#why do i have to get good at public speaking 🫠
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italiantea · 1 year ago
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*lies down* why are all language learning communities at school centered around debate competitions and traveling🫠
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bunniesnuggie · 1 year ago
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ethan landry as a caregiver
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ethan landry x hyper fem little!reader
summary: just some headcanons of our favorite nerd as a first time caregiver 💕
*this is a non-ghostface au, he’s alive and not a stabby boy 👍🏻💗
*not proofed*
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quick lil heads up - i’ve literally never seen scream 6… and have no idea who anyone is except ethan so, keep that in mind. but i still have been kinda obsessed with him lately :3
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♡finds out by coming home early from class and finding you fully regressed in his dorm
he’s so cute; he didn’t even know anything was “wrong” at first. just enjoying the sight of his adorable girlfriend laying on his bed in his shirt cuddling the build a bears you made for each other, watching barbie movies. that is, until you yelped and leaped off the bed, and literally started crying. traumatized him ™️
♡ himbo DID NOT understand,
he will never EVER judge you. but did have to do research b4 fully getting it, like cutiepie was reading phyc books during his classes and reading different posts online 💕but didn’t say anything abt it to you tho. just kinda became a mama bear one day 😭 he does ask you lots of questions when your big tho
♡ once he does get it tho…. OH BOY
he had no idea he would love taking care of someone so much, this is both of your guys first relationships. everything is new, this is no different to him than learning your favorite things or how you like to be comforted. he knows this is simply coping for you, and he would do anything for you. so helping you heal you inner child is nothing out of the question
♡ soft casual dominance is kinda already his thing, so it comes naturally
so he’s used to tying you shoes for you, holding your hand out in public, he’ll order you food and talk to strangers for you. so when he does become your caregiver, the dynamic in public isn’t really that different 🫶🏻
♡ bathtime, playtime, naps!!!
he loves spending time with you while your regressed!! he colors with you and totally plays dolls or dress up. he’s very pretty and loves when you tell him so while putting clips in his hair☺️
♡ lego bf!
literally buys you sm lego sets, easier ones like duplo for when ur smaller and the more complex “adult” ones for date night :}
♡ he also gets vv invested in your shows and stuffies lives
“he did WHAT?!? why would he do that, can’t he tell that is not Ariel????? i mean her hair isn’t even RED!!!” 🤬🤬 becomes an angry boi. he totally spills the tea with ur stuffies during tea parties😗
♡ makes sure you guys go on “little” dates at least twice a month
you guys are basically attached at the hip, young love and all, so dates are frequent. but when he became ur caregiver, he wanted to make sure you knew he wanted to do this and be there for you 1000%. he also wanted to help you with regressing regularly to help you cope with stress. you once told him that you hadn’t regressed once in like 5 months and it was not fun when you finally did, he learned abt “improper” regression that night and never wanted to let it happen to you again 🥹
♡ embodies spider-man!bf energy
he LOVES the hellokitty!gf x spider-man!bf trends. he literally thinks it was made for you guys nerd. makes you bracelets that say bunny and daddy on it, his is red a blue and urs is pink and white, awe💕💕lowkey feel like he’d dress up as spider-man for halloween too
♡ speaking of nicknames, say good bye to ur real name
even before he found out you were a little, it was always sweetheart, bunny, angel, pretty girl, baby, princess etc that boy loves you so much and he shows it. after though he added in little one, babybug, tiny, dolly…anything that makes you feel especially small
♡ literally always carrying you
this man is 6’2, he makes chad look small he towers over you and absolutely loves it. so he takes advantage of it when he can, piggyback rides are a common occurrence. he loves just holding you in his lap, seeing ur tiny body take up such little space and fit perfectly on him, makes him 🫠
♡ is SO SOO protective
people take him for granted, thinking he’s just some sweet, docile nerd who loves econ. and while that is true, bby can kick butt and will for you. he doesn’t let anyone near you while regressed, heck or even see pictures of you regressed. that is your safe space. he will be damned if he lets anyone taint it. he also asked of you would be ok with him monitoring you socials while small, especially if you have agere accounts. he does not take anon hate lightly and will not tolerate any nsfw accounts trying to interact with you
♡ he just loves you so much and wants u to always be happy
like i said he will do absolutely anything for you, that boy loves you more than anything in the world. he shows it to you every day, whether that be in big space by showering you with kisses and complements, showing you off in public with an uncomfy amount of pda. or in the comfort of your room, surrounded by stuffies and coloring books while your dada reads you a story 💗
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a/n: ahhhh i’m back!!!! sorry it’s literally been like….a year👀i haven’t regressed in a very very long time and just haven’t had motivation to post :( i’ve also been obsessed with new ppl so i’ve been writhing non-eddie stuff lately :3 anywho here’s a lil smth smth and hopefully i’ll be posting a bit again. i want to write abt barry from obx but idk if anyone would care or read it 😭😭might just draft that one for me lol. i’ve also got a lot of requests and wips to finish so it’s just up to me to write them 🫠😭
*i’ll be updating my character list to included the new ppl i want to write about!!!
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papirouge · 1 year ago
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As a christian with friends in palestine right now, I’m fuming that the deranged demonic scrotes of hamas literally ruined all the public support palestine had in a matter of moments. Parading dead naked women around, spitting on their bodies and calling for war. Meanwhile back in palestine the few remaining christians are going to be double attacked and forgotten. Christians had a hard time already since hamas is a radical muslim group funded by Iran to create scrote paradise in the ways of islam. And they were supported by most muslims. Now electricity will be cut, water cut off, this is a nightmare.
- basing support of the Palestinian struggle depending on the action of a terrorist group was already a bad idea🫠 those "I'm a leftist Jewish who always defended Palestine but I don't have a crumb of compassion left for Palestinian today" posts belong to that category. It's interesting how they will expect support from people because "they are not their [Zionist far right racial supremacist] government".... and then turn around and remove their alleged support of the Palestinians over the actions of...Hamas (who seemingly didn't get democratically elected since years). I mean, which one is it?
- I'm genuinely confused at people discovering what.....war is. Raped women, dead bodies paraded around, torture.... Do you think such barbaric behavior are exclusive to the Hamas? Do you think that some war are immune to this barbary? Hamas is just stupid enough to do it in the open (war on image). US troops were caught torturing and taking pics of prisoner at Abu Grahib (but at least those photos weren't supposed to be passed around for the whole world to see...) how any of what's happening different? Because it's a (dead) woman? Because the killers are Arab/Muslim? all the people who are bringing up this story really need to ask themselves why *this* story picked up their indignation but other war crimes didn't. Why they either turned a blind eye or openly support(ed) wars where the same thing did happen... or is that because there was no camera to film so to them it doesn't happen? One cannot live with such cognitive dissonance for that long. There's no "clean" war. War turns ANYONE into animals.. not only brown skin Muslims.
The same flock of hypocrites who supported war in Ukraine are now clutching their pearls at insurrectional violence... As if "some" wars didn't have civilians casualties, women or children raped, dead bodies brutalized... And they are calling for "Israel to defend itself" as if the very same thing they accuse Hamas of doing won't be done by Tsahal (but not before a camera, which apparently makes a difference somehow)....
One thing about me is that I've always been consistent with my stance about violence. I've been called delusional for calling Christians to not engage with weapons/guns self defense, or for saying that WWII allies were demonic for wiping out the German city of Dresden just because Germany was the "bad guy". Some week ago I made a post calling out people defending the atomic bomb on Japanese civilians because they were the "bad guys"....
There's no "good guy" in war, and anyone calling for war (or ✨self defense✨) is already morally corrupt. Souls are precious. God doesn't want us to waste any away playing satan's playbook.
- the support of Christian Palestinian was already pretty nonexistent anyway, but it's definitely going to get worse. I can't help but roll my eyes at Israelis mad at Westerners defending Palestinians that it's easy for us to make shitty posts out of the comfort of our house without having a leg in this conflict" and she was ironically right because yeah, that's precisely BECAUSE we have this comfort we can speak for those who can't. We don't have only 3 hours of electricity a day. We have free wifi, the coverage, the time. Palestinians -that Israelis can't accuse of not having a leg in this conflict- actually ASK us to be a "sounding board" for their cause... Such post is an admission of failure. It's just some good ol' gaslighting because they know they're losing more and more support from the world.
I think I'm the onlt Christian on Tumblr consistently talking about the fate of Palestinians/Arab Christians and how they're always forgotten by Western Christians. But I don't. Christian Palestinian are stuck between both Muslim and Jewish religious supremacist, and while Western Christians will rightfully call out Muslim fanatism, they will never have the courage to speak up against Zionism. And I'm so angry for that.
If anyone has money, please donate to Friends of the Holy Land, a Palestinian Christian charity 🙏��
I've been following and occasionally donating to them and they're legit. I also recommend subscribing to their newsletter which provide information about their initiatives 🤍✝️🩵
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todayisawthewhxlewxrld · 10 months ago
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AXEL‼️ today i almost shit myself at school(not actually)
I hate the first day back. my spanish teacher loves to call on me bc she knows im not confident with my spanish and that i have a fear of public speaking (i dont even know why i’ve been fluent since i was 5💀) SO SHE LIKES TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THAT AND CALL ON ME TO READ THE LONGEST PARAGRAPH IN WHATEVER TEXTBOOK, ARTICLE OR LITERALLY WHATEVER WE’RE READING 😭 ITS LIKE SHE’LL LET EVERYONE ELSE READ THE SHORT STUFF AND THEN SHE’LL MAKE ME READ WAY MORE THAN EVERYONE ELSE AND IM JUST LIKE?? i get that its to “help build confidence” and shit like that but is it really helping if her “helping me build confidence” made me have a panic attack last year? I DONT THINK SO.
oh yeah so you’re probably wondering abt the panic attack thing🧍‍♀️ so lemme just give you a little back story first about how i feel about her class and stuff‼️ her class terrified me. like every time i would enter i’d be shaking and my heart would be beating so hard that i could feel it in my throat… kinda embarrassing…
but anyway it was just cause we had to present a something we made for a project and i was losing my mind because my friends didnt want to present it and my class was pretty big and filled with a bunch of rude and snotty people so i went to talk to the teacher to ask if i could just present to her privately or something but she said no so like i lowk freaked out and had a break down in the middle of the hallway 💀
honestly though the work isnt that hard considering i passed spanish with an A throughout the years but i just HATE talking in front of the class because for one my accent is different than everyone elses and two im one of the only non native spanish speakers so im kinda just like on edge cause yk how some people are theyre just not nice 🫠
anyway for the rest of the school day things were pretty good except J was being weird again and i think he was trying to flirt with me? he was just being rlly inappropriate and kept stealing my stuff 🫠 he stole my bag and then tried to go through it and then he asked if i had a dildo in my bag and if i like using it 😟 he then proceeded to walk around the class and tell people i have a dildo in my bag. i probably should’ve told C or a teacher idk why i didn’t 😭 oh yeah speaking of C hella people think we’re dating AND NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES I TELL THEM WE’RE NOT THEY WONT SHUT UP AND JUST KEEP TELLING EVERYONE THAT WE’RE DATING.
oh i alsofell asleep in english😭 i got lucky at the teacher didnt notice though‼️ and then my friend fell down the stairs
ANYWAY THATS ALL‼️ so how are you axel? OOO WHATS YOUR FAVORITE ANIMAL??
thats all for today! byebye and ilysm 💗💗
-bambi
dude i swear to god spanish teachers r either the worst person on this planet or the sweetest person ever no in between…. LIKE WHY IS SHE TARGETING U OMG i’d have to start swinging i fear…
i need J to like explode why does he act like that do u think it’s bc he doesn’t get attention at home… that’s mean sorry LMFAO um anyway i hope he leaves u the hell alone already bc u deserve it😍😍
UR FRIEND FELL DOWN THE STAIRS ?1?1??1 HELP R THEY OK???😭😭😭
i’m ok!!! and HMMMM my favorite animals r probably bats !!! what is urs :0
BYEEE ILYT!!!!
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ur-blxxdy-valentine · 8 months ago
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Right? I've heard it's really yummy :3 Yea I did! I've gotten in quite a few fights before but I never got in trouble and ya the kid deserved it. Right? I feel bad for him :( same with this female russian school shooter.... I forgot her name but hers was really sad too :( Yea he had a list of his favorite music online and even had a Spotify playlist haha. It's really nice bc alot of the music he listened to is some I listen to. Kinda, was my dad until he went to bed but all good now ^-^ but sadly there's not much info on him released. Russia doesn't like releasing info on their school shooters yet willingly leaked and posted Vladi's autopsy pictures and autopsy reports, along with his death pictures which (holy shit wow- ;-;) I know he had a Facebook account and I plan on stalking his past accounts because why not haha. And when I know enough Russian (which will be years from now) or if I can find a medium who speaks Russian and English I can try summoning his spirit and talk to him!!!!! I think the reason why I like him so much and his case is because I relate to him and two damn his body count and the amount of destruction he caused was amazing. Sorry ranting- I wanna talk to you about you and stuff not some boy- 🫠
The alcohol is making me want to be so honest right now and it's killing me from the inside out....... imma just be blunt- can I like know everything about you dove..... please- it's stupid and silly but I somehow have a crush on you and find you so enticing and mysterious and I like it and it's dragging me to you more- I hope it's not too strong....... I can cut back if you'd like-
— ❤️‍🔥
aaah sorry for the late reply i was trying to make caramel !! took me three tries but i think i did it right finally (o^^o) wow how did you find autopsy reports? i didn’t know they ever released those to the public ! it’s honestly so interesting to have someone you can do so much like modern research on from their own creations like accounts and stuff. hehe sorry i like learning about new thingssss i don’t really get asked about myself (・ω・`〃)
oh? hmm i’ll go through the basics of me! i like baking (obviously) i like dying my hair a lot but currently it’s dark brown with blonde strands :) my favourite animal is whale sharks! i love true crime, horror movies, and rpg horror games. i spend most of my time listening to music and day dreaming honestly dndjjdnf and i think that’s it
i can’t stop someone from crushing on me, but i definitely encourage you not to. i’m not someone to have a crush on if that makes sense ahhhdbfbbfhf
but i am so so honoured (⁄ ⁄•⁄ω⁄•⁄ ⁄)⁄
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thebaepatricia · 1 year ago
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Week's Recap: August 21-27, 2023 🥒✏️🧡
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I realized I have been writing a lot of weekly favorites into positive, although they're not objectively positive. So I created a new category! Anyway, for this week, I'm not proud that I've been waking up early, but I'm so tired a lot of times due to my luteal phase. 😵‍💫 It's a good sign, though. It means my body is in sync!
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Chicken spread sandwich with sliced cucumber 🥒🥪
Nice twilight walk — took lots of pictures of sunset 🥹🌇
Monday: Tokwa’t baboy for dinner 🍚
Monday: Spam & hotdog combo for breakfast
✏️💖 Wrote “I Thought Training Was The Goal. As It Turns Out, It Is Simply The Gateway To Bigger, Better Things”
Laughed and felt the happy hormones kick in from this video 😂 (I wasn’t laughing at her — I was laughing WITH her lol)
Sunday: Dalagang bukid for breakfast, Sinigang na baboy for lunch 🧡
Tiki sleeping by my feet (her being afraid of heavy rain made the perfect excuse for some cuddles)
Had me time making chicken sandwich spread while watching The Ultimatum Season 2
Made a spontenous write up + graphics: 4 Blunt Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ego Lift
Neutral
Pocari Sweat restock arrived (15pcs) 👍🏼
Tuesday: Let myself sleep in this morning until my pinching headache went away (positive note: listened to my body)
Positive
🙌🏼 Pass-muster 70kg on zerchers despite being in my luteal phase
Made a random day in the life vlog 😛 (beat my public speaking anxiety that day)
That sense of fulfillment and gratitude everytime I get to do a small graphic work
Work: Willed myself to focus on following up and I was able to do 109 within 1 hour
Deadlift 102.5kg for smooth 3x3 🫱🏻‍🫲🏼 Converted my anger to positive energy lol
Made a Facebook page for Strength by Dan because managing 2 apps is not enough 🫠
Pushed through with my workout even though I zero plans doing it — aka Discipline 🫱🏻‍🫲🏼💗
“Negative” A.K.A. Lessons
Heavy rain — Be vigilant with house management
Noisy neighborhood doing nonstop karaoke 🎤😵‍💫
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aquagustd · 3 years ago
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help 😭 what should i do about my cousins ex girlfriend that keeps on trying to talk to me? the obvious answer is to tell her to stop but listen, i can’t say no to someone. let’s name her ashley (don’t ask why lmao i don’t know either). so ashley had ig told one out of two of her friends that she was with at the time, to ask me if i wanted to sit with them during lunch. and of course i said sure because that’s just me, i’m always nice to everyone. but here’s where i knew she was a red flag, as soon as i sat down with her yesterday, she asked me if i related to my cousin. i didn’t even know she was my cousins ex because honestly i don’t care. my cousin doesn’t care about me nor talk to me ever, so i don’t know much about his life. we used to be best friends but as we grew older, he got popular, and well let’s just say i’ve never had a friend in my life before. so just from me never talking to people at my school, i knew there was something off from the start. because someone like ashley, who’s popular, doesn’t talk to people like me out of know where. you know? like it doesn’t add up, unless she wants something from me—but back to what i was saying about ashley asking me if me and my cousin were related, i’m pretty sure, like 99.9% sure, that she’s just using me to get back with my cousin since him and his current girlfriend had broken up for like a few days because of some rumors people made.
but i just saw my cousin — let’s give him a name because it might be confusing, i’ll name him jacob and his girlfriend, emma. so i saw jacob and emma at his house today so i guess they worked things out? not sure if that just happened today but i hope word spreads around and ashley stops talking to me.
but what gets me so mad and confused is that ashley didn’t even talk to me today after she was literally the one that wanted me to sit with them. like huh???🤨 what was the point then? wasting my time. but anyways i just talked to one of her friends sitting next to me because i know she’s nice since she’s been in one of my classes before. this has always happened to me tho, since literally elementary school. people using me to get to my cousin. it makes me feel like no one would ever want to talk to me for me. am i really that lame and pathetic? i’ve always had a “idgaf” mentality but this actually hurts me. i feel so used. i’m so angry at ashley for using me that im debating whether or not to say something about it tomorrow if she asks me again to sit with her.
i have severe social anxiety tho so i don’t think i could ever actually call her out on it. ugh i literally hate myself for saying yes every time and letting myself get taken advantage of over and over again. it’s so embarrassing when i’m sitting with them just seeing all the kids look at me and laughing because i’m pretty sure they know ashley’s real intentions.
i’m sorry for ranting and writing so much. i just had to let it out. hopefully you or any readers who actually took the time to read all this, because omg i wrote a lot, can give me some advice. im truly stuck and feel so pathetic rn 😕
I got your other ask too & Im totally fine with giving advice lmao i love giving big sis advice heh as long as there’s no trauma dumping/over sharing 🫠
okay. to start off — from what you’ve said — it’s definitely looking like she only tried to talk to you/get you to sit with her bc she wants info on your cousin. bc why else would she suddenly ask at the same time that your cousin & his gf had a lil fallout ?? AND THEN not talk to you after things look good for them again. that’s weird 🤨 that’s suspicious 🤨
also you’re not lame at all. i have like 3 friends bc i don’t really mingle with people & i have major rbf so i’m not very approachable in public either 💀 BUT you are not lame at all !! social anxiety is not an easy thing to deal with & don’t ever put yourself down over something you can’t control.
if you have a history of people only speaking to you bc of your cousin, & with the way ashley is acting. the signs are there. i suggest that you should just not sit with her from now on. and if she approaches you again & if you literaly don’t want to go through that feeling of being used/ignored again when she was the one who called you over — then just brush her off. politely say no. since you’re someone who doesn’t do confrontation, and you don’t want to put yourself into a difficult and uncomfortable situation.
just shake your head & walk away, if you can’t say no in that moment. trust me i know what social anxiety is like. 🥲 but pls don’t ever put yourself in a situation where you know you’re gonna be feeling like shit.
also you could make it clear to her, like just casually drop it in the conversation that you & your cousin do not talk, you don’t interact so you really don’t know what’s going on in his life. she’ll get the hint and leave you alone if info about him is all she wants 🤚🏻
i hope that helps <3
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the-jam-to-the-unicorn · 5 months ago
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I'll have a couple of thoughts and could quote the whole interview more or less and tags will not be enough, so I put everything under a cut. (Looong post)
The first few seconds start in a good way, and you have no idea what is about to come. 🫠
The first ~9,20min are her talking about her work and the war. After that the personal part starts.
On a side note - once again, a really good explanation from her why she doesn't comment on certain political topics or events or doesn't answer some political questions. She explained that in the past here and there, but somehow there are still people who give her hell for it. But her explanation is actually really good and makes sense, and she's right. Yeah, she is the First Lady. But FL is not an official position or government role in Ukraine, so while society expects her to perform her duties, her job is basically to look pretty next to Vova, host stuff and do some society work and improve things. That she already did political stuff pre-war and even more now (including basically performing the role of an ambassador, diplomat and employee of her husband who represents him) while still being "just" FL is for sure a very hard balance act she has to manage. Because especially now people pay attention to her words and if she says (or does) something wrong, this could fall back to Vova and hurt his efforts and work.
When the interviewer asked about what is it like to be married to Ze, I fully expected her usual in love answer about her amazing husband and life being fun and never boring with him, while blushing and giggling and smiling from ear to ear. Well, nothing could have prepared me for what she answered instead. 🫠 ESPECIALLY SINCE THE BEGINNING OF HER ANSWER WAS SWEET!
Also interesting how much her view on how Ze's Presidency influenced their life has changes. Pre war it was mostly "big influence" and changed a lot and life-changing decision and everything. And now, with the war, that view on it certainly has changed. Which makes sense, because of course such a war and what happened to them is far more life-changing than "her husband getting a new job", so to speak. And how it influences their life now is absolutely bigger. Also interesting how Olena now summarizes the whole his decision - her decision. Considering her initial decision was indeed to work in the shadows and she only joined him and took her role because pressure from public and Vova needed her, as First Lady but mostly as emotional support and by his side (and she still half stayed in the shadows). On the other hand, again: war life - normal life. That war has (had) such an impact that she probably now sees her past life differently or from a different perspective. Very similar to Ze who also does this and voiced it in interviews.
"Regardless of your own emotional state" 😭😭😭 That woman (both of them) are so strong. Like, can you imagine, which everything they experience and see and hear, how broken and depressed and traumatised and exhausted they must be occasionally, sometimes, most of the time,... and they STILL and BOTH put their job and the country and people before themselves and are there for the people. To be the emotional support system for EVERYONE. I know we always talk about Vova literally being a servant of his people and how he works and his moral compass and his ethics and everything. But as different as they are - in these points, they're very similar. And Olena is just as well a servant of the people. Not by her choice and willingly, like Vova, but still as determined, strong, steadfast to do the job. And, also exactly like Vova, she finds people and their support inspiring and gets energy from that. Which is even more interesting, considering her character and shy / introvert nature.
Olena talking about their separate lives and the kids needing her father somehow hit different this time. I don't know what it was, but it feels more ... needed? The father back in their lives? Maybe also because of what she said afterwards: "He's getting tired of this lifestyle.". I mean ... how fucking MUCH must he miss his family that she says that so openly and honestly??? Like...that's totally a sentence that could backfire on Vova. (Which Olena for sure knows. But she still feels the need to say it.) We probably can't even imagine the PAIN Vova must be feeling at this point about being separated from his family so much. And having to be for obvious reasons. But missing them so so SO MUCH because he needs them. (And if you think back ... he talked about his family and their meetings and his kids and meeting Olena way more often in recent interviews.) (On a side note: again a parallel to Vova. The "we can't complain, others have it worse, at least we can see each other". And the inability to allow themselve the say "Yes, we actually live in a fucking awful situation.". Always putting other people and their stories and tragedies before themselves.)
About the whole "how strong is your marriage, how do you cope as a couple" quesiton ... . First and foremost, it's a very, very, very positive answer and basically a verbal confirmation of what we see. They have a really, really, REALLY STRONG marriage. Which is their luck and most valuable "thing" in this situation (as Olena herself says). And we can discuss back and forth if it's a good thing or a bad thing that most likely they put their marriage / relationship before everything else in their life and this was always priority #1 (minus that one time with Ze and his decision). Which also includes their family, if you think back to Olena's decision to stay with Ze and go that path together, as a couple, despite Oleksandra (and their families) not really being thrilled about him running for President. And while I see why people could have a problem with that, I want to offer a thought. The reason they have such a loving, strong, stable, and peaceful family life is because they not only teach their children important lessons about relationships, but their relationship / marriage is okay and well. If the parents are strong and happy and united and loving each other, this reflects back on the family.
That being said - Olena joking about not having a clue why everything is good also speaks for a strong marriage and actually everything being good. (I can't wait for people to misunderstand her here again, like the "pause" comment in the past ... ; I mean, honestly, everyone would expect that a marriage suffers and breaks under such circumstances. And they manage to cope surprisingly well, so a certain ironic look on it that this is, what it is, for whatever reason ... is something a lot of people would have in such a situation. You expect the worst, you know rationally, a lot of worse things are going to happen / should happen ... and somehow, they still happen, but the expected effect doesn't happen?!? Weird??? Why? What's going on? ... you know what I mean.) And Olena actually says something really important (and kind of answers her questions): they need each other because of all the trials they've been put through. Because they are together. They go through this together. They live apart and alone but they're not lonely. They always had and always will have each other. They went through ever hard challenge in their life's together because no matter what - they had each other and their love. And that is such a strong bond, such a powerful love. That is 100% commitment to each other and love for each other every single day. And on the same level that need for each other. There is not one person in this world who would understand them better. And while people like Irina, Andriy or Maks or other people are for sure a big help to get through this - ultimately, they both keep each other sane and here and going and most of all alive.
On a side note: Olena joking about the reason being that they see each other frequently and always have something to talk about and bore each other ... 😄. Ah, yes, a classic Olena. 😁 I love her sarcastic and sometimes very dry humour (which remains me of an interview and someone - no idea who - mentioned that Olena can have the most brutally honest humour you can imagine and very easily can joke about herself and people or things close and important to her (not in a mean way)). Also even more funnier, when you think back to another recent interview where Olena basically was like "sometimes we just sit next to each other and say nothing and it's silent and that's very nice that no one is talking and he have nothing to talk about". 😄
"We don't make each other angry, we don't fight". Reminds me of an older interview where Olena was like "sometimes he's DRIVING ME NUTS but I love him so ..." or where Vova joked about them "fighting" about the most boring things or Olena being angry with him about everyday stuff and usual couple problems or him not being able to be angry with her for long. Also Olena basically saying in the past that, of course, like every couple, they do fight, but it's very rarely. So ... yeah ... . 😅
First, her thoughts about couple therapy were a but surprising. But on the other hand - one marriage of one of her best friends is over, and the last update was divorce. And the marriage of her other best friend seems to be also in trouble. Maybe both or one of them also used such therpay ... so. Yeah. Actually, it's not so surprising that she isn't that sure about the effectiveness of it.
"I hope Volodymyr and I won't need such therapy". Yeah, I'm pretty sure you two are good, Olena, and won't need it. 😄 Not as long as you two look at each other like that and cuddle and hold hands at every given opportunity und are crazy for each other. And all the million other things. 😁 (And if these two ever break up - love is dead and not real. If these two don't make it, no one will.)
Not so much new things about how she copes with her own mental health, but FAAAR more open and brutally honest about it. And very, very heartbreaking. Which is either good because she's healing and getting better and can talk about it. Or she's actually pretty worse and it gets harder to mask / hide. Considering her answers I really want to believe in the first option but the second one could it be as well.
(I also get more and more the impression that her studying again is either Psychology or has something to do with it.)
I somehow can't help myself to project her words about her mental health and how she's dealing and how bad she is, on Vova. If she already sufferes so much ... how much must Vova suffer? How bad must his mental health be?
"There are moments were I feel I am close to a psychological burnout" 💔💔💔💔💔
Also Olena also finding strength and rest in family moments. Like Ze. 🥹❤️ (maybe an addition to what I wrote earlier - while they put their marriage before everything else, including their family - without a doubt their family is also priority #1 and the most important thing in the world. Both things basically co-exist.)
Her answer about sport is interesting. I faintly remember Olena talking about sport (pre-war, pre-presidency). And how Vova tried to make her do sports and she never really did, only after Sasha's birth and the problems with her weight and everything and how ultimately it's just something she has to do to stay fit and healthy (like eating healthy). While for Vova, as we know, sport was always his way of coping with everything and his place to get everything out in his mind. So interesting this attitude now also is in her and sport is now a way to deal with everything. Very similar to Vova now doing sport and his answers about it.
Cleaning as coping is so real. 🙈🙈🙈
Her answer about Ukrainian - Russian was very, very interesting. Also, her own personal story about switching languages. And especially interesting that she seemingly switched to Ukrainian earlier than Ze (he probably stayed for similar reasons she stated) and that the language issue seems to be an important part of identity for her (or question about it), maybe more than for Vova.
Also the whole last past about the importance of knowing Russian ... . Very interesting part, as I said.
Equally interesting was her answer about "1984" and Russia having parallels with Orwellian dystopia (I agree). Also about people being so brainwashed.
THAT COPING QUESTION. I WAS NOT PREPARED. 😭😭😭 Especially not for Olena's answer. 😭😭😭 That deep breath and rapid blinking. 💔💔💔 And again that not showing weakness to the kids because she has to be strong for them. Like in that night and the days after. Sometimes I wonder - since we talk about a kid that is an adult and two obviously smart kids - how much they notice from the stuff Olena (and Vova) think they don't notice ... .
Olena not being able to cope (at night) and her admitting it ... so basically confirming things like nightmares or panic attacks. 💔💔💔 I mean, we all knew she most likely has it and kind of very very very vaguely said it in the past. But that's probably the most direct answer we ever got from her about it. (Again, don't try to think about Vova and how he must be if this is her situation. 😭)
(Also, a bit ... paradoxically?! That on the one side, she is glad the kids don't see it and see her as a source of strength and everything. But on the other hand ... she talks about it. ... so they will still know?! Or does this mean, while the kids do have access to the internet, Olena (and Ze) still limit certain things and certain interview and stuff are forbidden for the kids so they don't know certain things???)
The cry answer. 💔 What a change to earlier in war, when she she would cry all the time and can't stop sometimes and everything makes her cry. To now allowing (!!!) herself to cry in certain situations when they're very sad. Well, maybe she was talking about situations with the kids and giving in her emotions and cry in front of the kids. Not about her privately. Because I absolutely hope so. I mean, sure, maybe that allowing is a way if coping for her, because otherwise she would be do overwhelmed and paralysed and would just cry and get nothing done. But letting that out, is also very important. But yeah, probably talking about situations with the kids and using these moments to let her emotions out in a concentrated and really aware moment.
(Also the moments of happiness have changed. In earlier interviews it was stuff close to her - sunshine, being outside, seeing a cat, ... . Now it's happy moments strength from other people.)
And again, at the end, minimising herself and her work. 🫠🫠🫠 What is with these two that they're always sooo humble about themselves and their work??? "Other people do more, other people work harder, other people have it worse, other people to far more important things in this war, ...". Yeah, so? These two still do one of the most horrible, challenging and draining jobs. And I wish someone would scream at them every day how fucking awesome they are until they believe it and get a bit more "arrogant" about it. 😄
Olena's new interview for The Telegraph
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