#which is worse than tummy ache in the short term so...

[moomeecore]

on god the people who invented takis are going to hell for making a food that is a fun shape, a wonderful texture, great taste, unbelievably unbearably addictive AND SIMOLTANIOUSLY the absolute worst food for your stomach health basically ever. please please i need someone to steal the secret formula for takis and make a version that has the same shape and taste and texture but doesn't make gastroenterologists hate you. i already have stomach issues AND i eat two fiesta sized taki bags a week. im going to die and im holding the taki brand personally accountable

[tutuchlee]

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Star Gazers

Author note: Hey guys! Here is the sk8 infinity fic I have been working on for anon !

I apologize for the wait, I was planning to have it done last night but 3 hours in I accidentally refreshed the page and lost my ENTIRE fic!

I also apologize if the writing quality is not it’s best— after losing the fic yesterday I found it hard to rewrite many parts and struggled with find my groove again. I’ve rewritten this about 4 times now and this was the best I managed to do.

I hope you all enjoy regardless, and I promise to do better in the future!

Summary: After finally coming to his senses, Reki makes up with Langa, only for Langa to give him a piece of his mind!

Word count: 2767 

Warnings: Some swearing, tickles, this fic takes place at the end of ep 10, so SPOILERS for those who have not gotten that far

Ships: Reki x Langa

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Misery. 

It was the only word that came to mind to describe the hell of a week Reki had gone through. 

It wasn’t easy to come to terms with the skill difference between him and his friends, especially his boyfriend who had surpassed all of them in the timespan of a couple of months. On top of that-- getting beat up, hit by a car, then waking up in a random hotel room really put the cherry on top for the young skater. 

The world felt as though it was completely against the young firecracker. 

However, none of his injuries could compare to the heart aching pain he had to go through from pushing his boyfriend away. 

Langa deserved none of this, for how could he? He was naturally talented in skating, and Reki should have been proud. He was his teacher after all--and usually a teacher wants their pupal to succeed, but for Reki, he just wished he could compare. 

Langa no longer needed him. 

He’d already taught himself far more tricks than Reki could have dreamed of and perfected each and every one of them. Meanwhile, Reki was falling behind, and drowning in his own sorrow. 

Perhaps what upset him more was the fact he still wished to skate against Adam. Watching them the last time had set Reki off for quite some time, for how could it not? Adam touched Langa as if he owned him, and on top of that he was already calling the two of them Adam and Eve! Who even was this guy!

But even so, Reki knew his actions were wrong. Ignoring his boyfriend, yelling at him and even purposely avoiding him was definitely the receipt for the worse boyfriend award. 

And of all places he had to realize this, it had to be upon waking up in the love hotel with some random guy. He had rushed home as soon as he could after giving a heart filled reply to the strange man who had asked him to quit skating, and realized his love for skating didn’t happen from being better from everyone, but from skating with those you love. 

Which was how the two lovers ended up here; Reki sprawled out on his back with Langa taking a faceplant into his stomach at the skate park once used to teach snow his first ollie. 

A groan escaped from Reki’s mouth as he slowly propped himself on his elbows, using one of his hands to rub the back of his head. “Langa..!” he whined, looking down at the snowflake that had yet to move, “Why didn’t you dodge me!” he asked with a subtle pout on his face.

Silence passed over the two with no response from the other. Instead, Reki noticed a slight quivering of his shoulders, and his panic quickly spiked. Disregarding his injuries, his attention was now on his boyfriend which he feared was injured.

“Langa!” he called out once more, moving his hand away from his head to gently nudge the others back.

 That’s when he was met with those beautiful sky blue eyes, with none other than a huge grin plastered across his face as laughter spilled out. His anxiety soon melted away at the sight as his eyes lit up, taking in the sight of his Canadian boyfriend. 

And eventually Langa’s laughter died down to a comforting silence as the two lovers gazed into each others eyes.

It was moments like these that Reki both loved and hated. He loved looking at his gorgeous boyfriend, basking in the affection he always gave off—but hated that he could not last more than five seconds without becoming a flustered mess.

His cheeks had blossomed into a crimson red as he quickly brought his arm up, draping it over his face as an attempt to shield himself from the other. And as he peeled his eyes away he glanced off into the distance, trying to give himself a chance to calm down. 

“Did you hit your head or something..?” He asked, trying to break the awkward silence he had created.

However, for Langa, he adored Reki’s reaction each time, sometimes purposely doing things just to see his firecracker sizzle. It was not easy to tame the other, especially with his hyper personality, but he found that with a little affection he could get the other to soften down. So adorable.

So, as he looked up at the other, he was unable to hold back anymore. From the bottom of his heart, Langa began his barrage of compliments to the other, telling him how much he cherished him as a skater and a lover. Reki had taught him everything he knew-- and seeing him hate skating just because of it pained Langa more than he thought it would. 

It had been everything Reki needed to hear and more, filling the void he had created of self-doubt. His words comforted him like a blanket, making his previous view on himself disappear as he continued to spill sweet nothings. It was all too much for poor Reki.

Langa knew Reki couldn’t handle compliments, and Reki mentally cursed at him for it as the crimson tint slowly crawled to the tips of his ears. Unable to take much more, Reki quickly put his hand out, stealing a glance at the pale face as he cut him off, “That’s enough! That’s really enough..!” he muttered sheepishly.

Curse you Langa.

But truly, the redhead felt at ease from his anxiety. And as he let out an embarrassed cry, he slowly fell back onto the concrete as Langa’s words circulated throughout his head, playing like a broken record. 

Feeling satisfied, Langa slowly lowered his chin down atop Reki’s stomach again, pressing his cheek against him as he too laid with the other.

And as the silence continued, Reki’s thoughts only wandered, thinking about what his next step would be in terms of skating and making it up to Miya for breaking his trust. But—those thoughts were cut short when an electrifying jolt pulled him out of thought, causing an unattractive shriek to escape his lips as he immediately sat up, looking down at the culprit.

There Langa laid, burrowing the tip of his nose against the lining of skin exposed by his shirt, abusing the access by lightly peppering kisses along the soft tummy it showed. It felt as if there were butterflies battering their wings against his belly, sending shivers down his spine with each kiss.

“H-hey!” he screeched, his voice cracking as he squirmed beneath him, “Quit it, you know I can’t stand it when you do this!”

Did Langa know this? Perhaps. But would he stop now? No.

Those gorgeous blue eyes Reki loved so much slowly rose to meet his, a clear mischief behind them that he didn’t want to acknowledge. His arms slowly wrapped around his lovers torso, encasing him in a trap Reki with he’d seen sooner. 

“Reki, I haven’t been able to hear your laugh in over a week. Don’t you think thats a little cruel?” He asked, a look of disappointment yet playfulness on his face.

This was it for little Reki. His instincts to run were starting to kick in, but as he squirmed below the other he realized now there was no way of getting out of this. Perhaps, plan B?

“L-Langa, wai-AIT!” 

His voice cracked mid plead as two fingers found their way to his sides, jabbing into that practically sensitive spot just between his ribs and hips. His back snapped straight at the unexpected sensation, causing yet another yelp from the teen. 

In a desperate attempt to stop the other, he reached down and grabbed his shirt, hoping to shut him out of the unfair advantage he had of his bare skin. However, that attempt was deemed a fail after he pulled the shirt over Langa’s head, trapping him and his devious intentions inside.

Unable to help a smirk from growing on his lips, the now trapped Langa pressed his cheek against the others stomach, rubbing it gracefully against his skin as if to show he was getting comfy. He let the other have a moment, peacefully laying there as his plan was going better than intended.

Reki, on the other hand, was a squirming mess. His mind was becoming discombobulated as he tried to figure out what the next move from the other was. But that was proven difficult since all he could feel was Langa’s breath, lightly dusting against the hairs lining his belly, making each one stand on end.

All he could do now was plea, hoping that his snowflake would have mercy on him. But alas, his words only went through one ear out the other, having no affect whatsoever on the situation.

With a light chuckle, the assault began. 

The fingers glued to his sides began wiggling, digging out the laughter he patiently waited for. It took everything Reki had not to scream as he jolted from side to side, his voice cracking while he erupted with his shrieky laughter. 

 It truly was music to Langa’s ears. His head bounced against his quivering stomach, getting to feel and hear his laughter as it echoed all around the skatepark.

But was it greedy for him to want more?

As his fingers wiggled deviously into the curves of his sides, he decided to change it up. Without warning, his wiggling fingers came to a stop, and instead changing to something much more unbearable. 

They gently pinched the others skin, making sure to get right into the grooves of his side to hit the spots he knew he couldn’t handle. He’d move up and down much as his wrist allowed him to, occasionally vibrating a particular spot that got a good reaction from the redhead.

To add onto that, those butterfly kisses soon returned across his stomach, turning him into a pile of mush as he laughed his head off.

Reki was always known for his loud and cracky tone of voice, and it truly showed through his laughter that changed in pitch every few seconds, cracking and screeching every time his sides would get drilled. 

There was little to no hope of getting out of this, and no amount of shoving or pleads seemed to be working, so all he could do now was take it. 

Squeezing his eyes shut, he slowly fell back in a heap of laughter, squirming beneath his boyfriend holding him hostage.

Anyone walking around might question what crime scene was taking place in the skate park, but to their luck no one came to check.

Instead he was left there to laugh his throat hoarse by his boyfriend who seemed to be enjoying this much more than he was. 

For minutes on end, Langa would pinch and drill into his sides, occasionally spidering his finger nails across the bare skin to cause his poor redhead to twitch and cry out with laughter. 

“L-LAHAnga!” he’d repeatedly screech, shaking his head from side to side to indicate he was done with the torment. But to his demise, Langa was buried beneath his shirt, showing no signs of stopping.

In some ways, this was Langa’s way of taking out his stress on the other for the past week. Did Reki really believe he wouldn’t be upset?

Hearing him laugh now made up for all the times his heart shattered at the sight of his usual happy and cheerful boyfriend unable to even shed a smile. Seeing that there were no screams for him to stop, he only assumed his boyfriend was enjoying it too. 

So as he happily continued his assault, the kisses he’d been leaving around the open canvas came to a halt. 

Instead, he moved himself into position just below the others naval and took a deep breath, grinning as he slowly moved down to press his lips against the skin, blowing as much air as possible to create that loud ‘PFTT’ noise Reki once used on him. 

That's where his firecracker exploded, screaming out with laughter as he kicked his legs out, arching his back as his skin rippled below his lips. The vibration carried from his stomach and traveled up his body, causing almost a tsunami of ticklish sensations to follow. 

“LAHAHANGAAAHA!”

Holy shit-- it tickled to the point Reki thought he might die.

Tears of mirth collected in the corners of his eyes before spilling over as Langa decided to leave tiny raspberries around his naval, causing the poor redhead to completely lose himself.

It was unbearable. 

At this point his laughter was beginning to grow silent since the onslaught of baby raspberries weren’t stopping, and Langa’s hands were still torturing his sides with pinches.

Geez, where the hell did he even learn how to tickle like this!

“L-LangHA! I-I...I cahahan’t take it!” he managed to wheeze out between his screechy laughter, smacking his leg against the ground to show he was k.o’d. He started to desperately claw at the back of Langa’s shirt, trying with all the energy he had left to pull him away. 

His bladder wouldn’t be able to take much more of this, and at this rate he’d definitely lose his voice!

But to his relief, the attack began to slow. There was one final raspberry on the dead center of his naval that resulted in a snort from the redhead, adding yet another embarrassing noise to his index of screeches, but thankfully that marked the end to his attack.

The fingers that were torturing every inch of his sides slowed as well, but never retracted. Instead, Langa decided to give him a little treat, and instead gave him the light tickles he knew Reki loved.

With the tips of his finger nails, he barely brushed them against his skin, hardly making contact as he dusted them across his sides. 

Reki, whom was now a sweaty pile of mush on the ground, panted heavily as the other let up on his tickle attack. After giggles were all that remained, and upon trying to calm down he could feel Langa giving him his specialty. 

The tickles that made his skin crawl, but also calm him to the point of sleep. 

He loved them, and so did Langa. They were usually used during their cuddle sessions to calm the firecracker who couldn’t seem to sit still, and upon the discovery Langa used them whenever he could. 

So as he laid there catching his breath, he felt the spidery tickles calming his tickled mind. They skittered up his sides, dragging back down just to do it again. As if he wasn’t exhausted already, they brought the extra wave of comfort and sleep with them. 

Langa knew what he was doing. He planned on taking the tired out skater back to his place so they could sleep together. His sheets were no longer stained with the sweet scent of the other, and usually it took a lot of convincing to get Reki to agree to sleep over due to his constant state of being flustered.

So as he as treated Reki to his favorite ghost tickles, he slowly popped his head out from the cave that was Reki’s shirt, flashing him a soft smile despite his hair being disheveled from the static. 

Feeling the other finally arise from the cave he’d created beneath his shirt, he opened his eyes slightly to glance down at him, still a flustered mess with a hint of sweat lining his forehead. 

“You...you’re cruel.” he wheezed, bringing his arms up in defeat. 

Langa only grinned, looking down at the exposed torso Reki had left him, which he knew was 100% intentional even if Reki refused to admit to it.

“I love you, Reki.” Was his reply as he finally untangled his arms from around the others waist, instead moving them under his shirt to lightly spider all around his sweet belly, dusting the baby hairs all around the soft skin.

He even drew a faint heart as Reki visibly pouted, clearly trying to ignore the fluttering tickles despite Langa knowing how much he craved them.

With a huff, Reki eventually looked down at him, unable to hold back the smile that he was forcing out of him. And as he looked at his snowflake, he realized now how lucky he was to have a boyfriend like Langa. 

And with that, he sat up, reaching down to cup his boyfriends cheeks as he drew him in, pressing a soft kiss to those lips he was proud to call his, pulling away moments after with a tired grin. 

“I love you too, Langa.”

[kingofthewilderwest]

How can you be proud of being Celiac? That’s like me being proud of having my arm ripped off by a shark and gloating about how awesome having one arm is. Being broken isn’t something to proud of. It’s shameful you just need to get over it and eat what people give you people in Africa are starving and here you are complaining about food. Grow up.

Sorry your post just sounded condescending like people aren’t allowed to talk about a normal thing like food because you are triggered by food and don’t seem to understand people are starving in third world countries and you are acting like being a burden to others because of your so called food allergy is a good thing. Get over it and eat what people give you stop being a big baby just eat it the worse that can happen is you get a tummy ache. Unless your allergy is deadly you have no excuse.

Heya friend! It’s great to hear from you and I’m hoping you’re having a spectacular, relaxing day! You’ll be glad to know that my emotional low from last night is over. I got a good night’s rest, woke happy, and am ready to blog about dragons and other non-personal things you may enjoy more! :D 

I also want to say I got your later ask. I’m touched you went and learned more about Celiac, and took the effort of sending me a kindhearted follow-up. I don’t know many people who would do that, so huge kudos, dude. It’s cool between us, friend, and I’m not offended. Thankfully I’ve got a tough hide and it takes a lot more to make me blink. I’m just feeling grateful you came to stop by again.

I hope it’s okay with you if I respond to your original message, though. There’s still a number of things that bother me, which weren’t nullified with your final message, which I would like to respectfully address.

I’m sorry if you or anyone else felt I spoke condescendingly or selfishly. I never wish to make others feel unwelcome. I was hoping to vent my perspective while showing that I care about others’ perspectives on this topic. If my words suggested negativity toward the other party, I did exactly what I didn’t wish or intend to do, didn’t even feel toward them, and I’m sorry for hurting anyone in the process.

What my post was about (for people catching up on this convo)

Last night under a Read More, I wrote a rare train-of-thought venting post. As you might expect on a personal vent post, I was emotionally compromised, obviously unhappy, and talking about my feelings. I talked about what it’s like for me to have a squick on food as a conversation topic.

I discussed how I felt uncomfortable but let everyone socialize, talk, etc. about food in front of me, because I didn’t find it worthwhile to bring up my discomfort and find compromise, and because I wanted to put my friends’ happiness first. In the few times I confided with friends that it bothered me, little changed afterwards. I’d rather stay silent and make people comfortable than worry I’m a social burden by restricting conversations on food, or have people try to cook accommodating dietary restrictions they’re not educated on accommodating. Essentially, I constantly fake friendly and minimize my social impact so others have fun and I’m never seen as a spoilsport or bother.

I said Celiac Disease means it’s hard to partake in trust-forming cultural food rituals (dinner parties, gifting food, religious ceremonies). I said don’t enjoy food related socialization because I feel socially left out and unable to bond in the activities everyone else can bond in. While I’m comfortable with Celiac Disease, proud of being gluten free, I said my challenge comes with interacting in a culture that can’t easily include me because of dietary differences.

I mentioned food’s also an uncomfortable topic because it’s central to ongoing mental illness struggles: I had eating disorder issues in college, and also have chronic difficulties eating properly in my Depression swings. Since food is a battle I’m constantly fighting, I have negative associations with it.

To make things clear: there was no point I said I forced others to comply with my desires and comforts, or believed people should be censored for talking about everyday things they liked. There was no point where I said that I felt like a social burden because of pride in my diet, or that my pride was what made me a social burden. I’m not happy that my squick and food intolerance can infringe on other people’s comforts, especially when I know they want to connect with me relationally and I have to awkwardly decline that goodwill gesture.

Aaaaand now we’re all on the same page!

About Celiac Disease the medical condition

Celiac Disease is an autoimmune disorder where the body responds to gluten like poison. Even small amounts of ongoing cross-contamination can result in permanently damaged small intestines. Long-term effects of ingesting gluten include everything from anemia to infertility to osteoporosis to neurological disorders / brain damage to cancer risks. It’s imperative for Celiacs to eat a strict gluten free diet for health.As an infant, before I got diagnosed and was put on a gluten free diet, I was malnourished, with a distended stomach, losing weight. Before the USA required health insurance companies to accept people with pre-existing conditions, I was denied coverage because I was considered a “high risk” medical liability.

Short-term effects can be nasty. Everyone’s different when they have a one-time exposure incident, but the last time I accidentally ingested gluten, I was vomiting, dry retching, disoriented from extreme vertigo, and reduced to shaking violently, uncontrollably on the floor for 2+ hours. It was so bad I feared I’d somehow ODed on ibuprofen (because it felt similar to ODing… heh, the one time I did accidentally OD myself, it was THE worst I’ve felt physically in my LIFE).That time spent trembling on the floor doesn’t include the diarrhea, bloating, headaches, etc. that followed once I felt comfortable standing and walking again.All that happened because a restaurant didn’t take my order seriously when I carefully specified “gluten free noodles.” Because somebody in the kitchen thought I’m some entitled special snowflake, eh? Funny joke to make the finicky eater eat what they don’t like, huh?

Even for allergies with no long-term health complications, I think it’s bad to hold the burden of social “kindness” on the person being offered food. In a situation where someone offers food to another, it’s socially dispreferred to decline the meal. Depending on culture, it can be seen as extremely rude.But nobody should have to HARM themselves to please a gift giver. That’s what happens when people with food issues accept a food gift. Doesn’t matter that the food’s offered in good faith. Doesn’t matter if it’s only one night of bloating and headaches. I shouldn’t have to stab myself in the hand if someone offers me a sewing needle. I know culturally food’s a big deal, but that’s why we contemporary society needs better education on dietary restrictions, allergens, and intolerances. It’s frankly terrifying that someone is called SELFISH for not wanting to be HURT. There’s polite ways we could thank a person, decline their offer, and show we care about them through other means.

About Celiac Disease, pride, and identity

I’m only “broken” because others say I am.You’re not broken for being unable to digest arsenic. You can still eat healthy, nutritional foods and live a full, productive life. Same with me. It’s just my poison’s gluten. It’s easy to eat balanced meals and get every protein, every chemical, my body needs. My body isn’t breaking down.That’s hardly the same thing as a shark attacking me in some near-death experience. And let’s give sharks love, by the way! More people die from elevators. [source! XD]

Your analogy with the arm worries me, friend. Talking about someone’s disability that derogatorily is ableist. While losing a limb can be traumatic for many and requires enormous, challenging lifestyle changes… calling someone “broken” for one less appendage is regrettably offensive language. 

I think it’s interesting in one sentence you call me “broken” and use the analogy of a near-deadly shark attack… and then in the next sentence downplay my issues as so irrelevant they’re just a “tummy ache.” Which is it, friend? I’m thankful you read up on Celiac and now know it’s more severe than that, but I hope when you run into future instances of even people with “lesser” allergies, you might reconsider how you discuss our everyday diet and food social choices. 

I’m not proud of Celiac Disease because it makes me a finicky eater (contrarily, used to menu limitations, I’ll gratefully eat just about anything safe). People with food intolerances aren’t finicky eaters; they’re people trying to protect their health. What I mean by pride is confidence in my identity and pride for the lifestyle Celiac has given me.

Pride in identity, even about unideal sides of us, I think is healthy. We cripple ourselves if we’re unable to emotionally accept we’re imperfect. And I don’t mean something like “proud of being a jerk.” I mean “proud of getting through life.” Pride in experiencing bad circumstances makes sense. I’m NOT saying my diet is Some Giant Trial, but when people go through trials, we can take pride in that we survived, grew, and matured through pain. Difficulties mold us into better people, so while we might not enjoy suffering, we can take pride in the better person suffering made us be. Honestly, in the areas where I have gone through major shit, I wouldn’t change anything about that past; I’d rather have learned from the pain than be the fool I was before.

Pride in our identity is also about accepting we can be unique people, comfortable differing from the crowd. The reason I’m happy and comfortable is that for me, Celiac is a lifestyle, not a limitation. We define ourselves by how we interact and integrate with culture. Diet is one way we can find lifestyle and comfort. Even if I could magically eat rye tomorrow, I wouldn’t. I never would, because a gluten free diet is ingrained into my cultural, everyday thinking and lifestyle. People can take pride in their family’s Thai cuisine; others can feel happy in something like vegetarianism or gluten-free eating, too. It’s part of my identity. I like that avoiding gluten has allowed me to think critically of my health and diet, be confident in being individual from the crowd, and be conscientious not only in how I consume food products, but how I choose to delegate my time and money. I also feel like it’s taught me how to be more self conscious of what others may need, and to be content with what I can have. It definitely doesn’t make me a perfect person (heh, I suck), but I think it’s taught me valuable things, and I’m proud that I can continue living this lifestyle as part of me.Also I frankly would feel weird as FUCK if I could just walk up and eat something without thinking. That’s… that’s not normal to me. xD I can’t untrain two and a half decades of constantly reading labels, haha!

The morality of focusing on everyday woes

Logical fallacies are unsound arguments which use incorrect reasoning. In other words, if someone uses a logical fallacy, their arguments are useless. The Fallacy of Relative Privation is a logical fallacy that disregards information because more important problems exist elsewhere. It fails to take into account that multiple problems can exist on our radar simultaneously, and that we as humans have a right to handle both serious and simple issues in our lives.As you may see now, your first message did use that fallacy.

I’m no Great Moral Teacher… I’m an idiot human like the rest of us… but I hope it’s not presumptuous of me to consider…The existence of starving, dying children in “third” (and first!) world countries… doesn’t mean I shouldn’t help my neighbor’s child when she gets a sprained ankle. Why would I sit back when she’s injured? We make positive impact when we treat sprains. By contrast, criticisms make zero positive impact. Doing kind deeds, big and little, will ALWAYS make more net good than not doing small kindnesses. Personally, I suspect we can’t provide optimal sympathy and change the world… unless we’re able to acknowledge and handle all manners of struggles. Are we truly a kind person if we tout about Big Political Issues while ignoring every emotion and feeling that makes a human tick? Are we providing the best response to someone who’s lost their home in a hurricane… if we’re not comforting them through that tragedy like they’re an everyday neighbor?I’d probably look like an asshole if a friend who hadn’t eaten all day came to me, said they’d lost their wallet, and asked to borrow five bucks – and I said, “Grow up, there’s starving children in Eritrea.” I don’t have to lend the $5, that’s chill, but telling him his problems are nothing because of starving kids is… well… ridiculous. That’s an ABSURD, out-of-proportion response to something I can easily fix, no fuss.There’s no reason I can’t say, “Sure, pay me back next week,” hand him $5, and then when I get home, make sure I’ve sent my $50 monthly donation to [insert NGO here]. I’d definitely be an asshole friend if every time he wanted to talk to me about things that weren’t optimal (rent, a rude text from his ex, grocery bill prices), I just said, “Grow up, baby, there’s bigger problems.” In life, it’s both relevant for me to pay my bills (a small stress) and consider donating to big causes that’ll stop the Amazon rain forest burnings. We’re able to – and all of us *do* – handle both sets of priorities, the big and the little.So why shouldn’t we go about our lives, looking into not only the “big” things we can do, but taking advantage when we can help people with their everyday discomforts, too?I just wish to say this so that none of us continue using the “someone’s doing worse” argument to discount others’ problems. There’s no reason why we can’t respect everyone’s struggles and help out everywhere. Doing our part to make more people comfortable and content is never in vain.

If anyone get frustrated about someone’s vent post again, I hope we all can remember! If the important things in life are Big Issues like world hunger. Maybe we should find ways to not get prioritize our time, effort, emotions, opinions, and investment prioritizing. On one soon-to-be forgotten post. Out of tens of thousands one blogger made. Out of billions. Of posts. From millions of people. On a website. That is used to share furry porn and loss.jpg memes. XD Heeheehee.

About venting on tumblr

When a person is venting, they’re going through a momentary emotional low. That’s not their normal, everyday personality. Lots of people are humble and controlled when discussing the same topics in better mental states. I know I sounded emotional in that post and focused that post on me; that’s the point of venting, though. Bottling up is unhealthy; occasionally talking out what bothers us is useful emotional processing.Even the greatest people have bad days where what they’ve bottled blows up. Are we not allowed to have occasional bad days where we break down? Are we not allowed to talk about our personal feelings because others don’t have the same problem? Does a one-time venting about one issue for one hour make us lifelong selfish whiners?Heck, if Jesus Christ is allowed a moment where he cusses out a fig tree for not having ripe fruit, and billions of people respect his moral teachings, I think we’re ALL allowed moments where we break down and cry over everyday stress. XD

One fascinating issue with social media, especially tumblr, is that our blogs are personal accounts, but followers treat blogs like consumable content. While Maria’s on tumblr to socialize with friends or talk about fandom, her followers want to be entertained by her “product,” her original posts. Unfortunately, this means many bloggers get condemned for being human. They get criticized for everyday reactions everyday humans experience: venting, having a bad day, or making simple mistakes. But this isn’t a professional account of a celebrity who has PR editing posts for public image; these are social accounts of everyday people experiencing life’s ups and downs, who should be allowed to use their personal blog as they will. They’re not cultivated entertainers; they’re creatures socializing online.

Maybe 1% of my posts are emotional venting. I don’t like venting much on tumblr. 100% of those rare vent posts are placed under read mores with tags that make it clear I’m venting. If any of ya’ll don’t want to experience them, you can choose not to click “Read More”. And you’ll never even see what I’m feeling!

Anyway! I’m all chill now! You guys have a great day, stay awesome, and thanks for thinking about the impacts of allergies, intolerances, eating disorders, and autoimmune diseases! I’m very thankful to the people who talked to me when I was struggling last night, listened to me, and suffered through my emotionality. I’m excited to keep talking about dragons and whatever else comes my way on tumblr! Hope we can have fun talking about these things together!

[winemom-culture]

this is a really long post i tried to put it under a read more but i don’t know if read mores work anymore, or if they ever did, i’m just therapy bloggin, sorry for mobile users

i dont remember if i ever posted about it here or just twitter- i think of might have vaguely mentioned switching insurances and not knowing if my insurance covered the therapist i was seeing. well, it didn’t, BUT that was actually kinda lucky because they had another therapist at their office who was in network with an astronomically lower copay (and at one point during the session she asked what it was with the intention of lowering it for me if it wasn’t already manageable which i thought was really cool) and i felt like i clicked so much better with her than the first one i saw. i didn’t even realize i didn’t really vibe with the first one until i saw this one, she gave me feedback when i answered her questions whereas i felt like i was kinda talking to a wall with the first one cause she would ask me one thing then i’d answer and she’d go “”hm..” and move onto another question. so i left feeling kinda frustrated but also convinced myself maybe that was just how a first appointment goes. Like i told her about some pretty heavy stuff from my past and at one point she literally asked “why didn’t you ever report that?” and i was kinda floored that had never even crossed my mind before i had no good answer. cause i was 14 judith? i was “in love” with him? idk? i felt like that was kind of a weird thing. i told her about my anxiety being worse at work and looking forward into the work week and she was just like “but you like where you work though?” and i was like “yes” and she’s like “huh.... i wonder why you get anxious about work then......anyways,”  whereas like instantly this same thing came up with the new therapist and she was like “do you consider yourself more of an introvert?” and i was like “yes absolutely” and she’s like “how does that work with being a hairstylist” and right there was the click that seems so obvious in retrospect but i hadn’t really ever thought of it this way, that even though i love my work environment and feel like it’s a supportive place in general and i LOVE my coworkers i don’t really enjoy what i actually DO there and by working in such an extroverted client facing position i’m “out of my comfort zone all day long” is how she put it. then she said “when you go home do you feel drained/irritable/don’t really have any energy left to do anything or talk to anybody else” and i was like yes yes yes to all of it 150%. that was  just really cool to hash that all out right off the bat and kinda gave me some new perspective on how i can like a place so much but still feel so anxious in the face of it at the same time, and why i’m shitty when i come home lol. oh another thing the old therapist suggested was me asking my doctor to go back on Buspar.., despite me telling her that it worked for a bit, then it didn’t... and i just kept upping and upping my dosage until it capped out again. the new therapist was like “yeah, buspar works for some people, but for a lot of people it doesn’t. there’s other medicines that i feel like generally give better, consistent results.” obviously neither of them could prescribe anything but they can refer it to my primary doc, and i’m glad she was on the same page with me on that. i’m definitely not opposed to trying medication but i’m not interested in a short term solution to panic attacks that just eventually makes me feel like a zombie who gets electrocuted every once in awhile. she recommended right away i try to decaffeinate myself and wean off of that, which isn’t an issue for me i’m already not a big coffee drinker anymore because more often than not i get unpleasant tummy aches and i never really drank tea i’ll just have to cut out the caffeinated sodies every once in awhile.  so idk although i feel like quantity wise i told more to the first one it didn’t matter because i got no feedback whatsoever, i feel like there was a lot more substance to this visit with the new one and i feel really hopeful and excited for it

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Hello can I request a hc with the rfa + another story with an mc who does not fall in love with them but rather sees them as close friends in the end of the routes? How would they react? uwu

Writer’s Note: Hello to you too, anon. Their reactions would be…heartbreaking to imagine so I’ll leave that to my imagination and writing. Anyways, enjoy! 

RFA + Another Story Reactingto MC who friend-zoned them

[Zen]

The shock and hurt in his face would be obvious for a few seconds before he changed his expression into an understanding one and would assure her not to worry about it.  

Being seen as a true friend was better than nothing…he guessed.

Except deep inside, he would be in lots of pain because not only was this the first time (probably) he was rejected but he loved MC so much.  

If not for him being a skilled actor, he would have broke down into a sobbing mess after she politely left their meeting spot.

MC would be surprised to see him acting normal in the chat rooms whenever she logged in except she would get the hint that he ain’t over her through his unintended flirting responses and subtle pickup lines and she’d feel bad about it. 

Whenever she privately asked him about it, he’d shrug it off and would quickly change the subject to a casual one.

This boi needed help with all the drinking and smoking he had been doing in a single day, a mountainous pile of beer cans and cigarette pacts had been consuming every single space in his apartment.

Eventually, he’d pull himself together after his depression stage and would do his very best to move on, for the sake of MC and their friendship.

[Yoosung]

If Zen had it bad, imagine how this cinnamon roll would react. Yoosung was one to take things personally negative towards terrible outcomes especially what happened to Rika…

He’d most likely run away right after hearing MC’s rejection to his confession. He’d hide in the nearest comfort area he could find if MC chased after him and he’d stay there, silently crying to himself and swinging his body like a cradle.

He’d avoid her at all costs, inside or outside the chat room with excuses like he had after-university club activities or he needed to study for an upcoming exam when in fact, he’d wrapped himself into a crying ball with his blanket or play LOLOL more aggressively to his teammates and his opponents’ disbelief.  

If this situation grew worse, Zen would offer his apartment to be a place where they forget their problems and whatnot. They’d drink to the point of no return but Yoosung would be the obvious one to easily get wasted and blabber about the pain of rejection and his denial over it.

Imagine Zen’s frustration in taking care of him and his apartment. Dragging Yoosung to his toilet and pat his back in comfort as Yoosung vomit. Ridding his apartment of empty bottles of Soju and cleaning up all the mess that was there. Putting Yoosung to sleep in his bed while he went to sleep on the floor, poor Zen.

After some time, Yoosung will come to accept the truth and move on. But he’ll probably be cold and distant towards MC for a year or two. He would try to swallow the bitter feeling of just being a friend and renew their friendship.

[Jaehee]

She expected this to become a possibility but the pain still hurt like hell and even knowing the rejection beforehand won’t lessen the pain.  

She’d be full of self-doubt and insecurities. She’d be lost in thought, wondering what she lacked in and would kind of blame her gender into this. Jaehee, there there.

Jaehee would politely leave the chat room whenever MC logged in with an excuse of not finishing her work yet and she’d do more work than anyone could accomplish even herself in a stable state to the point of Mr. Han applauding her and leaving it as it was. Jumin, you gotta help her somehow.

Once she finally calmed down, she’d try to approach MC bit by bit despite being uncomfortable with it. She’d eventually realize that things were better this way and come to terms with this.

Whether Jaehee buried her feelings to the grave or let go of them, she’ll still be the best friend that MC wanted and needed. Nothing will ever escape her notice and she’d help MC in anyway she can.

[Jumin]

Oh boy, if there was one thing he had not experienced his entire life: that would be rejection in both as a businessman and a person. He’d quickly feel sudden change from brief shock to denial, thinking that there must be something lacking in him that made MC reject him.

He’d find out whatever MC likes and dislikes by assigning Assistant Kang to do a thorough research on MC. Then he’ll change or add that aspect (be it appearance, qualities, or personality) in him to make MC like him more.

Only for him to be rejected once more and be placed in the friend zone. He’d be in complete confusion and frustration, obviously not understanding as to why he’d been rejected again when he worked hard to get her to like him more. He’ll probably lock himself in his penthouse and seek comfort from Elizabeth The 3rd for a short time leading a chaotic outcome in C&R.  

Until MC marched over to his penthouse and gave him ‘the talk’. Once he came to understand the aspects he never experienced before and sorted out his feelings, he’ll go back to his old self.  

Since his feelings for MC won’t go anytime soon, he’ll cover it up with his excessive generosity and kindness that would aid MC’s every need. She didn’t need to even ask and he’d do it with a snap of his fingers. After all, Jumin’s the MVP of all routes.

Despite his unwillingness to do so, he’ll settle down to being her best friend and be contented with it since that was the only closest relationship he can cherish to have with her. Of course that doesn’t mean he had given up yet and would be waiting in the sidelines until death called for him.

[707]

Ironic as it was to feel relieved when he got friend zoned by MC after his confession, the burden in his shoulders would be lifted with the thought of not having to danger MC in the future.

But there would be another part of him that would be full of anguish and loneliness that would persist to run wild which he would control behind his 707 facade.  

He would act like his usual happy, pretend self except with occasional slips of romantic jokes that took a dark turn and he’d immediately change the subject before MC noticed.  

He’d do his best to let go and accept her view of him as her friend but dang, how can something that was supposed to be simple so difficult? After all, he was an agent of a secret intelligence agency where life-threatening situations became a casual thing to him.  

He’d drown himself in Honey Buddha Chips and packages of Dr. Pepper to a point of a tummy ache. Vanderwood would have to step in if he wanted to keep one of the best hackers working for the agency. Vanderwood would forcibly pull Saeyoung together and get him to snap out of his denial state.  

It might take him half a decade to move on and go on with life as he was expected to. Getting along with MC would be difficult but not impossible, he would need baby steps for this.

[V]

Among them, Jihyun would be the most accepting about being friend zoned. Sure, he’d be quite depressed about it but this was something he’d understand. He still needed to learn on how to love himself before he can properly sort his feelings out and decide on this situation.  

Jumin would offer a drink at his penthouse as his silent way of comforting his best friend but he’d reject the offer and instead suggest a self-discovery journey himself.

While being on a journey to find his path and true self, he’d take notes on his feelings for MC and check his progress on whether he let go or not.

Once he had let go of his feelings, he’d tear out all the papers from his notebook, shred them to pieces in his gentle way, and let them fly in the sky. After all, he loved her enough to do this for her and move on.

He’d quickly adapt to his status as her dear friend and be that mother hen kind of friend who would both spoil her rotten and scold her firmly.

He’d be glad that nothing changed between them and he’d come to a realization that he didn’t need a romantic relationship to be this close to her.  

[Ray]

Saeran would not take rejection very well. Not after what they went through together and he had assumed that MC loved him in a romantic view as well. He’d be a ball of chaotic feelings, also Ray and the other Saeran would clash against him.  

MC would be shocked to see him going back and forth from sobbing while curling himself into a ball to a rampaging man who’s on a mission to destroy his surroundings while cursing MC for making him believe such lies and then vice versa.

Saeran would hold himself back before the situation got worse and lock himself in a room to calm down and think in peace.

Saeran won’t be able to sleep properly, crying himself to sleep and he wouldn’t touch any of the food tray MC placed in front of his door.  

Once he had calm down, he’d leave the room once in a while to tend his flowers and he would avoid MC as much as possible.  

It would take a lot of patience and effort on MC’s part to get Saeran to not avoid her like a plague and talk to her. Saeran won’t be able to understand at first and once he did, he’d be very chill about it but being formal towards MC won’t be avoided.

Saeran doesn’t like the idea of being just her friend but he’d go with the flow. He’d warm up to MC again after a long period of time in adjusting and accepting it. 

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Four Food Items That Can Make You Hungrier—and What to Eat Instead

We all have this habit of nibbling snacks all day long. Whether we're working on a stressful presentation, chilling on the porch, running late to the class, or mind meddling over a crisis, our only constant companion is food. We often find ourselves turning hungry again after a short while of eating, either be it a snack or a whole meal.

Do you ever wonder why this hunger strikes again even when you have had a heavy meal?

Well, it's not the quantity but the quality that makes you ache for food all over again. Regardless of the amount, many food items lack the nutrients essential for your body's fulfillment. This causes your tummy to call for food again, as it didn't receive enough nutrients to be satisfied.

This blog covers the food items you might need to ditch as soon as your next hunger-haul strikes!

Low Fat Yogurt:

While yogurt is proven to be a super-healthy food, it doubles your hunger. It depends on the type of yogurt you choose to consume that determines whether it will trigger or gratify your cravings. Untreated yogurt has a good amount of fat that sets off your blood sugar, so you opt for low-fat yogurt, which simulates sugar and tricks your mind into satisfaction. 

Although low-fat yogurt is a decent alternative to cut off on sugar, it can still stimulate hunger as it doesn't contain enough nutrients to balance your system. Yogurt also takes away the fulfillment that chewing your food gives you, leaving you feeling like you haven't eaten anything.

For an alternative, eat protein-rich Greek yogurt. Throw in your favorite fruits, bits, and nuts to add the nutrients and get that crunch you crave.

Granola Bars:

We eat Granola Bars assuming them to be an easy snack with a hassle-free nutrition boost on the go, but these bars might leave you yearning for more instead. These snack bars are swamped with oils and preservatives, which will make you feel hungry.

Instead, try to consume some popcorn. Because of its volume, it doesn't make you feel like you're overeating and yet, fills your stomach. Being a chewable snack, it will also tire your mouth and lead you to stop thinking about eating anything else for some time.

Morning Cereals:

The quickest morning fuel is a bowl of cereal. But, turns out, the lucky charms you devour every day aren't very lucky for your appetite. Do you ever find yourself craving for something solid after half an hour of slurping a big bowl of cereal? Well, that's because the cereal you eat is full of sugar. 

Sugar dissolves quickly into your system and empties your stomach faster than you fill it. Sugar vanishes into your digestive system as easily as cotton candy does in water.

Instead of sugary cereal, look for low-calorie cereals or add in some fruits and nuts to your milk and rack that instead. Or have an omelet and bread with some fresh banana milk for complete and long-term satiation.

Potatoes:

Yes, you read that right; the most humble vegetable of all, a potato, stimulates your hunger. Well, it's not exactly the potato's fault, but the way you make it. Frying up your potatoes and adding salt and flavorings to them will give a smacking taste for your tongue to enjoy. But, on the other hand, it would also increase your sodium content which will boost your blood sugar level and then crash it. This will leave you much hungrier than you ever were.

To counteract that, simply boil and mash your potatoes, add your favorite seasoning, and that's it. A perfect nutritional snack at your disposal. You can also bake your potatoes and eat them with a good dip.

Here were some of the food products that might make you hungrier than you were before having them and the alternatives to them.

A Word from the Team

Snacking throughout the day results according to the foods you snack on. Eat healthily, and you might increase your nutritional value, eat unhealthily, and your health might end up getting worse. So, eat accordingly and drink an adequate amount of water.

To know further about fixing up your diet for better health, contact Corrielus Cardiology.

At Corrielus Cardiology, the team values the strong correlation between heart health and overall wellness. The practice aims to educate the community on how good lifestyle choices and routines can ultimately help prevent emergency room visits, save money, and build stronger, healthier families. 

Corrielus Cardiology provides a friendly, inviting, and culturally sensitive environment and they want each patient to feel comfortable and cared for on a personal level.

Source: Four Food Items That Can Make You Hungrier—and What to Eat Instead

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FUN WITH A POWER DRILL

Hy guys, I wrote a short story! 

Content warnings: Contains heavy gore, gross bodily fluids, explicit language, some slight alcohol use, and a strawberry liquid breakfast

For the last fucking time, it’s not self-harm! I don’t perform my experiments upon myself with the intent to hurt myself as some kind of act of self-loathing spurred by mental illness or whatever. I’m testing the limits of what I can handle in terms of injury, and thanks to my mutant DNA, I actually heal pretty quickly. Let me explain my side of the story first, will ya?

I honestly didn’t mean to disrupt the class. I value education and I’m really sorry that my accident caused a bit of a kerfuffle amongst the others. I mean, if I had known that what was going to happen was… going to happen, I would have sneezed in the privacy of the school bathroom and then worn some gauze and a surgical mask to class or something. I carry that kind of stuff around with me, don’t act surprised. I’m a mutant, remember?

It all started one evening after my legal guardian had gone to bed. I don’t sleep much, not since the whole mutant thing started- I’m lucky if I get four hours a night, and I try to keep my sleep light because the nightmares are the worst part of the experience. Usually I muck around on the internet or read about stuff. I’m trying to educate myself in rudimentary biology, I don’t want to receive a grade for it because I think that will destroy my curiosity.. I found that I learnt a lot about my own biology using hands-on research… Really hands on. You’ll probably never get to witness your own digestive organs at work in the palms of your hands, but I can tell you right now that once you get over the initial pain, it’s actually really, really cool.

But I digress. I wasn’t playing with my own organs that night… No, on that evening I decided to try my hand at amateur dentistry. After another experiment of mine, which I won’t go into, I had been left with a painful abscess in one of my back teeth. It was on my right side, on the inner side of my gums and it hurt like a bitch. I decided to drain it. Sadly, poking around in there with a safety pin wasn’t doing much, because the abscess was way deeper than a pin could reach, and there were all kinds of fleshy, mouthy bits in the way. All I succeeded in doing was hurting myself non-productively and bleeding everywhere, so I figured I needed to use something a little more extreme.

I, being a self-proclaimed genius, decided to go in there with a power drill. I never use anaesthetic in my experiments, partially because I need to be as alert as possible when doing my thing, and also because I need to build up my pain tolerance. I mean, at the time, teeth drilling sounded like the perfect way to push myself! I remember back before my accident, I had my lower canines taken out without enough anaesthetic and let me tell you, that experience was awful. I’ve progressed since then, I think.

Yes, I waited until my legal guardian was asleep. I don’t like her when she starts worrying, she becomes unbearable… I mean, I’ve tried to kill myself on multiple occasions and if I were a different species, I would have definitely succeeded. This should be an indicator of what I’m capable of withstanding. I stood there, in front of the bathroom mirror, pulled my cheek back, and gave the power drill a few test whirrs. Then, using a sharpie, I marked the area where I thought the abscess would be, judging by contact pain. You know how the ink in sharpies is alcohol based? It tastes like shit, it’s like licking a sanitary wipe and it’s seriously gross as fuck.

I positioned the drill head against my gum, pressed a little bit, and then started the drill. I mean, it hurt like any kind of injury would, but it wasn’t actually that bad- I had thought that drilling an abscessed tooth would hurt a lot more and I was rejoicing my victory. That was when I hit one of my nerves, and the drill… Slipped.

It was kind of a combination of me jumping, banging my elbow against the sink and generally being an idiot that made my drill slip and plunge not into the abscess, but at a diagonal angle, heading more toward my nose than my cheekbone. THAT hurt! The drill didn’t actually pierce my sinuses that time, but it went through the roof of my mouth and didn’t stop until the end was poking out of my face, right next to the bridge of my nose. Blood started pouring out and I was like ‘SHIT’ so I tried to pull the drill out of my face and get some toilet paper to clean it all up, except the drill bit came out of the drill and got stuck in my face.

So there I was, bleeding out of my face and my mouth with a piece of metal jammed in my cranium, the pain was excruciating and I hadn’t even drained the abscess yet! I left the drill in the sink and tiptoed all the way to the storage room so I could get a pair of needle nosed pliers. I then tried to get the drill bit out, while still bleeding profusely in front of the bathroom mirror.

I’m going to say right now that trying to get metal out of bone is really, really hard. It goes in there and it gets stuck so you’re standing there pulling and pulling and pulling and it doesn’t budge even a tiny bit! Then I had a thought: “Hey, what if I widen the hole by wiggling the drill bit diagonally?” And that’s just what I did! I made all my injuries at least 20% worse, the bleeding got really intense and it hurt so much I thought I was gonna pass out. I could actually feel the bones splintering and sticking into my flesh as I was wiggling the bit around, which really wasn’t helping at all.

Eventually, after a lot of wiggling, bleeding and swearing, I got the bloodied drill bit free. I was trying to stop the bleeding with one hand and trying to get the blood off the drill bit with the other, which wasn’t really working. I wasn’t sure how much blood I had lost at that point, but the bathroom looked like a murder scene and I had reached a kind of adrenaline euphoria where I couldn’t feel pain anymore.

I have no impulse control, so naturally I thought “Great! Let’s see if we can get that abscess now!” and after cleaning the drill bit and reattaching it, I decided to try again. I couldn’t make heads or tails of what I was supposed to do or where I was supposed to go because my mouth was so full of blood and my pain test of sticking my tongue in my gums wasn’t working. That’s when I made the decision to poke around in there until I struck pus.

After about five attempts, which resulted in me gaining even more injuries, I finally burst the little fucker. You ever witnessed pus exploding out of a really big pimple so quickly that it’s like a chunk of gravel fell out of a sebaceous gland? Yeah, imagine that inside your mouth. I mean, I’m not that squeamish- I’ve read Chuck Palahniuk’s ‘Guts’ without even flinching, but exploding bloody pus in your mouth is a very quick way to lose your appetite.

I leaned over the sink to spit as much of the stuff out as I could, but if you’ve ever leant forward while experiencing altered blood pressure, you’ll know that it’s one of the quickest ways to feel really, really dizzy. Combine said blood-loss related dizziness with nausea from having a huge gobbit of pus explode in your mouth, and the fact that a lot of your adrenaline euphoria pain high is starting to run out, and you’ll understood why I fainted at that particular moment in time. This wouldn’t have been a problem if I hadn’t banged the rest of my face to hell and back on the taps and edge of the sink.

When I came to, it was one hour before I had to go to school, there was blood all over the bathroom, and my face hurt like it had been kicked by a mule. I’m just thankful that I decided to close the bathroom door that night- if my guardian had seen the state I was in, she would probably have taken away my power drills and stuff. I’m surprised she hadn’t woken up when the drilling started with all the noise it made, but maybe she was drunk again. I don’t know.

I distinctly remember pulling myself up off the floor with some difficulty, because all the blood had scabbed and was acting kind of like crusty glue to hold me in place. Have you ever had a blood-nose in your sleep and woken up with blood all over your pillow? It was exactly like that, except instead of a pillow it was a tiled bathroom floor. 

Surprisingly, when I pulled myself up and looked at myself in the mirror, my face had completely healed, and looked fine except for some residual bloodstains. In retrospect, I know that it was only my outer face that had healed and that the inside of my head was in a major state of disrepair, but nonetheless I was shocked to discover that I didn’t even have a bruise! Nothing remained of the injuries I had inflicted upon myself the previous night, though I was still left with a strong ache in my sinuses, which I stupidly had chalked up to phantom pains. I get phantom pains a lot- once, I got disembowelled, and even though I had fully healed I still got tummy aches that were like being stabbed repeatedly in the guts. They were certainly worse than period cramps.

I knew that if my legal guardian saw the amount of blood on the floor, she’d flip her shit, so I took the opportunity to clean as much blood out of the bathroom as possible. I’ve gotten good at cleaning blood up- for future reference, the best way to get blood off a marble or otherwise stone tile floor is to use a sponge with cold water for the majority of the blood, and then you use detergent with a stiff-bristled brush. My head was really starting to pound at that point, so I stupidly took some aspirin and started getting ready for the day.

Huh? Why was taking aspirin stupid? Well, Aspirin has this little side effect where it thins your blood. This makes you incredibly prone to haemorrhage, and you can probably see where this is going. Usually aspirin only affects people if they take a lot of it regularly, but I’m really sensitive to some medication.

I got dressed, grabbed a liquid breakfast for breakfast because I didn’t want to be late or have to chew anything, and headed off to school. All throughout the journey I had been experiencing a sense of discomfort in my nasal cavity, kind of like needing to sneeze a lot, except with a lot more pain. The aspirin just wasn’t cutting it, but I kept soldiering on, walking to school and drinking my strawberry liquid breakfast.

The pain was getting really bad by the time the first lesson rolled around. Just my luck that I had to have Mr Dyssof as the substitute teacher- I don’t know what the hell I did to get on his nerves, but that asshole has some kind of vendetta against me. Maybe it was because I didn’t agree with his opinions regarding polyamory, or maybe it’s because we just have personalities that clash, but either way, if I so much as tap my pencil in class I’m guaranteed to get a detention. I decided to keep quiet, take notes, and try to stay out of his warpath.

It was about 20 minutes into the lesson that the pain became Itchy, you know, kind of like eczema, but in my nose. I wrinkled my nose to try and disperse some of the itch, but if anything it only got stronger. The classroom we were in hasn’t been cleaned in a while, so I’m guessing that it was some stray dust that irritated my nose, but whatever the cause was, I needed to sneeze.

Big mistake. What I thought was going to be a discreet snuffle into my hands turned out to be literally the worst sneeze in my entire life. I remember a sensation of pressure building, lots of things tearing, breaking and snapping inside my face, and then my hands were coated in blood, snot and saliva. 

My face pretty much exploded. That’s the only way I can describe it- one moment my nose was on my face and the next, it was in my cupped hands. My nose wasn’t the only thing that went tumbling out of my head that day- a good section of my cheekbones, sinuses, and lower cranium managed to escape during that fateful sneeze. It was horrendously painful- it was a primal, fiery kind of pain that escalated into an almost hot brilliance. I could actually feel my eyes prickling because it was that bad, and I was so blinded by the sheer intensity and where it was that I hadn’t noticed how everyone else was reacting. 

I think someone screamed. I think someone swore. I wasn’t really paying attention because my brain was still trying to process the fact that I was now holding half of my face amidst all the agony I was in. In fact, I don’t remember much of what happened after, besides being told to exit right now and head straight to detention young lady or else. I think I might have dissociated, but I don’t really know. I don’t even know why my face decided to explode like that either- Maybe when I fell over and knocked myself out I managed to fracture the roof of my mouth, or maybe I was just having a bad body day. Either way, I ended up with a missing face, a detention, and lots of pain.

I think it was a dick move of Mr Dyssof to give me a detention like that- It’s not like I wanted my face to explode on purpose! I mean, I know I’m impulsive, reckless and somewhat self-destructive, but I wouldn’t do something like that! I actually like being in classes and learning new things! It’s great!

So yeah, that’s why I had detention this morning. I really think you should do something about Mr Dyssof though- he didn’t even let me go to the nurses office to get some painkillers, or some help bandaging my face back together. He still has a huge grudge against me, even though I’ve explained to him on multiple occasions that I have a DNA disorder and that stuff like this is going to happen on a regular basis. I mean, if he’d have just let me go to the nurse’s office and then made me clean up any bloodstains I would be a much happier student, but he still insisted on punishing me for something that I can’t really help.

But yeah, that’s what happened. Can I head back to class now?

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Love and Whiteness (Part II)

So the last time I wrote a post on this subject it was more directly lamenting the difficulties of loving a white person and the ways in which they fail to see you on a one-on-one level. But as we get deeper into our relationship big things keep coming up. And this is why it has taken me so long to get around to writing part two of that post. Put simply, loving a white partner is not simply about the one on one relationship the two of you have. It is about much much more than that. See, there are the interpersonal dynamics between the two of you, then there are the larger societal power dynamics. Basically, what I have been coming to realise over the increasing course of my relationship is that deciding to build something with a white person is complex, because the advantages they have of being in the world slowly crowd out the little space you have. As a pansexual person in a heterosexual presenting relationship, this is because of the role patriarchy plays - a woman slowly is expected to conform to the culture of her partner, and her partner's family. That is, assimilation. But this is compounded because of the settler-colonist culture in South Africa, whiteness is seen as the highest bar of existence for all, and so with whiteness comes a sense of supremacy and entitlement, and if you don't fit the bar, you guessed it, you are less than worthy of being a part of the family. There are a number of challenges that come up when I think about the costs that being in a relationship with a white cis-het male have had on my psyche. And to speak frankly I am tired. In fact all the women in me are tired. But because it is a release, and because it may help someone else out there I am going to dish them up right now. So sit back, and enjoy (if possible). 1 - Privilege and the associated lack of lived experience. This is perhaps the biggest stumbling block in our relationship. If you are a black woman (or person) dating a white male, there probably is a phase where it is all hunky dory. But sooner or later, one day you wake up and have the earth-shattering realisation that:

"There is no way in which my cis-het, upper class, able-bodied, christian, male partner, has ever been systemically discriminated against in his entire life."

And this shakes you up because all you've ever known was struggle. As a woman, as a person of colour, as a non-hetero person, as a poor person, for me - as a survivor. And for a second you can't reconcile how it is that the two of you are together. For a split second you feel lucky, like maybe you won the lottery. You remember how hard it used to be when you were young, how you struggled through abuse, through trauma, through the vicarious trauma of those in your community, and you think "Ah, how did I get here? That all feels like a long and distant dream." Then you wake the fuck up and realise that you are not lucky. That the boundaries of the prison have just changed, and now while you are able to live and love and exist a lot easier than you were able to before there are constraints facing you that you would never imagine existed and these come in the shape of your partner's privilege. 

Obviously different people are woke to different levels, but white partners in particular tend to suffer from the white liberal affliction. They think that because you agree on the basis of morality and ethics there is no need to do extra work to be a good ally. In fact they may not even know what allyship means. And the burden of educating them is then defaulted onto YOU, the partner. 

Because they are an entitled white male, they get offended when you say that it is not your duty to educate them. They don't understand that you don't owe it to them. If you choose to educate them it is because you love them and you have committed  to your relationship. Educating them is a god damn privilege, not your job.  

In any case, privilege fucks with the power dynamics, and unless your partner is willing to put in the active conscious work, reading, listening to podcasts, watching stuff, reading and reading, he is not going to wake up. Not now. Not ever. 

2- Compounded with class and privilege comes family. In the case of my partner, he is half foreign, and half South African. And I always find that the half foreign aspect is what has saved him. Of the micro-aggressions that I experience at the hands of his family, those from his dad - a white South African apartheid era male - are the worst. To him I am not an individual, I am other. Whenever he talks about black people or indians, or black colleagues, he makes eye contact with me. Needless to say he thinks I am the fucking spokesperson for every Indian person in South Africa. 

And while the microaggressions from him are regular and particularly bad, it is not much better from the rest of the family. While the mum is less problematic she is not unproblematic, and the sisters are so couched in their own privilege that it suffocates me. This is the thing, when you relate to them (the whole family) it is on their terms. You do what they want and expect you to do and you do it in their way. They speak upper-crust english, and because I speak my vernacular I become a fucking cute little joke to them, "Oh, Anne*, did you hear how she said that?". Ha. ha. ha. Big fucking deal. I am sorry I am not a colonist settler who stole land, preserved imperial culture and went to the most expensive private school owned to man. 

So, yeah, white families. And guess what, you tell your partner about it and they accuse you of hating their family? It has actively started causing me anxiety. I can't go there and not get a tummy ache or headache, and a sinking feeling (Queue get out) in my stomach. Worst part is - they don't know it. My partner thinks he is between a rock and a hard place, and to date has only had a discussion with them about how problematic they are on one occasion.  And in this process I am villainised. It becomes me against the family. Well it wouldn't be if they weren't such passively racist human beings. 

3- Friends. I'll keep it short. This post is becoming taxing. The microaggressions are terrible. One of the friends also did the thing all white people do by referring to me as curry! Racist pig. There was no backlash from my partner who then went on the defensive and like a week later forgot it happened. Well, I didn't forget. Then, there are the extremely racist and misogynist friends. He has a friend who had a road rage incident and drove past the woman, rolled down his window and flashed a wad of cash in her face. Then bragged to me and my partner about it, and proceeded to say that he 

was sure that she wanted to fuck him. My partner sees this as a once off isolated incident, and his family says boys will be boys. My partner also thinks he is between a rock and a hard place. 

Don't they understand that these are our fucking lives - oh wait, they don't!

2 - Society. South Africa, and particularly Cape Town is the most racially segregated racist place in the country. It is worse because white liberals who live here go to church and think they are doing their duty unto society. They live in big houses on the foot of the mountain and donate blankets and money to charity but have never paid retribution and will not give back the land. They see no link between the exploitation of black bodies under apartheid and their economic success. And because they are colonist-settlers, they think they belong here and also behave as Gods. They don't make eye contact with you if you are not white, and do not acknowledge your humanity. When they do it is in a patronising way. They don't see black people as people, forget as their inferiors. They are entitled trash. Period. Now think about having kids, black kids, and this is what they aspire to. Nope. 3 - The lack of a reprieve. So, I go to work. It is extremely white, I go to therapy, she is white, I go home my partner is white. My family is scattered. I am alone in this city. My black friends have moved on from this mini-apartheid state to places that will feed their souls. My white friends mostly have the liberalism affliction, and I am isolated. There are very few public spaces that have black bodies in them, and it becomes suffocating. Loving a white person, then, is not about loving that individual. It is about being able to live with the toll that that love takes on your psyche and the price you pay for it. But I've basically decided that I am no longer willing to pay this price for our love. I demand respect from his parents, I will not associate with his friends, and he has to graft for it. I mean I could keep writing about this, the anger, the erasure, but I'll stop here. I love my partner. I really do. When it is just the two of us hanging, I see his soul and I truly feel that he sees mine, and I don't wanna end what we've been building. I dig it. I dig him. I dig our life. But add to the equation the expectation of settling down (I don't want to) and where (Cape Town? City of spatial apartheid?), monogamy (contentious one)  and kids (I am strictly adopting when I decide I am ready - too many abandoned lil puudin' faces ouchea), it quickly becomes a lot. Look, I don't have the answers. Being in a relationship with a non-white male could easily have just as many challenges, there is always patriarchy and religion. In any case, we're investing in something here and I will try to make it work, but the bottom line is this guy is going to have to put in some serious work. I guess if I could speak frankly to him I would say: I know you've never had to work for anything in your life. I know you are hyper-intelligent, so why don't you put some of that intellect to work and research concepts such as wokeness, allyship, feminism, intersectionality?  Oh it bores you? Well listen up... this is the lifeline of our relationship, and it is ALL up to you at this stage. You think that what I have displayed up to now is rage? You have no idea of the leaps and bounds by which it will expand if you don't do something about it. Gone, are the tears and the fear. This is a fight for survival, and you are either going to step up to the challenge or not.