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A surprisingly helpful bit of social maneuvering I've figured out from trial and error: Throughout your life, you are going to need things from people. Often, it's going to be on a deadline. And when that deadline passes, you generally want to know what's going on. So, you need to ask them.

There are two kinds of people, broadly, in this situation. The Shameless will tell you what the holdup is, with absolutely no regard for if the reason is "good enough". This is actually very helpful, because you get the real reason immediately, and can start working on a solution.

The Ashamed is trickier. People who are Ashamed are people who were often told they were giving excuses when they were trying to explain, and they'll often avoid you until they solve the problem on their own. This causes them and you a lot of stress, and often takes a lot longer to solve.

Long term, the strategy for dealing with people who are Ashamed is to provide a supportive environment where they're comfortable sharing any problems they're having with getting things done. But, there's a way to at least partially short-circuit that:

Provide an explanation for them.

One example might be "Hey Susan, I noticed that I don't have your report yet. Are you busy with other projects?" The readymade explanation signals that you're willing to accept an explanation, which is the big anxiety point.

Sometimes, you still won't get an honest answer- especially if the honest answer isn't "good enough" by the standards of the person who traumatized them. But, I've found that it often at least gets you a lie that lets you give them some slack or work around the problem.

Let's say that Susan has actually completely forgotten that she needed to do the report. She's horrified at herself, and completely unwilling to admit the real problem. But, she can now safely reply with "Sorry Jennifer, I've been swamped, and it got lost in the mix. I can have it to you in two days. Does that work?"

From there, so long as Susan gave an estimate for when she can actually do it, she and Jennifer can hash out a solution.

It's not a perfect solution, but it works astonishingly well for how small of a change it is.

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If you do have PayPal (I have one, as well!), then did you know that it has shut down fundraising services on October 7th, 2024? They have given a deadline for those who have a fundraiser to complete raising funds by January 12th, 2025!

Did you also know PayPal has for years now partnered with ADL, a Zionist organization that overlooks all transactions and actively takes measures to harm Palestinian people?

Iyad Sobhe (@iyadsgaza) and Ruba Abushahan (@rubashsblog) are raising funds with PayPal ever since GFM has either terminated their fundraiser or made them lose access. Iyad has lost 11K while Ruba has can no longer withdraw the 27K.

They cannot afford to start all over when PayPal is their last resort. So we have less than 2 MONTHS to raise the entire amount of 60K. Please donate and share! Donations have slowed down significantly, resulting in 1 or 2 donations per day, when we should be raising $600!

You can match my friend! She has given $10 USD, but you're more than welcome to give any amount. Even $1 USD! You can also participate in an art raffle hosted by @/transformers4palestine. The 2nd round of winners will be declared on November 20th, so check it out, join in, and be part of the fun!

Verification: #90 for Ruba and #173 for Iyad in the Spreadsheet. (Keep in mind that the document has not been updated and does not reflect the current fundraiser. You can learn about it here)

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Since the holiday toy drive post is circulating again, I figured this would also be helpful! Food insecurity is such a massive problem in America, in general, and if you have the means to help feed others, I think you should take that opportunity. Here are some other tips:

1. If you’re planning on donating items from your own pantry, please check the expiration dates on the packaging. Think of your donations as gifts to bestow, not castoffs to be rid of. It’s awful to think of people feeling like they got scraps someone else just didn’t want. Everyone deserves dignity with their meals.

2. If you’d rather give money to a food bank, that’s also great since they buy food in bulk and know what items are most wanted/needed!

3. Not everyone has access to appliances like stoves or microwaves or hot plates so if you can donate items that don’t need to be heated up, that would also be greatly appreciated!

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a whole bunch of gazan mutual aid projects and nonprofits. if the decision of which individual fundraiser to give to feels too daunting, or if you just want to help as many people as possible in one go, these are great initiatives to support.

care for gaza - focuses on providing food and essential supplies. donate here or here.

connecting humanity - securing internet access via donations of virtual sim cards (esims). if you can't afford a whole plan yourself, crips for esims is a communal pool that will use your donation to purchase and maintain esims

gaza soup kitchen - provides food, medical care, and classes for children. also has a gofundme

glia gaza medical support initiative - provides medical care through field clinics and tents at hospitals. donations can also be sent through their website.

ele elna elak - provides clean water, food, clothing, and shelter. they also have a gofundme

life for gaza - raising money for the gaza municipality to repair water and waste management infrastructure

taawon - partners with local civil organizations to provide food, water, medical care, shelter, and basic supplies

the sameer project - running various initiatives providing tents, medical care, and necessities. they have their own encampment project focused on sheltering families with children, sick and disabled members, or members in need of perinatal care

islamic relief worldwide's gaza emergency appeal - provides food, water, hygiene kits, medical supplies, and psychological support

baitulmaal - provides a variety of necessities, including food, water, shelter, and medical supplies

gaza mutual aid fund - distributes food, hygiene products, water, and other essential supplies, including financial support. run by @/el-shab-hussein's amazing friend Mona. updates can be found on her instagram.

hygiene kits for gaza - provides hygiene supplies including menstrual products, wipes, and toothbrushes/toothpaste

anera - provides a variety of necessities, including food, water, hygiene supplies, medicine, blankets and mattresses, and psychological care

palestine children's relief fund - provides supplies and support with a focus on children. also has an initiative for lebanon

dahnoun mutual aid - provides water, food, tents, baby supplies, financial support, and other necessities. updates can be found through their instagram

certainly this is not an exhaustive list, so please feel free to add on other projects or organizations that i didn't include. and as always, please take the time to donate if you can and share. it truly makes all the difference.

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when your art program’s closing message hits you straight in the heart and makes you stop and contemplate the state of it all

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has anyone else noticed the shocking amount of pro-pedophilia sentiment on this site recently. Because i have noticed it . and sometimes it's under the guise of supporting Everyone and not doing "puritan callout culture" or whatever but i've also seen people say, like, "you have to support weird freaks even the ones with unethical dangerous paraphilias" and act like you're the weird one if you go hey wait a minute. i think pedophilia is bad actually. Like has anyone else noticed this because i feel crazy rn

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it's kind of crazy climate change has occurred at such a remarkable pace that I and everyone else around my age can remember a completely different climate in our childhoods. I truly watched winter gradually disappear in my life.

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Please don't ignore! Help Israa and her family! You can make a difference!

Last night, Israa ( @esraayyad14 ) reached out to me telling her situation has made a turn for the worse. Her mother is critically ill and desperately needs treatment.

Israa, her sister Asmaa ( @asmaayyad ), and their family of 8, have been displaced five times and currently reside in the Al-Mawasi area. Al-Mawasi has experienced brutal and relentless attack after attack from the IOF, including a deadly bombing that occurred in a designated “safe zone” just one week ago.

Israa’s account is verified, as is Asmaa’s.

€20,881 / €45,000

We have the opportunity to send this beautiful family a lifeline! Every dollar counts! Please donate and share!

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TLDR; cat needs surgery for lumps in her stomach. folks are paying for her vet appointments and i'd like to at least help them not be in too bad a way money wise after this. anythings appreciated

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Hello,

https://gofund.me/9d48061d

It has been more than a year since the aggression on Gaza, 🇵🇸

what is the fault of the babies and infants⁉️

A Children's innocence is killed every day in Gaza !⚠️

Also, what is the fault of my 10-month-old baby? He always has a high temperature due to fear, cannot sleep well and cries for long periods because of the bombing and the sound of warplanes.

And This is my son Mahmoud's first winter, she has no winter clothes and the prices of diapers, milk and clothes have become astronomical. that requires a large financial reserve at a time when there is no source of income 🥺😭

https://gofund.me/9d48061d

I ask you to help my little boy (Mahmoud), to provide for his needs. We are in dire need of you and your support...

A small donation from you makes a big difference.🙏

We are only strong with you and your standing by our side...❤️❤️🇵🇸

Winter has come and we are still in tents 🥹

We also need to restore the tent to protect my child and my family from the danger of winter, and I will work to achieve that, and I hope that everyone will participate and donate to protect them from the cold and pain of winter.

I hope you look at us again and feel what we feel and what we live.

🚨Be a reason to save this family from danger 🙏❤️

Perhaps your donations will be a reason to save my life, the life of my family and my little child. I hope that you will always remember us and not forget us.❤️🇵🇸🍉

My heroic friends who support the Palestinian cause... Today, after we have lost hope in this world, I ask you to help us and stand by🇵🇸

My wife account

@rewaida7

Thank you for supporting me ❤️❤️❤️🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸🍉

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🚨 !! DONT SKIP !! donations urgently needed 🚨

✅ Verified campaign – please check the end of the story 🔍📌

I'm Anas Basil, a recent high school graduate with dreams of pursuing a degree in e-business management and building a career. However, due to my family's financial hardships, I enrolled at Khan Younis Training College (KYTC), affiliated with UNRWA. Sadly, the war has turned the college, once a beacon of hope and education, into a shelter for displaced families, stripping it of its educational purpose.

I completed high school with a 93% average, filled with excitement about continuing my education and securing a job to support my family. But like so many others, the war has shattered those dreams.

My younger brother, Ahmad, is 14 years old and currently in the third grade of preparatory school. We’ve always called him "Doctor of the Future" because of his intelligence and natural talent in mathematics. Unfortunately, due to the ongoing war, he has been deprived of schooling for the second consecutive year. In addition to his academic abilities, Ahmad has a passion for football and used to win tournaments.

Our Life in Displacement: The war forced our family to flee to Rafah, where we lived in a tent for several months. Each day, my brother and I would wake up to fetch water, gather wood, and light a fire to prepare food. Survival became our daily task, but we never gave up hope. The conflict affected us deeply, but it did not extinguish our dreams of education and a better future.

🚀 How Your Donation will Help us:

We are seeking €29,000 to help Ahmed and me leave Gaza, continue our education. More importantly, it will allow us to support our family, who have been deeply affected by the harsh conditions and skyrocketing costs of living due to the ongoing war in Gaza.

We've outlined how your donations will make this possible. You can find all the details in the campaign link below.

👉 Donation link: 🔗https://gofund.me/32e5e95e

Your contribution will not only help us escape the war-torn reality we live in but also give us the opportunity to rebuild our futures.

Every donation, no matter the amount, brings us one step closer to our goal.

With deepest gratitude, Anas & Ahmed

✅ Our Fundraiser✅ 🔍Vetted by @gazavetters, official (list at #83) 🔍Vetted by @90-ghost here 🔍Vetted by association in this post

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You Are Not Immune To fanart of characters who die in canon that has them alive and well, with scars from the wound that originally killed them

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i don't care if it's nazis, mormons, or a bunch of misguided autistic people. if anyone ever tries to tell you your soul is from another planet and you're actually part of the class of impressive people that secretly did everything cool in the world but is now extinct and lives on through your broken genome, you RUN. YOU WILL RUN AWAY. YOU WILL SPRINT FULL SPEED AWAY FROM THAT.

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Studies show that approaching youth with a bystander-intervention model is actually a lot more effective for reducing sexual assault, and it is also more enthusiastically received than programs that bill themselves as anti-rape.

We can tell youth that they are basically “rapists waiting to happen” (anti-rape initiative), or we can tell them that we know they would intervene if they saw harm happening to someone and we want to help empower them to do that (bystander intervention). The kids jump in with both feet for the latter! It was amazing to see children (and young boys in particular) excited to do this work and engage their creativity with it. Also, studies show that not only do they go on to intervene, but they also do not go on to sexually assault people themselves. Bystander intervention also takes the onus off the person being targeted to deter rape and empowers the collective to do something about it. It answers the question in the room when giggling boys are carrying an unconscious young woman up the stairs at a house party, and people are not sure how to respond and are waiting for “someone” to say or do something.

Richard M. Wright, “Rehearsing Consent Culture: Revolutionary Playtime” in the anthology Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker

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huge carrot recall affecting canada and the united states, including puerto rico, due to shiga toxin-producing e. coli

november 16, 2024

this recall may expand. see below for details.

Grimmway Farms has issued a recall of select organic whole carrots and organic baby carrots that should no longer be in grocery stores but may be in consumers' refrigerators or freezers. These products may have been contaminated with Shiga toxin-producing Escherichia coli (E. coli) O121:H19. E. coli O121:H19 is a bacterium that can cause serious and sometimes fatal infections in young children, elderly people, and those with a weakened immune system. Some infections can cause severe bloody diarrhea conditions, such as a hemolytic uremic syndrome, or the development of high blood pressure, chronic kidney disease, and neurologic problems. Symptoms include severe stomach cramps, diarrhea, fever, nausea, and/or vomiting. The incubation period for E. coli O121:H19 in humans can range from 24 hours to as much as ten days. The average incubation period is 3 to 4 days.

The following recalled products were shipped directly to retail distribution centers nationwide in the United States, Puerto Rico, and Canada: - Organic whole carrots, which do not have a best-if-used-by date printed on the bag, but were available for purchase at retail stores from August 14 through October 23, 2024, - Organic baby carrots with best-if-used-by-dates ranging from September 11 through November 12, 2024. The recalled carrots should not be available for purchase in stores but may be in consumers' refrigerators or freezers.

(emphasis mine)

affected whole carrot brands and their bag sizes:

365 1Ib, 2lb, 5lb

Bunny Luv 1lb, 2lb, 5lb, 10lb, 25lb

Cal-Organic 1Ib, 2lb, 51b, 6lb, 10lb, 25lb

Compliments 2lb

Full Circle 1lb, 2lb, 5lb

Good & Gather 2lb

GreenWise 1Ib, 25lbs

Marketside 2lb

Nature's Promise 1Ib, 5lb

O-Organics 1lb, 2Ib, 5lb, 10lb

President's Choice 2lb

Simple Truth 1lb, 2lb, 5lb

Trader Joe's 1lb

Wegmans 1lb, 2lb, 5lb

Wholesome Pantry 1lb, 2lb, 5lb

affected baby (cut and peeled) carrot brands and their bag sizes:

365 12oz, 1lb, 2lb

Bunny Luv 1lb, 2lb, 3lb, 5lb

Cal-Organic 12oz, 1lb, 2lb, 2pk/2lbs

Compliments 1lb

Full Circle 1 lb

Good & Gather 12oz, 1lb

GreenWise 1lb

Grimmway Farms 25 lb bag

Kroger 2lb

LIDL 1lb

Marketside 12oz, 1lb, 2lb

Nature's Promise 1lb

O-Organics 12oz, 1lb, 2lb

President's Choice 1Ib, 2lb

Raley's 1lb

Simple Truth 1 Ib, 2lb

Sprouts 1 Ib, 2lb

Trader Joe's 1lb

Wegmans 12oz, 1lb, 2lb

Wholesome Pantry 1lb, 2lb

formatting on tumblr is difficult, please see the FDA outbreak investigation page for the affected ranges of best-by dates for baby carrots, and pictures of the affected carrots.

as of time of posting, the main FDA recall page and the CDC investigation page have an error and do not list Kroger or LIDL baby carrots, while the FDA outbreak investigation page does. I am assuming that this means they are part of the recall and that this error will probably be fixed soon.

the recalled carrots are thought to be associated with an E. coli O121:H19 outbreak. 39 illnesses, 15 hospitalizations, and one death have been linked to this outbreak so far.

as always, these numbers are expected to be lower than the true number of illnesses and deaths, and will likely rise. not everyone seeks medical attention, and even when all testing and reporting procedures go as smoothly as possible, it can take weeks to officially link an illness to an outbreak.

noteworthy from the FDA investigation page:

FDA is working with the firm to determine the source of contamination and whether additional products are affected. This advisory will be updated as information becomes available.

in short, there is a possibility this contamination may affect more than just the recalled carrots. keep up to date with these pages to stay on top of this outbreak.

the recalled carrots are no longer on shelves. but if they are in your fridge or freezer, destroy or discard them and clean anything they may have touched.

do NOT eat these carrots! this strain of e. coli is dangerous and at least one person has died.

if you think you got sick in relation to this outbreak, please seek medical attention, even if just to get your illness officially associated with this outbreak.