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contagious-watermelon · 7 months ago

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so, fellow aspec people, what are y'all's relationship to gay as an umbrella term? I've seen a lot of aroace people call themselves gay despite *technically* not being, and personally I've always been confused by that

(and also— I'd imagine that aroallo or alloace people who are gay for their other orientation would automatically include themselves with that term, but what about the arohets and acehets? how do y'all feel about the use of gay as an umbrella term?)

I'm just curious about other people's experiences bc i as an aromantic person feel rather uncomfortable being grouped in as gay because I've never been attracted to another man before, but anecdotally i seem to be in the minority

#I'm sure it might also have something to do with some internalized transphobia of ''well if i think of myself as adjacent to straight rathe #than adjacent to gay that means I'm more masculine and thereof more of a man''#< not true but.#although it could also be that i have a little more in common with straight trans guys than gay ones #having grown up not being attracted to boys when i was expected to be #(just minus the Woman attraction part obv)#aromantic #aspec #asexual #non sam aro #aro #aroallo #aroace #ace #alloace #gay #lgbt #queer #idk. sexuality and labels and stuff are confusing #thats why ive stuck with just 'aromantic' and not even bothered to try and figure out my sexuality really #I'm not interested in sleeping with anyone so why do i need to know lol #maybe I'm asexual‚ maybe I'm repressing it bc internalized homophobia (in either direction)‚ maybe I'm mistaking dysphoria for dislike of i #again #who knows. not me #yall dont have to respond to my tag rant lol; i wanted to give some extra context and then it got away from me. oops

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