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Shotokan Karate Girl! (my style!)

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why have healthy attitudes surrounding sex when u can fetishize your own sexual abuse and fuck urself up even more ;)

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I want to relapse

I want to feel something

Can I just cut myself now

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When a client asks me what their diagnosis means for their future...

*Brief explanation* I don’t put a lot of focus during treatment into diagnoses because I think on any given day we all present in a million different ways. Now there are many exceptions to this, especially for disorders such as schizophrenia, major depressive disorder, etc. But as a clinician I think its so much more important to meet the client where they are focus on strengths. Exploration of a diagnosis can be helpful for some but you never want to get stuck there. Your diagnosis is just one small part of you it doesn’t and shouldn’t define you.

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When someone gets stuck on their diagnosis...

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(via GIFER)

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No, you didn’t do anything wrong... You’re just different than you were yesterday... It’s not bad, it just hurts to let go of who I thought you were.

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To clarify on my previous post, I'm not trying to make self harm seem like a fun and quirky thing that's harmless and normal.

What I AM trying to do is introduce the concept of it to people from me, a real life human being, instead of a twelve-page Super Serious Danger Warning to parents of depressed teens, complete with grayscale photos of tween girls huddled in corners.

There's a lot of shame and stigma around self-harm that extends to those recovering from it, and it took me, personally, a long time to get over that in order to say something and get that help you're talking about.

And, surprise! I'm a grown, fully rational adult with a house and a job and fulfilling personal relationships- I know full well all the facts and statistics and psychology behind it, and I can tell you with absolute sincerity that the whole, "just don't do it!" Argument is about as useful to someone self-harming as, "just walk away!" Is to someone being bullied.

I've heard what you're saying a hundred times, and I do appreciate that it comes from a good place, but the truth is that it's antiquated and out of touch and doesn't really address the foundation of the problem.

You want to help someone who's self harming? *Really* help them?

Don't make a big deal out of it. Don't demand to know what they were thinking or invade their privacy or treat them like they can't be trusted, like they're stupid, or like they're going to off themselves any minute.

Just... Offer to listen. Spend some time hanging out. Shoot them a text every now and then. Try not to stare.

And if they decide to try and quit, be supportive! Don't force them into it, but be encouraging. Celebrate milestones. Be empathetic of relapses, because they happen to everyone.

People live up or down to your expectations of them. If you see them as a fucked up nutcase, they'll feel like one, and things will get worse.

If you see them as they are- a regular person, the same one you know and love, struggling through something difficult- you'll both be much better equipped.

I'm an adult, I'm a trauma survivor, I love my job, I'm an excellent artist, I enjoy fantasy movies, my favourite cologne smells like pine, I collect handmade ceramics, I'm a morning person, my friends are family, and I'm a recovering self-harmer.

I resent my identity being eclipsed by any one of the things that shape me.

Yes, this is okay to reblog.

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Never apologise for being you 💕

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"You have no idea how much I want to hurt myself right now and I promise you don't want to know what's going through my mind."

— If you knew what I was thinking the cuts would be nothing

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I'm suffocating in this body

30.05.2020

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