#you can’t ‘fiction = reality’ fandom while finding a million and one excuses for why ‘fiction != reality’ for motherfuckin CANON.

[benbamboozled]

“Shipping Batcest is harmful for real-life adopted families”

First of all, no, no it’s not. “Fictional people fans think should kiss” could not be more abstracted from real life. Get some fuckin perspective, mate.

Second of all, let’s be real here. You just don’t like it. It’s okay to just not like things, or to even be squicked by them. You don’t have to make up reasons why it’s actually bAaAaAaD. You can just go “it squicks me. Next!”

Thirdly, if your issue really is “I believe the very concept to be disrespectful to adopted families” there’s an easy fix for this.

The obvious solution?

Make them all blood related.

Boom. No more issues with “adopted vs. blood related family” anymore!

You’re welcome.

[argixian]

11 Questions

I was tagged by @eubiass​ (it just took me 20 minutes to find where)

the rules are:

✰ post the rules

✰ answer the questions given to you by the tagger

✰ write eleven questions of your own

✰ tag eleven people

11 Questions:

1. What’s your favourite country and why?

 I can either copy and paste my list of awesome countries I want to go to (and it's LONG), or simply answer with my own country - which is France - 'cause I really like my country. It's not perfect - far from it - but I still think it's the best one in the world.

2. What were your biggest fandoms (that you were or are still in)?

 Anything related to Arthurian Legend, League of Legend and I guess Yu-Gi-Oh will always have that special childhood part in my heart.

3. What’s your favourite fic (you’re welcome to link it)?

 Errrrrm... I'm gonna say... Discovering the legend. It was Rosedragonwitch's take on HP characters reading the HP books, and the characterization was so good I often forgot its wasn't the actual characters but just a fanfiction. Also, it included some actual analysis of the book, like characters picking up that a lot of metaphors in Chambers of Secret included eyes or spiders or snakes. It made me re-reads the books to look for those hidden clues.

4. What’s your favourite work of fiction?

Oh shit... erm... Cyrano de Bergerac, probably ? Honestly, could be The Count of Monte Christo, the Bedlam Stacks, The Lies or Locke Lamora or Frankenstein, depending on how I feel or what I've reread recently. And that’s putting aside all the arthurian boosk I adore.

5. What would you do with a million dollars?

 Probably buy myself, my friends and my family a few things, donate a bit, and then use the rest to fund archeological missions and dig sites and museums.

6. What’s something that you miss from your childhood?

 It has just occured to me that while I acknowledge things were different when I was a child, I don't actually miss it. There's not really something I judge "better" then what I have now. Maybe I miss a bit the time we didn't know my brother was sick yet ?

7. Do you like to create things? If so, what sort?

 Yes I do ! Writting, painting, drawing, sewing, building, mosaics, just... doing stuff with my hand and creating universes. Also, experimental archeology (it's a method for finding out if a theory is correct, by trying to apply it in reality. Like checking if the way of doing X was by doing Y by actually trying to do X by doing Y.)

8. What languages to you speak?

 French, English, have some decent bases in German and Latin, did 3 years of Japanese but I'm a bit rusty, a bit of Nahuatl, and if you let me have my dictionnary, I can rudimently decipher phenician and arabic.

9. Do you believe in aliens?

Intelligent aliens ? not really no. Alien as in "lifeform from another planet" ? sure, why not ?

10. What would you study if you had infinite time/money for it?

 I'd study what I'm studying right now with limited time and no money : Archeology.

11. What three languages do you want to learn?

 I can only pick three ??? I'd like to finish learning Nahuatl ; then I guess Armenian, because I have some armenian ancestry ; and finally ... bengali ? russian ? sinhala ? yoruba ? amharic ? xhosa ? icelandic ? zulu ? maori ? sioux ? inuktikut ? finish arabic ? too many to choose from, I can't !

Did I do it correctly ?

(anyway I don’t even have 11 people to tag ; I only have the person who tagged me, two friends who go on tumblr twice a month maybe, and my girlfriend who’s a tumblr-stalker/reader rather than a tumblr-poster. So can I be excused ?)

(Thanks for tagging me btw, I do like an oportunity to talk about archeology !)

[dustiesmasseffect]

You used to be realy active and nice and freindly, and now it seems like you only reblog art and talk to your blogger freinds who you write MEL with. You ignor asks and you ignor fandom memes. What happened to suporting smaller bloggers? What hapened to you? Its like you got populer and just forgot about your old friends.

Hi Anon-

TBH, this message took me by surprise.

Let me try and unpack your Ask a bit because I feel likeperhaps I hurt feelings or did something wrong unintentionally. I also could gointo all the things happening in my life on the other side of this screen, butyou don’t need a bio (and I don’t think I should have to write one either).

First of all, I will say that I did actually make a postback in October about stepping back from the blog. This was a purposefuldecision of mine because I was spending a lot of my days in front of mycomputer during work, after work, andon the weekends scheduling and tagging posts. I was putting up 4 posts an hourfor 24 hours at the time, meaning I was tagging and scheduling nearly 100posts/day. I did this for several MONTHS. My social life took a dive, mysleeping schedule took a dive, and I wasn’t doing anything but running theblog. I call(ed) DME my “second job” when I talked about it with myfriends. That’s how much time I was spending on it.

Until about 2-3 weeks ago, I had cut the schedule back to 2posts/hour with a small queue running for a few hours during the middle of thenight. That’s still a lot of work for me, but it allowed me some personalpursuits off of the computer which is what I need to recharge.

With the new Andromeda trailers dropping more frequently andfandom content going into overdrive, I’ve had to up my posting schedule againto even try and keep up. Even when I’m “on top” of things I find I’mstill behind and I’m not catching up.

This breaks my heart because I feel like I’m letting peopledown. I am only one person though, so it’s important that it’s understood thatI’m doing the best that I can.

As for only reblogging art, I am sad to say that this istrue and I feel HUGELY guilty about it. The main reason why this happens isthat I want to read every piece of fiction I post and reading a story takes alot longer than looking at a work of fan art. I honestly have about 200 storiesfrom the fandom in my drafts that I want to read before I post. It’s horribleand rude and terrible of me. I can’t read it all like I want, I haven’t readANYTHING for fun in months, actually, because I’m too tired to when I finallyget to bed. It’s an excuse, yes, but it’s the truth.

I try to talk to everyone that messages me. Sometimes I’mable to reply right away and other times it can take me a week or two (ormore!) to answer. I’ve never been the best at conversations, even though I ambetter at written ones than verbal ones. (I am also terrible with replies because they take me forever to do.)

As for only talking to @omegastation and other MEL folks,that’s blatantly untrue and I’m not really sure where that assumption camefrom. I am sorry if it appears that way, but it’s definitely not the case. Yes,we talk, but those discussions of late are incredibly short and MEL business related andless of fun, “Hey what’s up and how are you doing?” convos.

In regards to Asks and memes, I actually try to answer asmany asks as I can and I often answer privately because that’s what’s warrantedby the message I’m sent. As for other Asks, I put a lot of time and thoughtinto them and they can take me quite a while to answer. However, because ofyour message, I’ve tried to go through as many of them as I can because it wasa task I had been neglecting. There are a couple of them that I will take sometime to answer still, but for the most part, I hope I’ve caught up.

Memes are also something that take me awhile to do. HonestlyI love(d) doing them for quite a while, but I became overburdened with themquickly. I also stopped getting emails from Tumblr over a year ago, so I onlysee posts I’m tagged in if I happen to see the tag in my notifications.Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. Getting tagged in something is an honor andI am really happy that people think of me when they do them. 

It’s incrediblydifficult for me to do memes though because I want to do them right and notfast. I also get stressed and anxious about tagging other bloggers and doingchain messages because I always feel like I’m leaving people out and I don’twant others to have hurt feelings by not getting a message/tag. It’s a funpractice, but it can also cause hurt unintentionally. I kinda unofficiallystopped doing them for this reason. I want to tag EVERYONE, but I can’t, so Ijust don’t do them.

I support everyone and try to do so fairly. I’ve spent mostof my time in the tag now for the better part of a month, reblogging as much asI can. I know I’m missing posts but that’s basically because there is SO MUCHNEW CONTENT I cannot keep up. I try to reblog and showcase as many differentpeople and blogs as I can, but with the sheer amount of stuff going aroundright now, I am bound to miss some. I have considered opening my submissions tohelp with this, but in all honesty I prefer to reblog.

I haven’t forgotten about anyone. In reality this franchisehas a huge fan base and our “little” community that existed sixmonths ago has grown again as people have started coming back to Mass Effect asAndromeda approaches. Mass Effect 3 sold over 3.5 million copies on its own in itsFIRST MONTH OF RELEASE, which means that there are a TON of fans out there.Some of the fans weren’t as vocal until the Andromeda hype machines startedfull blast, but they’re back and excited now, and I’m happy that everyone ishere.

The thing is that now the community feels bigger and lesscohesive than it did last year. It’s not really, but it FEELS that way andthere’s so much content being produced daily that folks like me, who want toget as much Mass Effect in one spot, are having a hard time collating andorganizing it all. I physically can’t keep up, even if I spend all my wakinghours doing it.

Yes, I realize that perhaps my break seemed like I wasturning my back on the community and that’s definitely not the case. I had to step back for me and my mentalhealth. I miss the community and the friends I have here for sure. I misswriting! I miss talking to people about their Sheps. I miss lots of aspects ofTumblr that I was more active in 6 months ago. But I could not and cannot keepup with it all without it being detrimental to my life outside of the computerscreen.

I’m trying. I really am. I am sorry if I somehow missed apost of yours and didn’t reblog it. I’m sorry if there are mutuals who feelthat I’ve not boosted them enough. I’m sorry if I’ve left IM messagesunanswered. To be honest, I hardly feel “popular” and I kind of feelthe most hurt about that remark more than anything.

My goal has always been to make this blog a nice place forpeople to appreciate a game franchise they love and I hope I’m still doingthat, even if I’ve been unable to be directly in the thick of things for awhile now.

This is already much longer than I intended (or than itshould be) but clearly this is a topic that should be addressed.

I can only apologize for my extended “satellite” absence and ask for theunderstanding as to why I needed to and continue to do it.

Sincerely,Marina, AKA Dustie