#wog lgbt stories are literally so rare and unheard of....

[bi-dazai]

It's just... open biphobia now in the community lmfao....

In the past few years it's been totally normalised to virulently hate bisexuals, especially bi women. I know I've said this before but I've always felt isolated from the community for being bisexual...but this is a whole new level....I've known I'm bisexual for 7 years now and never have I felt more let down, hated, and excluded by the community. If you hate bisexuals it's now considered 'woke'. There's subtle and outright biphobia in common rhetoric everywhere, it's passed around and when we tell you to stop you tell us to go 'read LGBT history' even though you've only read one or two perspectives of the history yourself. We are infantilised, mocked, sexualised, slutshamed, derided, and isolated, and when we express that, the response is that we're basically told we deserve to be raped. It's unbelievable how bad this has become in the last few years alone, and it's extremely concerning to see it only getting worse.

It's why I've never really associated myself with 'lgbt' or 'wlw' culture and networks - I've found all of them to be virulently biphobic or only regard bisexuals in a token, infantilised fashion that leaves me constantly dismissed and ignored in discussions. These networks, this culture - supposedly it's meant to make us feel safe, included, but it's only made me feel even more alone (the fact that I'm a 2nd-gen immigrant from a non-anglo country is also a factor of course). Bisexuality is possibly the loneliest 'lgbt' identity - we are truly the silent majority, we exist to be stepped on and mocked. At this point we might as well remove the 'b' because we might as well not be there at all - despite us having been there all throughout lgbt history and having pulled over twice our fucking weight, it's impossible to get you people to fucking respect us because you need someone to hate, and bisexuals are just so fucking easy to target because we lie in an in-between that you refuse to actually learn about.

The 'community' for me is so overwhelmingly western and anglo-centric and bi-exclusionary it's fucking embarrassing. By this I mean y'all are xenophobic to any ideas that question your own experiences - when I suggest that my experience as a non-anglo immigrant (as well as growing up fairly poor) affects my bisexuality in a way that I cannot relate to any common Anglo LGBT narratives I hear being told, I'm really serious. I have a serious disconnect from so much of the community not just because of my bisexuality but also because of the xenophobia of an intensely anglo LGBT community. Australia in particular is extremely anglo but it also has a high rate of immigrants and indigenous australians. LGBT ppl of these subsets have been integral to our history. Yet immigrant and indigenous and poc's narratives are always added as a token, as a box to tick off, at the footnotes. In Australia in particular, non-anglo immigrants and indigenous people are some of the most outspoken, ignored, and suffering peoples. LGBT non-anglo immigrants, non-whites, and indigenous Australians, have incredibly unique experiences that are not considered in the broader community. The community recycles white, middle class, Anglo narratives, and that is our 'culture'. The community excludes bisexuals and immigrants and poc and first nations, and then tells us to toughen up because we don't know what real suffering is.

So yeah uhhhhh sorry if I say that 'lgbt culture' and 'lgbt community' is utter fucking bullshit, esp. to bisexuals and non-anglos