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Pov: it’s 2016 and you spend the day with your best friend turned caregiver

Aka another very specific cg moodboard

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🍎 ⋆˚｡ ⋆ cg! spiderman moodboard ⋆ ｡˚⋆ 🍎

"Ohhh, would you look at this, my tiny spider missed me sooooooo much you colored in a picture of me!!! no, c'mere little one let me see!! ah, the perfect shade of red! gosh, what a talented little bug i have! c'mon, let's go hang it up with the others!" (v self indulgent featuring the pic i didn't finish coloring in today!!)

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finally your awake!! you fell off the monkey bars pretty hard... huh? taxes? work?? wat are u talking about!! lets go play

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Look who is here!

Meet Berry the Triceratops!

He is still a bit shy.

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More bills 🎉

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me: thoroughly enjoys exploring the psychological aspects of regression and projecting onto my favorite fictional characters to help them cope with their trauma

also me: my blorbo deserves to be a lil guy. as a treat

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Shout out to regressors with messy rooms

Whether that be just a small mess or you have trash and dirty dishes everywhere

you are no less of a regressor just bc your rooms isn't clean or "aesthetic"

I hope you someday have the energy to clean, but until then don't feel ashamed or any less valid

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ღ “I Love My ___” agere self ship templates (please reblog if you save)!

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it truly frustrates me to see the current state of the agere community, as someone who used to have an agere blog.

i dont know how long this has been a problem, but . so much of what folks view as normal just? isnt good.

to start off, caregivers are treated more as tools for littles comfort by MANY. its thought of as a relationship meant for the little, instead of a two-sided coin where both parties get something out of it. caregivers are treated as if theyre expendable, as if you can get a new one in a matter of days if anything goes awry. as if that sort of dynamic doesnt mean anything more than a casual situation meant entirely for the little.

and i hope you know, i was victim to this mindset to. the first person i ever took care of(and whom, i feel the need to mention occasionally took care of me) abandoned me without a word. and i never got a true explanation, she came back to tumblr to joke about her NSFW feelings about being called parental names and to abandon me again-but. thats a longer story.

but when she left, i blamed myself. and i refused to grieve or talk about it because i thought it would make her uncomfortable because our relationship was 'hers'. i thought that it wasnt mine to grieve AT ALL. even though i was objectively platonically in love with her. because, to many folk on here, regression isnt something for the caregiver to grieve. when the little traumatizes them, its still all about the little.

but it ISNT! it isnt and i feel like people should be able to be more open about having bad experiences caregiving. the enviroment that has been built around regression/caregiving, pushes folks to repress their feelings and not speak about their experiences. and thats not good! caregivers and regressors should be treated as equally valuable.

i may seem strange to say this, but regression and caregiving is a lot more important than its treated on here. i only take care of people when i platonically fall in love with them in a way ive only ever fallen in love twice. its not something that should be treated casually unless its agreed that its casual, because that could end in someone getting completely traumatized.

and, imo, caregiving has also become similar to speed-dating. you cant scroll through the regression tag without seeing people asking for randos to fill out forms, or to DM them to be their CG. which is so, so dangerous. if youre an adult and you understand the risks, go for it! but when minors post these forms, its not safe.

it also shows a lot about what caregiving means to people. people may want that support, and look ANYWHERE to get it. (and, im not bashing people who genuinely need caregivers when small. if you genuinely need a caregiver in that state, i understand why you would post such a thing) but its a massive risk, and there will likely be little commitment behind the loving sentiments. sure, you can build a caregiving relationship from scratch, but its much more risky. the likelyhood of you being ghosted, traumatized, or hurt, is much more than if you formed that dynamic with a close friend or partner.

you dont need a caregiver to be a valid little, and there are things you can do on your own that can help you regress. the culture here promotes folks taking risks for the chance of reward-gambling with your safety so you can maybe find the perfect caregiver-and its not good! at least imo, this isnt good or safe.

and, caregivers dont owe you anything. caregivers dont owe you love and care. they deserve respect and love. if someone chooses not to be your caregiver anymore, if you lash out at them you are being cruel. if you ghost your caregiver, youre being cruel. if you hurt your caregiver purposefully, youre being cruel.

i hope this doesnt come off as just. a hurt caregiver getting angry, its more attempting to focus on the culture thats been cultivated here. the speed-dating nature of caregiving, and the carelessness folks show to caregivers.

this one goes out to all the caregivers and littles who have been traumatized cause of this sort of stuff <3 yall deserve the BEST

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age regression but you just watch me for an hour while i try increasingly bizarre ways to discreetly eat a crayon

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things to add to your regression room 🐤

A Bean bag

fairy lights

glow-in-the-dark wall stickers

video projector

bed canopy

a cage (this is kinda more for pet regressors but who cares ;3)

bed tent (or just a normal floor tent)

toy organizers

mini fridge for snacks and drinks!

candles or scented things to help you feel calm

fidget toys

posters

put up the drawings you did!

Bluetooth speakers for music

big plushies (i mean BIGGG big)

cozy blankies

stuffies and plushies

any type of kid/baby toys

Baby wipes for messy mistakes

acrobat swing

cocoon swing

sensory square mat

activity board

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Spacey kiddo/agere moodboard! <3

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Softer Funshine moodboard :3

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Kiddo who struggles to regress due to embarrassment and carer who absolutely adores them and misses their tiny one

“You wanna build blocks with me, bug?”

“Is it okay if I brush your hair, little love?”

“Do you wanna color me a pretty picture? We can hang it on the fridge after.”

Just slowly talking them down into that small space where they’re safe and relaxed <3 watching them slowly regress and sighing happily

“There’s my baby.”

(It’s me btw, I’m the kiddos who’s embarrassed to regress with anyone whoops)

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Vintage regressor flags!

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A Few Diffrent vers. of Needy Regressor agere flags!

Baby/Toddler needy regressor

Young kid/Older kid needy regressor

Preteen/Teen needy regressor

Newborn/Padded needy regressor

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