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I think what a lot of people may not understand about the “found family” concept:

Is that it doesn’t necessarily mean X character is Y’s parent now. That X carries out that social role and Y is fulfilled; they have the thing that was missing!

And that, often in reality it’s more like “wow I have these people now who genuinely love me, and genuinely treat me kindly, and function as a support system that I never had prior to this, but these people will never be my parents—treating them as such would undermine all of the things they also are: friend, mentor, etc etc—and that parent shaped hole is always going to be there. Because oh god now I know. Now I have a taste of what love should be. Of what my parents could have been. The support is here now, but now I know just how alone I was before.”

Finding people who love you is healing. But it’s also mourning what you didn’t have and don’t have over and over and over again

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favorite Reed900 scenes: 2/?

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Dec 25 Weibo: Zhu Yilong for Chopard

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part of the reason i love how bell hooks talks about masculinity is that she shows real compassion towards men suffering from the effects of toxic masculinity. she was conscious of how we need to unlearn the ways we talk about men + masculinity just as much as we need to unlearn the same for women + femininity. so many times ill see someone talking about toxic masculinity like (hyperbolizing here but only slightly) “these FUCKING STUPID BABY BITCHES won’t MAN UP and go to a therapist!!!” and like. i get the anger. but you see feminists recreating patriarchal manhood by only promoting good behaviors through patriarchal frameworks. any use of the term “real men” is bad because it reifies the idea that manhood is a special title you must earn, and it is something possible to fail and fake. & as important as it is to promote sexual equality + the pleasure of non-cis-men, lots of people are essentially still working with the idea that men need sexual prowess to have worth but just shifting it slightly so there is more emphasis on women’s pleasure. but I want cis men to think about their partners’ pleasure because they care about their partners, not because they need to check a box in order to keep their man card. and don’t get me started on small dick jokes– and the absolutely pitiful excuse people will use that “well, I don’t believe it, but misogynistic men get upset when I say it, so it’s okay!”

basically bell hooks is so fucking right. in order to create loving men we need to love men, simply for being alive, whether or not they are performing. as much as we need to actively unlearn misogyny (and we do), it’s equally vital we unlearn patriarchal ways of seeing manhood. we can’t just assume that taking a feminist perspective automatically means there is no work to be done there.

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I love watching him laughing his heart out 🥺

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"depiction is not automatically glorification" can and should coexist with "some depiction is glorification and you need to be able to tell the difference"

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Honored to draw cover for #Guardian #镇魂 by Priest, vol. 1

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Liu Chang || Weibo Update 12.25.24 Jingle Bell🎄🔔🎁🍎🥖🔥 这个Christmas：（一起唱）// This Christmas: (Sing together)

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mmm soob

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"Gege, they're saying you're a Christmas angel. Is that true?" A little boy who should be the leader of the bunch of despicable little creatures dared to address him. He wasn't so cruel as to want to rip out the child's tongue just because he had spoken to him, though. And by all accounts, he didn't know what a Christmas angel was. "I'm afraid I must be a Christmas Ghost, little sir," he replied with a wave of his hand, shooing the children away. When they scattered and regrouped towards the plump old man in red, he sighed in relief. "Perhaps this is my signal to leave this place for good..." Many people blended together in Zhao Yunlan's sight, all bundled up in coats and bustling around, but one man stood out. He stood nearby, enjoying a warm cup of cider from one of the stalls, watching the silver haired man that had caught his eye not too long ago. “Why a ghost and not an angel?” he asked in a way of greeting as he stopped to stand beside the silver haired man. ... Gui Mian just wanted to know what the city was like before he tore it all down, but he had unfortunately chosen a bad time. A Christmas market definetely wasn't in his plans.

@tazzy-ace and I came to haunt your Christmas. With more Guardian fanfic in Novel verse. 🎄☃️

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i hate when people are like “oh you ship these two contrasting ships? but-“ sorry i forgot about the ship rationing. trade in your ration card for some fanart. sorry i dared think that this person is compatible with 2 separate people. almost like they’re…fictional?

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New stills for the Yucun Biji play.....they have a cursed object (x)

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Most Whipped - Loser's Bracket Round 2: Kant (The Heart Killers) vs Shen Wei (Guardian)

[Submitted Reasons Under Cut]

Kant: Has it been only 1 ep? sure is he being forced to find out stuff about Bison? Yeah but nobody told him to try to fuck the boy or become his BF, nor to try and keep his brother(also a hitman he should get info from) out of the picture And this idiot was on cloud 9 after 1 night acting like the main protagonist of a 2000s romcom sighing dreamily He acts like a fool in every scene he is with the cute assassin, this man is a hopeless case

Shen Wei: he pined after zhao yunlan for 10,000 years. can't get much more whipped than that.

Thousands of years of pining through a time loop and 2 wars, very happy cooking and cleaning for his hubby Zhao Yunlan and making sure he keeps a healthy lifestyle (despite being himself incredibly busy with 2 jobs), zero hesitation about putting himself in danger to protect Zhao Yunlan, stalking that includes moving to the next-door appartment like the crazy man he is, so much desperation at the idea of loosing him again, and finally actually does die trying to protect him. I feel like he qualifies.