#when Elena messes up yall make sure to heavily critic each action she makes

[cancerian-woman]

What fans expected Elena to do when Caroline told her that she wants to turn her humanity off, knowing the consequences of not caring about anything, possibly ending up killing people and breaking down because of the guilt:

"Yesss go for it queen Caroline! Turning off your humanity is soooo oh helpful and fun it's your time to SHINE! Fuck our previous experiences WE STAN THE CONTROL FREAK!"

LMAO, literally this. Elena’s not perfect! That’s okay, and I do think there is things to criticize her on…..but people never pick legitimate reasons. This ain’t one of them :).

Let’s pretend Elena said nothing. She just watched as Caroline repeated similar behaviors as she did, rushing through grieving, not wanting to process anything, refusing help, fighting your friends and didn’t offer any possible comfort. Then the argument would suddenly be that Elena (or anyone) doesn’t care about Caroline. “No one helped her after her mother died! Nobody cared…” Yes, Elena mentioned her own experience and made a personal connection but that’s literally how some people relate to others who are struggling. A big key(one of my favorite too) to Elena is compassion. She didn’t center herself in the middle of it. Caroline did most of the talking and then mentioned two situations that Elena admitted was a mistake. Elena offered support and told her in a few words or so turning your humanity-switch off won’t make everything go away. Which it didn’t lmao, and Elena understood pretty well that it wasn’t her decision. She just said nicely she wouldn’t let Caroline go through this alone.

But, no lol its somehow everyone else’s fault for trying to help Caroline’s humanity and for being the reason that Caroline burned that damn letter or the stereo.line build up…

Lastly Caroline wouldn’t have made it no year with her humanity off lol. Maybe a few weeks to a month. The plot made sure to force down our throats how much of a control-freak Caroline is and yet she ruined her own damn letter from her mother YET it’s everyone else’s fault?!?!