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THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

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Escape Room: Spoilers, My thoughts, and my selfish changes

literally just read this book and while I guessed most of it (except the connection between Cleo and Miles) it was good, fast paced, kept it interesting by switching povs. I will be completely honest I wish if we were going to go with the Sky being gay plot twist they had done without making it seem like he was gonna have a thing for Mint, because I was secretly hoping in the chapters before when he noted her looking nice, her hair, and comforting her that it had been falling for her.

That is also just my love for the bad boy/good girl.

I also kind of wished Miles had been crazy but for a different reason, like that he was actually crazy and obsessed with Alissa or she filled the lack of obsession that Karla filled. I really loved/hated when Alissa was not believing her friends, it was annoying but in a great story telling way and adding so much tension. Hence why I wished Sky and Mint had started liking each other or something because it could have made the reavel that Sky loved Alissa more dramatic because they could've had a kiss scene or something between him and Mint and then the drama of Alissa finding out that he loved her mixed with her fight with Mint and Miles having also threatening her previously.

Really liked the notes aspect and that Miles hid the one note only to be ratted out again later on

7/10

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So I watched Happiest season last night so unless you want spoilers, don't continue. Just wanted to express my thoughts even if they've been said before. This is gonna be all over the place with thoughts about everyone because this is how my brain works.

Harper is a bad person and girlfriend to Abby, I understand that her parents were shitty and being in the closet sucks and her sister Sloan is a shitty person, their whole family excluding Jane (literally at times) are not very nice people. Jane deserved better and I will say I am really happy that they acknowledged it and somewhat apologized, I wish their was more growth to show it progress. Honestly if this movie was longer and showed that I would've watched it just for proper progression. Don't get me wrong I love the movie and will probably watch it again, but no movie is perfect.

Ok why Harper is a shitty gf/person...dude who waits half way on the drive after a year of dating (right?) and living together...to tell their partner their parents don't know about the relationship nor their sexuality?! You would have earned points if you had done it the morning after inviting her, but no you wait then when they're expecting both of you and I would assume they're expecting you rather soon...

Hated the dead parents bit in a way of like it's a cheesy comedy thing of the oblivious rich people, so like I didn't really hate it but it's annoying and meant to be annoying.

LOATHED the whole Jane being taken for granted bit, like a lot...I really wish she had been given the choice to set boundaries and cut off her family for a bit, SOMETHING and I feel like John would have helped influence that if he had been around her longer. I understand why they didn't because her character is really sweet, but she can still be sweet and understand to put up boundaries..

I wish Riley and Abby ended up together and here's why: I hate rom com's and I hate holiday romance movies because there is never really any chemistry, there is the "Oh you've seen it a million times, here's one more romance movie" type of chemistry where it's based around the actors both being very attractive and polar opposites but still have some weird connection and I just don't like those, they feel...ick. But Riley and Abby had actual chemistry as did Abby and John as friends, but I will admit even their relationship in the beginning felt kind of stiff, but I think that might just be the actors not being alike. In the few scenes with Riley and Abby it was more believable to think they would be a couple or had feelings for the other, between Riley looking at Abby the way she did at the first holiday party with her mouth opening like that and Abby positioning herself to sit like Riley, felt very cute and sexy in those scenes.

Harper was very flip floppy in this, one night she's fucking Abby and the next she's ignoring her to hang out with her ex (and friends), and saying Abby is suffocating her. I might be getting how close in actual days or hours these events happened, but even still they were there for 5 days...that's a big change and Abby was never nagging, she was very understanding for the scenario she was in and even if she was, I personally can say I'd be bummed if I finally had the chance to have a family at Christmas just to be pushed to the side in a new place and with people who don't want me there..I'm just surprised Abby lasted as long as she did.

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going through my microsoft word archives is great fun because i always find the wildest shit in there and by “the wildest shit” i mean the time i tried to rewrite the entire bible from scratch at the age of eleven and a half

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just found out that yesterday kim kardashian’s private jet produced 61 tons of CO2 emissions. over the last week drake’s private jet flights produced 182 tons of CO2 emissions. like what is even the point any more

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You cannot explain what poetry is in a way that isn't poetry itself and if that isn't beautiful i don't know what is

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SPIDER-MAN: NO WAY HOME (2021) - dir. Jon Watts

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“I don’t want other people to decide who i am. i want to decide that for myself. ” – Emma Watson

Happy international women’s day!

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YOU MEAN TO TELL ME "I LOVE YOU GUYS" WAS UNSCRIPTED-- ANDREW JUST AD LIBBED THAT LINE?! SO WHEN HE SAYS IT IT'S REALLY HIM SPEAKING GENUINELY TO TOBEY AND TOM??!?!! OMG I CAN'T-- MY HEART IS PALPITATINING!!!!!

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maturing is realising there isn’t a “best spiderman” theyre all idiots who decided to sleep off a spider bite instead of going to a hospital 💀

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lavender sunset

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IT’S ALWAYS SUNNY IN PHILADELPHIA (2005 - ) but it’s just the memes

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Home

Reader is based off of an OC I made for Twilight and never used. Her name is Elizabeth but the description will be set up like any other reader insert.

Elizabeth was the ex-mate of Aro, she was only eighteen when he turned her and locked her way till she was hungry enough to have killed her whole village including her own family, forced to live with the guilt. She had befriended Alistair after Aro grew tired of her and the two developed an interesting relationship, they were mates..and they never stopped being mates, but they understood they wanted different things. Alistair wanted to seclude himself while Elizabeth wanted to be near humans and other vampires. Alistair thought he was okay with her leaving, but he missed her, things were less bright around, his Lizzie only visited every decade, sometimes when she grew bored of the domestic life she'd come back to him.

When she arrived pleading for him to help her family, he reminded her that he was supposed to be her family and she rolled her gold eyes and gave him that look

"Ali, you know what I mean!"

"It's a death wish, if anything you and I should be going into hiding." She reached up and played with his beard

"I won't let anything happen to us, please I wouldn't ask this of you if it wasn't urgent. I didn't fuss at you when you didn't come to the wedding, but I'm asking this of you my love." He let out a useless sigh and laid his forehead on yours

"Is your room still in the attic?"

"Yes, just as you left it so you can sulk." He took her hands in his and studied her features, the scar across her face, the memory of Aro giving it to her replayed in his head as the man broke up with her and the two of them fled later that night. He packed a bag and they met up with Carlisle and Esme a couple days later in England to fly home.

Bella and the others found it amusing how different their Liz was to Alistair. It was nice to see her light up and be a bit more playful as she was usually so serious. Alistair didn't come out of the attic much, but when he did he liked making her flustered, playing with Liz's hair or pinning her to the tree and calling her 'Lizzie'.

"They've always been like that." Carlisle shrugged watching his "sister" and Alistair standing in the tree. When Alistair decided to leave he packed Lizzie's bags and he was going to force her, he couldn't lose her, and she hated her for a few centuries he was okay with that as long as she was around.

"Alistair, my love...you know I'm not going."

"You are! End of discussion, if I lose you I'll destroy everything." He charged at her, her backing up not used to her behaving this way

"Ali I have to do this."

"I won't die here, not like this." He shakes his head and grabs her face and she sighs and leans into his hand

"When this is over I'll go home with you."

"You're coming home now." He tried sound stern but he was soft for only her, in his own way, and she simply kissed his palm and held it close to her chest

"I have to do this, that little girl deserves a chance at life with her parents." She watched as he nodded and grabbed his bag and she pushed one of her bags towards him

"I'll bring the other one with me my love." He kissed her and left without another word. All he did was worry about her, but she knew his fear of death grew daily and while the others called him a coward she would glare and say

"Maybe we're all just to suicidal to notice when to leave." When the Aro and the others arrived, she thought of Alistair, pushing away the thoughts that maybe she should have left with him and when Aro reluctantly left she smiled and embraced her family, they knew what it meant. She would leave, but it was clear that this time would be longer than normal if not permanent. Renesmee cried into her aunt's chest asking her to please not stay away for too long

"I'll bring you gifts when I return my love." Liz smiled kissing her forehead

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青城山, qingcheng mountain, sichuan province by 遗产君