#you can’t expect women to not be wary and ignore your shit behaviour or the shit behaviour of your friends or her insticts | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

bataddictedloony · 7 months ago

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Here’s a thought I had as I’m reading my first ever crime novel:

How many women and girls have died because of “not all men”?

Like, in the year of our boi 2024, I think we’ve cultivated a world where women know to keep an eye on men, in general, Just In Case. But how many women have been hurt or died because “not all men”? Even though the guy is acting odd and pushy - maybe he’s just socially awkward, doesn’t know how to interact with women well. Even though he’s asking her all the wrong things - maybe he just doesn’t talk with a lot of women, doesn’t have a lot of female friends. Even though his opinions and views are all red flags - maybe he just hangs out with the wrong group of friends and he needs more friends with different perspectives. Even though every single alarm bell in her instincts is going off - not all men are evil, there’s probably a reasonable explanation for why he’s acting like this, if i’m just nice to him he’ll show he’s actually really sweet, not all men, not all men, not all men.

#the book i’m reading is called butcher and the wren btw #it’s really good so far #just read a scene where the killer lures a woman out of a bar and she says she’s a lawyer #and even he’s like ‘how tf is she this dumb and she’s a LAWYER???’#but the writer makes it seem like she Knows smthn’s up #but confirmation bias is a bitch and you don’t think shit’s gonna happen to you until after it’s already happening #and it just made me wonder how many people deliberately ignored their insticts because of the guilt trip that is ‘not all fuckin men’#like i get it guys it sucks to be the villain in every story #but until there;s some drastic sociatal change #you can’t expect women to not be wary and ignore your shit behaviour or the shit behaviour of your friends or her insticts #just so we don’t hurt your feelings

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