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New ring and bracelets, and absolutely loving them!

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God I'm loving this suit.

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New suit day - what do my followers think - yey or nay?

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Does anyone volunteer to give my lower lip a kiss better?

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A more of a,relaxing evening away from the suit tonight.

How are we all?

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Good morning my lovely people 😊

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Absolutely love love love this

A good Dom is a gentleman. He takes care of his sub like his most prized possession. There is a price tag on a submissive free will and that is your constant time, attention, and energy. If you think it’s irritating to stop your workout and tie a shoe, then you’re probably not cut out for this lifestyle. It’s not all humiliation, degradation, and fucking all day. (Although I could use a day like that here soon @hitman3030 )

Daddy not only stopped his workout to tie my shoe, he noticed before I did from across the gym. He came over to me in front of a group of “gym bros” knelt down and attended to my situation. He carefully unstrapped it, unlaced, and retied with more care than I ever would have while the packed gym side eyed us. A true Dom, would never hesitate to kneel for his submissive if it meant taking care of her.

I’m fully capable of tying my own shoe, for the record. I’m a strong independent woman outside of this relationship. D/s is a choice for us, not a necessity of function. I’m asked frequently advice on the D/s lifestyle and I will always first tell someone, “This is a lot of work, are you prepared?”

What Tumblr doesn’t show you, the countless little things we do for each other outside the bedroom. The non-sexual parts of our relationship are exactly what create the space for what happens in our bed (or floor, or car, shower, restrooms… well you get it).

Without Daddy tying my shoe, or brushing my hair, or listening to me cry over something completely ridiculous— I can promise you there would be no anal whore, no piss slut, no clothespins… none of it.

Build your relationship on the tiny gestures of love and trust and watch your submission and dominance grow and evolve because of it.

Rant over.

This Princess belongs to her King @hitman3030

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Happy Sunday to all my followers 😊

Every like and reblog is greatly appreciated ❤

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PUNISHMENTS SHOULD NEVER BE SOMETHING THAT PUTS YOUR LIFE, HEALTH, OR WELLBEING AT RISK.

IF YOUR DOM/DOMME IS USING THINGS LIKE LOCKING YOU OUTSIDE IN FREEZING COLD TEMPERATURES, SLEEP DEPRIVATION, FOOD RESTRICTION, ETC. AS "PUNISHMENTS"...GET OUT.

YOUR PUNISHMENTS SHOULD NEVER BE SOMETHING YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH.

IF YOUR DOM/DOMME IS USING "PUNISHMENTS" AS A WAY TO FORCE YOU INTO DOING THINGS YOU DON'T WANT TO DO...GET OUT

PUNISHMENTS SHOULD NEVER LEAVE YOU FEELING HURT OR CONFUSED.

IF YOUR DOM/DOMME IS USING TACTICS LIKE YELLING, IGNORING YOU, WITHHOLDING ATTENTION/AFFECTION, BELITTLING YOU, MAKING YOU "EARN" BASIC HUMAN KINDNESS, NOT EXPLAINING WHAT YOU DID AND WHY YOU ARE EVEN BEING PUNISHED IN THE FIRST PLACE, ETC....GET OUT

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My profile picture is one of my favourites; simple but gets the message across - cum. Sit.

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Good day to you all 😘 how are we?

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Definitely a relaxing evening tonight folks. No suit I'm afraid....

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Absolutely brilliantly written

Just to clarify

In BDSM there are three separate forms of power exchange. In no particular order:

Sadism & Masochism

Topping & Bottoming

Domination & Submission

Sadism & Masochism is the exchange of power through pain. Spanking, flogging, whipping, caning, CBT, nipple torture, even rough sex. Like feeling a little pain with your pleasure? You’re a masochist. Does making someone hurt bring you pleasure? You’re a sadist. Can you be both? Absolutely. I think most of us are, in subtle ways. (My Domme pointed out it was rather sadistic of me to tease my dog with a treat to make him do cute tricks.)

Topping & Bottoming is the exchange of power through sex. One of you is in control of the situation, whether it’s just for this roll in the hay, or every single time with your partner. That person is topping. The passive, or controlled one is bottoming. So if it’s being held down or tied up during sex, or begging for an orgasm, or edging someone until they cry… that is sexual power exchange. Can you be a top and a bottom? Oh, yes, you can. You can even do it in the same romp, if that’s what works for you and your partner.

Domination & Submission is the exchange of power through emotions and intimacy. D/s (the shorthand for this) is about rules, structure, discipline, and protocol. And that can be as intense as a 24/7 Master/slave relationship, or as simple as calling your husband ‘Sir’ or ‘Daddy’ because he said so. In between is a WORLD of amazing ways to exchange power mentally.

Rules are set in place with a purpose -not just because they’re sexy. Rules are things like: Check in via text when you leave work (so I know you’re on the road and shouldn’t text). Send a photo of your outfit every morning (so I can see how beautiful you look today, and compliment you). Work out four times a week (because I want to help you stay healthy).

Protocols are similar, they are standards of behavior, such as the way you talk to and address your partner, hand them a drink, carry yourself when others are around, or present yourself to them in varying situations. Protocols are brilliant for reinforcing the D/s dynamic. Broadly speaking, you’re not often reminded of protocols unless you misstep. So something as simple as remembering to stand to your girlfriend’s left and wait quietly if she’s talking to someone at a party can reinforce your submission to her.

Discipline is about reinforcing the dynamic and enforcing rules and protocols. Mistakes are made, rules forgotten. We’re all human. That is when discipline comes in. The transgression is addressed, punishment handed out, and then the slate is wiped clean. Add in some affection after the fact and you’ve just reinforced everything you are working towards together. The intimacy required for this is pretty damn intense, and it’s important to know each other well before diving in.

Structure is key in a D/s dynamic, because without consistency, it can all fall apart. Rules that aren’t enforced are unlikely to be followed. A Dom who allows his sub to get away with everything isn’t likely to keep the respect he has earned. And respect and reverence are part and parcel of the whole kneeling thing. Likewise, a submissive who is constantly fighting the rules she agreed to isn’t respecting the dynamic, and isn’t doing her part to make it work. D/s is a lot of work for both partners, and isn’t something to be jumped into too quickly or taken lightly.

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Now, to review, you can mix and match the forms of power exchange however suits you and your partner(s). And it is often different from one partner to the next. Some people fit the classic roles of Dom/Top/Sadist and Sub/Bottom/Masochist. Some people switch between sadism and masochism, while always remaining a Dom and top. Some people switch between topping and bottoming. Do you see the point I’m getting at here?

You can be any combination of those six roles in any given relationship, and that includes NOT being one of them, even when, traditionally, the others may apply.

Wanting to be in control in the bedroom does NOT automatically make you a Dom. (Say it again for the fuckboys in the back.)

Enjoying rough sex and spanking does NOT automatically make you a sub.

And you can very well be a Dom who doesn’t physically punish his sub or enjoy rough sex. And you can easily be a submissive who does not get spanked.

The definition of these terms is much broader than my summary, and will differ from person to person. Don’t pigeonhole yourself by feeling you need to adhere to a stereotypical definition of any of these terms or roles.

And if you feel I missed something, and it’s possible I did, as this is based entirely on my reading and experiences in my local community, let’s talk about it.

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ALL of the reblogs.

IF YOU NEED TO CALL 911 BUT ARE SCARED TO BECAUSE OF SOMEONE IN THE ROOM, dial and ask for a pepperoni pizza. They will ask if you know you’re calling 911. Say yes, and continue pretending you’re making an order. They’ll ask if there’s someone in the room.

You can ask how long it will take for the pizza to get to you, and they will tell you how far away a dispatcher is.

Here is an example video

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Here me out;

A threesome but the third person is there to provide snacks and moral support