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timetravelstudies · 7 days ago

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ok ill just say this i was one of the “girls” salò shit was being done to in ms like straight up movie style psychological torture type bullying and tbf i dont tend to use the phrase “female camraderie” in general or esp about myself since im a man now. but if you asked me if I’ve experienced it i would say yes for instance in the countless intimate hushed conversation in bedrooms ive had with cis, straight women (same type of girl that was torturing me in ms) bonding over shared madness inducing experiences such as being in extremely abusive relationships with men. So i wouldnt jump the gun on that one. But whatever

#i get that being a type of person who got excluded from ‘’’’girl bonding’’’’ growing up bc of being not white /transfem / gnc/ whatever can #lead towards resentment i think thats perfectly logical and justified. but imo 99% of any types of feminist and or lgbt #for lack of a better word infighting comes from all parties (with their wide variety of individual ‘positioning’ across various social/#political/bodily ‘fault lines’ kind of. naturalizing their lived experience into some kind of axiom #without considering that very often someone who does not have XYZ trait/situation may have been victimized in very different but equally #real ways. most straightforward ex of this imo is the whole bi vs lesbian infighting in the quote unquote queer female community #but anyway . i see very often - not just online but also and especially offline - people being extremely cogent and lucid in analyzing #their own positioning and situations. but then painting people in different ones by the most generic reductive sweeping overgeneralizations #and its like. okay. maybe just give some thought to the fact that everyone else livs lives as complex and intricate as yours. thats all #PS i went on a tangent and forgot to say to be extremely clear. i absolutely did not have access to ‘girl space’ for the entirety of my #life until age like 17 to 21. and even then i was tenuously tolerated as some kind of inoffensive creature that was nonetheless still made #of different matter than the ‘real’ girls #idk. dont really have an end to that sentence i guess

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