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[thefeastandthefast]

After watching 29 episodes but having accidentally spoiled myself about what comes next, it makes me emotional thinking about Ruyi's names.

She started as 壬辛, two characters used as part of an ancient numbering system, characters used for the counting of days and hours. 壬 has no meaning other than to signify the ordinal ninth. 辛 is the ordinal eighth, with the additional meaning of hard labor, suffering, bitterness. 壬辛 - no surname, not a name for a person, but for an instrument of death.

Then, when Ruyi earned the right to rename herself after becoming Left Emissary, she chose to add the radical 人 (meaning human) to 壬, to become 任 (an actual surname and also a character meaning to shoulder, to take responsibility for, a duty).

Left Emissary 任辛 - One who shoulders the responsibility of bitterness

Then, 任辛 burns and rises anew as 如意 Ruyi, two characters meaning to be gratified as one wishes. It was the blessing spoken by both the Empress and Ning Yuanzhou, the two people she most loves. And in her dream state in episode 26 as she meditates on the crossroads of her vengeance, she hears her Empress call her 如意 Ruyi for the first time.

任如意 - One who has the duty to be happy, as she wishes.

[chryso-chryso]

both performances from the melody journey finale, ep 11, have been uploaded to spotify!

and with them, that's a wrap! it's been really fun; i hope everyone enjoyed the show as much as i did!!!

ep 1, ep 2, ep 3, ep 4, ep 6, ep 7, ep 8!

[the-himawari-otome]

[Shuuen no Virche] Fanart - Yves & Ceres

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[mydaylight]

The thing that I appreciate the most about Story of Minglan is how pro-active its female characters are. It’s not just a show meant to highlight the exploitation and vulnerability of women in the context of the Song Dynasty society (although we certainly get to witness that); but one that lets their fierceness and determination and agency shine. It’s so remarkable that the majority of the plots in the show are centred around women and resolved by women. Even when it comes to the case of antagonists like Lin Qinshuang, Xiao Qin-shi, Old Madam Wang, the empress dowager etc, they are imposing figures with complex motivations that contribute to all the important developments. When little Minglan gets orphaned, it’s Hualan’s advice to Wang Ruofu that appeases the Wei family and Old Madam Sheng who steps up to take Minglan under her wing when her own father wouldn’t. When Molan has an affair, it’s up to Wang Ruofu and Old Madam Sheng to take the initiative to speak to the Liang family about a possible marriage. When Gu Tingye proposes marriage to Yu Yanhong, it’s her mother the one who needs to give the final approval and in the end cuts him off. When Qi Heng gets threatened, again it’s Princess Consort Yong pulling the strings. Consort Rong decides to murder the Yong Family (the family of the prince about to inherit the nation, mind you) to get revenge for the rape and death of her younger sister. Shulan’s divorce is negotiated by her own mother and grandmother, and not her father. When Auntie Kang is killed, it’s Old Madam Wang the one going to imperial palace to scheme against Tingye. Minglan gives up on ever expecting her father to give her justice so she steps up and takes extreme measures to get revenge for her mother’s death, and her contribution is what helps Yanran, Shulan, Kang Zhao’er, Zhang Guifen, and finally Old Madam when she gets poisoned. Even Concubine Wei, who always insisted on keeping a low profile, was ready to go to the Kaifeng Court to prove Xiao Die's innocence (so you see where Minglan gets it from). And Lady Bai was ready to divorce her husband and walk away with her children after finding out how she was used. Even that small moment of Mingyue asking to have her family’s slave contracts returned to them so she can escape being forced to become a concubine to a man she doesn’t like is so satisfying to see. It’s just so great to get a show like that that’s not just trying to make a point about the suffering of women, but actually lets its female characters be active participants in their own stories and take control of their lives instead of being subservient to male character, or reducing them to the role of the love interest or a passive sufferer.

[yisum]

2011 年，德克萨斯大学研究了

「获得的安全（Earned security）」的预测因素

1）经济和社会地位高

2）有替代性支持人物（alternative support figures）

一个能够提供高度支持关系的人

比如亲戚、朋友、伴侣、心理咨询师

3）年龄小

4）参与心理治疗至少两年

#security #安全感 #亲子关系 #依恋 #intimacy #relationships #lifequotes #consultation #諮商 #wellbeingcoach #親子 #parentingtips #parenting

#中文心理辅导

[yzoizgj]

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[cuthechicane]

竞技体育本来就是萝卜青菜各有所爱 但是铁打的车盲和一辈子没有成功进行过哪怕���次批判性思考的24K纯傻逼能不能滚远一点

[plwongm]

朱婷原地起跳进攻系列@peterwong3072

[jinrizhiyi]

自2017年被强迫失踪以来，著名人权律师高智晟已经整整七年杳无音信。其妻耿和和国际人权组织持续呼吁关注高智晟的安危，要求中共当局立即释放他并提供确切消息。高智晟因其坚定的信仰与勇敢的维权活动而成为中国乃至国际上备受瞩目的异见人士。

[yisum]

界限是所有健康關係的一部分。我們通過明確我們的界限，來教導人們如何對待我們。"Boundaries are a part of all healthy relationships. We teach people how to treat us by making our limits clear. "

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#intimacytip #1分钟心理学 #PsychologyCommunity #心理小知识 #IseeU #人际关系 #心理小知識 #wellbeing #yisum #壹心理 #世界和我爱着你

[cuthechicane]

...and at the end of the day my faves are still on flop bikes 😐

[justaboutsnapped]

昨天看剋泡rps时候截屏了一位老师的commentary，拜读完sionis老师的节日贺礼后惊觉其实它很适合描述围场著名男同性恨……我们bro.cedes是这样的，诚伴随着爱诞生，却比爱先一步离开。两个逼人爱得那么痛苦是有原因的：）

meanwhile俺们公主蛋糕就是一种简简单单的almost纯爱（虽然不喜欢友达以上恋人未满这句话，但是用在这里很合适orz），是由坦诚、会心一笑的瞬间、和陪伴构成的。热烈的情感的缺失换来了关系的长长久久，这何尝不是一种HE？

[suixinyingshi]

随着琪旗棋的评论，我们深入探讨《线上游戏的老婆不可能是女生？》这部极具生活情感的网游纯爱番。与其他动画不同，这部作品贴近生活，贯彻着真挚的情感，绝非一般的后宫番。

从一开始，观众可能会误以为这是典型的后宫番，因为有着可爱黏人的女主和较多的女性角色。然而，坚持观看下去，尤其是从第二集后半节开始，你将会发现这部作品的独特魅力。

首先，与《刀剑神域》的生死搏斗和《加速世界》的高科技设定不同，这部动画十分贴近生活，容易引起网游爱好者的共鸣。剧情中的亚子和西村之间的感情在大家帮助她分清游戏与现实的过程中得到升华，团结的力量在互相理解中逐渐增强。

其次，画风精美，卖肉情节精彩，福利满满。这使得观众在欣赏的同时也能感受到视觉的享受。不过，这并不是影片的全部，因为它还贴近现实，带有深刻的情感内核。

在琪旗棋的评论中，她提到一些令她产生伤害感的元素。可爱帅气的卡通人物，频繁的秀恩爱场景，以及妻子的多才多艺，都在一定程度上让她感到不适。这也反映了观众对于现实生活中某些情感元素的敏感性。

最后，在这个故事中，与土豪为友的重要性得到了证明，而妹妹却因为这个原因被无情忽视。这也在某种程度上反映了现实中人际关系的复杂性和价值观的多样性。

综合来看，《线上游戏的老婆不可能是女生？》通过真实而贴近生活的情感呈现，成功打破了传统后宫番的模式，让观众在笑声和泪水中感受到了更为真切的网游纯爱之旅。

本文来源:随心影视

[thinkinguniverseblackhole]

人是利己的。亲密关系中，一方付出也获得回报。付出小于回报，一方会持续付出。人是自私的。两人付出的同时也获得了回报，这是互利的。

幸福感=回报-付出-幸福标准。幸福标准高，即使回报大于付出，人还是感到不快乐。

两人都付出60，两人的回报都是40。这对亲密关系也是平衡的。关系是稳固的。两人付出相同，回报不同时，容易产生矛盾。

每个人的计算是不同的，没办法得出准确数字，比较好的办法是找个不斤斤计较的伴侣，找个心理成熟的，找个人品好的，有生活阅历的。人品最重要，性格最重要。找个ego小的。找个不会自傲的。

[yimingpurelandacademycenter-cn]

只是形式上受个八关斋戒是没有什么太大用的，必须有出离心来受八关斋戒才能得到戒体。

[zhulii]

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