airplanes get secretly photographed and their photos posted online for… existing?

And then people argue that it’s about health and that everything is about health.

Publishing photos of someone with the intent of bullying or harassing them, has nothing to do with health. That person has the right to be on the plane the same as you do. They likely even bought a second seat for everyone’s comfort.

Fat people do much more than enough by purchasing a second seat on a plane. The cost of seats isn’t low, and we fat people don’t own 2 bodies that would require 2 seperate seats.

Airlines could very well have a couple seats on their planes that are bigger than the rest for fat customers, or they could come up with another method for making sure that fat people don’t have to pay the price of 2 travelers.

But what’s happening is that airlines are actually shrinking their seats over time. They like the extra money they get from fat customers having to buy more seats, of course. And fat customers get blamed for everything.

The least airplanes could do is to make sure the seats fat people purchase are next to each other. After all, we don’t own two seperate bodies. Yet fat people get publicly shamed whenever news report on stories of airplanes messing up our seats.

I mean, f*ck fat people, why would they need to travel anyway? /s.

Nothing about this is about health. Everything about this is about public humiliation, oppression and profit. We fat people literally have our privacy breached because people get offended by fat people existing on planes, even if we buy extra seats. Have a lovely day y’all👋

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"I can't shut up, I need to be right, and I wish you could love that about me."

A female character gets to say this to her religious-fundamentalist family member.

since I have a lot of Star Wars mutuals now: if you like Mandalorians, then you're gonna love Killjoys

(or if you like multifacted badasses who are queer, female, or characters of colour? antiheroes? found family? messy complicated relationships? ordinary people being drawn into stopping the galaxy from being destroyed? character-focused sci-fi in general?)

main characters are a trio of bounty hunters running from their pasts, who have a rather vague grasp of 'strictly obeying the law' and 'the greater good', and a very strong grasp of 'I love these people so much I would die for them'

honestly this is less a "these characters set out to save the galaxy" story and more a "these characters set out to save their loved ones which means ending a threat to the galaxy" story

two main characters put each other above everything else and explicitly state they are not romantic, meaning that a queerplatonic relationship is central to characters and plot

the entire overarching plot hinges on the depth of the love that the characters feel for each other, and how far they're willing to go to protect the people they care about

female characters are nuanced, messy, three-dimensional people. they're addicts, bounty hunters, warlords, scientists, and doctors. they're traumatised, cunning, sarcastic, intelligent, protective, and driven. no sexy lamps here!

characters of colour are intelligent and badass, aren't undercut to make white characters look better, and have character arcs that make sense and give them more depth

queer characters are written as full-fledged characters instead of stereotypes and are central to the plot, like my beloved gender-non-conforming warlord and bartender Pree

characters with trauma and PTSD are portrayed in a realistic way, and even when that means they cause problems or can't step up to help their team, they aren't belittled by other characters as weak, lesser, or crazy

apparently-stereotypical asshole characters have emotional depth and character arcs. they're smart, capable, and ruthless, but also care about the people around them and are troubled by the tough calls they have to make

there are real, long-lasting interpersonal consequences of various' characters shitty behaviour. when a shitty parent joins the good guys' team and tries to make amends, their family isn't pressured to forgive or forget what they did.

even characters who only show up in one or two episodes are well-written and memorable, and save the day instead of being there to make the main cast look smarter, stronger, or cooler

I need to give a bullet point to my beloved canon lesbian ship in which two antihero rulers decide to be weird and obsessed with each other, kill a bunch of people along the way, and generally enjoy making each other worse

as the cherry on top, there are fifty episodes across five seasons! the show says everything it wants to and comes to a conclusion with all the loose ends wrapped up! much different from today's wasteland of 'one six-episode season and then cancelled on a cliffhanger'.

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1. Are you able to put your finger in? (with lube and clean hands)

2. When I put a tampon in, I sort of wiggle it as it's going in, to see which angle works best for inserting it further, and it's never the angle that would have seemed intuitively correct.

sorry if this is a stupid question, but is it normal to find it really hard to put in a tampon?

i'm 15, i've tried putting in a tampon three times (and two of them were the smallest size you can buy) and they just. dont go in. i followed the instructions meticulously.

is there something obvious i'm missing?????

hibanon,

the thing you're, missing is, probably, time and practice; few people are an expert in their first three tries at anything. particularly if you're not accustomed to putting things in your vagina, it can take a while to get used to, and there's nothing odd about that.

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Lots of TNG characters could be trans, but Riker is honestly one of the easiest for me to think of as trans. You can feel the gender euphoria he has in being a man. He seems to take great pleasure in living in his body—which of course a cis man could do as well—but it also makes sense to think that maybe he had to take some deliberate action to have a body that felt right to him.

Transmasc Riker truthers rise up

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I think it says something about me that WWDITS is one of my favorite movies, but there's one thing about it that I just can't look past, that bothers me to no end every time I watch it, which is that they say there are "60 to 70 vampires in the Greater Wellington Area", and google says the Wellington area has a population of about 550,000, so rounding those numbers to make the calculation easier that's about 1 vampire per 10,000 people. And that just doesn't seem realistic given how many people they seem to kill in the movie, I mean, again via google the murder rate in Wellington is like 0.6/10,000 people/year. That's not even enough for one of these guys! So, what, where are all these victims coming from? The numbers just don't add up.

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“i’m not the same as who i was before [x] thing happened to me” does it help to know that you would not have stayed that person regardless

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Reflecting on the scene of young Lilia in a gown the color of goldenrods in bloom and sunshine, racing to meet her teacher and begin learning what it is to be a witch. Learning what would have been the end, her end, was heartbreaking yet healing. She was full of anticipation and ambition and life, before the weight of prosecution, guilt for having predicted and watched her coven die, and having to bury her magic (once her source of power) became known. When she stays behind to trap the Salem Seven, she tells Jen with more love and conviction that she has spoken in the entire show:

“I loved being a witch”

Lilia finally realizes her path, steps and accepts what it means to know herself. To practice witchcraft, as proved in the trial by reading her own tarot instead of Billy’s, divination is not only more than kooky sector of the craft, but an act of her agency. An extension of herself. She can relinquish guilt and shame, but doesn’t grieve, despite only realizing this when her time seems to be running out. After all,

“The flow of time is an illusion”

When Lilia let go of the table in the trial room, falling in a gown evoking a character who represents all things good and dressed once again as a queen of cups, she is floating, flying. She is more than a batty woman. She is a cunning witch, and she always will be. So, while Death is guaranteed, it is not the end. That’s why the end of the episode is the earliest we see young Lilia. Her life is a tapestry, not a timeline. The cycle repeats and life goes on, as her mentor says:

“Let us begin.”

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Things that I imagine must be really hard about being in a polycule

Remembering everyone's birthday

Scheduling a group date night where everyone's free

A bad breakup where someone leaves and everyone's messed up about it. Like if it was just me I could wallow in solitude but like damn what do you even do. Talk shit?

Related to 3 but if someone breaks up from the polycule and leaves their stuff behind then who gets dibs. Is it like by seniority or do you draw straws or what

Finding a group Halloween costume that everyone is equally hyped for

Sharing a bathroom if you all live in the same place

Idk about this one but what's the sleeping situation in the summer. Like in the winter having a group pile sounds cozy as fuck but in the summer?? When it's sweaty and awful??? Bruh I'm on the couch

I don't trust ANYONE not to eat my Nutella and for every extra person there's an additional threat I must calculate my defense against

How do you tell someone in the 'cule they need to stop eating pretzel sticks in bed without it feeling like an intervention. Is there an assigned emissary that speaks on behalf of the collective. Again, do you just draw straws? Drawing straws seems like a really good solution to a lot of these actually huh

Is there some kind of self-evaluation system that holds yall back from accidentally becoming a cult do yall just see Kim head out for a date in a white robe one morning and roll with it

Does everyone do their own grocery shopping or is it all like one big trip?

Is there enough room in the fridge for everyone's stuff or does the one with the deepfreeze reign eternal like immortan joe

If I was in a polycule and we all collectively stopped being attracted to the person who genuinely enjoys washing dishes then I don't think I'd be able to break it off with them I think I'd have to just handle that with god

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I think the key question is, if a person does harm, do you think it's good/important for them to receive harm in return, for reasons that AREN'T about any downstream effects of that?

Like, if the person themself will not be improved in any way by being harmed, and no one else will ever know whether or not they received that harm, so there won't be any further effects of the harm beyond the just the harm itself. Do you still think it's important for them to be harmed?

That's what "deserving" is. It's a value placed on people "getting what they give", NOT because of any downstream effects, but just in and of itself.

Of course a person may ALSO value it for the downstream effects, or maybe even MOSTLY value it for the downstream effects, but if you take away all the downstream effects and they still value it for itself, THEN we can say that "deserving" is a part of their value system.

You know, I sometimes really start to wonder if I might not be Black-aligned at all, just very Blue (I think Loreley once diagnosed me as monoblue, heh)

But then I read stuff like "deserving doesn't exist" and "most of us kind of want people who consistently do bad things to suffer but we shouldn't let feeling that way at all influence how we treat anyone ever" and I'm just like

Holy shit am I too blue-black for this.

Some people really do gain power they don't earn. Some people really do deserve to lose that power because they didn't earn it.

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You ever think about as a child you could go to a teacher saying "hey my peers that I am forced to face every single day are personally targetting me with the explicit, deliberate goal of hurting and upsetting me, sometimes by destroying my personal property or by physically assaulting me", and they'd just be like "don't take it personally :)"

And during the very next class that same teacher sees you do something mildly autistic (not even at their general direction) and takes it personally.

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Help! It happened to me too.

“help” is my favorite way to say that something is funny. like hey i laughed at this post can you save me

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I'm gonna reblog with some videos of people speaking various American Indian/indigenous American languages, because I think most people don't even know what they sound like. Not to be judgement of that—just, you know, I think people who want to be informed should know what they sound like!

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