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sending you a hug. sorry things are shit for you right now. you don’t deserve any of it.

i appreciate it. whether i deserve it or not, who knows. i'm just overly sensitive and tired and i need a god damn massage. i miss my ex fiancé's massages :((

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hey, are you doing okay? sorry you've been going through a rough time with breakup and friend stuff.

not particularly. the breakup has been rough and is definitely still affecting me, but i think my mental health is tanking as it is. i'm overwhelmed because of dysphoria that's reared it's ugly fucking head because one motherfucker at work is transvestigating me, but i'm also struggling due to not being in the career i want to be in.

i wish i was a cat bruh my life would be so much easier.

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ayo this looks fantastic! ngl it brings me back to 2020 seeing transmeds make art again, i miss it lol. not only does it look good, it's prett damn accurate.

i alleviate the caveat that transmen can also be feminine, because like... we can, y'know? even if something wanted to draw a transman in a dress, that's fine, but he's still a man. it can still be done respectfully and without overdoing the female characteristics

A sort of gift for @turgidscum and @d-parade cause I've been kinda obsessed with their posts recently lmao Just basically what I've gathered from their posts criticizing the depiction of trans men in media, art, comics, anime, etc...

For those wondering about the difference between 1 and 2: 1 wears form-fitting clothes as he has nothing to hide, 2 wears oversized clothes as his transition isn't over and thus he wants to pass better

Btw, before anyone comes for me, I'm not saying men can't be feminine or whatever, but how artists draw trans characters is a BIG tell on how they see them in real life. Generally speaking I haven't ever met someone who drew feminine trans guys without making them look outright like women and treating them like uwu soft bois lmao

Nude version after the cut (TW for stereotypical depictions of trans men with female-presenting bodies):

Might mute the notifs on this one pre-emptively cause ngl I don't wanna get death threats just for making a drawing lmao

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Patriarchy something something gender is not real or whatever trenders said

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it's fractured because of nonbinary ideology. transmen don't claim to be lesbians, and if they do, they're women trying to be a masculine woman, not a man.

transmen who simply are men have nothing to do with this. the difference is choice vs dysphoria.

So many young people are disconnected from reality.

Lots of young women want mastectomies and testosterone while still identifying as a lesbian. They don’t understand that for the rest of their lives after medicalization, people could be looking at them and assuming they’re trans, assuming they want to be a man.

They don’t understand that dating, making friends, finding community, and just moving through the world as a masculinized woman isn’t the idealized fantasy that they’ve created in their heads or on their social media. They don’t understand the permanence of their choices and the way it makes people perceive and judge them.

Lots of young women identify as butch and non-binary, as if being gender nonconforming isn’t what being butch is in the first place. As if the way they feel as a “non-binary” person is any different than the feelings of every other GNC woman who came before them.

Genuinely all these kids need is to talk to one GNC woman-identified woman over the age of 30, and it would all click for them.

But they just call us all terfs as if their elders haven’t been through the same exact shit that they’re going through. As if we’re dinosaurs with nothing important to say.

The lesbian community is fractured. We don’t have the multi-generational connections that we need in order for the young women to thrive. And the reason for the fracture is misogyny and trans ideology.

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I miss the days where ppl could say "I'm trans" and others knew exactly what that meant

i miss the days when we didn't need to tell people we're trans and could just live our lives tbh. the extent to which our medical condition has become mainstream drives me nuts.

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on working even when it's not working

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Purity culture has made you blind to the beauty that is transitioning.

what beauty are you taking about? the only thing beautiful about transitioning is seeing how strong trans people are for living for themselves.

the actual process is rough.

from dysphoria to needles to surgery, it's not fun. it's not beautiful. it's a lot of uncomfortablity and loneliness and bodily struggles because we are born in the wrong body. it's scary, not knowing how your life will turn our, and knowing people are making your entire struggle into an aesthetic.

trans people living and overcoming their struggles is strength, and in that, a beauty of it's own.

trans bodies are neutral, just as all bodies are.

transitioning is not beautiful. it's alleviating.

don't know what purity culture has to do with it. i'm a deviant in my own right lmao

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Living your life comfortably doesn’t turn you on?

no. why would i get horny when i'm just content. i'm excited by the prospect of being 100% who i want to be, bur i don't get hard as a result wtf

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bruh i didn't deny you being transsexual. i was responding that yes, transition has made me happy, i've been transitioning since you were 12 based on your profile.

the problem with using tags like that promotes the idea they you're turned on by the thought of you being a man. turned on by yourself being a man. it's a paraphilia. it's harmful for transsexuals to be seeing in this light because it makes people think we transition for sex, which we aren't.

it's as simple as saying, "hey, being trans isn't a kink, let's make sure we don't call it one"

i luv being my own doctor. stopped blockers and upped my t dose just wanna punch shit and masturbate, lush

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i wish he was back in my bed. i wish he loved me again. oh god, i gave so much to him.

i wish i had never agreed to go on a date. i wish i didn't fall in love. fuck, i gave up so much of my life for him.

i don't hate my life. but i am so lonely.

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nobody talks about the fact that you can have all this crazy shit in your head, and want to open up and talk about your feelings but no matter what, you just can't make out the right words and properly put your thoughts and emotions into words

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i've been transitioning for over five years medically and socially for seven. i've had top, hysto, and will be getting phallo within the next three years. i can guarantee i've been transitioning longer and yes, it has made me much more comfortable and happy with myself.

but i don't get off on the thought of me being a man. i don't get horny at the thought of getting a dick or seeing myself looking like a man in the mirror. if you get sexually aroused by yourself being a man, that is a paraphilia and an issue that discredits the legitimacy of trans people who transition to alleviate dysphoria.

i luv being my own doctor. stopped blockers and upped my t dose just wanna punch shit and masturbate, lush

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autoandrophilia, huh? this is a fetish to you. being trans is a medical condition bro. if you're gonna go on t just to get off on yourself being a man, don't fucking call yourself a transsexual. we need this shit to live, you do it for fun.

i luv being my own doctor. stopped blockers and upped my t dose just wanna punch shit and masturbate, lush

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anyone notice how every trans male is drawn with fucking bikini tops and bras and shit? anyone else think that's fetishy as fuck and majorly disrespectfuld or is that just me?

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biological sex is determined by four characteristics: genital sex, gonadal sex, chromosomal sex, and hormonal sex. in regards to intersex individuals, they make up roughly 0.018% of the population when accounting those with uncharacterizable phenotypical genitalia or those with different chromosomes than their phenotypical sex characteristics. those with mismatching chromosomes are typically not discovered until puberty, and "normalizing" corrective surgeries for intersex genitals is no longer standard practice due to the child being unable to consent to these procedures.

what i'm getting at is that "female" is not a nickname for physical traits, and using intersex individuals purposely obfuscates my argument. female biological sex is determined by: breasts, ovaries, a uterus, estrogen, a vagina, labia, the ability to carry a child, and xx chromosomes, or some combination of the set. of these, trans men are particularly bothered by, well, pretty much everything, because our bodies are supposed to be male (testes, phallus, testosterone, lack of breasts, ability to impregnate).

let me make it very clear than the inability to carry a child or impregnate someone does not many anyone less male or female. being unable to do either can be hard - i'm experiencing this firsthand at the moment - but the male and female bodies are "supposed" to be able to reproduce to continue the species, which is why i added that part in. biology can be shit.

hair is entirely different from primary and secondary sex characteristics. hair is completely cultural, with many different cultures finding long hair masculine and short hair feminine or vice versa. being dysphoric about your hair is typical because those of us in the west find long hair feminine and short hair masculine due to our current cultural outlook, but that's so incredibly different to natal genitalia that we cannot change without hormones and surgery.

let me ask you this: why do so many trans men pursue top surgery if our female chests didn't make us uncomfortable and dysphoric?

we can't therapy our way into accepting our chests as male because, well, they just simply aren't. they are a gonadal characterization of female, and our brains simply say that we should be male.

so sure, draw whatever you want. but don't be shocked when transman tell you that your representation of us is kind of offensive. nothing about the character says "man" either physically or expressively. the body is female and the presentation is feminine - so what the absolute fuck would anyone call this character a man or refer to him as he/him?

sorry lesbians? you know this character looks female. you know lesbians are women attracted to women. why else would you say "sorry lesbians" if you didn't inherently see the character as a woman that would be attractive to other women?

let's not beat around the bush here. it's not transmedicalism you're mad at here, as the stance of transmedicalism is that you need dysphoria to be trans. surgeries, presentation, etc. are all things that we hold independent stances on, just like every other trans person has their own thoughts, ideals, and stances.

you're mad that you portrayed a supposed man as a woman in a way that's so incredibly transphobic and people are calling you out on it.

I'm afraid to report transmedicalism is alive and well in the trans community in 2024

For context, Lottie (@/sirgaggle) is a trans man who posted this drawing of his trans man OC Juliana

these are some more responses he got for the crime of drawing a gnc trans guy

We should be ashamed that this is the state of the trans community right now. Do better.