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[talking-bigender]

17/12/23 this masterlist has been completely, vetted, revamped and reformatted with free access to all reading and viewing material. It will be updated and edited periodically so please try and reblog the original post if you're able.

The Big Damn List Of Stuff They Said You Didn't Know

(Yes, it's a lot. Just choose your preferred medium and then pick one.)

Podcasts

Backgrounders and Quick Facts

Interactive Maps

Teach-Out Resources

Reading Material: Academic Books, Poetry and Literature, Human Rights Reports (free)

Films and Documentaries (free)

Non-Governmental Organizations

Social Media: Gaza journalists, news organisations, Palestinians and allies

How You Can Help

Podcasts

Cocktails & Capitalism: The Story of Palestine Part 1, Part 3, East Palestine

It Could Happen Here: The Cheapest Land is Bought with Blood, Part 2, The Balfour Declaration

Citations Needed: Media narratives and consent manufacturing around Israel-Palestine and the Gaza Siege

Backgrounders and Quick Facts

The Palestine Academy: Palestine 101

Institute for Middle East Understanding: Explainers and Quick Facts

Interactive Maps

Visualizing Palestine

Teach-Out Resources

1) Cambridge UCU and Pal Society

Palestine 101

Intro to Palestine Film + Art + Literature

Resources for Organising and Facilitating)

2) The Jadaliya YouTube Channel of the Arab Studies Institute

Gaza in Context Teach-in series

War on Palestine podcast

Updates and Discussions of news with co-editors Noura Erakat and Mouin Rabbani.

3) The Palestine Directory

History (virtual tours, digital archives, The Palestine Oral History Project, Documenting Palestine, Queering Palestine)

Cultural History (Palestine Open Maps, Overdue Books Zine, Palestine Poster Project)

Contemporary Voices in the Arts

Get Involved: NGOs and campaigns to help and support.

3) PalQuest Interactive Encyclopedia of the Palestine Question.

4) The Palestine Remix by Al Jazeera

Books and Articles

Free reading material

My Gdrive of Palestine/Decolonization Literature (nearly all the books recommended below + books from other recommended lists)

Five free eBooks by Verso

Three Free eBooks on Palestine by Haymarket

Pluto Books Free Palestine Reading List 30-50% off

LGBT Activist Scott Long's Google Drive of Palestine Freedom Struggle Resources

Recommended Reading List

Academic Books

Edward Said (1979) The Question of Palestine, Random House

Ilan Pappé (2002)(ed) The Israel/Palestine Question, Routledge

Ilan Pappé (2006) The Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine, OneWorld Publications

Ilan Pappé (2011) The Forgotten Palestinians: A History of the Palestinians in Israel, Yale University Press

Ilan Pappé (2015) The Idea of Israel: A History of Power and Knowledge, Verso Books

Ilan Pappé (2017) The Biggest Prison On Earth: A History Of The Occupied Territories, OneWorld Publications

Ilan Pappé (2022) A History of Modern Palestine, Cambridge University Press

Rosemary Sayigh (2007) The Palestinians: From Peasants to Revolutionaries, Bloomsbury

Andrew Ross (2019) Stone Men: the Palestinians who Built Israel, Verso Books

Rashid Khalidi (2020) The Hundred Years’ War on Palestine: A History of Settler Colonialism and Resistance 1917–2017

Ariella Azoulay (2011) From Palestine to Israel: A Photographic Record of Destruction and State Formation, 1947-1950, Pluto Press

Ariella Azoulay and Adi Ophir (2012) The One-State Condition: Occupation and Democracy in Israel/Palestine, Stanford University Press.

Jeff Halper (2010) An Israeli in Palestine: Resisting Dispossession, Redeeming Israel, Pluto Press

Jeff Halper (2015) War Against the People: Israel, the Palestinians and Global Pacification

Jeff Halper (2021) Decolonizing Israel, Liberating Palestine: Zionism, Settler Colonialism, and the Case for One Democratic State, Pluto Press

Anthony Loewenstein (2023) The Palestine Laboratory: How Israel exports the Technology of Occupation around the World

Noura Erakat (2019) Justice for Some: Law and the Question of Palestine, Stanford University Press

Neve Gordon (2008) Israel’s Occupation, University of California Press

Joseph Massad (2006) The Persistence of the Palestinian Question: Essays on Zionism and the Palestinians, Routledge

Memoirs

Edward Said (1986) After the Last Sky: Palestine Lives, Columbia University PEdward Saidress

Edward Said (2000) Out of Place; A Memoir, First Vintage Books

Mourid Barghouti (2005) I saw Ramallah, Bloomsbury

Hatim Kanaaneh (2008) A Doctor in Galilee: The Life and Struggle of a Palestinian in Israel, Pluto Press

Raja Shehadeh (2008) Palestinian Walks: Into a Vanishing Landscape, Profile Books

Ghada Karmi (2009) In Search of Fatima: A Palestinian Story, Verso Books

Vittorio Arrigoni (2010) Gaza Stay Human, Kube Publishing

Ramzy Baroud (2010) My Father Was a Freedom Fighter: Gaza's Untold Story, Pluto Press

Izzeldin Abuelaish (2011) I Shall Not Hate: A Gaza Doctor’s Journey on the Road to Peace and Human Dignity, Bloomsbury

Atef Abu Saif (2015) The Drone Eats with Me: A Gaza Diary, Beacon Press

Anthologies

Voices from Gaza - Insaniyyat (The Society of Palestinian Anthropologists)

Letters From Gaza • Protean Magazine

Salma Khadra Jayyusi (1992) Anthology of Modern Palestinian Literature, Columbia University Press

ASHTAR Theatre (2010) The Gaza Monologues

Refaat Alreer (ed) (2014) Gaza Writes Back, Just World Books

Refaat Alreer, Laila El-Haddad (eds) (2015) Gaza Unsilenced, Just World Books

Cate Malek and Mateo Hoke (eds)(2015) Palestine Speaks: Narrative of Life under Occupation, Verso Books

Jehad Abusalim, Jennifer Bing (eds) (2022) Light in Gaza: Writings Born of Fire, Haymarket Books

Short Story Collections

Ghassan Kanafani, Hilary Kilpatrick (trans) (1968) Men in the Sun and Other Palestinian Stories, Lynne Rienner Publishers

Ghassan Kanafani, Barbara Harlow, Karen E. Riley (trans) (2000) Palestine’s Children: Returning to Haifa and Other Stories, Lynne Rienner Publishers

Atef Abu Saif (2014) The Book of Gaza: A City in Short Fiction, Comma Press

Samira Azzam, Ranya Abdelrahman (trans) (2022) Out Of Time: The Collected Short Stories of Samira Azzam

Sonia Sulaiman (2023) Muneera and the Moon; Stories Inspired by Palestinian Folklore

Essay Collections

Edward W. Said (2000) Reflections on Exile and Other Essays, Harvard University Press

Salim Tamari (2008) Mountain against the Sea: Essays on Palestinian Society and Culture, University of California Press

Fatma Kassem (2011) Palestinian Women: Narratives, histories and gendered memory, Bloombsbury

Ramzy Baroud (2019) These Chains Will Be Broken: Palestinian Stories of Struggle and Defiance in Israeli Prisons, Clarity Press

Novels

Sahar Khalifeh (1976) Wild Thorns, Saqi Books

Liyana Badr (1993) A Balcony over the Fakihani, Interlink Books

Hala Alyan (2017) Salt Houses, Harper Books

Susan Abulhawa (2011) Mornings in Jenin, Bloomsbury

Susan Abulhawa (2020) Against the Loveless World, Bloomsbury

Graphic novels

Joe Sacco (2001) Palestine

Joe Sacco (2010) Footnotes in Gaza

Naji al-Ali (2009) A Child in Palestine, Verso Books

Mohammad Sabaaneh (2021) Power Born of Dreams: My Story is Palestine, Street Noise Book*

Poetry

Fady Joudah (2008) The Earth in the Attic, Sheridan Books,

Ghassan Zaqtan, Fady Joudah (trans) (2012) Like a Straw Bird It Follows Me and Other Poems, Yale University Press

Hala Alyan (2013) Atrium: Poems, Three Rooms Press*

Mohammed El-Kurd (2021) Rifqa, Haymarket Books

Mosab Abu Toha (2022) Things You May Find Hidden in My Ear: Poems from Gaza, City Lights Publishers

Tawfiq Zayyad (2023) We Are Here to Stay, Smokestack Books*

The Works of Mahmoud Darwish

Poems

Rafeef Ziadah (2011) We Teach Life, Sir

Nasser Rabah (2022) In the Endless War

Refaat Alareer (2011) If I Must Die

Hiba Abu Nada (2023) I Grant You Refuge, Not Just Passing

[All books except the ones starred are available in my gdrive. I'm adding more each day. But please try and buy whatever you're able or borrow from the library.]

Human Rights Reports & Documents

Information on current International Court of Justice case on ‘Legal Consequences arising from the Policies and Practices of Israel in the Occupied Palestinian Territory, including East Jerusalem’

UN Commission of Inquiry Report 2022

UN Special Rapporteur Report on Apartheid 2022

Amnesty International Report on Apartheid 2022

Human Rights Watch Report on Apartheid 2021

Report of the United Nations Fact-Finding Mission on the Gaza Conflict’ 2009 (‘The Goldstone Report’)

Advisory Opinion on the Legal Consequences of the Construction of a Wall in the Occupied Palestinian Territory, International Court of Justice, 9 July 2004

Films

Documentaries

Jenin, Jenin (2003) dir. Mohammed Bakri

Massacre (2005) dir. Monica Borgmann, Lokman Slim, Hermann Theissen

Slingshot HipHop (2008) dir. Jackie Reem Salloum

Waltz with Bashir (2008) dir. Ari Folman (also on Amazon Prime)

Tears of Gaza (2010) dir. Vibeke Løkkeberg (also on Amazon Prime)

5 Broken Cameras (2011) dir. Emad Burnat (also on Amazon Prime)

The Gatekeepers (2012) dir. Dror Moreh (also on Amazon Prime)

The Great Book Robbery (2012) | Al Jazeera English

Al Nakba (2013) | Al Jazeera (5-episode docu-series)

The Village Under the Forest (2013) dir. Mark J. Kaplan

Where Should The Birds Fly (2013) dir. Fida Qishta

Naila and the Uprising (2017) (also on Amazon Prime)

GAZA (2019) dir. Andrew McConnell and Garry Keane

Gaza Fights For Freedom (2019) dir. Abby Martin

Little Palestine: Diary Of A Siege (2021) dir. Abdallah Al Khatib 

Palestine 1920: The Other Side of the Palestinian Story (2021) | Al Jazeera World Documentary

Gaza Fights Back (2021) | MintPress News Original Documentary | dir. Dan Cohen

Innocence (2022) dir. Guy Davidi

Short Films

Fatenah (2009) dir. Ahmad Habash

Gaza-London (2009) dir. Dina Hamdan

Condom Lead (2013) dir. Tarzan Nasser, Arab Nasser

OBAIDA (2019) | Defence for Children Palestine

Theatrical Films

Divine Intervention (2002) | dir. Elia Suleiman (also on Netflix)

Paradise Now (2005) dir Hany Abu-Assad (also on Amazon Prime)

Lemon Tree (2008) (choose auto translate for English subs) (also on Amazon Prime)

It Must Be Heaven (2009) | dir. Elia Suleiman

The Promise (2010) mini-series dir. Peter Kosminsky (Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4)

Habibi (2011) dir. Susan Youssef (on Netflix)

Omar (2013)* (on Netflix)

3000 Nights (2015)* dir. Mai Masri

Foxtrot (2017) dir. Samuel Maoz (also on Amazon Prime)

The Time that Remains (2019) dir. Elia Suleiman

Gaza Mon Amour (2020) dir. Tarzan Nasser, Arab Nasser

The Viewing Booth (2020) dir. Ra'anan Alexandrowicz (on Amazon Prime and Apple TV)

Farha (2021)* | dir. Darin J. Sallam (on Netflix)

Palestine Film Institute Archive

[All links are for free viewing except ones marked * which direct to Netflix. I'm trying to find a way to upload Waltz with Bashir, Gaza Mon Amour and It Must Be Heaven to YouTube without them being taking down, check back to see if I've managed it. If you find Guy Davidi's Innocence anywhere please let me know, I can't find it for streaming or download even to rent or buy.

In 2018, BDS urged Netflix to dump Fauda, a series created by former members of IOF death squads that legitimizes and promotes racist violence and war crimes, to no avail. Please warn others to not give this series any views. BDS has not called for a boycott of Netflix. ]

The Boycott, Divestment, Sanctions (BDS) Movement

NGOs

Medical Aid for Palestinians

Euro-Mediterranean Human Rights Monitor

Palestine Defence for Children International

Palestinian Feminist Collective

Al-Shabaka: The Palestinian Policy Network

Addameer Prisoner Support and Human Rights Association

Institute for Palestine Studies

Al Haq

Artists for Palestine

The Palestine Museum

Jewish Currents

B’Tselem

DAWN

Palestnians on Tumblr

Social Media

@el-shab-hussein

@killyfromblame

@apollos-olives

@fairuzfan

@palipunk

@sar-soor

@nabulsi

@ibtisams

@wearenotjustnumbers2

@90-ghost

@tamarrud

@7amas1umblrspokesman

Allies and advocates (not Palestinian)

@bloglikeanegyptian – excellent political commentary

@vyorei – daily news roundups

@sulfurcosmos – unearths important points from academic literature

@leroibobo – discusses Palestinian architectural history, heritage and culture

@luthienne

@decolonize-the-left

(Please don't expect any of these blogs to be completely devoted to Palestine allyship; they do post regularly about it but they're still personal blogs and post whatever else they feel like. Do not harrass them.)

Gaza journalists

Motaz Azaiza IG: @motaz_azaiza | Twitter: @azaizamotaz9 | TikTok: _motaz.azaiza

Bisan Owda IG and TikTok: wizard_bisan1 | Twitter: @wizardbisan

Saleh Aljafarawi IG: @saleh_aljafarawi | Twitter: @S_Aljafarawi | TikTok: @saleh_aljafarawi97

Plestia Alaqad IG: @byplestia | TikTok: @plestiaaqad

Wael Al-Dahdouh IG: @wael_eldahdouh | Twitter: @WaelDahdouh

Hind Khoudary IG: @hindkhoudary | Twitter: @Hind_Gaza

Ismail Jood IG and TikTok: @ismail.jood

Yara Eid IG: @eid_yara | Twitter: @yaraeid_

Eye on Palestine IG: @eye.on.palestine | Twitter: @EyeonPalestine | TikTok: @eyes.on.palestine

News organisations

The Electronic Intifada Twitter: @intifada | IG: @electronicintifada

Quds News Network Twitter and Telegram: @QudsNen | IG: @qudsn (Arabic)

Times of Gaza IG: @timesofgaza | Twitter: @Timesofgaza | Telegram: @TIMESOFGAZA

The Palestine Chronicle Twitter: @PalestineChron | IG: @palestinechron | @palestinechronicle

Al-Jazeera Twitter: @AJEnglish | IG and TikTok: @aljazeeraenglish, @ajplus

Middle East Eye IG and TikTok: @middleeasteye | Twitter: @MiddleEastEye

Haaretz* Twitter: @Haaretz | IG: haaretzcom

Mondoweiss IG and TikTok: @mondoweiss | Twitter: @Mondoweiss

The Intercept Twitter and IG: @theintercept

MintPress Twitter: @MintPressNews | IG: mintpress

Novara Media Twitter and IG: @novaramedia

[*Please note that Haaretz is an Israeli Liberal Zionist newspaper and heavily propagandized against Palestine. It's included here only as a vocal critic of the Israeli government and IDF from within Israel.]

Palestnians on Other Social Media

Mouin Rabbani: Middle East analyst specializing in the Arab-Israeli conflict and Palestinian affairs. Twitter: @MouinRabbani

Noura Erakat: Legal scholar, human rights attorney, specialising in Israeli–Palestinian conflict. Twitter: @4noura | IG: @nouraerakat | (http://www.nouraerakat.com/)

Hebh Jamal: Journalist in Germany. IG and Twitter: @hebh_jamal

Ghada Sasa: PhD candidate in International Relations, green colonialism, and Islam in Canada. Twitter: @sasa_ghada | IG: @ghadasasa48

Taleed El Sabawi: Assistant professor of law and researcher in public health. Twitter: @el_sabawi | IG

Lexi Alexander: Filmmaker and activist. Twitter: @LexiAlex | IG: @lexialexander1

Mariam Barghouti: Writer, blogger, researcher, and journalist. Twitter: @MariamBarghouti | IG: @mariambarghouti

Rasha Abdulhadi: Queer poet, author and cultural organizer. Twitter: @rashaabdulhadi

Mohammed el-Kurd: Writer and activist from Jerusalem. IG: @mohammedelkurd | Twitter: @m7mdkurd

Ramy Abdu: Founder and Chairman of the Euro-Mediterranean Human Rights Monitor. Twitter: @RamyAbdu

Subhi: Founder of The Palestine Academy website. IG: @sbeih.jpg |TikTok @iamsbeih | Twitter: @iamsbeih

Allies

Francesca Albanese: UN Special Rapporteur on the Occupied Territories. Twitter: @FranceskAlbs

Sana Saeed: Journalist and media critic, host and senior producer at Al-Jazeera Plus. IG: @sanaface | Twitter: @SanaSaeed

Shailja Patel: Poet, playwright, activist, founding member of Kenyans For Peace, Truth and Justice. Twitter: @shailjapatel

Jairo I. Fúnez-Flores: Researcher in curriculum studies, decolonial theory, social movements. Twitter: @Jairo_I_Funez

Imani Barbarin: Writer, public speaker, and disability rights activist. IG: @crutches_and_spice | Twitter: @Imani_Barbarin | TikTok: @crutches_and_spice

Jewish Allies

Chanda Prescod-Weinstein: Associate professor of physics and gender studies. Twitter: @IBJIYONGI) | (https://chanda.science/)

Katie Halper: US comedian, writer, filmmaker, podcaster, and political commentator. IG and Twitter: @kthalps

Amanda Gelender: Writer. Twitter: @agelender | (https://agelender.medium.com/)

Yoav Litvin: Jerusalem-born Writer and Photographer. IG and Twitter: @nookyelur | (yoavlitvin.com)

Alana Lentin: Professor of Cultural and Social Analysis at Western Sydney University. Twitter: @alanalentin

@fairuzfan How to be an Ally 101

Gideon Levy: anti-Zionist Israeli journalist and activist. Twitter: @gideonle

@sulfurcosmos How You Can Help Palestine

Other Palestine masterlists

@palipunk Masterlist of Palestine Resources

Share widely!

(if any links are broken let me know. Or pull up the current post to check whether it's fixed.)

From River To The Sea Palestine Will Be Free 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸

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Edit 1: took the first video down because turns out the animator is a terf and it links to her blog. Really sorry for any distress.

Edit 2: All recommended readings + Haymarket recommendations + essential decolonization texts have been uploaded to my linked gdrive. I will adding more periodically. Please do buy or check them out from the library if possible, but this post was made for and by poor and gatekept Global South bitches like me.

Some have complained about the memes being disrespectful. You're actually legally obligated to make fun of Israeli propaganda and Zionists. I don't make the rules.

Edit 3: "The river to the sea" does not mean the expulsion of Jews from Palestine. Believing that is genocide apologia.

Edit 4: Gazans have specifically asked us to stop fundraising and instead put every effort into pushing for a ceasefire. (Okay PLEASE DONATE NOW but remember that this is NOT a ceasefire Update: Israel is now only letting a trickle through again. They're trying to kill them. CEASEFIRE NOW.) "Raising humanitarian aid" is a grift Western governments are pushing right now to deflect from the fact that they're sending billions to Israel to keep carpet bombing Gazans. As long as the blockades are still in place there will never be enough aid for two million people, and all it will accomplish is getting them fed and patched up enough to keep being slaughtered. Aid means little for Gaza without a ceasefire.

Edit 5: Google drive link for academic books folder has been fixed. Also have added a ton of resources to all the other folders so please check them out.

Edit 6: Added interactive maps, Jadaliya channel, and masterlists of donation links and protest support and of factsheets.

The twitter accounts I reposted as it was given to me and I just now realized it had too many Israeli voices and almost none of the Palestinians I'm following, so it's being edited. Check back for more. I also removed sources like Jewish Voices of Peace and Breaking the Silence that do good work but have come under fair criticism from Palestinians.

Edit 7: Complete reformatting

Edit 8: Complete revamping of the social media section. It now reflects my own following list.

Edit 9: removed some more problematic people from the allies list. Remember that the 2SS is a grift that's used to normalize violence and occupation, kids. Supporting the one-state solution is lowest possible bar for allyship. It's "Free Palestine" not "Free half of Palestine and hope Israel doesn't go right back to killing them".

Edit 10: added The Palestine Directory + Al Jazeera documentary + Addameer. This "100 links per post" thing sucks.

Edit 11: more documentaries and films

Edit 12: reformatted reading list

[talking-bigender]

Perisex allies: stop this shit

CW: intersexism

Came across this infographic during some google image searching and I'm still kind of a state of despair about it because it's not just offensively wrong about what intersex is, it was used to teach university students about queer issues:

Alt text: LGBTQIA+ are defined one by one. Intersex is defined erroneously as "These are people who were born with genital organs of both sexes (male and female). It is a genetic condition."

It's one thing for your rando perisex person to be getting this wrong on social media. It's another thing entirely when it's professionals getting this wrong in an educational setting. 😩 And that this infographic appears in a peer-reviewed publication. 😩

It's even worse to know the students that were taught with this infographic were medical students, who will be the ones traumatizing intersex people for decades to come 😩

It's so wrong in so many different ways:

Intersex is not limited to people with genital differences. Most intersex people have intersex variations that are not apparent at birth, with puberty being the most common time of life for variations to present. Many people find out in adulthood having no outward physical differences.

Of the intersex people with genital differences, they do not have two sets of genitals. Most genital differences are still recognizably female or male (e.g. spadias), and those who have ambiguous genitals have one set.

Intersex is not "male parts + female parts" or even "intermediate male/female parts", it is an umbrella term for anybody whose primary/secondary sex characteristics don't line up with what is expected for male and female bodies. Some intersex variations make women look more feminine, or make men look more masculine.

Defining intersex by genital differences doesn't just exclude most intersex people, it also sets the tone that we are defined by our genitals. To be publicly intersex is to have non-stop DMs about your genitals. This sort of framing sets up openly intersex people for invasive questions and harassment, and it keeps large numbers of intersex people from coming out.

Many intersex variations do not have a known genetic basis. Many intersex variations are caused by exposure to certain hormonal levels in the womb. Certain medications when taken during pregnancy can trigger intersex variations.

While bodily variation is necessary for being intersex, the social experience of stigma, discrimination, isolation, hyper-medicalization, and hyper-sexualization are all just as much a part of being intersex.

📣 Perisex allies: this is shit you can stop. When you see other perisex people parrot this sort of misinformation, correct them. Direct them to look up resources written by actually intersex people.

Here are some starter resources to give:

Intersex explained by Hans Lindahl

Media and style guide by IHRA

FAQ by intersex-support

A recent post I did compiling information for trans people who want to be better intersex allies

[talking-bigender]

Is it normal to be female and male bi-gender and still want ftm or mtf surgery?…

Sure it is! People of the same identity can want different things for their bodies, and there's nothing wrong with that.

[talking-bigender]

Hi

So ive been thinking about it for ages and i think im bigender. Pretty sure about it, feels nice, female and male bigender. The problem is i want to come out to my friends but for some reason im super nervous about it.

Like, i know they will understand, one is non binary and the other is trans, ive seen how my non binary friend reacted when my trans friend came out, so i know they will be supportive, so i kinda feel a little stupid for keeping it to myself even though i wanna tell them.

Do you have any advise or ways or anything for coming out?

It's valid to feel nervous or hesitant to come out to even the most trusted of people in your life, so I definetly don't fault you for that. If the task seems too daunting, then usually my advice is to break it down into smaller steps and try tackling each one at a slower pace- in this case, it can be coming out to one person at first in private, building up your confidence to come out to others as you go along - or, you can come out with stages of information, such as saying you want to test out new pronouns, then lightly suggesting you may not be cis, then confirming you're nonbinary, then specifics, etc. But sometimes it can also feel hetter to go the other way, and figuratively "rip off the bandaid" by diving in head first and coming out before you can think too hard about it. I learned that at times, all my overthinking is what's stopping me so harnessing my impulsivity can help me jump that hurdle. Whichever way you choose to address it, also think about what you want your friends to understand from this information- whether you want this to come with a name change or pronoun change, a change to the way they refer to you, or maybe you just wanted to confide them this info because they're your friends and you like their support. I like to think that good friends always want to give you the best experience possible and give you the comfort you deserve, so they'd want to know of any changes so they can support them and your identity. Hope that helps!

[talking-bigender]

I’ve been so sure for so long that I’m bigender (guy + maverique), but now I’m starting to doubt. it felt right for years starting when I realized that was a Thing I Could Be, but lately I’ve been wondering if my male gender is… well, fully male. as male as my dad or my cis guy friends. I thought that maybe my gender was actually maverique and butch, but considering it makes me dysphoric - my immediate reaction is no, I’m a guy, I’m a man. and yet, I can’t relate my gender to any of the men I’ve met irl. I guess it’s a combination of not knowing any other trans men irl and maybe some internalized transphobia. to me, my experience of manhood as a trans man is different from any cis man I know of - still a man, just a different kind of man. I think I might also feel a connection to androgyny, but not that I am an androgyne, so I’m considering calling myself calypsian as well. but basically, describing my gender to the best of my ability: I am maverique. I am a man. how in touch with each of my genders I feel varies, but I am always both. it’s like shifting my weight from one foot to the other (except that it’s involuntary). I also identify heavily with butchness and particularly the term pansybutch, but not as a gender.

phew! talking that out in your inbox really helped me figure some things out. hope you find this at least mildly interesting lol

I'm sos orry for the late response but, I'm really glad you were able to figure stuff out :] things can always shift or you can always realize u've felt something different than what you thought, etc- most important is to stay flexible with yourself and not stress about settling on one thing forever. Best of luck with your journey!!

[talking-bigender]

It makes me uncomfortable when people use they/them to refer to me in person (I prefer he/she, and I don’t mind it online because that’s common courtesy) but I don’t know how to tell them I dislike it without feeling like I’m putting down other trans people who use they/them. Is there any way I can tell them that without seeming like I hate people who ARE comfortable with using them?

I’m so so glad I found your blog btw :)

Honestly I feel you, I unfortunately get misgendered all the time by my friends who understand I'm nonbinary but always forget that they'them doesn't apply to all of us and that it's not a pronoun set I use. But that's when I remind them by saying, "My pronouns are he/him or she/her, I may be nonbinary but I don't personally go by they/them". Regardless of what you say, I promise you're not putting anyone else down- it would be another story if you went around claiming that they/them shouldn't be used period, but you aren't, and it's ok to simply specify your pronouns and leave it at that. Just going "they/them isn't a pronoun set I use, please use -insert other pronouns-" is good enough!

[talking-bigender]

It makes me uncomfortable when people use they/them to refer to me in person (I prefer he/she, and I don’t mind it online because that’s common courtesy) but I don’t know how to tell them I dislike it without feeling like I’m putting down other trans people who use they/them. Is there any way I can tell them that without seeming like I hate people who ARE comfortable with using them?

I’m so so glad I found your blog btw :)

Honestly I feel you, I unfortunately get misgendered all the time by my friends who understand I'm nonbinary but always forget that they'them doesn't apply to all of us and that it's not a pronoun set I use. But that's when I remind them by saying, "My pronouns are he/him or she/her, I may be nonbinary but I don't personally go by they/them". Regardless of what you say, I promise you're not putting anyone else down- it would be another story if you went around claiming that they/them shouldn't be used period, but you aren't, and it's ok to simply specify your pronouns and leave it at that. Just going "they/them isn't a pronoun set I use, please use -insert other pronouns-" is good enough!

[talking-bigender]

I refined the bigender symbol I sent you recently and I figured you or your followers would appreciate a nice high-quality version of it! 💙

[ID: Three images using the same symbol on a white background, only varying in color. The symbol mimics the transgender symbol, but instead of merging the gender signs, it has a question mark, an exclimation mark, and an interrobang surrounding a circle. The first image has the symbol be just black, while the other two are colored like the bigender flag, the last one being a gradient. End ID]

HELL YEAAAAAH THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WAS TRYING TO DO WITH THE OTHER ONE TY,,, THIS ROCKS!! Followers enjoy :]

[talking-bigender]

Please allow me to suggest something my very much not-trans partner came up with when I explained the interrobang representing the bigender community: A symbol much like the trans symbol that has a question mark, an exclamation point, and an interrobang all in one. I drew this on my phone with my finger so it's rough, but I really like the idea.

[ID: A quick digital sketch on a black background. The drawing features a question mark, an exclamation mark, and an interrobang surrounding a circle, mimicking the transgender symbol. End ID]

Oh fuck yeah that's brilliant,,,,, hope you don't mind me doodling my own take on it your idea rules :]

[ID: A digital sketch of the same concept as described above, this time on a transparent background. The main difference is that the exclamation mark, question mark, and interrobang are merged into the circle. End ID]

[talking-bigender]

Hello!

I'm making bracelets with pride flags, i am currently making the bigender flag.

I eventually delete the other most popular flag and I was wondering how you chose the colors of the flag you made?

They all remind me both of enby flag (yellow white and purple) but the pink purple and blue remind me of the androgyn flag, that I believe is also used as a kind of bigender masc/fem identity by some people.

Thanks!

Ah, I didn't actually make the flag, and I can't seem to find the original creator listed anywhere :[ Therefore I'm afraid I can't really answer your question, so sorry!

[talking-bigender]

Hi

I have a lot of questions about my identity. I'm female but sometimes I wish I feel like I'm not. I don't always feel confident about my body and then I wish it could be more masculine (more muscular and no breasts). I would want to walk more masculine and then I don't feel female at all. On the other side, sometimes I do feel female (doing my hair and interested in designing clothes). Then I don't care about my body and try to accept it as it is. I never feel 100% female or male though.

My feelings about it switch from time to time. Sometimes I feel more masculine and other times I feel more female. I really don't know what this is. I've read a lot about this, but I don't know what suits for me. Demigirl, Bigender, Genderfluid are terms I feel that could be me, but I'm so confused about everything.

I wanna talk about it to someone, but I feel like they wouldn't understand me and be really surprised about it. I feel like I should give reasons why I feel like that, but I don't know why. I also don't know how to bring it up. Do you have any tips that could help me?

Thank you in advance

I totally getcha, this is similar to what I went through when I started questioning and I'm sorry it's so confusing and frustrating, but hopefully you come out of it with a better understanding of yourself and your identity :] My biggest advice is to stop looking for what you are SUPPOSE to be, and dive into the mindset of going for what you WANT to be. A lot of this is gonna make more sense to you the less you treat it like a series of symptoms that need diagnosis, things like labels and presentation are more like decorating your house. You can do it however you want and you can mix and match as you see fit. So those 3 identities you listed, they really are just words for you to use for yourself, not for other people to choose for you. None of them are "more accurate" for your gender than the other, they're there as tools for you, to help you find community and feel happy and comfterablewith yourself. For example, do you like calling yourself a demigirl over bigender or genderfluid? Then call yourself a demigirl. Do you feel like genderfluid would feel better as a label? Call yourself that instead. Can't decide between the three? Use all three interchangeably until you figure which one you like best, or use them all forever, nothing wrong with that! Don't like any of them? Feel free to toss em out and find other identities, invent a new term, or don't call yourself anything at all! Treat these things like accessories for your enjoyment, the way you interpret your own gender is no one's buisness but your own. Let yourself go for what makes you happiest, and you'll feel happy with your identity.

[talking-bigender]

Hello!

I'm making bracelets with pride flags, i am currently making the bigender flag.

I eventually delete the other most popular flag and I was wondering how you chose the colors of the flag you made?

They all remind me both of enby flag (yellow white and purple) but the pink purple and blue remind me of the androgyn flag, that I believe is also used as a kind of bigender masc/fem identity by some people.

Thanks!

Ah, I didn't actually make the flag, and I can't seem to find the original creator listed anywhere :[ Therefore I'm afraid I can't really answer your question, so sorry!

[talking-bigender]

Hi, my name is David. I recently came across the definition of Bi-gender. When I was in elementary school I would often fantasize about being a female and lots of times I would wear my mother's cloths when I was alone. I even felt a STRONG connection to a character in an anime called ".Hack Sign" as the main character was a female that identified as a male in the game. I used to STRONGLY wish to change gender. But accepted my male gender. But I still have STRONG feminine traits. What do I do?

Well, gender is less about what traits you have/how you act, and more about discovering what makes you happy. So, I suppose the better question to ask yourself is this- in a perfect world where no one treats you any differently, respects your identity and you can act as you please regardless of gender, would calling yourself both a woman and a man make you happy? Does the bigender label feel good and right to you? I discovered I was both a man and a woman because out of all the genders I came across, this one made me the happiest- yet I don't "act" or "dress" feminine, I'm just a masculine woman and gender-conforming man at the same time. What I do doesn't define my gender and neither does it define yours- and the past isn't nearly as important as what you feel now. Point is, if you like the label bigender, if you enjoy considering yourself both a man and a woman, then you're free to use these identities. If you feel like you're more of a feminine man and prefer it that way, then you're free to use that label instead. If you can't pick a label yet, then don't, just take your time and exist as you already do. The most important thing is to prioritize your enjoyment of your own label- these identities are about finding peace and joy in oneself, not about getting diagnosed based on a series of symptoms.

[talking-bigender]

Hi, I'm a 19 year old girl, I'm sorry if there are typos but I'm using translator since I speak Spanish and I want to know if what I'm feeling could be an identity crisis and I'm bigenero or not.

All my life I listened to extremely homo-transphobic speeches from my family so I only recently accepted that I am a lesbian and only had forced heterosexuality.

But lately I have an identity crisis, I have remembered moments where I take my identity as if I were a boy, for example when I buy clothes I don't care much for "feminine" clothes and I look for the most neutral but when it's "masculine" clothes I want them to fit me the same as men. Most of the clothes I wear are neutral or masculine and I like to feel that way.

I used to call myself "half boy-girl" in high school as a "joke" but something told me that's what I was. I have always worn she/her and feel comfortable being female with my body but I also sometimes feel like my body is male and it bothers me to have a chest.

So I don't know if that counts as an identity crisis or if I just don't want to follow gender stereotypes.

No te preocupes, hablaré en español para que puedes entender mi respuesta, mi padre es de España- perdón por no responder por tanto tiempo :[. Te diré esto- lo más importante es saber cuál preferirías ser, y que te hace más feliz llamarte. Si te sientes más confortable llamando te bigendre/ identificando con dos géneros, entoses hazlo! Tu te preocupes por la posibilidad que estarás "incorrecto" en identificar así, pero no ay respuestas correctas en este caso, todo depende en cómo tu interpretas tus sentimientos. Si te hará feliz tener generos múltiples, entoses eso es la respuesta correcta, los que solo rompen los estereotipos de género están feliz siendo solo eso y nada más. Espero que esto te ayude.

[talking-bigender]

I was born female. Lately I feel like I'm not fully female. There are parts of my life where I want to male and not female. I don't really feel masculine then but definitely not female. I still consider myself as female, just not 100 procent. Is this called bigender or something else?

Well, it could be! But that's up to you. Labels are a little less about someone else assigning them to you and more about you finding something you feel happy with, in the end I can't decide that for you. But I can give you some other terms you can check out if you'd like, such as demigirl or bigenderflux or genderfluid. You can even use multiple if you can't just pick one! Hope this helps?

[talking-bigender]

Can you be bigender but prefer identifying as one gender? Like i identify as a woman, but i also feel like a guy sometimes, but mostly as a woman

Yeah that's fine! The way we interpret/feel our gender is gonna vary from individual to individual, so there isn't a right way- if you prefer one over the other, there's nothing wrong with that!

[talking-bigender]

I have a lot of really conservative friends so I can’t come out to them so I’m using this as a way of airing out the fact that I’m bigender? I’ve been sitting on this for ages and only recently came to terms with it and I’m a lot happier than I used to be about myself. Sorry if this is against any rules and stuff but it’s really nice to see content that sort of understands me

Definetly not against the rules don't worry!! I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope someday you'll find people/friends in your life that will accept you for who you are, it definitely made my life better :] best of luck, and thank you for sharing!