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How to Handle Anon Hate

Anonymous hate, or anon hate, has been a user issue since the dawn of its feature. As of 2023, only Tumblr users can send anonymous asks. Receiving hateful or harmful anons is stressful and disheartening, but there are ways to protect yourself.

What not to do: Do NOT answer anon hate and do not acknowledge it publically. Answering or acknowledging anon hate will encourage the sender to continue to harass you. The sender wants a reaction out of the user, negative or otherwise. Acknowledging the anon gives them what they want.

Acknowledging or answering anon hate also exposes other users to negativity, which creates an unsafe dash environment and protects no one.

What to do: If you receive anon hate, block the anon or turn anon off through your blog's settings. You can block anons on desktop by going to the three dots in the upper right corner of the ask ( also known as the meatball menu ) and click Block @Anonymous.

You can block anons on mobile by going to the meatball menu on the anonymous ask and clicking Block @Anonymous.

What blocking an anon does: Blocking an anon completely blocks the sender's IP. This means the user who sent hate can't send an ask, anonymous or otherwise, to the user on any account. They can not make a new account to send an ask to your blog.

What blocking an anon does not do: The sender will not show up in your blog's blocklist. As of April 2024, there is no way to reveal who sent anon hate.

The sender can still interact with your blog through replies, reblogging, liking posts, and sending IMs. It is unlikely they will send hate through other means without being anonymous. If they harass you off anon, block the user.

If you see a fellow Tumblr user being harassed by anon hate, remind them to block future anons and to turn off anons for their inbox.

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Topic: Hi! So I'm debating on letting a partner know that I'd like to stop writing with them. Any suggestions on how to do it politely? Thanks!

Hi! If this is a writing partner you haven't spoken to much, or at all, it's okay to softblock. Otherwise, it's okay to inform them you're not clicking with them collaboratively, and unfortunately no longer interested in writing with them. Thank them for their time and wish them well.

Hopefully, they'll give a kind response in return and you can both go your separate ways. If not, do what you feel is appropriate to curate your space and keep yourself safe.

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Here is a short list of basic resources to aid in your Tumblr RPC experience and resources to aid with editing replies.

RPC Resources:

-XKit Rewritten- Allows for trimming reblogs for replies, quick reblogs, quickly adding tags, and mutual checks on the dash. Chrome Download . Firefox Download -New Xkit - An older version of XKit Rewritten, but includes features such as their blacklist that is more powerful than Tumblr's blacklist feature. Chrome Download . Firefox Download -UBlock - Useful for blocking ads, scripts, and disruptive UIs. Link. -Session Box - A multi-login tool for Chrome-based browsers that allows a new tab to access a different login. Works well for users with multiple main accounts who don't want to log out each time to switch Tumblr accounts. Firefox has this as a built-in feature. Chrome Download

Text Editors:

-Grammarly - A typing assistant that was founded in 2009, Grammarly is a free program that aids in the grammar of your typing and makes suggestions for clarity, spelling, and punctuation. Chrome Download . Firefox Download -Space Generator - Created by Byluna, this text editor allows for quick font editing for your reply. You can give custom colors to your text, double space, or triple space at the click of a button, and if you accidentally close the tab the site will not lose your progress. Link. -Cool Text Fonts - An older site that provides fancy fonts that you can copy and paste into your replies. Link.

Disclaimer: It is not necessary to edit your text in the Tumblr RPC.

There are plenty of other useful sites and programs, so if you'd like to add any of your own, feel free to do so!

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Protecting Yourself from Fetish Mining.

The rise in fetish mining anons has become horrifically rampant over the past year in RPC. Unfortunately, many folks have fallen victim to them due to the nature of fetish miners. The purpose of this PSA is to aid in spotting fetish mining anons within the Tumblr RPC.

Before I continue, please proceed with caution as this topic is adult themed but is a PSA for everyone. I will not go into detail about any fetishes. To learn more about general fetish mining, and what to look out for, check out this detailed PSA by BeckiiCruel, and this PSA about fetish mining within the art community by BluSilurus.

What is Fetish Mining?

Fetish mining, within the Tumblr RPC, is the soliciting of fetish content through Tumblr's inbox via anonymous asks. These asks are sent without the receiver knowing their true purpose and without their informed consent.

People are allowed to have fetishes, but fetish miners thrive off their victims being unassuming and unable to give informed consent. Fetish mining is a nonconsensual fetish and exploits their victims into giving them fetish content.

What to Look For.

Fetish miners within the Tumblr RPC use the anonymous inbox feature to conceal their identity, evade accountability for their actions, and come off as nonthreatening. They'll most likely come off as playful and exploit the fun in receiving anonymous asks within the RPC.

Fetish miners prefer targeting SFW blogs over NSFW ones. Why? Fetish miners want to claim their asks are not of fetishistic nature and to deny the receiver consent. They rely on plausible deniability in order to continue sending asks to their victims.

Please note that anything can be a fetish. Fetish mining asks will appear as innocent as possible to trick unassuming victims into giving them fetish content. They can also be super subtle or extremely obvious. Here are a few behaviors and examples of what to look for:

– Persistent or fixated on the same topic, action, request, or question over an over again. – Pressuring the receiver to answer the ask/s in a playful manner. – Pulling or stomping on a muse's tail, limb, hair, etc. – Putting your muse in a scenario where they're stuck in something. – Transforming your muse into an object, creature, or adding new features. – Cloning a muse repeatedly over several asks. – Feeding a muse over several asks. – Tickling a muse over several asks. – Fixating on muse's underwear, shoes, or other specific garments. – Wanting a scenario of a muse's scent or smell in detail. – Any kind of bathroom talk, including the discussion of diapers, the sender wetting themselves, discussion of any bodily fluid, and so forth. – Giving a muse a kind of potion, magic etc, that will force the muse into their desired effect ( changing their size, making them pregnant, expanding or shrinking certain body parts, laughing fits, the muse becomes lustful, or anything listed above, etc. ). – Super detailed scenarios featuring any of the listed topics that is without any plotting or context. – And much more as anything can be a fetish.

All instances above have been reported in the RPC throughout the years. Here is a Google document with current records given by victims. Please take a look to see real examples of fetish mining. You are free to submit your own instances if you have the victims consent. Instructions on how to do so are in the document.

How to Protect Yourself.

If an ask feels off to you, trust your gut. You do not need to answer every ask that comes into your inbox. If you're still uncertain check with trusted friends, or cross check the Google document listed above. Block any anon that makes you feel off, uneasy, or unsafe. Set your own boundaries, but be warned, fetish miners will not respect them if you leave them unblocked.

If you feel you must answer the ask, take a screenshot, block the anon, and then put the screenshot and your answer in a seperate post. Remember anons must be a member of the tumblr community. Unless they have another account, blocking them will keep you safe from further fetish mining attempts.

If you think someone is being fetish mined please reach out to them and inform them. Victims rarely realize they're nonconsensually playing into someone's fetish. Victims should not be shamed or told they should know better. Stay vigilant and stay safe. Look out for your fellow rper if you see anything that could be fetish mining.

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PSA on Polyamory

What is Polyamory?

Polyamory is when three or more individuals are in an established romantic relationship, also known as a polycule. A polycule can have different dynamics depending on the relationship.

Using a polycule of 3 as an example: All members can be romantically involved with one another, or one partner could be romantically involved with two members; but said members are only friends. Two partners can also be married, but all partners within the polycule are of equal status and respect.

Communication and consent is a major component of polyamorous relationships. Any member within a polycule can decide to date someone outside of the polycule IF they have full consent from their current partners. Any dating or sexual act outside of their partners consent / knowledge is cheating, and should be treated as such.

What Polyamory is Not:

Polyamory is NOT polygyny. Polygyny is when an individual marries multiple spouses. The individual then takes on leadership of the polygyny, which leads to massive power imbalance. Polyamory is when all members are of equal standing within the polycule, and should not be called a polygyny.

Polycules are not harems. Harems are typically a religious practice and can not be compared to polyamory.

Open relationships do not always mean polyamory. It depends on the boundaries set between partners. Polycules can also be open or closed, just like monogamous pairs. Partners, regardless of being polyamorous or monogamous, should always respect the boundaries set by their partner/s. Once boundaries and consent are breached, that is cheating.

Polyamorous people are not narcissists. Using this term against polyamorous people not only demonizes them, but also people with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). Using such language suggests polyamory and NPD is a moral failing, and should be avoided.

Polycules are not inherently toxic and unhealthy. Any relationship, monogamous or polyamorous, can have its toxicity and should be handled with proper communication.

Conclusion.

Polyamorous individuals are people with a lot of love to give, and do not deserve the uneducated hate surrounding them. Hopefully this post is helpful to anyone who is curious or interested in the topic!

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GUIDE FOR PEOPLE NEW TO THE TUMBLR RPC SCENE or just some helpful tips in general!

Make people care. This is a HUGE tip for any hobby that involves people interacting with you, and the main point of this whole post– MAKE YOURSELF KNOWN. Show interest, write posts about your own muses, and be an active member in the rpc when you can. Make yourself heard. Sure you followed someone, and they followed back. It doesn’t mean they’ll be 100% involved in what you do. This hobby and platform is a two-way street. Give out to people what you want back. This also means replying to their posts, liking their posts, sending asks, replying to opens, dming them things that remind you of their muses, asking to plot, etc. Yet remember everyone is different though. Know boundaries and if you might be crossing them– one good example is don’t like every single of their posts in a row. That clogs up their feed and makes them lose track of threads!

Write headcanons or drabbles. You have your about page, you have your verses, but that isn’t necessarily enough. Commonly when people go to follow you they want to see your writing, your thoughts, and if you haven’t had a lot of threads with people it’s hard for them to see those. Show that you care about the muses you’re writing for. Those little things you imagine your muse liking or doing during your day? Write them down. Post them. People want to see your passion and how you see your muse. Also if you have a wishlist ( scenarios you’d like to write ) post those too! It’ll help people with plotting with you.

Don’t only reblog memes. This is a common mistake I see beginners do. The tumblr rpc is unique because there’s asks and memes to make interactions interesting. But– don’t only reblog those. Especially when you don’t have a lot of writing partners yet. People sending in asks is pretty rare, even for people who have a larger following. This is because people don’t see their muses necessarily saying what’s in the post or they’re anxious about sending you an ask. Which comes around to… send people asks regardless! Don’t just reblog them, send them too! It’s widely appreciated and more often than not people will return the favor.

Start up a queue. You won’t be online all the time, and if you don’t post for a week or so people do tend to forget you’re there. Luckily tumblr has a queuing system for that. Queue up aesthetics, queue up musings, queue up your headcanons, and queue up your threads. People won’t always be online when you are, so compensate for that by using the queue system!

Aesthetics aren’t everything. You don’t need fancy graphics, icons, or text to find writing partners. And while it might be a little difficult to find partners, more often than not people are drawn to your writing than your aesthetics. Having aesthetics is okay– overdoing it is often more harmful than good though. Primarily because of different browsers and readability. If you can’t read a response in a hobby about writing then there’s an issue there.

You cultivate your own experience. You are in charge of your own experience here and everywhere on the internet. It’s okay to unfollow people, but do soft block if you do– soft blocking is when you block them, but immediately unblock them to force them to unfollow you. Blocking is okay as well, but tumblr’s blocking system isn’t always perfect. And if someone soft blocks or blocks you, you don’t follow them back or approach them. It can hurt, but it’s that person making their experience safe for themself. If it’s between friends I highly suggest communicating before blocking or soft blocking. If someone is seen as your friend, do communicate to them, respect them. Communication is key.

Be kind. You’ll find there is a lot of toxicity in the rpc. Which leads back to cultivating your own experience. This goes with anything in life, but there will be people who will use you, be passive aggressive, and overall be unpleasant. To make the rpc a little bit better be kind to those you meet and write with. Harmful behaviors will bite you in the ass eventually.

Remember, this is a hobby! We’re all here to have fun and share our ideas. This got pretty lengthy, but I hope there’s something useful in it for people. If you have anything to add don’t hesitate to add onto this post! I’m sure I missed some stuff.

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Howdy! I'm luri and I've decided to make a resource blog with the encouragement of my friends. I've been in the Tumblr rpc for over a decade and have written several PSAs with over 100+ notes each, so hopefully my advice will continue to help the community.

This blog will be a resource hub for my previous PSAs and new ones that will continue to be peer-reviewed. I also encourage you to send asks if you'd like me to tackle a particular topic.

- Subjective topics will not be rebloggable. - Informative topics will be rebloggable.

With that being said, my advice isn't gospel; love it or hate it, do what you will with it! But if anything hateful is sent regarding any topic, the user will be hard-blocked. This blog is a drama-free zone.

you can also find me at : @airxn . @empcrer . @korck . @lurinoodle

to do :

planned: 01. when a situation should be a callout requested psas: 01. curating your space 02. handling asks

* these are placeholder titles and can be changed at any time!