#which i very much wouldnt want to do bc. nonverbal

[rouge-the-bat]

idk how ppl can handle kids. i sit in the room with 2 of them for just a little while and i get overloaded with anxiety from too much sound and constant interruptions from whatever im trying to focus on

[c-kiddo]

What do you think the autistic m9 members post shutdown/meltdown routine would be? (Either alone or with the other m9 members, I know I prefer being alone)

im not sure if this is what you meant bc these arent rly routines but,, my thoughts are here anyways ;w;;

- caleb often just needs alone time, but also likes veth to sit quietly beside him, especially because sometimes for him meltdowns can be partially triggered by paranoia or compulsions getting to be too much. and he trusts veth a lot to make sure there’s no assassin trying to kill him, or to tell him that the nein are safe)..... for calming down he likes an old blanket or his heavy coat, he likes the old smell of it too. if it was a big meltdown then he rocks and flaps or covers his ears (or goes under the covers in bed, in the dark) until he feels ok enough, and then he looks through his books and reads a bit. also petting frumpkin always helps. also helps him not to start picking at his skin because otherwise he can hurt himself a lot. he usually ends up having warm milk with cinnamon and comfort foods and reading or napping after in a candlelit, dim room

- veth tends to need quiet (or also hanging out with caleb).. also yeza’s vry good at helping seeing that sensory overloads are going to happen and can stop it beforehand if she needs :’’) .. also she tends to get angry and yell if she’s melting down so a quiet place to curl up small is very good. i think, arranging her buttons is a fool-proof help.. also stimming with the buttons she wears and also her braids. organising her collections helps ground her bc she feels all the textures and shapes and gathers them into categories. also stops her from pulling her hair ;w;

- i think meltdowns wouldnt happen to yasha that often bc my hc is she struggles mostly with social things and so she just leaves situations she doesn’t want to be in, but if she gets stuck and its a bad day and she shuts down i think walking always helps her. it gets her out of fight-or-flight mode. like, she just walks as fast as she can, maybe runs if everything is rly pent up until she's somewhere quiet and then she stims with the beads in her hair too ;w; if she’s melting down she tends to self-harm stim so its good to have someone else there to get her a pillow or something to punch, or to rub her back if everything is way too much. most of the time being alone helps her most :''3

- cad doesn’t tend to meltdown vry often, mostly shutdowns in which he stims a lot, rubbing fabric in his hands and chewing his hair and rocking. he usually leaves the situation and goes outside and just sits or walks around if he’s more panicky, flapping his hands by his ears over covering them if everything's too loud. meditation and grounding techniques help too so thats what he does most often :’) .. if he has a meltdown though its A Lot, lots of built up stress and he can’t process it so its just a big thing and usually ends up triggering dissociative and/or worsens psychosis bc his brain is trying to Escape.. he needs pressure afterward, when he's ok with being touched, hugs and pressure against his back especially (jes and yasha are very good at it). also he usually sleeps the whole rest of the day after bc its so exhausting, with a heavy old quilt with patterns to trace his fingers over. maybe has a nice bath (with some help) if its needed too :’3 especially if the meltdown involved Bad sensory things with his fur/skin getting greasy texture, it helps a lot. also bc (in canon) people brushing his hair or washing it will just make him fall asleep, it rly calms him down. also he’s p much nonverbal when it happens so its good to have someone with him who he can sign too, and also just for comfort and reality checks if needed ;w;

[bnha-butterfly]

Hi! Aaaaa it says reqs are open so? Dbdbbff could i pls request the twins suna and kita with a trans male autistic s/o? Like headcanons on how they interact with him or whatever u want really tbh jdndfnn just ignore this if i did it wrong and sorry if i was specific enough. Ty in advance!

 Kita, Suna, Atsamu, Osamu with an autistic trans male s/o

Hi hi random ask again fnfnf so u said u prob might take a while to get around to my request so i figured if i sent this ask in to give further detail it wouldnt like really screw with anything bc u havent started working on it yet? Presumably? Hdhdhf when i sent my req in i didnt really have anything specific in mind outside of general autism but! I did think of more details that i havent seen really talked about in general (in all kinda autism content and discussions ngl) so uh what do u think about adding to my request "low functioning" s/o like cant go to school or get a job bc its just so stressful and s/o cant cope type stuff (bc whenever theres autism representation its always the more "higher functioning" end of things which is like not everyones autism? Like its like that very one dimensional type of autism rep when theres so many different ways it affects ppl and - i am not going to go on a rant in an ask jesus christ im so sorry djdhfh) and dealing with some rejection sensitivity dysphroia/rsd?? Bc these are topics that dont really get covered and all fnfnfn its ok if u dont want/cant add this to my req tho im sorry for just randomly springing more details on you dhdhfb also sorry this is really long and wordy and if its hard to understand i tried to write it in a way thatd make sense dnfjf i just wanted to send this for your consideration ok ty! Sjdjfh 💚💚 💚

A/n - Just as a heads up I try to keep my blog as functioning label free as possible cus they lowkey make me uncomfy (don’t worry I didn’t have it in my rules so it's okay!) I’ll explain why they make me uncomfy/ why I hate them in a different post if anyone wants to know why. 

Kita Shinsuke

  This man always has a stim toy. Realistically he probably has a little pouch in his book bag that he carries with him everywhere that is just full of stim items. There’s a stress ball , a fidget cube and a few other things

Whenever you feel dysphoric he will literally remind you about how handsome you are. I mean like stand you in front of the mirror and point out all of his favorite parts of you

Definitely reminds you to be kind to your body and your brain cus they’re doing the best they can

If he has to cancel plans with you he always makes it up to you and tells you that he’d rather spend time with you.

Kita is so understanding and caring. He understands that school and work aren’t really an option for everyone for different reasons and he definitely understands that both are designed for neurotypical people.

Suna Rintaro

Rin keeps an extra pair of headphones on him at all times for if you get overwhelmed 

If you ever mention to him that you’re going to sleep or if he sending you a good night text he always reminds you to take off your binder

Sometimes he wants to hangout with the team and has to turn you down. He knows RSD can make turning down spending time together feel like a kick in the face so he always promises to spend time with you later and tell you he loves you

If you ever have a low spoons + dysphoria type of day he’s coming over and spending time with you in bed. He’s bringing some of your favorite snacks/drinks/food and one of his hoodies that still smell like him. 

His love language is quality time so he probably takes you on a lot of dates. Especially if they have something to do with your special interest or hyper fixation

Miya Osamu

He learns how to cook all of your safe foods just the way you like it.

Every morning you are greeted with a kiss to your temple and a sleepy Osamu grumbling a soft “good morning handsome” to you.

He understands that work isn’t really for you. But, sometimes he’ll take you with him to the onigiri shop with him to keep him company. 

This man would move heaven and earth to see you happy everyday without hesitation. 

He’s super responsive to all boundaries you have. Don’t want to be touched or cuddled a certain way? Okay. Need him to give you space after a meltdown/shutdown or on extremely dysphoria days? No problem.

Miya Atsumu

If you are nonverbal/semi verbal he definitely made you communication cards. He gave them to you for either an anniversary or your birthday and they are super well done. They’re laminated their color coated and they’re just lovely

He’s such a good listener. He could listen to you talk all day and never get tired. Whether it’s you just talking about insecurities while in bed together or him listening to you talk about a hyperfixation/ special interest you know he’s always willing to listen. 

Insecurities who??? Not with Atsumu around. If he is not kissing away your insecurities he’s making you “laugh away the bad vibes”. 

He always reminds you how much he loves you. He literally will not leave for practice until he gets a kiss and tells you he loves you, it’s gotten him in trouble for being late a few times but he always says he’d do it again. (and he always ends up doing it again)