#writing romamce

[starlight-bread-blog]

My Stance on Healthy Couples in Fiction

A lot of shipping discourse revolves around the question of who is the most compatible. Meaning, who would have the least relationship stuggles. It's a conversation worth having if you're interested in it. But in my opinion, when it comes to actual media critisism, when it comes to determining which ship should be canon...

In real life, this is something to consider, since struggles cause negative emotions. Although you can work through those issues, if you know the options, if you have a choice, it's good to choose the one you'd struggle with the least. Because even when no one is directly at fault, being in an unhealthy situation is difficult – negative – to a real individual.

But in fiction, the rules are very much different. In a story, no real suffering is at stake, only entertainment. Such perfect fictional relationships are both unrealistic and boring.

In actuality, even if you do choose a fairly compatible partner, you'll still argue and have rough patches. And when you do, In a story, such imperfections are oxygen. Such rough patches are conflicts. It is the subtlties and in the defects that mirror reality. They make the story feel alive.

While a real couple wishes to avoid these struggles, for a ship, it becomes good characterization. Without it, the relationship becomes bland. And that is a greater offense than being toxic to someone. Because slight incompatibility is realistic, it's compelling, and most of all, is the mark of nuance. And therefore, good writing.

[thechemistwhowritesstories]

Why do you write ?

My answer:

I write to breathe.To remind myself, I do exist.I do have wants and needs.Although in real life, they may never come true. So I write I write about other lives and other people. other realities so maybe, just maybe, I'll grasp what I want in someone else's narrative.Love, happiness, and everything in between Even little joys like reading in a coffee shop Or getting a gift, a flower, even They live my dreams because I cannot and if not, then I'll die.Death is better than a life without a pen.Without an escape Without a voice to speak, when the world shuts you off so I'll speak till my ink dries. And my dreams I'll take with me to the grave.If I live now and die tomorrow,At least I'll still exist within forgotten papers in dusty old books.

[denkryn]

no but it’s about her previous selves asking her what she did with this life and amalia responding, “i told someone our name” could write a literal essay about how zephyr has always tried not to get attached or make any real connections with anyone because she knows all too well how easily people go and how much it hurts but somehow 2 lives later, and hundred lives lost around her, she finds herself making the truest (no pun intended) relationship she’s ever had in all her lives.

[priceprime]

Who allowed this?

What god gave me you?

You cannot give

someone like me

Something like this.

I will choke

like a starving man on food.

It must have been you

Who asked me, pre mortally

To find you here.

Had anyone else asked

I would have said

"It will hurt too badly

To hold so much love

In a human body."

But I am so glad

That I would do anything

You ask of me.

Because I got to meet you

As if we were strangers

I got to fall in love again.

I got to spend

an extra lifetime

With you.

[bittergirlsworld]

love triangle with just one point of view simply does not work bc it's clear who the writer prefers and it shows. one love interest has goals memories personality conflicts and the frozen devotion from the main character and the other one is like. there. a plot device to develop the couple. a npc basically

[ziairra]

“A friend I could never replace”

It's greater than attraction or infatuation

Not obsession or possession

She's the flame that fulfills my soul

The other half that completes one another

Without her I may never be whole.

-Zi

[spectral-idiot]

Hey! I have an ideaz there shpuld be an poke romamce writers comunity! Whit @dipplinduo @kekstala @cochineal-leviat (Despite levi is more like a sonic writer, but their work is too good to be ignored) @tuttiwrites @c0stiffen and @angelabsol and people that enhoy that like @radiantmocha and me. (Despite I also write)

We should hang out! Is there a server? Or somebody that can make one?

Lets call it. Hopelles romatics!

I also would invite @itsvae10 and @urich11 cause i love them sm. And they are mt friends

[starfish-spencer]

number twenty for the psych ask game?

Hi, thanks for the ask!

20. Favorite quote from the show

I already answered this one but I have a lot of quotes I love, so I'm going to give you another of my favorites!

When Shawn tells Lassie, "You might be the only other person on the planet who loves Jules as much as I do, even though it's different."

AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH

I love how they compared Jules and Lassie's friendship to Shawn and Jules's romamce, because that was the only way to even begin to describe how strong their love for each other is. The fact that these two love each other so deeply and unconditionally, and are still never implied to be anything more than platonic, is one of my favorite parts of the whole show. And for Shawn to recognize and acknowledge that shows how much he respects their friendship, too.

Giving Jules and Lassie a sibling relationship instead of romantic drama was hands-down the best writing decision the team made

[hyukascampfire]

hi author just checking how you doing. Well i am fine and just spending my time by re-reading my fave scenes. What is better combination than taehyun + angst. Nobody could do justice to this character more than taehyun, but what I felt is most authors just try to explore this very theme but just ends with this only like no character development. Especially for taehyun i mean writing taehyun charcter is complex but i hope you pls give justice to him... i mean i can sort of tell this by the way you had given subtle hints of how he is melting and it is so endearing to see... also hope there would be more taehyun×yn romamce....btw i like how many people are out there loving this fic and supporting it i feel so happy for you.....

Helllooo anon! thank you for checking in!!! hehe i’ve also been doing quite a bit of rereading, just to keep my thoughts straight!

I absolutely agree that his role in TSFAWC is done the absolute best justice by Taehyun. It’s so him. Taehyun does this look in real life that is absolutely TSFAWC Taehyun. Like piercing eyes omg it’s so crazy. I think that since he is also a very logical person in real life that it makes sense.

I’ll absolutely do my best to do his character justice. I’m obsessed with TSFAWC Taehyun. Every decision I make is very meticulous and calculated to portray a very very specific picture I have in my head. I can’t wait for it all.

Thank you so much for the love!!! I’m so grateful for you guys. Really. :) 🩷🩷🩷🩷

[ewitsriri]

hey!! im a soon2be writer and need suggestions on what to make!

i do NOT do dark romamce sincr im uncomfy writing it nor do i do underaged characters !!!!

also pls be patient since i havent written anything in a while₍ᐡ｡っ ̫-｡ᐡ₎ ive been taking a hiatus on writing but now coming back to it!

P.S: I also do bot commissions!!!

[nanamikentoseyebags]

the 1975 reblog.. gave me the idea of nanami and you growing old and living your loveee in early 1900s yk writing leters.. phone booth.. old romamces.. he would be enrolled in the navy and him coming back after war to you just a very differnt kind of love tge two.of you will experince...

ZEN😭😭😭 you can't say something like that and then expect me to go on with my day like nothing happened!! oh to live the romance of those times:( i dont wanna think about him going off to war, the very thought of it kills me 😭😭

[jotchia]

why did joshie and bernie say no to bernie baby dressing as a hunter so fast. is there a past trauma there i smell

*SMILES EVILY* I'M SO GLAD YOU ASKED! this is a long one stick with me here.

essentially the bjs Story centers jotchie and his fucked up brain problems right. i mean i don't think that terribly shines through my art of them it's definitely more of a writing thing (smile) BUT. jotchie's issues stem from when he got attacked in the woods, which caused his turning into a werewolf. now he's all kinds of scared that since HE got attacked, he could hurt others too. which is dumb. but he's fucked up.

ect ect jotchie plays mercenary for a few years after running away from home, he never really makes any friends which makes him desperate and lonely as hell, then enter samir. samir is trying his damndest to study transformation magic but he's only got bernie as a test subject and he knows every inch of that motherfucker's body by now (high school sweethearts<3) and now some new shifter is in the woods?! THEIR woods?! oh boysy!!! so samir captures jotch and VERY politely asks if he can study him in a lab. jotch at this point is so desperate for connection he sees this cute dude asking to spend some time with him and he's like sure man fuck it like whatever at least if this dude uses me as a lab rat i'll get to stare at him while it happens. literally whatever man.

ROMAMCE ENSUES samir is so nice to jotchie it kinda fucking freaks him out cos he was kinda prepared to get killed or something but this dude is actually so sweet and likes hanging out outside of study time? so now jotch is all kindsa self conscious about shifting around him and it's so much worse cos samir is actually really respectful of his boundaries? like oh god how did he stumble into such a good fucking person that likes him and is nice oh god he REALLY can't fuck this up now.

NOW BACK TO BERNIE. LOL. bernie, too, is a shifter, though he shifts into a polar bear rather than a wolf. bernie was also BORN a shifter rather than turned, so he's all experienced with this shit where jotch knows little to nothing outside of his own lived experience. dude's never even met another shifter before. bernie sees this and kinda takes pity on the poor guy, shows him the ropes, drops the absolute fucking bomb that is the fact that your clothes just phase with you when you shift, so jotchie's whole "if i wear this collar it'll strangle me when i shift without wanting to" strat kinda goes out the fucking window. which is bad cos he cares about samir. there goes his fucking fail safe.

ah, but, there's bernard. bernard is much bigger and stronger than him, shifted and unshifted both. if bernie's around and jotch shifts without wanting to, if he tries to hurt samir, bernie can just kill him. easily. he's so strong! bernie is so cool! he's seen him kill deer like nobody's business! bernie, now, is his fail safe. as long as bernie's around, he can relax.

but oh ho ho, idiot that jotchie is, does not realize that bernie likes him too! even when the three of them all start dating, jotchie can't fucking compute in his brain that he CARES about him and, yknow, that kinda makes it hard to kill somebody? he also of course never ran that idea by bernard, just kinda assumed oh for suresies he'd be down to kill me the moment i did something bad. no problem. don't even worry about it.

now i don't have the Exact scene mapped out in my head on how i want this to go, but essentially it all comes to a head when jotchie mentions this exact thing, that ah, it's okay, if i do anything you can just kill me. bernie is absolutely fucking devastated because what the hell? what the fuck does this guy think of him? that he could kill him, just like that? that he could kill him at all? has josh only been keeping him around because he wants him to murder him? is that all he is?

jotchie's self hatred bleeds into his relationships with others A FUCKING LOT. it sucks. he does not even realize that's what's happening.

but of course love must prevail, jotchie DOES care for bernie very deeply NOT just cos he wants to be killed so he continues the absolute egregious process of trying to hate himself a little less every day. bernie does forgive him but shit still stings. (SAMIR IS ALSO CAUGHT IN THE CROSSFIRE OF THIS, ANGEL PETNAME, SHIT SUCKS FOR EVERYBODY) so the idea of bernie dressing up as the character who's entire purpose is to kill jotchie's? woof! very bad!

thank you so much for asking i love you forever 🫂

[voloslobotomyservice]

me writing slbp in 2018 🤝 me writing bg3 in 2024

uncontrollable thirst for non-romamcable npcs

[allthefujoshiunite]

Hi, first of all this is my first ask to you (sorry if it sounds weird, cause I'm nervous while writing this).... I'm your fan (have followed your twitter and tumblr) and really love your reviews and recs, thanks to you I know which BL manga/manhwa to read next and because of you they also become few of my favorite BL manga/manhwa/manhua....

Can i ask, why do you love BL romance better than het romance? What makes them better? I did not mean anything negative, and I know everyone have their own like and dislike but I want to know your thoughts....

Also what do you think that made Asian MLM (BL manga/manhwa/manhua) romances better than western MLM romances?

Before I found your blog, I already love anime and manga but have never tried watching or reading BL, and then I found danmei novel and fell in love with them.....after that, I start reading BL manga and still continue.....Funny thing is, since I was younger I love reading novels (especially romance het western) and suddenly I lost interest....But after found MLM romamce I start love reading again...

Sorry for this long ask and rant of myself, feel free if you want to ignore it....just want to let you know, that most of the BL manga that I read until now are thanks to you.....I can't thank you enough.....Thanks for your hard work on your blog...

Okay, this is going to get long and at times, personal so... idk maybe you'd like to get a cup of hot bevarage of your choice? Buckle up!

First of all, I hope you don't apologize for sending asks in the future because I don't get them often anyway, and respond when I have time. Plus, I find great joy in answering them, and your words have made me incredibly happy. I intend to write a lengthy post about it one day but I write with the hopes that other people read them, my blog is not my personal diary. And over the years, I came to detest the so-called-advice "Just do it for yourself!". 

To be honest, I've been feeling frustrated and lost about my blog & my social media accounts, especially Twitter, for a while now. I love the small circle of mutuals I have and am grateful for them. Because, when you boil it down, I'm not entitled to their time, attention, likes/RTs/RBs, in short, their support. Just because they have been, let's say, liking my tweets at one point doesn't mean they now have an obligation to fulfill. This is the reason why I've never voiced my frustrations on Twitter, the least I'd want is to seem like I'm accusing others of something they aren't obligated to do. Still, it doesn't change the fact that there's been a sharp decline in my engagement there and I feel invisible. Or ignored. But at the same time, my blog post tweets still get 2-3 likes and I can't help but feel I'm ungrateful towards them.

In the end, there's no way of pinpointing what's "wrong". Is it the way I write my posts? Is it the content in them? Is it the Twitter algorithm? According to the view count, my tweets are seen, so am I being ignored now? I have no idea. I've been considering leaving the platform for a while now, the only reason I haven't done so is because the short tweeting format is something I really like and it suits me. But with the way things are, I'll just leave it as an update account as my Tumblr once was. Tl;dr, long asks where people talk about themselves, the questions they have in mind, and what they think about the stuff I write (positive or negative, as long as there's courtesy), that exchange is the reason I write. No need to apologize for doing something that I've been wanting others to do. : )

And if my posts had contributed to helping you find something you enjoy, no matter how small, I couldn't be happier.

As for your questions, I hope you don't mind me answering them in a separate post. Because 1. my answer will be long, and 2. I'd like it to stay as a post itself instead of being buried under my personal social media rant. It'll be better if someone wants to RB it in the future as well.

Once again, thank you so much for sending me this lovely message, it made my night! See you around ~

[izartn]

Priest's novels have that mix of intense mains (which I love) despite not being super explicit (which works on their favor re;writing style) and usually, a good plot,except when the plot is the emotional development of a main. Then or you love the main or you bail. Mo Du is very good at the procedural thing, Sha Po Lang had me there for the palace intrigue besides the interestingly developed romamce,etc. I loved Liu Yao for the mains and the philosophy on cultivation more than the plot, but I think that was the point.

They don't drive me crazy with feels but they usually leave me thinking, and enjoying well written danmei.

But also is very 50/50 on what kind of secondary cast you're gonna find (painfully generic or just nice enough usually which is fine for me) and the think-y writing can be too distant sometimes. I really like their morally meh protags though xD

[urfriendlywriter]

otp in denial about their feelings prompts:

<3 can somebody fkcng write all this and tag me im losing my mindnsna> anyways, feel free to usee, credits are appreciated !!

"im suprised, hurt and confused. you need me so badly at your side but you cannot figure out what you feel for me? hilarious."

"i know this is foolish. i know I AM. but i keep wanting you, why can't you understand that?" "You want me. but you don't want us."

"i tear my heart out to you and you're just throwing it away. wow.". "i didnt..."

"no please, all you do is push me away, [name]. I'm done. Whatever this is, it's done."

"I'm sorry, i dont feel the same... way." "look me in the eye and tell that, please. I'll..."

"I'm TRYING okay? fuck my feelings, it's fucked but one thing that I'll always be sure about is my love for you. I fucking love you and i don't fucking know how to act around you. Okay? I--" and they kiss. breathless short one, followed by a glance and a passionate one AHHHHSKXNSJ

"it took you three words to tell me how you felt. but im sorry it took me three eternities to tell you"

"I'll wait my entire lifetime for you, my love"