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It's laughably tragic that some people on this website think that if a trans man or trans masc individual is facing legitimate oppression, all they have to do is say "Well, actually, I use he/him pronouns" and you think people will just say "Oh shit, my bad. Right this way to Patriarchy HQ, we'll get you your privilege card when we get there".

If a trans man is being oppressed and discriminated against, or even being a victim of violence purely for being a trans man, the one acting against them isn't going to fucking accept their identity as a man/masculine person.

And they sure as hell aren't going to have access the privilege you so adamantly think they have.

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Genuinely, what happened to “feminism is for everyone”?

That’s the feminism I grew up with: encouraging people to recognize that fighting sexism and restrictive gender roles helps folks of every gender. We’d push back on the idea that feminists hate men, pointing to inclusive feminist literature and how many men are feminists.

Now, there are so many people insisting that the solution to patriarchy is to openly hate and ostracize men no matter what. Why? What is the benefit? It’s certainly not effective in fighting oppressive structures to exclude half the population from your cause on the basis of immutable traits. It may feel cathartic to say horrible things about men and try to punish them for your frustrations with patriarchy. But the only actual effect I see is the increasing right-wing radicalization of young men, who are being told that the left hates them for the way they were born and presented with an abundance of proof that it’s true.

Why are we going back to treating men and women as different species? It doesn’t fix things to say “well women are the good gender and men are the bad one” this time. If you sincerely want to dismantle sexism, you’re going to have to unpack and let go of all sex and gender essentialism—even that which considers women inherently pure and men inherently immoral.

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I want you to remember:

The fascists hate you too and they just will pretend otherwise until after they've killed the rest of us, before they turn on you.

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I am two. I hate pink and dresses and anything feminine. It feels like a betrayal to myself to my body.

I am seven. I hold all my hair behind my neck to see what I would look like as a boy. I smile look in the mirror and think I look so pretty as a boy I wish I was a boy. This happens for years after.

I am eight. My friend gets a bob. I have just learned women can have short hair. I beg my mom to let me get one. My hair stays short for years afterwards.

I am eight. I tell my friends I wish I wasn't a girl.

I am eight. I find about the term tomboy. I love it. I ignore the fact that the boy part makes me giddy

I am nine. My mom sets aside anything pink from my cousin's hand me downs because she knows I refuse to wear pink and dresses.

I am ten. I am realizing that I will grow boobs. I stare at my flat chest in the mirror for a few minutes before every shower scared I'll forget what it looks like.

I am eleven. I see Jammidodger for the first time. I learn trans men can fully pass. This makes me feel tingly inside.

I am thirteen. Every time I imagine older me they look like a man.

I am thirteen. My body doesn't feel right. I hate it. My boobs feel too small and too big.

I am fourteen. I am at a waterpark with my friends. I make a joke about not being able to trust men. I mishear my friend and think she says that means we shouldn't trust you. This makes me happier than anything ever has. I realize I am trans in line for a waterslide.

I am fourteen. I come out to a friend. He makes a face. I tell him I am joking. He says "Good because being trans is bad"

I am fourteen. I create a secret Tumblr account without my parents' permission. Someone tells me I have a yaoi fetish and that's why I'm trans. I am a minor. The only yaoi I've seen was the three times I didn't read the tags on minecraft youtuber fanfics.

I am fourteen. I realize one day I will no longer be able to live a lie one day and not be able to see one part of my family.

I am fourteen. I am dry heaving on my bedroom floor wondering if I'll be buried in a dress under the wrong name. Wondering if someone will try to 'fix' me.

I am fourteen. I join theatre. Everyone calls me my real name there. I feel more comfortable than I ever have.

I am fourteen. I come out to my mom. She accepts that I am bi. When I say I might be trans she tells me I can be a woman and still be masculine.

(This isn't the blog I made when I was fourteen for the record)

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trans men et al: hey we would like to be included bc we are being systematically persecuted in ways that are actively getting us killed or disabling us.

cis women: men are sooooooo mad when everything isn’t abt them.

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official elon musk hate post reblog to hate like to hate reply to hate

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musk is going to die in a Tesla explosion in 6 months after sticking his nose where it doesn't belong and we will never get a conclusive answer on whether it was a CIA car bomb or just a normal Tesla malfunction

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black trans/nonbinary people and other trans/nonbinary people of color are disproportionately targeted which means we should be listening to them first and foremost

and that means the words coined by trans/nonbinary people of color should be respected

ESPECIALLY the term transandrophobia

let them speak.

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PSA- Don't use trans-emasculation to describe discrimination faced by trans men. It was made by a trans woman when trans men already came up with multiple terms (trans-androphobia, trans-misandry, trans-anti-masculinity) to describe our oppression.

Edit- Trans-emasculation was co-opted and was originally made to describe a subsection of trans-androphobia. It has been recoined by a transfemme to describe all trans-androphobia

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okay but have you talked to people who actually use that term to describe their experience

like, i dunno, INTERSEX PEOPLE

perisex people stop fucking conflating AN EVENT THAT HAPPENED TO EVERYONE AT BIRTH WITH PERISEX FEMALE/MALE SEXUAL ANATOMY CHALLENGE FUCKING IMPOSSIBLE

PEOPLE WHO WERE AFAB CAN GROW UP LOOKING LIKE MEN OR HAVE A PENIS OR GO THROUGH A MASCULINIZING PUBERTY AND THEY WILL HAVE TO MEDICALLY OR SOCIALLY TRANSITION TO BE WOMEN, THAT DOES NOT MAKE THEM ANY LESS TRANS THAN PERISEX TRANS WOMEN

AND THE SAME FUCKING APPLIES TO TRANS MEN WHO WERE AMAB

STOP FUCKING ALIENATING INTERSEX TRANS PEOPLE FROM THE TRANS COMMUNITY AND ACTUALLY LISTEN TO THEM AND THEIR LIFE EXPERIENCES

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Adult Transgender Legislative Risk Map, November 2024

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Greg Ellis was just arrested on multiple counts of revenge porn. Including three counts of coercion, one count of unlawful surveillance, one count of aggravated harassment and a whole bunch of other shit. Mind you this guy is best buddies with JKR and they were constantly on Twitter liking each others shit and praising each other (he was like the only voice actor she could get for her stupid little wizard game he voiced like twelve characters) despite the fact that people were like “Hey bitch, he hates women and you claim to be for women’s rights what the fuck are you doing” and she just ignored it because they both hate trans people and she thought that was just grand that they were both stupid bitches together. Wonder if she’s gonna straight up ignore this too.

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how it feels to have at one point been a fan of both jk rowling and neil gaiman

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I played Seward in a school production. It got the most laughs out of every play I've ever done including literal comedies. Gothic literature is funny as hell

My favorite moment in Dracula has got to be when Renfield says he needs to tidy his room before Mina comes in, and then proceeds to turn around and eat his entire collection of spiders and flies before Dr. Seward can stop him. Gothic literature has no business being this funny.

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Mr Red Hood sir your magnificent armored breasts look so heavy maybe I can hold them for yUOOHGSWRYHJHHLWOEKGZETHK *gets titty tazer'd*

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Why did Elon Musk divorce his wife?

He heard marriage is a union.