theredvaporeon

[theredvaporeon]

((I'm still left wondering...

What the fuck i did.

[theredvaporeon]

Thank you for following!

I've hit a pretty decent milestone with this blog, and now it's time to say thank you to everyone! I really appreciate the wonderful support over the years of working on this blog. ;v;~

After a vote, it was pretty unanimous that people wanted a care package from Australia featuring lots of Australian goodies. This will include sweets, a few savoury items and things safe to send over the pond as it were. ^^~

Now, given the nature of this giveaway, some significant rules apply, similar to my usual Christmas Card event I run in November:

You must be following me. (for this one, I'll be checking)

Reblogs, likes and comments all count as one entry each for a total of three entries.

Receiving Vegemite is non-optional. You Will Experience The Vegemite. :|

You must either be over 18, able to consent to give out your name and address, OR have the permission of your parents/guardian to receive a parcel from me if you are under 18.

Furthermore, PLEASE make sure you can receive a parcel safely as I'm aware postal systems worldwide can be funky as hell.

PLEASE MAKE SURE TO INCLUDE YOUR NAME, STATE AND COUNTRY. DO NOT MISS THIS. This is something EVERYONE needs to be told twice. 

Your name and address, once written on the envelope, is deleted from my ask box or messages, to retain your privacy as much as possible.

PLEASE make me aware of any allergies you have if you win.

PLEASE MAKE SURE TO INCLUDE YOUR NAME, STATE AND COUNTRY. DO NOT MISS THIS. This is something EVERYONE needs to be told twice

There will only be one winner for this giveaway since it's gonna be expensive for me to do this.

Thanks so much for your support!!

~Skins

[theredvaporeon]

I don't say anything anymore, because no one believed me when I did.

I don't say anything anymore, because people prefer content to the truth.

I don't say anything anymore, because no one wants their peace disrupted.

I don't say anything anymore, because the people who've caused such harm are well-loved or 'popular'.

I don't say anything anymore, because I don't want people thinking of me as a trouble maker or someone using my own fans and friends as weapons.

I don't say anything anymore, because I don't want to trouble the people I care about.

I don't say anything anymore.

Because there is just no point.

I don't say anything anymore.

And sometimes I think it's better if I'm the one who goes.

And ultimately?

I don't say anything anymore, because even when I did leave, it just harmed those I cared about rather than those I didn't.

[theredvaporeon]

Okay. Yeah, I'm old.

(Then vs now!

I’m always looking for ways to try and improve on how I draw Destino and thought it’d be neat to see how I’ve changed drawing them! Definitely made some changes along the way and I’m sure they’ll change as this blog progresses!

Reblog this post with one of your first drawings of your characters with one of the most recent! I’d love to see how your art style has changed and adapted!)

[theredvaporeon]

I can't believe I have to say this. This isn't high school, if you choose to partake in petty bullshit, I kindly request that you take your petty drama elsewhere and unfollow me. This is the internet, everyone has their own issues. If you have a problem with someone bring it up to them, chances are they don't know you have a problem with them. Sending someone anon hate? Grow up, it takes zero effort to be a nice person. It takes zero effort to not click that ask box and go about your business. You wouldn't like receiving hate in your inbox, so why do you assume that the person you sent hate to would be okay with it? It's horrifying to me that people would stoop so low as to send hate, and cause unnessicary (sp) drama. I've taken a hard step back from this community for this very reason. I love pokeask; don't get me wrong, I've met many amazing people here! But I'm tired, I have my own issues I'm trying to work on, and until recently have been keeping to myself. I took a month long break from my discord because I was so stressed out. I've been here for 10 years as of last month. I've seen shit, I've seen people get hurt over petty drama. I just want to say I'm done with it.

[theredvaporeon]

You know I was trying to hype myself up to come back here. To actually be part of this community again.

I had such a great story to tell about these guys but....

I don't think I'm coming back.

I'm sorry

[theredvaporeon]

4060-7200-3422

If anyone wants to add me on pokemon sleep

[theredvaporeon]

Lazuli floats beside Trav, tail wagging. They seem excited to see her.

[theredvaporeon]

Lazuli: R-r-river! (I missed you! Let me show you something neat that I learned!)

Lazuli floats beside Trav, tail wagging. They seem excited to see her.

[theredvaporeon]

(@ask-team-searchlights) Gen@Xander: "Um, hi, uh...wh-what exactly is this place?"

Xander: We take care of Pokemon while trainers travel, and we also take in abandoned pokemon and care for them until they are ready to go to new trainers.

@ask-team-searchlights

[theredvaporeon]

[ I would just like to thank everyone for the warm welcome back!

And thank you to those that have sent asks, as I totally obliterated my ask box.

My updates may or may not be slow, as I'm moving in September and I have to pack. I'm super nervous, but super excited to have this opportunity to move from a small town to a city and better myself. But I just wanna say you all are awesome and have a wonderful day!!

-Blaze ]

[theredvaporeon]

[ Kuix....can I plop myself in for the Tuesday thingy? ]

BLAAAAAAAAZE MY BUDDY BLAZE

Dude, you're always welcomed in my inbox! I love the chats we get to have and lil one-off character interactions, I love Ven so so much and relate to his constant tiredness. And well, you already know how I feel about Nori-she's one of the factors that allowed Dragonite to sneak into my heart, and now it's one of my favorite dragons.

I still have one of the designs you gave me, and I can't wait to introduce em when the time is right 👀

Speaking of designs-even though it's such a simple one, Xander is so memorable to me. Even before I was in pokeask and I would occasionally log into this account (as I had another at the time too), I remember seeing that funky sad fish come across my dash all the time, and that had to beeeee 2017? 2018?? So I've had your blog in my peripheral since then, and it will always be such a memorable one to me. I'm glad to have know you thus far my guy 💖

[theredvaporeon]

Xander: “I don’t think it’s working...”

Xander: “Oh-”

Xander: “It’s up and going again! It’s been awhile hasn’t it?” [ Xander and the gang are open for asks ] 

[theredvaporeon]

Reblog....not reboot. I can't spell

( Hello!

It's been a long time since I've last been here in the community.

That being said, can you reboot if you're a pokeask blog? I want to get back to posting and will be clearing out my inbox. But I want my dash - that's pretty much dead- to be full of active content.

Thanks!)

[theredvaporeon]

( Hello!

It's been a long time since I've last been here in the community.

That being said, can you reblog if you're a pokeask blog? I want to get back to posting and will be clearing out my inbox. But I want my dash - that's pretty much dead- to be full of active content.

Thanks!)

[theredvaporeon]

Community PSA

[ This is only part of the full PSA (including evidence) which you can find here ]

Content Warnings

Grooming, Victim blaming, Harassment, Sexual abuse, Suicide / Self-harm mention, Emotional / Mental abuse mention

Introduction

Some of you may know about the PSA that circulated a few months ago regarding The-House-of-Hemingway’s relationship and unacceptable sexual interactions with someone who was a minor. Hemingway now goes by C-a-l-y-p-s-o. This post will discuss the details of the PSA, as well as this user’s concerning past and present behavior. 

To the best of the ability of those responsible for this document, the username will continually be updated so that this person cannot interact with members of this community again without disclosing who they are, regardless if the interaction is safe-for-work or not.

The following post is intended to bring awareness to someone who is

Confirmed to be a groomer.

Attempting to convince members of the pokeask community that they have “changed” but is clearly trying to win favor with you.

A risk to the community, cannot be safely trusted, and needs to exit community spaces.

Disclaimers 

Harassment of Calypso in any form is unacceptable behavior. The purpose of this post is to inform. This is not a call for hostile action beyond a block on every social media possible. 

Please respect the victim’s boundaries and do not badger them for further details than what has been disclosed. While disagreement and discussion is OK, please keep your comments outside of tumblr and public discord servers. 

If harassment occurs, the names of any individuals who dogpile, send death threats to, or doxx those involved with this situation will also be listed (with concrete evidence only) on this document. 

TL;DR

Tumblr user @C-a-l-y-p-s-o, previously known as the mod behind the pokeask blog “house-of-hemingway,” is a confirmed groomer who has deleted their admission of guilt to save face.

Calypso has violated a boundary that is expected between a victim and an abuser by leveraging themselves into positions of authority (server moderators, event leaders, etc.)

Calypso has broken promises made to their peers over the course of their internet presence, changing names and website profiles/identities in order to escape the responsibility for their actions.

Calypso is attempting to fall back into good graces by sending copy-pasted positivity asks on mundays to sweep their notoriety under the rug. 

This document will contain proof of the above in exhaustive detail under the “readmore”, or if you are viewing this in the public google document form, it will be under the resources.

We are using this as an opportunity to take a firm stance against grooming in the community, and to express our support for survivors. Our goal is to address the circumstances under which it happens with preventive guidelines and trauma-informed resources.

Resources & Education

What does grooming look like? A quick guide written by survivors of abuse within the Pokeask community:

The adult may not approach you with the intention of grooming you. 

The objective of grooming is for an adult to turn their bond with a minor into a transactional relationship; circumstances in which the minor is providing something for them— whether that be emotional support or sexual gratification— and normalizes breaking boundaries to do so.

Though they may not realize they are blurring or overstepping your boundaries, the effect is still the same; they are desensitizing you to unfair and inappropriate treatment.

Many adults deal with mental illness, go through hard times, and struggle with loneliness. If you’re acquaintances or friends, you naturally might want to support them, “fix” their problems, or do them favors because they’ve been nice to you or because they’re not being malicious.

But ultimately, prioritizing their wellbeing compromises your own, well-meaning or not. That is what an imbalanced power dynamic looks like, and it is up to the adult to realize this, acknowledge it, and seek out other outlets, resources, people, and help available to them. 

A responsible adult does not take advantage of your availability when given the opportunity to do so over other appropriate choices, no matter what. 

The adult may expect you to be available at all times.

Guilt-tripping when you do not respond to their messages, spamming your DMs, or demanding that you spend most of your online time with them. 

Making time for them might mean you end up spending less time with your friends and become distant from others in your social circle. 

A red flag to look for is if they call you their “best / closest friend” over other adult relationships in their life.

The adult may put the burden of their mental health or well-being on you. 

This can include constant venting / oversharing, validation seeking, or coming to you when they are in a mental health crisis. This can happen in private dms or in public servers. 

Remember, no one individual is responsible for managing a loved one’s mental health, and it is not OK to expect a teenager to intervene when someone is threatening suicide or self-harm. That is for a trained professional to handle.

The adult may invite you into unmoderated spaces with other adults. 

They might have “lighthearted” conversations with you or in front of you about sexual content, flirt with you, share explicit images / memes where you can see them, ask to role-play erotic scenarios with your ocs, or draw NSFW / suggestive art of your ocs / sona. 

Red flags to look for are adults telling you that you are mature for your age, asking you to keep their interactions with you a secret, or interacting inappropriately with you in voice call so that there is no chat log of what they’ve said.

You do not owe your followers or fans your attention if you feel uncomfortable.

A friendship between two artists or between you and a fan of your work should not involve any pressure to reciprocate gift art, respond to asks, or role-play.

If someone crosses your boundaries based on a perceived parasocial relationship with you, or makes you feel guilty for not interacting with them, you are in your full right to block them.

If you suspect an ask is a covert fetish, such as asking you to draw an overly specific subject or situation, report them to an adult in the community.

Similarly, if someone you are a fan of is crossing your boundaries, take a step back to evaluate whether you would be OK with it if they were not someone you admire. 

Just because someone is popular, skilled at art, widely respected, or well-liked does not give them the right to treat you in the ways listed above. 

Listen to your gut; if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, but are doubting your feelings because you look up to the person you’re interacting with, take a step back and tell someone you trust. No friendship is worth being treated this way.

If you suspect you were groomed in the past, or are wondering if a relationship you have with an adult is inappropriate, please look through the information linked in this section. Hotlines, counseling and self-help resources for survivors are listed here as well. 

List of Hotlines by Country | 1, 2 

Global Online Image (CSAM) Removal | 1, 2

Education & Resources | UK, CA, AUS, US (eng, esp)

Online Image Removal | UK, CA, AUS

LGBT+ Specific | UK, CA, AUS, US

BIPOC Specific | UK, CA, AUS, US

United Kingdom

Crisis Support & Counseling (Email, Phone, Text, Video Call; Eng & BSL)

Canada

Counseling (Phone, Text; Eng, Fr, Indigenous languages, Other languages, ASL)

Crisis Support (Phone; First Nations responders available)

Australia

Crisis Support & Counseling (Phone, Text, Other; Several languages available; Aboriginal responders available; Auslan)

United States

Crisis Support & Counseling (Phone, Text, Other; Several languages available; Indigenous responders available; ASL)

About the bill to pressure American corporations to remove reported CSAM from their websites

Coming forward about abuse can be re-traumatizing and difficult, but it can also be healing and liberating— It allows for a survivor to be in charge of their narrative and to lead the conversation surrounding their trauma. 

Sometimes, it takes years to recognize trauma or past abuse, let alone to be ready to publicly talk about it. It is validating to finally be able to say, “This happened to me. I survived it. I deserved better.” to the world. 

Trauma follows us for a long time. No matter how much time has passed, a victim has the right to disclose their abuse and hold their abuser accountable. It is our responsibility to listen. https://metoomvmt.org/

Full PSA with evidence continued here…

[theredvaporeon]

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