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[thedickgrant]

It really seems like the hummingbirds are aware of me sometimes you know there was the time last year when it got cold and one of them got frozen to the to the thing there and that another one came and was making a lot of noise and was flying around me while I was trying to help. It almost felt like he had got my attention and called me over there. Anyway I just walk out and sometimes it seems like they make a lot of noise. This time one guy was making a lot of noise and drew my attention so I walked over there to check the level of the water and sure enough almost as soon as I got over there he taught his head out and came right over to the feeder and flew around a little bit and cocked his head and looked at me and sit down on the other side of the feeder from my face and then flew back up and came around and got quite close to me and was moving his head from side to side you know looking at me with his eyes. Well it's pretty fun pretty gratifying regardless of the meaning

[thedickgrant]

Do you want to live in an environment where we both feel heard and respected or do you want to always be right. They are mutually exclusive. Can't do both. Being right is not the most important thing when it comes to interpersonal relationships

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Seemed apparent that you set the shaft of the dispenser somewhere carelessly and got it dirty and then put it back in the soap dispenser. Not a big deal. It did create some extra work for me. Maybe you could just say oh I'm sorry and move on.

I don't know why you apologize when somebody else drops something but you can't apologize ever for one thing that you actually did yourself but it is hurtful to me daily.

It seems apparent that you were raised by someone who was filled with such insecurity that they taught you terrible examples.

I guess your mom is very insecure in her intelligence and many other things. You're inability to be wrong is very detrimental to our relationship. The calisthenics you will go through to arrange a situation so that it's was not your fault is astounding and exhausting.

I'm sorry isn't just a admission of wrong. It's a statement of commiseration. You know you don't have to abase yourself to apologize. You can hold your head up and say oh I'm sorry I'll do better next time and just move on. There doesn't have to be any emotion involved with it. I am not your insecure parent trying to gain some degree of self-worth by you being wrong. I just want things to run smoothly. I want to not create more work for anybody. So I want to ask questions and find out how I can help things run smoothly. Having things run smoothly can be the difference between just keeping an item in a certain place.

The commiseration part is important. Like I'm sorry doesn't mean I am a terrible person It means oh I'm sorry you've got to go through that. I'm sad for you I'm sorry that I played any part and you having to do more work I'll try not to ever do that again. I really need to hear that from you at some point in our relationship. Oh I'm sorry I'll try to do better.

[thedickgrant]

Vigilantly withhold power from those who would hurt you.

Money is power - believe it

[thedickgrant]

Racists regularly used what we call coated language. It's the sort of thing that's either really obvious or you don't notice it because you're not sensitive to it. It just occurred to me that I used coded language of my own and of correspondence the other day. I referred to someone that I'm having a conflict with as having a big truck and a big attitude. I didn't really think about it when I wrote it but now it sounds to me like I'm cluing the listener into his potential political beliefs. And perhaps looking for an ally in that way. Interesting

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He walked up and started trying to have chummy conversation. I asked him if he is the one that called the city. He didn't hesitate He knew exactly what I was talking about. He said everyone called the city. So first thing he did is lie to me. Everyone didn't call. Who would that be anyway?. One could argue oh that's just an exaggeration. And exaggeration is a misrepresentation of the truth. When someone speaks a falsehood as if it were true that is a lie. Someone who tells lies is a liar.

So now he's earned two nicknames. I was already calling him LB. Little bitch. Or little dick bitch. Now I can call him a piece of shit as well because of the phrase lying piece of shit.

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Did you know the answer when he asked you?

No I didn't.

So you could have answered I don't know. Instead, you're asking me. This is how you are manipulated by him. Somehow you turned him asking you a question into a task. Somehow you are now spending time and energy to retrieve information for him. To add another layer he is asking for information that it was his job to have collected. If I supply him with that information then I am doing his job for him. I would never share this information with him. He knows that. He has you asking me for it. Of course I want to just tell you anything you ask me but in my experience you are very quick to give away powerful information. I can't tell you and be assured you will tell him you don't know. I have to make sure you truly don't know. That means I have to tell you I don't know - even if I do.

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People will do whatever they think they can get away with.

I guess that's why we had to invent and omnipotent and an omniscient being. So there was never a time that somebody could get away with something. There's always somebody watching and you will have to pay the piper

[thedickgrant]

Short of violence, business is the battleground

Blind consumerism does not help democracy

[thedickgrant]

We answer questions to ourselves based on our own personal experience. I'm looking at this U-Haul that is parked not in front of my house but next to the neighbor's house. I've seen a U-Haul parked for about 24 or 36 hours there irregularly as long as I remember. I've only been in this house two plus years. I think it started after the neighbor moved in 4 to 6 months after myself. Yeah the U-Haul shows up I notice it's sitting there. I never see who gets in and out. And it always seems to disappear without anything going in or out of it.

Now if this had had anything to do with me over the years It would be an illegal weed transportation across state lines. That's the first thing that jumps to my mind but anything else really fits. I've never smelt it coming from his basement and I probably would have. And I never see him loaded up so even if he's doing that it's getting loaded somewhere else which means it could be anything. Which given that I know he is a truck driver of some sort he might just be sitting on a vehicle until an appropriate time to return it at his convenience.

[thedickgrant]

Got pulled over. Had a little yelling match with a cop. He was in the wrong and ended up apologizing. He got excited for a sec when he came back after running the registration and it obviously wasn't my vehicle. Asked me really excitedly whose car it is.

He didn't zipper properly so I honked at him like a bitch! - like excessively. Then he got behind me and turned on his hidden lights. When he came up to the car I told him that I felt like he was driving unsafely and that zippering meant alternating cars and that he didn't do that and I had him on video. And then I asked him if he's got video of it. I did it angrily.

I over-reacted and apologized. We we're having a nice conversation by the end of it. Guys are fucking weird. Respect often is not given but must be demanded or earned.

[thedickgrant]

A black Republican is a lost and sad human.

A gay Republican is a lost and sad human.

A female Republican is a lost and sad human.

The Republican party does not want you. They will be very glad when you are gone from their country. That is their goal.

They talk about you when you're not in the room

[thedickgrant]

My struggles with self-promotion have not helped me along in life I don't think. Humility just doesn't seem to be quality that is lauded or held up in our society in my experience. It's still my tendency though. I mean when I tell somebody that I'm not very good at something or that it's not what I'm best at what I mean by that really is I'm not as good at that thing as the best person that I've ever seen do it. But I'm better at it than everybody else. I'm just not as good at it as I wish I was. That doesn't always come through.

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I jus heard an appalling statement!

"I'm not looking to take anyone's home. I want to make that clear - but y'know an investor deserves to make their money back. And, and there is real money at stake. '

I think if you make your living buying mortgages and foreclosing on people's homes you deserve - to be shot.

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When you open up a search engine are you looking for information or confirmation?

I think I'm beginning to figure out that when my 23-year-old friend Adam uses the internet he's not looking for facts he's looking for information points that support his existing argument. He was trying to support his argument that Texas was not a Republican state based on some past voting records he had found.

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I wuv u

I 2 b wuvin' u

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I hate brunch. I don't like to use that word hate. I don't like to use that word brunch either. But I'll pull it out for brunch. I hate brunch. I hate people. I hate the prices. I hate the food. I hate brunch