#with all this like vs reblog stuff it’s hard to stay motivated

[jetii]

I’ve been on a Crosshair kick lately so I will be posting the first part of Promises Made on Wednesday!

I need to get it out of my drafts bc the longer it stays there the more I mess with it. It’s set mid-s3 and it’s CrosshairxJedi!Reader. There will be 3 parts with plenty of angst, banter, feelings, and of course smut.

Might also post my Kix oneshot this week since that’s what I originally planned to do, just depends on general reception to the Crosshair fic.

[moononastring]

when are we gonna get the next smtb chapter?

I'm feeling unmotivated so I'm unsure.

[animeyanderetalker]

also one last thing: notes aren't necessarily important but it helps with keeping yourself motivated. many writers struggle with this and leave because of it and especially recently it's been getting worse, but like i said in a post i made before, writers shouldn't take their anger out on readers because it makes those who do interact and give feedback feel terrible, it pushes them to stop interacting. i feel as though like every media outlet fanfic has become all about popularity, it's even a competition. and with all the drama and 'big blog status' (i don't wanna give this attention but the amount of nonsensical drama that takes place is just so toxic and people and abuse their 'big blog status' to bully others, it's sick.) i feel like the community in 2018, 2019, 2020 vs now is so different. with that said have you ever struggled with lack of interaction? not getting feedback or knowing if your writting is good enough, not knowing whether or not readers are pleased? thoughts on this?

Interesting ask. I admit that there were times where I struggled with a lack of interaction, I think it started really when I surpassed 1,000 followers. A big number and back then I was dumb enough to believe that it would show in the notes on my posts. I'd say the average amount of notes on my posts since then has pretty much stayed the same and whilst some post get more notes than others, considering that I've gained even more followers since then nothing has really changed in the notes or interactions. Most notes are likes and silent reblogs and in some cases comments or reblogs with tags and not even those have to tell me that they liked my work and are just the tags I used to tag the post with. There were times in the past where I bothered myself with that to the point of a writer blockade and had to stop writing for two weeks. I stressed myself back then because I thought if I would answer the requests in my inbox faster, I'd get more motivating feedback. In the end all I got was a bad burnout and some frustration against my followers. I'm a person who keeps things to myself though and I knew from other big blogs that such shoutouts don't do much so I thought that it was pointless to even try.

I don't know when I stopped thinking like that but eventually I stopped giving a care about that which was mainly when I really realized that my love for writing surpasses that lack of motivation after a while. At that time I felt insecure so I started reading my own work to discover good points and that for some reason helped, especially since some of the stuff I write for is hard to find anywhere else. I've actually gotten to the point where I read my own stuff almost daily and whilst it might sound a bit narcisstic, I'm by now proud of the progress I made during my career so far. This is my blog and I am unwilling to give up just because people don't interact with my posts much for whatever reason, I'll quit when I simply lost my passion for writing for other reasons. I've grown immune to lack of interaction, I think most of the praise I get is when I open my requests and people tell me they love my work or chat randomly with me. I obviously appreciate that but I stopped driving myself up a wall whenever I get no interaction.

I think that's partially to blame for the mindset I have in general. I just sort of live with what I have and this is no different. There's nothing wrong with wanting more interaction, people in here spend hours of their life pouring their passion into writing so obviously just silent reads will get to them. I'm just tired of constantly switching back and forth between resenting others and, ultimately, myself for feeling like I expect too much and like my writing is maybe not good at all. I found a solution which I can live with and that's fine by me. No matter if the amount of followers and notes on my posts don't match at all.

Regarding your take on toxic behavior in the internet, that's honestly nothing new for me. I've seen people venting about stupid things for years on the internet and acting like they lost their last few braincells. I personally don't interact much with such people since I don't want to be infected with whatever stupidity they have. I mean, you don't know what the anon might go through, in some cases such people actually have their own issues and take it out on others, that doesn't really make them less a coward though and doesn't make their actions right either. I immediately block such people if I come across them. I do think that online communities have become worse in the past few years since social media has become such a big thing and young people have access to such platforms as well. I didn't have a phone until I was 11 but today I sometimes see 7-year old kids walking around and scrolling on their phones which is sort of sad to see.

I've actually never seen someone abusing their big blog status in a way it was unjustified, though that might only be my opinion.

[sativa-misery]

in regards to what u were saying about the jjba fandom being dead-i def think it'll come back to life (: i used to be a moderately big jjba writer until i got really busy! when i returned everything was sorta...abandoned lol. i know that its really discouraging when you write something and get no engagement (that's partially why i shifted content and decided to pick up multifandom stuff) but i promise it's def leaving a positive mark on ur readers! <3 i remember seeing ur stuff on my dash all the time and genuinely feeling inspired [:

it better come back to life 😩 you’re definitely right about the abandonment being very discouraging :( i see writers in other fandoms getting so many reblogs, comments and anons about their content [ even when it’s a small fic or headcanon ! ] and u just don’t see it in the jjba fandom.

i sound like i’m complaining so much omg, but of course, i’m so grateful for all of the support i have from people following me. but i can definitely see the difference in 5 months ago vs now when it comes to people interacting/messaging me! and it’s so sad to see regular uses come and go :(

i hope to be a lot more active n with uni coming up, it’s gonna be hard but!! i’m gonna make an effort to start queing up content so i don’t have to worry about staying up forever to reply to things! plus actually becoming more motivated to write~ i’ll probs be more active on ao3 bc i feel supported w/ comments over there

[sysba]

@saivilo reblogged your post and added:

ohmygosh!!!!!!!! Bryceeeeee!!!!!!!!

He knew EXACTLY what he was doing here 🙈🙊; he could feel her death glare piercing through his skull. And needless to say, it made him want to tease her some more.

…and so he teased her some more 😳 ………….and you did it once again with these two !!! they’re such a perfect couple together, they really have it all ♥

Seriously, though, I’m no expert when it comes to the medical stuff either (…please…I’ve been studying humanities for 8 years…) - not that THAT was what took my attention while reading 👀, - nor am I an expert when it comes to the writing-the-ns*w-stuff-part but…this. was. HOT.

Sometimes the kind of innuendo you used↑ is enough to make a fic as sexy as it needs to be without being unnecessarily explicit…….and - not to sound weird 🙈 - but I kinda loved to read about this side of Bryce & Vic (they need some couple name lol), if only for a confirmation they’re perfectly harmonized when it comes to their intimacy as well.

At the same time, you managed to make them so uniquely them here (again!); I love how they can read each other SOO well. Then, the exchanges between them, like: I’m going to quiz you, and for every correct answer, you’ll get a reward. How’s that sound? and Vic was all like ‘sure, Bryce you cocky bastard’ - I have a feeling that while Bryce KNEW what he was doing, Victoria KNEW what Bryce was trying to do lol, I love her! - and HONESTLY; who cares about being a walking medical encyclopedia anymore when Bryce Lahela, wearing his pair of basketball shorts (ONLY), is in his teasing mood… (though, I don’t think Victoria had any problem when it came to her studying either, she was always rewarded for the right answers 👀 + btw the line about how she never listened to Ethan’s lectures anyway was somehow the funniest part of this fic 😆).

Another exchange of theirs that deserves a shout-out was that final Victoria’s God, I hate you so much. vs. Bryce’s Mhm, you’re gonna love me in a sec. 😳 It honestly made me blush 😳😳 …And it was, again, a great example of Vic & Bryce’s banter how I remember it.

Anyway, great work !!! I’ll never get enough of these two, they’re perfect ♥. and cute. and funny. and hotttt. one just has to love ‘em.

olivia,,,, you should know, 50% of my motivation to write is my love for Bryce and Vic, the other 50% is you and your lovely reblogs that always leave me speechless and warm & fuzzy inside 😔💖 it’s 1:30am, idek what to say except that I’m so happy you feel that way about ns/fw fics because I can’t bring myself to be more explicit lmao I can read it but cannot write it 😂 I was really uncertain about this fic but your comments are just,,,, uwu now I’m glad I posted this!!!!!!!!!!

also, it’s absolutely not weird, I wanted to write a ns/fw fic about those 2 because I headcanon them to be very physical and it’s something quite important in their relationship!!! (tho I hope no one who went to med school read the fic lol I feel like I wrote such bs lol)

as always you manage to highlight my favourite parts 😌😌😌 Bryce wearing basketball shorts is a gift from the gods (well, Vic looks even better in them and she’s a better player too but that’s another story) and he always knows what he’s doing dfghj you’re right about Vic, too: she knew all the right answers hehe it was just hard to speak 👀 (and lmao yeah Dr Ramsey Dad always lectures her but she zones out and only pretends to listen)

I always reply like this because whenever I need it I search through your tag and re-read all your compliments fghjk you make me swoon I swear!!!! love you sm, stay safe and I hope you’re doing great!!!!

PS. YOU’RE SO RIGHT THEY NEED A COUPLE NAME!!! I’ve been trying to come up with a good one but 😔

[jessiesresources]

Jessie’s Guides: How to Live Better With Depression (AND Anxiety)

Let’s face it, we’re all humans, and humans make mistakes, unhealthy choices, and do crap that can be harmful to us.

So, in this post I will be giving you some tips on life in general based off my own life!

Before we begin, however, I’d like to note a few things! One, what works for me may not work for you, always keep this fact in mind. And Two, I’m not a mental health professional, so take the info I’m giving you with a grain of salt!

Now let’s go!

1. Create a Support System/Team

Creating a support system is a great thing to do, I’d recommend at least three people to be a part of it. I only have two people at the current time, but let me give you some examples of who could be in your support system:

Your Therapist

Your Parents

Your Grandparents

Other Relatives

Friends

People in Group Therapy (If you’re in group therapy).

You can even ask your therapist if their office has peer support, if they do, I’d recommend you’d at least try it out! (Don’t know what Peer Support is? Here’s a Wikipedia Article!)

My current support system contains my dad and my therapist, both to which I talk to about my depression and anxiety. (And a quick note here, using your support system is great, but make sure you also talk about positive stuff going on in your life, constant listening to depressed thoughts isn’t exactly the best thing to do! Just a little bit of advice.)

For those who are not enrolled in therapy, whether it’s due to financial reasons or personal, I strongly recommend you create a support system specifically. I’m not going to say that it’s a replacement for a therapist, but It’s good to know you’re not alone in the midst of it all.

2. Create Your Toolbox

Okay, so what I mean by “Toolbox” is basically your coping skills, don’t just have one to rely on, have several! Try different things, be experimental! To start you off I’ll give you a small list of example coping skills:

Breathing Exercises (Here’s some!)

Meditation (23 Meditation Techniques) 

Exercise

Writing

Doodling/Art

Sewing/Knitting

Anything Creative Really

Listen to Music (Calming, Classical, Ambient Sounds, etc.)

Fidgeting Toys (Amazon Best Sellers)

Organizing/Cleaning

Aaaand so on! These are only some of the things that you can do, I highly encourage you to be experimental like I said earlier!

(ALSO, here’s a list of 99 Coping Skills!)

3. NEVER Procrastinate

We’ve all done it at some point, we’ve all procrastinated at something. I’m here to tell you that you should NEVER procrastinate something when you have anxiety! Anxiety is like a little seed, and the water helping it grow is your procrastination, if you continue to water it, what do you think will happen???

It’ll grow, and it’s just going to keep growing until the situation feels much bigger than it really is.

So, please, if you try anything on this list, please take this advice! It is by far the most important one in my eyes.

4. Routines

Routines can be good when you have depression because once you’ve started it, and formed a habit, it’s hard to break it. It takes around 21 Days to turn something into a habit, and during those 21 Days, it’s gonna take a lot of effort and a whole lot of discipline to get it done.

But when you DO form the habit, once you’ve got a routine going, it’s totally worth it.

Let me give you an example of what a morning routine looks like, or to be more specific, mine at the moment. There’s no real time limit on when these things should be done, but I do aim to have these things done by 10:30 AM. I also give myself a 3 Hour time period to get up, three alarms at different times (7:30, 8:30, and 9:30) because it does take me a while to actually get up lol.

But, notes aside, let’s jump into what my routine looks like!

Wake Up/Turn Off Alarm

Wash Face

Grab a Bottle of Water

Put on Temporary Clothes

Open Blinds

Make Bed

Do Online Stuff (Check Emails, Check Tumblr, etc.)

Fix/Eat Breakfast

Take Pills

(Optional) Set up Pills for the Week

(Optional) Get More Water

Brush Teeth

Exercise

Shower/Misc. Hygiene Stuff

Change Clothes

Check off My Daily To Do List

I know, it seems kinda long, maybe even a little bit complicated. But, this is my routine! Your routine can be as complicated or as simple as you want, it’s your life so you can decide on how you go about it.

5. Planning

Planning can help some people, while with others not so much. For me, I’m kind of like halfway in the middle of it all. I can’t really do specific schedules (For example: Writing at 4:00PM, Lunch at 12:00PM, etc.) but what I can do is take a task and say, I’m going to get this done today. The only time limit is just that I have to get it done at the end of the day.

So, experiment with planning, see what works for you! If you don’t have a physical planner, but you do have a google account, try out google’s calendar!

6. Some Little Things

There are a few little things that you can do to improve your life! And here’s a list of a few of them:

Change up your environment every day!

Ditch soda and coffee, and go for water! (NOTE: Drink water that hasn’t been on your desk for 3 days to a week.)

Have a day of rest planned out!

Perfectionism isn’t the right way to go, just do the best you can!

Learn to reward yourself!

DRY SHAMPOO for the real bad days.

Also for the real bad days, brush your teeth, it’ll help you feel less disgusting.

For the real bad days again, animals help. Go to your pet or watch some cute/funny animal videos.

Talk to someone, or at least try to interact with someone (texting, phone call, face to face, etc.)

Cleaning can help! Try to keep where ever you spend the most time at clean, believe me it helps more than you’ll ever realize.

Try to stay realistic and know your boundaries.

Try to develop a “fuck it” attitude. I’ve noticed how just saying “fuck it” vs “I can do this” is actually more motivating. I’m not sure on the psychology behind this, but it’s just something that works for me.

7. Keep on Moving Forward

I know life is hard, life can be even harder with depression and or anxiety. But, I just want to tell everyone to not give up, keep moving forward, and try to have fun when you can, okay?

Also, if you’re going through a rough patch, and you start thinking about suicide, I’m begging you to call a suicide hotline or to go talk to a professional. If you think for a moment no one cares about you, you are wrong, because I do. I care. I know it might not be much, it’s only words, but I just wanted to let those who needed to know, know that.

(List of Suicide Hotlines)

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