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Why I have a cane. Obv.

Cane version (you are here!)

Rollator version

Wheelchair version 

Power Chair version

I don’t use crutches, so if crutch users would like one, please give me some suggestions! 

 [ID: Image of an edited “Why Do We Have Hands” meme. The top says “Why Do We Have Canes?” and just beneath that is a cartoon picture of a cane in black and white. This is followed by the text “There Are Many Reasons:”. Beneath that is a series of pictures in a square formation. The first picture on the top left is of a basic outline of a person with spikey black hair and a spiked collar. The are using a black cane topped with a skull. The caption is “look badass.” The next picture to the right of it is in the same style and depicts a person being hit on the head with a cane. The caption is “HIT the ableist.” The bottom left picture is a cartoon-style hand holding up a cane, and the caption is “shake stick at God.” The final image on the bottom right is a horizontal picture of a cane with a sticker on it that says “TALK SHIT, GET HIT” in a creepy font. To the right of the sticker is another sticker depicting a skull-faced cat. /end ID]

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Modern Waste 12/11/2022

 

She is not a sympathetic character

There’s a reason why bad things happen to her

Her dozen stories of her tales of woe

She has more drama than a daytime show

 

She’s a modern waste

She can’t afford her taste

She don’t know how to be po’

And she is making haste

Ruining her own life

She sharpens her own knife

She sticks it in her own heart

Then she blames the strife

 

Her constant poverty is tiresome

She’s asked for handouts from near everyone

Her endless efforts to stay relevant

Are why she never hears from anyone

 

She’s a modern waste

Eats like a kid with paste

She don’t know how to get better

In her backwards pace

Ruining her own life

She sharpens her own knife

She cuts up all her skin and then

She wonders why

 

Whyyy yyy yyy

Why things go

Ever so slow

When she’s dying

It’s not for lack of trying

It’s just her nonstop crying

 

She is not a sympathetic character

Endless friends have it up to here with her

Her million stories of her tales of woe

And how she hasn’t got a place to go

 

She’s a modern waste

You’d better hide your face

Before she sees you and she needs you

Just a few more days

She’s a modern waste

And she can not be saved

She’s the loser of all losers

She deserves no grace

Run away, away

Away

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"Shawshank Blues"

Well I'm swimming in shit but I smell like peaches and cream

Yes I'm swimming in shit but I smell like peaches and cream

You know what I mean, there aint nothing wrong with me

'Cause I'm swimming in shit but I smell like peaches and cream

Well I was looking all around but I hadn't found no love

Yes I was looking all around but I hadn't found no love

I was giving up, when things started picking up

Now I'm looking all around and all I've found is love

Well he's a mean old man and he'll never apologize

Yes he's a mean old man and he'll never apologize

It's a compromise, I'll love him 'til I die

But he's a mean mother fucker and he'll never apologize

Well step on in said the spider to the fly

Whyn't ya step on in said the spider to the fly

I can't pass you by, no matter how hard I try

So step into my parlor said the spider to the fly

Well I'm swimming in shit but I smell like peaches and cream

Yes I'm swimming in shit but I smell like peaches and cream

You know what I mean, there aint nothing wrong with me

'Cause I'm swimming in shit but I smell like peaches and cream

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December 2001

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The Lion, the Witch, and the Audacity of This Bitch

Imagine being so selfish, and such a coward.

Really looking forward to sending her into irrelevance in 2024.

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Hahahaha this is how it goes.

Source: Can’t Keep A Straight Face: A Lesbian Looks And Laughs At Life - by Ellen Orleans, Illustrated by Noreen Stevens

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Life is beautiful

Source

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I've been DJing for years!

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Your next MRI should help your soul escape its corporeal vessel.

surgically replacing my soul with a 1cm steel ball bearing

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Music to which I'm vaping

this is called "At Dusk" ... hope it mellows out your mood :)

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Amazon thanks me for purchasing SPLENDA and wants me to try this new product! It's Splenda.

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This is absolutely what I'm thinking, I claim this meme as my own.

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I'm homeless in a house

Where I'm quiet as a mouse

And my ex is such a louse

He needs a smack upside his mowf

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The Couch Story

My roommate sat upon my couch, upon my couch he sat. And when he tried to pass a fart, upon my couch he shat.

He dribbled shit onto the rug, and then he grabbed a cup. His shit was pooped out everywhere, he tried to scoop it up.

My dog investigated, and, began to lick the shit. I yelled and screamed and cursed, and then I gave the dog a kick.

I had to put on plastic gloves, to take the couch apart. I threw the cup into the trash, all this from just one fart!

I scrubbed the rug, and scrubbed the rug, then scrubbed the rug some more. I lit some incense, sprayed some Glade, and hoped there was no more.

I gave him anti-poopy meds, I really didn't mind. But I will not forget my roommate's poopy shit behind.

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King Flashie of Flasherton and his toof.

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Wow, a free formal education in this post. Do read.

Ngl i dont really get 'feminist' mens rights activism. Are men hurt by the patriarchy? Yeah... but they benefit from it too, and more than they hurt. Straight people are hurt by homophobia and transmisogyny too, but no one is out here doing 'pro lgbtq rights straight activism'.

So, first of all, while I personally don't know of any queer liberation-based cishet activists, there are plenty of cishet activsts for queer liberation. And honestly, if some cishet people wanted to use queer theory and queer activism as a lens to examine cishet issues in solidarity with queer liberation, then good for them! That sounds like it could be really cool and really helpful for dismantling homophobia, transphobia, gncphobia in cishet relationships/spaces. I think that could be really beneficial for a lot of people, especially cishets who still don't fit perfectly in patriarchal gender roles.

Second of all, and to actually answer your question, I don't feel there's a minimum amount of suffering needed before someone deserves to be helped. I don't see the point in acknowledging that men are harmed by the patriarchy if we aren't going to try to address those harms. Why are these issues used as a rhetorical argument but then actually critically examining them is seen as bad? If we agree that the patriarchy is harmful to men, and that men would, as a group, benefit from it's destruction, why shouldn't we encourage men to seek liberate in solidarity with other genders?It feels to me that at least one reason this is viewed negatively is because it's not punishment-based. It doesn't suggest that men need to suffer or that their suffering is deserved or "their own fault", and it's focused on redemption and connection. If we agree that men are harmed by the patriarchy, why shouldn't men want liberation from that? Do you think that the patriarchy should be dismantled without ever critically examining how men are harmed by it? That kind of thing is what brings more men into gender activism and makes feminism stronger. It helps further collective healing from the damage patriarchal gender roles have done. And on top of all this, I'm not sure we can make any sort of assessment of how much men benefit from the patriarchy vs how much they are harmed, especially since the benefits can vary from situation to situation and person to person. Trans men are men who benefit little to none from the patriarchy, and I can't imagine many of us would appreciate being told that we are helped more than we are hurt by it. There are also many people who were AMAB who live mostly as men, regardless of their actual gender, who are severely hurt by the patriarchy. Some die because of it (through various things, not only issues caused by emotional repression but things like gaybashing, bullying, child abuse, etc.). And personally, I don't feel I can say that none of this deserves active concern and treatment until women's issues are resolved, morally- and I think it's unlikely that women's issues can be perfectly treated in a way completely detached from men's issues. The idea that we can only fight for one struggle at a time is a fallacy. We don't have to "choose" between men's issues or women's. I literally cannot- both affect me personally, and I cannot live in peace without fighting both fights. Even if it weren't personal, I don't want any group of people to be suffering if it can be helped.

Plus, men's issues intersect in the same way misogyny does. I got into men's liberation through transmasc-specific activism, because I realized that so many issues trans men faced intersected with other groups because of a shared antimasculism problem. In the same way that a lot of other issues intertwine with misogyny, and that can't be ignored when studying non-gendered forms of oppression, men's gendered experiences with bigotry matter too. Gender roles are sticky, they get everywhere. It's foolish, in my opinion, to think that women's gender roles intersect with everything (true) but that men's gender is a non-entity that has no bearing on the other issues they experience. When Black men (as well as butches and studs) are viewed as hyper-aggressive, hyper-sexual, hyper-masculine, that's the intersection of patriarchal male gender roles (men are aggressive and sexually active) with anti-Black racism. The idea of "savage" men being cartoonishly violent and sexually aggressive (making them a threat to White women) is pretty common in various forms of racism, as gender roles are played up to demonize or mock another group. Disabled women are often painted as failures if they are unable to have children, or cook & clean, because of misogyny. Disabled men are often painted as failures if they cannot do manual labor, or impregnate someone, because of antimasculism. I don't think we can analyze other forms of oppression without looking at how gender plays into it, and we can't do that only focused on women & especially cis women. We need the trans perspective, and we need the male perspective. And "male perspective" does not mean "patriarchal perspective".

I hope this was a good explanation of why I feel men's liberation and studying of antimasculism is important.