#you have GOT to stop with the mindset of attacking Christians = defending the gays

[daisy-mooon]

some of you aren't cool gay rights activists. some of you just needed a reason to justify your unreasonable hatred of religion so you don't look like a bad person so you picked "defending gay rights". it's gotten to the point where if a religious person supports gay rights, you will rip them to shreds. supporting gay rights means supporting the rights of gay religious people too, but some of you can't accept that because it means that your excuse for mindless hatred is suddenly worthless.

[themescyra-blog]

like, none of these blogs are even defending riptidescap for being a homophobe. they're just upset that these people are being vicious and cruel. imagine being a bisexual christian with really conflicting views, thinking that yes, everyone including yourself, is going to be damned in hell???? and everyone who should be helping her understand being bisexual won't get you damned are just... throwing harassment??? this is NOT my safe place anymore. i thought we were all better than this abuse

okay, this ask I have a few thoughts on. please don’t think I’m yelling at you, anon. if it comes off that way I totally respect your decision to block me or stop reading or defend yourself. I really want to make this as calm as possible, though I might get carried away, so feel free to tell me if my tone is making things worse for you. I care more about your mental health than any petty argument I have against anybody. please protect yourself, even if it’s from me.

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1. I have more than just this fiasco to place evidence on 1/? people’s homophobia. if you want to know about it, please message me off anon; I’m not comfortable with “callout culture” and I really don’t want said person + her cronies coming after me for outing her as homophobic and I’m really not in the mood to go on desktop JUST to include screenshots.

2. these people also support m/a relationships. that is, minor/adult relationships. judging from how worried you are, I’m thinking you might be a minor. if you’re over 18, even so. imagine being in a relationship with someone 10 years older than you. yeah, these people (maybe not all; I’m referring to roughly 3 or 4) support that, too. considering I’m a minor��and mind you, I’ve just spoken with two other minors about this, they were uncomfortable too—I think I have the right to say I don’t trust them. gay or not gay, m/a relationships are NOT okay. I’ve had adults flirt with me on a daily basis for months. I just recently got out of the mindset that it was okay because I could trust them and because these people told me it was A-OK. it isn’t.

3. I saw the post where she mentioned having “bisexual tendencies”. not just having them, but “recovering” from them. like they’re some sort of mental illness. whether you’re religious or not, that’s kinda fucked up. and also, I AM a bisexual Christian who grew up with a family with mindsets exactly like her. I live in a country with a boxer who was PRAISED for saying gay people didn’t deserve to get married. believe me, I know how it feels to believe you’re going to hell for it. when I first joined tumblr, I had those beliefs but the difference was I didn’t go around preaching it. why? because I, too, was struggling with bisexual tendencies. I constantly checked out girls and got crushes on them but because I struggled with the same internalised homophobia she makes into her political statement, I didn’t say anything to anyone. I became afraid of praying, afraid of God, and after the night I came out to my parents and their arguments were her exact ones but amped to “do you know that during this time that you were having homosexual thoughts and acts, every prayer you said to God got lost in the mail? because he doesn’t care about you anymore! haha.”, it’s a miracle (literally in this case) I haven’t ditched religion entirely. I’m going off point. my point? Gigi doesn’t have these thoughts drilled into her by her parents. or by her country (she lives in America, for god’s sake! I live on the other side of the planet, where we don’t even GET pride parades or the president turns our face paint and confetti into a speech at our church!). sexuality isn’t a choice, like she paints it to be. but attitude is. and so was her befriending lgbt kids in the fandom. we all make a choice each day, several choices. to be good, or to be bad. people have tried confronting Gigi in a calm, sensitive manner. I have tried confronting her supporters in a calm, sensitive manner. it doesn’t WORK. they’re unreasonable. and I meant what I said—I totally get why you’d want to take a break from this fandom, why you’d feel unsafe, and why you’d be a little intimidated by the people handling it. but if this is what works? getting her to either delete or apologise? then good. because if we just let her get away with it, nothing changes. this ends the way SHE wants it to. not us. bear that in mind please.

4. it’s not my responsibility (or siobhan’s, or yours, or anyone else’s) to educate her and be calm with her. it was never in siobhan’s intent to get people to go after her and attack her for her “"beliefs”“. look at the fine print: protecting lgbt+ kids from a deceptive christian™ (it’s all in the tm) homophobe. you can try, but I guarantee, you’ll only get hurt like the rest of us. I, personally, just want to block her and stay the hell away from her. but if you’d like to keep your block list clean—and I mean this genuinely—that’s your decision.

5. I, personally, don’t want to interact with her and try to get her to change her mind because, from what I’ve heard from people who have TRIED to do that before, she either doesn’t reply, or whoops your ass with the bible which I can disprove, but I don’t have to because again!! not my responsibility! my only responsibility is to defend lgbt+ kids!!! I highly advise you don’t try to go in yourself, because that could only get you hurt, and again, I’m doing all I can to make sure that doesn’t happen. there are so so so many blogs uninvolved with this so if this is really causing you this much stress, please keep yourself safe. get more pro active w/ the people you still trust and spread as much positivity as you can. I promise that goes a long way in terms of feeling like there’s no safe place anymore. there is. I promise. you can even join my Kik group, or I’ll do something special for you, just know there’s more out there than anything that makes you feel unsafe.

I will not force you to agree with me. but I will not stop fighting this homophobe, nor these p*do apologists. my personal grudges aside, that’s what this fight is about. it’s to protect you, and others, and I’m sorry if it’s having the opposite effect. I do care so much though, and I’m glad you chose to come to me. you don’t have to count me as your protector and I’m not going to force my "heroism” on you if it’s affecting your mental health. the last thing I want to do is make anyone in this feel worse than they already do. but I wrote this post to kind of explain, and to get it off my chest. if it makes anything worse, or if it doesn’t make sense, I’ll delete it (or if you’d like, just the part that makes it worse).

all the love to you, anon. ❤️