#yeah thats right I transed his gender

[astroturf-enthusiast]

The Babygirl-ification of Goblin Slayer begins with me...

[hauntingblue]

Jaya time

I love these moments of nearly cosmic horror when they encounter inexplicable things (at first) they are so intriguing

Is strawhat here?! *Megan thee stallion saying AAH 😜*

This cover just goes hard... Get it chopper

[jinmalos]

id love to hear your thoughts on the teaser for wave 4

OK OK OK OK. I MEANT TO GET TO THIS SOONER BUT THEN I GOT CARRIED AWAY WITH SOME ZINES AND SOME OTHER PROJECTS. BUT, I just finished speedrunning the game for my sibling to catch them up, Future Redeemed comes out tomorrow, I am Not A Normal Person About This Game.

Spoilers below, not particularly thought out bc i've given myself a headache from finishing the game and sobbing my eyes out again as of 3 hours ago

I. Genuinely have a lot of thoughts and they've changed a bit since it was announced and the subsequent trailers we've had, as well as refreshing myself on XBC1 and XBC2 lore since then. I will start with my joke theory, For the longest time I had a joke that boiled down to "Alvis is Riku and he's really enjoying larping as a nopon rn." Why the fuck would that nopon know so much. NOW, I'm more in the "give me the name of your god you nopon piece of shit." who is this fucker loyal to. IS IT MELIA? IM P SURE ITS MELIA. BUT LIKE. STILL WHO TF IS HE. WHY DOES HE KNOW SO MUCH. WHAT HAS HE BEEN UP TO.

Also! I'm not actually sure how I'm feeling on this game being a prequel! I'm not fully convinced it is yet even though thats EXACTLY what it looks like. Part of me really wants an epilogue to the base game's story or at MOST something that is running concurrently. It's not that I dislike prequels, I LOVED torna i've genuinely played torna all the way through upwards of 6 times by now. It's just really enjoyable. I just kinda wanna know what happens...AFTER the plot. But I'm not gonna be DISAPPOINTED if it genuinely turns out to be a prequel.

Madly in love with A's design, I think someone may have transed their gender =w=

Jokes/wishful thinkin aside, I wonder if Ontos will be playing a role in this. Alvis claims to be from a long line of seers, I wondered if maybe the Processor that is Ontos has just been spitting out random entities and A + the mystery White Alvis are just consequences. I wanna know how Z ties into that. I also wanna know where everyone..IS. Like, where is Fiora or Reyn, or Pyra and Mythra, or even fucking Morag or Tora. No mention of them, so i'm curious to know...why. Shulk is clearly Shulk here, and Rex is clearly Rex, If they aren't part of the cycle there HAS to be an explanation as to how they're in Aionios and what happened to everyone else, right?

I'm excited to see what's up on that front though. I refuse to believe that Alvis has become evil, not because I think it's implausible, but just because i dont want that evil Alvis to be Alvis because his concept art is WHITE. My opinions on Alvis being DIRECTLY Ontos have shifted to being a bit more..flexible on the concept because of A and the revealed mystery character, but in my heart he's still directly Ontos and I hope the Shalvis Divorce Arc ends happily.

Wishful thinking, of course, is that i'd like to see the Trinity Processors reunited in some way, shape, or form. I love joking about Aegis Sibling Family Reunions/Learning Where tf Ontos is, but I'll admit the ending of xbc2 is a bit ambiguous on what exactly happens with Logos and Pneuma and how that relates to Ontos OR the continued existence of Pyra and Mythra. I'll actually be really sad if there's no way they can be reunited/bummed if something's happened to Pyra and Mythra as of a result of the ending of xbc2. I just kinda want Malos to get a minor redemption arc or st least know if the Logos and Pneuma cores of the Trinity Processor was relevant at all.

BUT YEAH. IM SO EXCITED. VERY, VERY EXCITED. I'm sad this is the end of the Klaus arc of Xenoblade/the Xeno series, but I'm excited to see where we go next! If this wave 4 dlc is even remotely as good as base xbc3, it'll be an excellent ending to such a good series!

[cherryblossomshadow]

#it often feels like parts of the gnc queer community will be like “you're not doing GNC right” #and I'm like “Other people put me here” (tags courtesy of @myfootyrthroat)

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If gender is a performance, it is possible and not like, immoral to just be unskilled or bad at performing your gender (quote from above)

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Some of them will also be 100% straight too. The same applies, and yes, this is a good thing. Gender roles strangle us all, and hanging so much on what is just stereotypes is not helpful and is directly harmful to all of us. (comment courtesy of @stealth-liberal)

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Queer the cis/trans binary (comment courtesy of @zexreborn)

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a lot of ppl don't seem to get that trans/queer acceptance means not being special. it means not being able to clock someone cuz like, yeah they've got blue hair and pronouns, but they might just be some chill cis dude. it means the erasure of identifiers as distinctly identifying. and thats a good thing, get with it (comment courtesy of @tornad001)

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I can never really articulate why I hate it when people suggest "well maybe you're nonbinary" but this gets at some of it

something something, a narrowing of the accepted ways of being a man/woman, and then you get forced into some stupid third non-category instead (comment courtesy of @brighterflowers)

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Thank you for saying this.

The only person who can say if you are trans is you. This means the only person who can tell another person if they’re trans is them! Even if you feel you lack an obstacle to seeing things that they have, there is no situation in which you are the right one to make this call.

Additionally: supporting questioning properly means you celebrate someone completely regardless of their identity. If they land on trans, they’re unique and wonderful in their transness - and if they land on cis, they’re STILL unique and wonderful in their cisness! Their gender is still something to celebrate and love, and it’s still unique to them! We cannot perform the work of liberation without the goal being to love people for exactly who they are, not who anyone else hopes they will be - including us. (comment courtesy of @neophyte-no1)

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if a cis dude wants boobs and to still be a cis dude that is 100% his right.

If a cis girl wants a dick and to still be a cis girl that’s 100% her right.

If a cis dude doesn’t want a dick and to still be a cis dude that’s 100% his right.

If a cis girl wants no boobs at all and to still be a cis girl that’s 100% her right.

And so on, and so forth, across any and all things. Yes, even that one.

Total gender anarchy for all. (comment courtesy of @swiftrunnerfelidae)

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literally feel like trans ppl loop all the way around to enforcing hegemonic gender roles sometimes #saying that a masculine woman is secretly a trans guy isnt progressive its literally age old misogyny #let people tell you when they are ready if theyre trans but making blanket statements about gnc people being eggs is icky like #wow how progressive you think a cis man who likes the color pink or has long hair or is quiet isnt actually a man #this literally drives me insane (tags courtesy of @ked-r)

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actually stop calling people eggs #you can do it after they've come out #but until then you dont know if they're actually trans #and you're potentially just doing more harm by pushing them into an identity they dont identity with (tags courtesy of @tumblersleftboob)

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Fully agree, I've met multiple cis lesbians who want mastectomy/top surgery for personal reasons. But go further, what if a confidently cisgender man preferred the idea of himself with a vulva/vagina for whatever personal reason, just didn't feel connected to his penis…. I genuinely can't think of a reason he shouldn't be allowed to make the informed choice to have a vaginoplasty, or the inverse with a cisgender woman and phalloplasty.

We were all born with a body, it is yours, whether it's tattoos or body mods, or genital harmonisation surgeries, you should be able to do what you like with it. (comment courtesy of @garden-of-varda)

Frankly an ideal world is one where the dividing boundaries between trans and cis ceased to exist. Everyone is free to mod their bodies and their personal gender expression however they like, and no one questions it if someone chooses to be something other than what they were born as. You're you, however you choose to express that. (comment courtesy of @yay855)

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This is exactly why Finnster ISN'T transphobic, he's a cis straight man who fucks gender conformity hard and he is our FRIEND. He has never once "cosplayed being trans" and he says straight on hes cis het. (comment courtesy of @steviemamaoftheupsidedown-blog)

If your goal is to normalize gender-nonconformity you’re gonna have to accept that some people will fuck with gender as hard as they can while still being unequivocally, 100% cis and that is okay. There’s no egg to crack or callout to write. This is a good thing actually.

[yomiurinikei]

the pride hcs. hand them over.

happy disability pride month everyoneeeee <3

this was sent in june tho, so!!!!!!!

kiyoka: trans het. im right

kizuna: lesbiannn

ayame: lebsian <3

kanata: ??? i do not have thoughts here. kanata can be bi as a treat <3333 can def see her as trans but its not as real to me as trans kiyoka!

kakeru: bi 100%. def lean towards guys. def see him as trans

kinji: gayyyy

haruhiko: my controversial opinion is that hes gay but bi haruhikos are 100% accepted. people who hc him as bi are my beloveds

satsuki: same as haruhiko i do think shes a lesbian but viewing her as bi is literally such an iconic take full support there. also both she and haru r trans

mikako: i dont have much thoughts but shes a woman liker for sure. also she and yamato traded genders (trans)

yamato: continuing the trend we saw with haru and satsuki, i have the same thought on him as i do mikako. he likes boys

akane: okay. potentially controversial take x3 but i like bi akane its just that 99% of the time when i see that take people procced to erase her very very wlw thoughts about ayame which is super shitty. so. yeah. canonically has a lot of trauma with men which id imagine fucked her up in general when it comes to attraction? i think she rlly only acts on her feelings towards girls bc thats whats healthiest and best for her and makes her feel the most comfy and that is iconic of her

utsuro: im not legally allowed to talk about him

rei: i dont think about rei.....

teruya: hes so canon gay but at the cost of being victim to linuj's relentless homophobia

tsurugi: and for the final time: see above. so heavily queer coded and is written with so much homophobia due to it. should start a club with ayame and teruya

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yuri: having traumatic flashbacks rn but he does not like women im sorry u cant sell that shit being genuine, healthy love to me. gay ass

hajime: utsuro blessed him by transing his gender

kokoro: woman liker!!!

emma: hmmm. bi with vv strong female lean mayhaps... can see her being trans for sure!

kanade: lesbian. linuj is so strange.

hibiki: sorry im just thinking about how within canon shes got all that trauma keeping her brain from rlly being 100% i dont. wanna say anything here tbh

setsuka: most bi to ever be bi. also i like the thought of trans setsuka :]

nikei: hm.

shinji: also transhet!!!!

iroha: the only cis child of utsuro.

mikado: i hate him so much. mikado is not welcome at pride

yuuki: boy liker! see him as gender weird but hes amab/gender doesnt matter much to him so he just chills being perceived as a guy

syobai: 100% hes gay.

[ordinary-funky-feline-type]

i think rukako is a (or could have been a) fascinating exploration of a character. yeah, no, it wasnt, but it definitely could have. rukako deserved better. but she got better in my brain it would have been so cool to see an exploration of the concept of a sheltered japanese trans girl livin in the 2010s who doesnt even know about the concept of being trans. its been a while since ive watched the show but the depiction of rukako is by far one of the worst things about it for me. i hate that her transness is supposed to boil down to "her family abused her into living as a girl against her will". ?????. its a shame, all the jokes about her gender are unbearable to watch. rukako is a character that didnt know how to be written by her author. the backstory for all her gender shit feels like a lazy and misguided, unfortunate excuse to... build some emotional tension to her story and also appeal to normative ideas of gender? i dont blame the author for being ignorant, but i do criticise his work and, it didnt even have to be a binary, concrete, clear thing. i dont see rukako as a "rukako said trans rights" sort of thing lol. i like that she probably has never really had access to information about other trans people, and rather the closest thing she had to that is crossplay forums and the otaku akihabara scene of that time and place. i think that being 'a boy who looks and acts and is perceived as a girl' and being 'justa cute gurl' are both parts of her identity. being constantly 'reminded' that 'he is a boy' i think is awful lol. but, simultaneously ,i dont think that she has completely detached herself from the idea of being a crossdressing boy. as i said, i dont think that she has had access to information of the sort, and i dont think she has even asked herself the questions that she needs to ask herself about her identity. i dont think she has the answers yet, and thats okay i just remembered in the middle of writing this that a big part of her arc is that she literally wishes to have been born a girl, so everything i just wrote is wrong, upsi still tho, i think that a character who is just a boy that looks like a gurl (eine femboi..) or a trans girl who is not recognised as such by her environment, are both gud and valid concepts. its just that rukako falls flatly in between those two, i think. i dont even remember the show. but ye, the author seems to never be able to decide which one he wants to write, and he just ends up being transphobic, lol f for rukako, ill always love you I DONT REMEMBER SHIT ABOUT THE SHOW I DONT KNOW WHAT IM TALKIN ABOUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

fue una hermosa forma de sentir

[cornflowercanine]

going on anon to say this because i cant get into my tumblr acc (hi its dave) but my rambly disorganized thoughts on that i think are essentially although labels serve as a tool of community and belonging a lot of the time you also do not owe anyone more i guess like information than you want to give them in a way like even if someone perfectly fit the "traditional" trans experience if they didnt WANT to be called trans for whatever reason i feel like theyre in their rights to request that. or functionally nonbinary people who just call themselves trans and not nonbinary so on and so forth. but then again im so far removed from internet discourse (lest my ocd blasts me to death) that i do not know if theres a new buzzword counter argument to this. basically in my opinion you can do whatever you want forever

heart!!!!! yeah so true

i think there is a point where calling urself whatever Can actually harm others 8ut that point is just. 8eing an mspec les8ian. using some troll 8eyond-mogai-pride-flags term that GENUINELY sucks. ppl who say theyre """only attracted to ama8s""" or whatever 8ut i think those are more often than not just out of Not Knowing Shit and just doing your 8est to kindly explain that that is not how shit works would 8e all it takes to get them to stop, and they aren't enough to have to have like a fucking. form to fill out to identify or not identify as a thing lol. we already have more than enough 'ONLY identify as this if youre COMPLETELY SURE and if you were wrong ill give you weird looks' so at this point going 'fuck it just call yourself whatever f33ls 8est' is fine and ppl who are like defending their right to Make People Dou8t Themselves and Prove Their Sexuality/Gender/Transness etc over and over and over again until that specific person gets it is just so. what the fuck is your pro8lem dude. 8ut then again may8e thats the ocd (shakes hands w u) cause even if i DID find my mythical ~lifelong True identity~ i'd still dou8t it 6 ways from sunday cause thats what ocd does!!!! 8UT EVEN STILL LIKE... MAKING UR ENTIRE STANCE RE; PPL IDENTIFYING AS SHIT FR33LY WITHOUT MAKING A HUGE FUSS A8OUT IT IS THAT ITS 8AD AND ACTUALLY PPL SHOULD DOU8T THEMSELVES MORE! IS SO SKETCHY AND WEIRD AND LIKE... CANT IMAGINE THIS PERSON IS ANY MORE AT PEACE W THEIR IDENTITY THAN THE 14 YEAR OLD WHO ID'D AS GAY JUST CAUSE IT WAS THE FIRST THING THEY SAW THAT WASNT STR8

[lesbianbernardsumner]

I guess its over now, but it couldn’t have been that bad right?! After all, I’m still here, and you all helped me through it!!

alright this is gonna be messy and im not gonna autocorrect/proofread it but heres the essay on why i loved 2020.... While 2020 was, pretty objectively, one of the worst years for modern humanity. The obvious virus and all its, various strands of natural disasters, impending war threat, gender reveal parties, you get the gist. But i would love to just... look back and see how it treated me. See how it ran :). January/Febuary/March - the months are bunched up cause the least amount of stuff happened in them, but thats not to say that the stuff wasnt... good!!!! After all I met my first online friend (that im still friends with of course) @smilez4milez..! I cannot believe you withstood me for so long tbh........... youve been here the whole time!!!! thats obviously an achievemnt!!! Our circumstances for our meeting do not matter... trust me. April - Got my gender transed and i then id’d as demigirl!! and also had a birthday, i turned a whole year..... i believe this was also the time i... started using discord??? yeah, that sounds right :0) May/June - OOOH WEE DISK HOARD AAAAAAAAA. Ahem, Miles got me into Chuck E. Cheese and the Rock-Afire Explosion, i hold those special interests dear and close to my heart. Around the time i also made friends with @teamgay0tix (<3). Miles decided that he was gonna make an animatronic discord server. Titled the Robot Zone, Miles employed Sarah, Me, and another friendo named Teddy as the moderators. Not long after i met... so so many cool and epic people... uh off the top of my head @worthape, @bahrlee, @boredwiththislifetime, @retrowormz, @knave-woods, @verae. Not all of those were met in May/June but yknow gotta save time >:) and im sure im missing someone gdvhbuydhbdyh. WE UH RP’D AS CEC/RAE CHARACTERS!!!!! THAT WAS FUN :)!!!!!!! I DONT HAVE MUCH ELSE TO SAY AS MAY AND JUNE WERE SIMILAR MOTNHS IN TERMS OF FUN. SYHBDREYS. Oh and my laptop broke! So I was on my iPad for about 3 months!! Also my gender got transed AGAIN!!! I then-ID’d as genderfluid :o). July - HI CASPER @arcadecarpetz!!! THIS WAS THE MONTH WE FIRST MET!!! WE DO NOT TALK ABOUT THAT INTERACTION </3. So I got into the beatles late June/early July!! looks at my url lookat how that turned out huh...  Other things that happened during this month include... meeting @lovecore-ashe!!!!! I joined a certain discord server for a certain emoji blog we both happened to follow and... July was great i dunno why im being all stingy with the details etvfertyghdb August - Oh boy!! I discovered some cool epic things about myself (Emp knows.)!! got much better in the art department too!! I believe I also made friemnds with @hmmdotjpg here! They’re cool! Otherwise not much actually happened. Oh and @verae I FUCKING LOVE YOU/p September - HA! Here is when I got my shiny new laptop :), and with it i also got into Clone High!! Started to also get into Yellow Submarine, a movie which, I enjoy :). And a certain yellow submarine insta post got me and @arcadecarpetz to meet again!!! Now we’re on much better terms!! heh-. This month I left the Robot Zone, no matter how much it hurt, I simply didn’t want to be there anymore. I had got way too into animatronics and I was... very... very... burnt out. The final days of this month were good, I rewatched Yellow Submarine after a 10-Year Hiatus. It was good! :) October - SPOOK!!! HA!!! -COUGH- So you know how The Beatles like broke up in 1970... yeah i got into one of the bands made after them.... Wings good. I made a few more drawings for arcadecasper that im especially proud of, uh... OH YEAH AND I MADE A KETCHUP PRIDE FLAG FOR EMPRESS!!!!!!!! It is also now my most popular post! Cool!/gen .Two of my friends approached me and said they got into the beatles because of me that was pretty swagchamp. November - All of my memories from this month are MUSH. i literally dont remember what happened <3... oh wait yeah we got hte evil man out of office... that was preddy epic... OH RIGHT DESTIEL- December - My favorite season!! The end of the year was pretty swell. It was like everything good that happened to me was settling, getting cozier, just... being better. Like gently stirring the salt in a soup bowl... okay thats a weird analogy- I got into lemon demon too! And uh very glad i did. cause now i can say that cabinet man wishes you a karkalicious 2009 and i can actually understand it./j And all the lessons from all my friends I (probably indirectly) learnt this year... Like @smilez4milez!! You taught me to always be proud and glad!!! @teamgay0tix you taught me that affection always overpowers hatred. @boredwiththislifetime, no matter what your friend is doing, as long as its not hurting anyone, support them!!! @bahrlee, become a vampire/j. @hmmdotjpg, changing for yourself is more important than becoming someone you arent in front of other people. @worthape i dunno... i... bugs???? Im just glad you were here too :). @retrowormz you kinda just made me funnier!!! @knave-woods bro i literally idolize you tsygvfbsyh. @lovecore-ashe, drink ketchup and dont give a shit about what everyone else thinks/hj!! @verae, !!!!!!!!!!!!!! I DUNNO WHAT TO SAY YOURE LITERALLY JUST MY BEST FRIEND GSYHVFTEYWSH and of course, last but most certainly not least, Casper @arcadecarpetz WHERE DO I START ON HOW EPIC AND SWAG AND POGGERS YOU ARE AND HOW GREAT YOU HELPED MAKE THESE LAST FEW MONTHS... HHM- Well, maybe ill just leave it at “You pretty much taught me how to not be a jerk” okay!!! Man i got really sappy here wgvrtedgyshb I’m not sure if any of that is comprehensible!!! Its 2pm and i still havent actually started the day, but i wanted to write all of this down before it left my head. I know im missing probably important stuff but yknow... i have brainworms :O/j You are all... so cool... i just wanted to get that out...

[gaysonlyocean]

uhhh idk if you have any hc for casey but uhh if so can you share

oh boy do i!

for 2003!casey thats a trans dude <3 t4t couple rights

is one of those trans guys who just kjhgfdfghj started weight lifting to cope with dysphoria and now hes here

himbo supreme keeps having to have april remind him to take his t shot and get a refill cause he Will forget and then go "OHSHIT" a month later

king of sending 50 emojis in one text

ok so tmntcu casey my beloved i have some too

asmr casey goes to a actual hair salon to get his streaks redone, pisses off the hair stylist immediately cause he said "yeah the only hair dye thing ive done is bleach these :)" when in reality 💀 has dyed his hair many times with box colour, 💀 just forgot

online strangers think hes a cis ally cause he keeps posting shit thats like "shout out to all the transes out there tonight! keep gendering!!" but no 💀s just a idiot

yknow that post thats like "my teacher has a rule that so long as you get into class before him your not late and my friend just arrived to campus to see him go into the building so she scaled the wall" thats him

[kakyoinryoko]

ok wait i think its like. idk how to explain it but jotaro being extremely masculine and also a relatable character made people think "wow i relate to him a lot :]" which in turn was like "i want to be like him" which just .... yeah .... at least thats how it was for me. i am not a new jotaro transed gender anon

yeah i think you’re right... like the thing about him is that he’s like. on a surface level he comes across as masculine, he’s introduced as this Big Tough Guy Delinquent and whatnot so it almost seems as though he’s this extremely masc Man Guy but then over time it becomes increasingly apparent that that’s not really the case. he’s a lot more concerned about his appearance than he initially seems (fucking 20,000 yen pants), he tends to favor the color purple in his dress (associated w lgbt culture and otherwise seen as a “feminine” color), he wears big heart shaped gold dolphin pins, he’s a lot softer on people than he comes across at first, etc etc you get the point. there’s a lot about him that falls under being Obviously Gender Non-Conforming while he still gives off enough of an air of masculinity that people can mistake him for being hyper masculine if they aren’t really thinkin about it that hard and i think that’s exactly the sort of gender presentation that would be admirable to a lot of transmasc or gender-questioning people

[tyrannuspitch]

@kidrat:

ok u know thats a great point bc i hadn't even realised how weird it was that ppl only mention lesbians as women who use he/him! but yh it's weird. like all the stuff i've seen abt elliot coming out is a) transphobes sad they 'lost a lesbian' and b) queer ppl immediately reminding other queer ppl he's allowed to play lesbian characters and id that way and like??? i literally dont care how he labels his sexuality unless he decides to tell us. it's no one's business and i dont get the obsession w whether or not he's a lesbian. 

also like. may take a bit to explain this but it's almost like 'previously ided as a lesbian' is part of the trans narrative for transmascs? and like i said many ppl Did but it's weirdly invalidating at times! ppl will talk as if past (butch) lesbian identity is Always how transmascs question. meanwhile i was and am feminine *in a queer way* bc i am and so in a sense was a queer man. but there are times when the lesbian to transmasc narrative seems like a way to prove queer cred? when, we're all queer, and most have experienced being gnc in some gender or other, whether that was in a way stereotypical to our agab and therefore recogisable to cis and het ppl or not

(moving this here for legibility, hope that’s okay)

yeah to all this!! i get that for some people, cis gay/lesbian might be the *only* queer identity they know about when they start questioning... but for me personally? even that probably wouldn’t have made me think i was a lesbian! i would decide on “cishet but an alien i guess” or reinvent the concept of transness before i thought i was a lesbian, because honestly, the only thing i have in common with cis lesbians is that we’re both queer. they’re cis, i’m trans; they’re women, i’m a man; gnc for them (stereotypically) means butch, gnc for me (personally) means fem-flavoured androgynous; they’re attracted only to women, i’m attracted only to men. and yet for some reason ppl love to imply that my main qualification for my gay card is that i Obviously Used To Be A Lesbian?

but uhhh yeah more to the point. i think it’s like... being recognisable to cishet (or just cis tbh) ppl + the idea that being gnc is specifically “a gay thing” rather than a queer experience in its own right. as in, that’s why a lot of transmascs mistakenly think they’re lesbians, but it’s also why that experience is assumed to be the default. because like, (straight gender-conforming) transmasc and (cis butch) lesbian ARE quite similar identities, but they’re far from the only ways to be transmasc or a lesbian. they’re just the most recognisable ways to be transmasc or a lesbian, and therefore... they’re not the most acceptable, exactly, but they have a certain established status within the queer community that other identities don’t.

possibly also relevant: cis gay ppl assuming The Way to discover you’re queer is your first notable crush; the way nb people, especially transfem nb people, are often dismissed as not really trans, “just gnc gays”, regardless of their actual orientation; the fucking annoying old idea that being trans just means being So Gay that you gnc-ed so hard you transed

(not necessarily saying ppl literally consciously think these things, just that it might still be a subconscious bias)

[sleevesareforlosers]

hi it’s the sleeves anon! firstly, i simply have nothing with sleeves anymore and it’s excellent I am beginning to be known for this, second you were right about the whole sleeveless shirts help with dysphoria thing and ALSO that comment was basically what helped me figure out that I had transed my gender so thanks for that!!! sorry if i repeat myself in asks I do not have a good memory!

hi!!!!!

first, thats fantastic! im excited to see how you handle winter sdkfhs but no honestly its AMAZING that u found clothes that make u happy (and getting branding from it? legendary)

second, YEAH. obv it doesnt work for everyone but i was like. ‘oh hey these make my arms look nice’ and it just WENT from there

ALSO congrats!!!! thats gonna be one hell of a story if u ever get asked what sparked realizing ur trans, “oh well uhhh a stranger on the internet told me to cut the sleeves off of my shirt and it all just kinda snowballed”

[rorynne]

Hi. How did you find out that you’re bi? Because I might be, but I don’t know. And I don’t know if this is normal but I’m feeling a little scared. Even though I know that f I am my mom will except me.

Oof. Okay so 1 being bi is 100% normal dont worry about that alright? Any sexuality is normal.

Personally i "found out" i was bi because I was luck enough to be in an extremely accepting friend group when i was 13 and we were talking about sexualities and I went "yeah, I think I mightbe able to like girls too." It had been something that I didn't LET myself consider until that point and when all my friends nodded and said "nice" it just kinda stuck. It was probably the easiest of my identity markers that ive discovered.

But thats not always the case for everyone. Some people need hella soul searching to decide the bi label is right for them, and thats okay! Its okay to be unsure or wavering in your sexuality at any point

As for your mom potentially not being accepting? Mine arent. And the best thing is? They dont know. Because they dont NEED to know. They dont know about my asexuality, they dont know about my transness, they dont know im nonbinary. They dont need to know that because its my business who gets to know that information. Its completely valid not to tell someone ANYONE your sexuality or gender ID. But if you want to, thats well with in your right too! But either way, you can find ways to survive unaccepting parents, trust me on that.