#woovalin

[woovalin]

this whole taeil situation has really been stressing me out and I hope it’s ok if I can say how I feel about it here.

I am just absolutely disgusted by him. Every time I think about the situation my heart breaks for the victim/victims involved. As a young fan hearing that the victim was a minor just distresses me so much. Recently I’ve become very very aware of the many many horrible things that happen to young girl and women and everything is pilling up into a bit of fear and anxiety.

like many others upon hearing the news my initial reaction was just shock that the news was abt him. I’ve been and nct fan for about 4-5 years and admittedly taeil was one of my favorites. It’s hard and distressing to learn that someone I admired could be doing

something like this, especially being close to the age of the victim.I know that there was no way I would have known about what he did but I can’t help but feel immensely guilty and naive. I feel disgusted by myself for having supported him. It’s so heartbreaking and gut wrenching to hear about these awful awful things that people do to young girls/children especially after learning abt the nth room situation. It makes me think of the fact that we live in a world where things like this could happen to any of the people around me and it’s scares me. I’ve been learning a lot about the rapidly increaisng violence against women all across the world and especially in Korea and I pray for the safety of everyone in the world. My heart goes out to the victims in all of these situations and I pray for them, I hope all victims get the justice they deserve.

being into kpop since 10 yrs old has taught me a lot of this about what people can really be like. I feel like I used to be really naive as to what people could be, I used to think who idols are on the surface are who they truly are but I’m always proven wrong. I tend to look for the best in people and think of them as good ppl but It’s something I feel like I can’t do anymore. No one truly knows who these people are behind closed doors and for me continue to think that all idols are these good ppl inside out by default is stupidity. I’m sure that there are idols that truly are good ppl but there is no way of truly knowing becuase at the end of the day I’m just a fan. I don’t know these ppl and they don’t know me. It’s all a huge reminder that at the end of the day these are grown men who are aware of there actions and the consequences.

I want to continue to support the idols and groups thst I like but I feel like I have to step back from it all for a while especially NCT. I don’t think I have it I me to listen to songs with him in it anymore. Ik it’s stupid but I feel bad for wanting to step back because i still want to support the other members but i think it’s best if I do take a break to sort things out.

Ty for a being a safe space during this time. I felt like I really needed to have my feelings and thoughts out. Writing abt it here has helped with my anxiety towards everything. If yoy feel uncomfortable posting this or reading it all the way through I totally understand and no worries I just needed to write my feelings out in a safe space like this and I hope that’s okay.

hi love, thank you for writing out your feelings, as i’m sure most fans feel the same way you do and need to vent about it. i wanna say that you’re not stupid for wanting to take a step back and take a break from all of this. you take as much time as you need; no one is going to be mad at you for it, and you need to prioritize your mental health as well. kpop is only a small part of our lives and there are much more important things to focus on, so let that thing be yourself in this instance.

you mentioned that you feel disgusted having supported him, and i understand that completely, although there’s no way to have known. and i wanna reiterate that while this isn’t about us and more so about the victims, and while we’re keeping them in mind, as fans, being upset is totally valid. it feels like a stab in the back, finding out that someone we supported for so long and invested all this time, money and love into, turned out to be a completely different person than who we thought they were. and we can blame ourselves for assuming that he was a good person by default, which anyone would assume, but it’s no one’s fault that the outcome and the truth were the complete opposite. we’re naive and don’t know, never knew, and will never know these people on any level except through a phone screen. we just automatically assume that these strangers we watch on our screens are at the very least, decent human beings, but who wouldn’t assume that, seeing the way they act on camera? which again, is naive bc they bring us so much comfort so you automatically want to believe they’re good people. but as we’ve seen, it can always be a front to cover up what they’re really like.

anyway, i think it’s important for you to take a break if you need to and that’s more than okay. and the most important thing is really to focus on the real issue at hand here, and try our best to help the women being targeted by people like him. staying informed and educating ourselves in order to properly address what’s going on and do our best to help the people who need it!

you don’t have to keep up with everything if you don’t have the mental or emotional capacity at the moment, and that’s okay. i understand wanting to take time and create space between yourself and the rest of the group and kpop in general. i will be doing the same for a little while. i think it would be good to ground yourself and clear your mind, until you’re comfortable enough to be able to get back to enjoying the music and content that we’re used to. and i also think it would be best to step away and come back with a better understanding of things, so that we can create a safe distance and boundaries between being so emotionally attached to our faves, and everything else (our real life priorities) that’s separate from being a fan and supporting celebrities to that extent again.

sorry for rambling, but thank you for your thoughts on this, i’m glad you felt comfortable venting to me and i hope i comforted you a little! take care of yourself first and foremost, and i hope you feel better! hugs 🫂 <3