#watch all the people in the notes tag this as asexual/aroace

[wren-kitchens]

romance repulsed people of tumblr, if people were to tag romance in the same way they would tag sex/nsfw stuff what would be the best tag?

please rb i’d like for a lot of people to see this so they start tagging stuff as romance if they otherwise don’t (the question and poll are mostly window dressing icl)

[olderthannetfic]

The ace asks about how asexuality and being aromantic is increasingly seen to mean "has sex and romance like a normal person" reminds me of the time I accidentally deeply angered an author. She had the tag 'asexual character' in her fic's tags, but since it's a 300k word long fic involving a lot of characters, it wasn't clear who that referred to right away. I left long comments on each chapter, talking about what I liked, sections that hit really hard, lines that I loved, etc., as I always do. (I like to ramble IRL and I can't turn it off even online.) At the halfway point of the fanfic, during a long comment about the OCs that helped flesh out the oft-mentioned but barely explored organizations and companies in the world of canon, I said that I hoped This One Specific OC or That Other Specific OC would turn out to be the asexual character, as I saw in them echoes of myself and a friend of mine (we're both ace).

She had never responded to a comment of mine before, but she did for that one... to yell at me about how the main character OC was aroace, actually. This was apparently supposed to be obvious since the word ace was used in the tie-in prequel fic, which I had held off on reading because the author's note mentioned it would have spoilers if you hadn't read the whole main fic. The character in question has a relationship not remotely different from any of the cishetallo or cisqueerallo relationships presented in the text. She develops a snarky sarcastic friendship with someone she finds visually beautiful and impossible to look away from, gets to know him a little, watches movies with him, they get into urban fantasy danger which they help each other through, they fuck and do so extremely regularly, and she has past exes who she also did all of this with.

And I was, apparently, a bigot with internalized aphobia and negative attitudes towards women who have sex because I didn't look at her and go, "Ah, yes, an aroace!" She informed me I was forcing unrealistic stereotypes no one adhered to onto ace people by thinking aces had to be a certain way and by refusing to see that

Her angry reply was so long it took three AO3 comments to send to me, and it didn't really make me convinced I'd misread the situation. It just made me convinced this wasn't an author I wanted to read more fic from, because 1. this is a lot of anger, holy crap and 2., I really think this is an excusable mistake on my part. I saw no signs this character was in any way different from any other couple in the fic beyond that she and her love interest didn't get to know each other's backstories as much and instead bonded more through experiences they shared, which in my opinion is not something that can be linked to any sexuality or lack thereof.

I feel like there's a moral in here. Like, authors, as a fellow author, I get that it sucks when someone else doesn't see the characters like you do, or misses something you thought was clear, etc. I get that it's frustrating. But don't rip into someone who's been gushing about every chapter of your fic individually just because they didn't catch one thing. I failed to realize one character's sexuality. That's not the same as hating you, the character or the writing.

Mostly I remember that incident as the day I stopped asking questions in my long comments. A sea of gushing does not make up for a mistake and the best way not to make those is to not ask if a tag relates to a character or line.

--

Oof. I mean, sure, there's a diversity of experience. Everything is a spectrum. Yada yadda. But if two labels become entirely indistinguishable, what's the point of even having them, much less getting mad when people can't spot the difference?

[muppetjackrackham]

🦁🏴‍☠️ · any · aroace + borderpolar · disabled · LV.25 writer, artist, dumbass, pirate enthusiast

"Pirates need to take better care of their fucking maps." —bo burnham 2016

formerly asexualromanroy/austinbaldler/feydfuckernation

partners in crime: @allthemidnightmemories @cutienerd13 @dreaming-of-hope @humanoidrangoon @slimepuppied

co-conspirators: @austinbutlermischief @gggoldfinch @homerow99 @itey @lindszeppelin @medium-observation @twoheartsoneclara @wondrousashes

DISCLAIMERS

PERMANENT SEMI-HIATUS DUE TO WORKING FULL TIME

aroace posts tagged under aceposting (for general asexual posting) and aceposting* (for aromantic posts to denote the difference between aro and ace posting as an aroace individual)

prefers not to interact with minors due to the mature nature of content that can be found on this blog but will make exceptions on a case by case basis

i am disabled and reserve the right to make jokes about my own experiences regarding my disabilities and diagnoses. several of them are still heavily stigmatized and i do not appreciate—nor will i tolerate—jokes at my expense about them. this includes intentionally shitty comments about people like kanye west (bipolar) and amber heard (borderline personality disorder) you can be highly critical of abusive people and their actions without resorting to ableism and contributing to the stigma surrounding these types of diagnoses

if you're aphobic in any way get the fuck off my blog lmao

currently watching: agatha all along, gravity falls, rivals (2024) currently listening to: back to the future the musical, epic the musical, tom cardy, TROY currently reading: the book of bill currently playing: genshin impact, pokémon X, pokémon sun & ultra moon campaign(s): none

notable hyperfixation(s): agatha all along, austin butler, black sails, doctor who, epic the musical, gravity falls, rivals (2024), tenmartha

CREDITS

- austin butler shannara chronicles s2 gifs - the boys screencaps - jack rackham flower crown icon by @sirtadcooper

PSDS USED: various psds by @jaynedits & @peripsds, imaginary friends by ravenorlov, psd 108 by @venuscommissions

all triggers are tagged using a "trigger warning cw" format.

THIS BLOG IS RUN BY A CSA AND ABUSE SURVIVOR. DO NOT COME TO MY BLOG DEFENDING RAPISTS LIKE NEIL GAIMAN OR DONALD TRUMP. DO NOT FOLLOW ME IF YOU SUPPORT FASCISTS LIKE DONALD TRUMP OR ANY OTHER SIMILARLY HATEFUL AND/OR OPPRESSIVE RHETORIC.

(NOTE: THIS BLOG IS NOT A SPACE FOR TERF/RADFEM IDEOLOGY IN RESPONSE TO THE ALLEGATONS SURROUNDING NEIL GAIMAN)

UPDATED 11/12/2024

[thedemises]

. . . PEOPLE I'D LOVE TO GET TO KNOW BETTER!!!1! :O

contains! . . .  get to know me a little better! :D, don't whine about the word "sex" normalize it already 😒, a mention of the Tragedy Of The Andes, nothing really too serious! :D notes! . . .  tysm for the tag, my best buddy ring @ringdabel!!!!!! 😭😭 I was going to post this WAY earlier but forgot about it so- 💀 (oh and, I have an ao3 account now >:))) i use the same username as the one I have rn-)

LAST SONG : Farben by Orange Sector.

► Farben is quite a great German song I stumbled upon on YouTube while scrolling for a video to watch out of boredom. I truly recommend listening to it! man, do I love songs from other countries...

FAVORITE COLOR : any shade of any color!

► im sorry I just CAN'T choose a color when all of them are sooooo pretty!!!! 😭😭😭 I mean, most of the them... some are just kinda not my vibe 😃 like neon yellow or hot pink- but honestly, any shades of blue and green are my personal favorites :]]

LAST MOVIE : Alive (1994, Adventure/Thriller Film).

► I watched it by myself cuz my mom REFUSES to watch it bc it's based off an actual incident that happened and it contains acts of cannibalism- I don't remember much of it?- but I assume I enjoyed it, oh and I also watched the documentary(?) of the Andes Plane Crash Incident and it was great (pls don't think of me as a weirdo- I just like watching real crime/murder/etc. documentaries sometimes 😭)

SWEET/SPICY/SAVOURY : any flavor for me really! depending what I feel like tasting rn.

► any flavor is fine with me and I love all of them! I can't really pick what kind of flavor if I was told what kind of flavor would I eat for the rest of my life- spicy is really good depending on the food!! :D

RELATIONSHIP STATUS : Single and ain't looking for anyone 🔥🔥

► I'm aroace y'all if you didn't really know?- (aromantic asexual) which means I really am not attracted to anyone romantically or sexually! I hope you respect that (plus my mom forbids me and all of my siblings from dating anyone 💀 (not that'd i would actually date or have sex at all)

LAST THING I GOOGLED : yokai that sucks blood.

► pls don't ask. :,) the only explaination i could give is that i made a few ocs inspired by yokai- plus i think it'll be kinda cool to make a yokai oc who sucks blood for a possible scenario- but maybe that's just me :,)

CURRENT OBSESSION : Creating OCs.

► okay so- I've gotten a little too carried away when creating OCs cuz now I have like 82 of them and 47 other side OCs.. 😓😦 but am I gonna stop? no! :D i love creating OCs either having different nationalities, ages, genders, traits, appearances, names, origins, and etc.! though I probably wouldn't be using like,, half of them for something, I just think they're neat! :DDD there's probably nothing stopping me from doing this! and if you don't like it, just go on about your day and ignore this!! :DDDD

tags!!! . . .  @gummyshark-soda, @starracoonagain, @freelyhappycycle, @trashiest-person

[gemstarstarlight]

I posted 996 times in 2022

That's 996 more posts than 2021!

61 posts created (6%)

935 posts reblogged (94%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@taketwoinink

@9-circles-of-l

@venusqq

@skyisverybored

@jinxneedssleep

I tagged 978 of my posts in 2022

Only 2% of my posts had no tags

#mentality love - 150 posts

#*checks for cameras* - 139 posts

#aroace - 117 posts

#asexual - 115 posts

#pretty pictures - 110 posts

#aromantic - 96 posts

#reblog for posterity - 92 posts

#ace - 87 posts

#aro - 74 posts

#philosophy takes - 66 posts

Longest Tag: 137 characters

#i am forever and always a humanities nerd who actually wanted friends but did not want to fit in and generally didn’t like people who did

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Them: I’m in love with you.

Me: No you aren’t you don’t even know me you absolute dingus *whacks over the head with a baseball bat*

24 notes - Posted September 1, 2022

#4

Matthew Mercer as a robot is about the cutest thing I’ve ever seen.

27 notes - Posted October 5, 2022

#3

So, I’m watching EXU Calamity.

And I am going to discuss major spoilers, so be aware.

I was FURIOUS when Laerryn cast Blight on the tree. To me it seemed so obvious that it was a protection against something that to destroy it without any attempt to figure it out first was unconscionable.

And I realized I was angry. And I couldn’t figure out why.

Because it’s a story! A great story, a beautiful story, a moving story, but a story nonetheless. Why did I care so much about Laerryn’s choice? I’m normally pretty good at getting invested in a story but not letting it emotionally affect me. I don’t cry in movies. I suspect when I finish episode 4 I’m not gonna cry when everyone dies.

But I was so angry at Laerryn I had to pause the episode and do something else.

Why?

I’ve done some thought, and I think I know why.

Deeply connected to and caring of her work, above relationships. A deep desire to leave a mark on the world, to be remembered after leaving this earth. Talented and, more importantly, aware of her talents. Clutching to her work, her abilities, thinking, “It was worth it, it was worth it, it has to be worth it.” The people she’s left behind. The loves that she lost. Showing people that she cares through her abilities more than what they actually want from her (to stay, to be available, to need them). And worst of all, that single-minded drive that wants to get the most of what she needs and excluding everything else.

I saw way too much of myself in Laerryn Coramar-Seelie. And I’m not sure I loved what I saw.

If I had been in her shoes—me, who ditched my family and friends to see the world, have always been looking for more in life than simply what works, who feels fundamentally different from most people, who truly deeply cares about others but somehow can never put them above my own dreams and hopes, which is the very definition of love in most books—if I had been there, would I have done any different?

Or would I, too, in my own hubris and desperation, made the choice that seemed most right to me, and so completely missed the point?

I think I was angry because I wanted her to make the right decision, and when she didn’t, I felt afraid.

30 notes - Posted August 2, 2022

#2

Wereanimals that aren’t just wolves. The leader is a WereTiger.

I am living.

35 notes - Posted November 11, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

Okay, I’m not one for crackships as a general rule, but Fearne and Chetney are too batshit insane hilarious to not get behind. An almost-canon crackship that references Hulk and Black Widow. The wildest will-they-won’t-they between two weird old people. A 100+ year old hippie faun druid and a 400+ feral gremlin werewolf with really strong Chihuahua energy. God bless.

730 notes - Posted November 4, 2022

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[crying-in-converse]

I posted 297 times in 2022

That's 297 more posts than 2021!

97 posts created (33%)

200 posts reblogged (67%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@henrythepug

@ketterdam-snack-bar

@yesterdayorcenturiesbefore

@oblivious-aro

@paqerings

I tagged 109 of my posts in 2022

#aroace - 23 posts

#taylor swift - 15 posts

#ace - 13 posts

#taylors version - 13 posts

#aro - 12 posts

#song reccomendations - 10 posts

#aro pride - 10 posts

#give me song recs - 10 posts

#asexual - 10 posts

#song recs - 9 posts

Longest Tag: 92 characters

#no i am not one of those girls who simp over the once ler i just really like the lorax movie

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

"I don't dress for women, I don't dress for men

lately I've been dressing for revenge"

is so aroace coded

45 notes - Posted November 15, 2022

#4

open pinterest, make a moodboard out of the first nine pictures that show up, and tag your mutuals!

I was tagged by @yesterdayorcenturiesbefore and @henrythepug <3

tagging @paqerings @tea-time-with-dragons @king-crocodile @ketterdam-snack-bar @cheesepizzabro

80 notes - Posted November 26, 2022

#3

i need to lock myself in a dark room to go on tumblr and watch wednesday and read solitaire

88 notes - Posted November 30, 2022

#2

reading radio silence has really helped me realize just how amazing and needed platonic friendships are. romance is every where and it just feels so refreshing (especially as an aroace) to read a book where the two main characters have such strong purely platonic love for each other. I just want to shout out all of my friends because you mean more to me than anyone or anything else in this world.

116 notes - Posted November 23, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

I honestly do not get non- aspec people.

how do you not need to become friends with the person you date first? like doesn't that make sense? so you can find out the type of person they are and if they truly wouldn't hurt you?

im just confused, like its so easy for u to just become friends first, before anything else.

126 notes - Posted December 10, 2022

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[maya-chirps]

I posted 428 times in 2022

29 posts created (7%)

399 posts reblogged (93%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@/thekawaiibutterflygirl

@/appleflavoredkitkats

@/redstonedust

@/staffs-secret-blog

@/adhbabey

I tagged 424 of my posts in 2022

Only 1% of my posts had no tags

#reblurb - 197 posts

#reblog - 191 posts

#lgbtqia+ - 47 posts

#ukraine - 28 posts

#russian invasion - 23 posts

#goncharov - 22 posts

#standwithukraine - 22 posts

#aro - 21 posts

#russia - 21 posts

#ace - 21 posts

Longest Tag: 137 characters

#then again this creator straight up gas a pro-ussr banner that features the eastern european hetalian characters in full ussr flag shirts

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

These fucking elections are a fucking mess.

5 notes - Posted May 10, 2022

#4

I wanna write something related to the elections right now especially considering my family history with the Marcoses, but I can't on account of my medical condition. I'll write it one of these days though.

5 notes - Posted May 11, 2022

#3

Being aromantic is tough, especially in a love-obsessed society and culture, but I feel so grateful to have lucked out with my mom.

I mean, yeah, she still says things like "You'll never know..." but she says it in a less adamant way that definitely doesn't imply that she doesn't believe me when I say it to her. I overheard her talking with my aunt saying that she was glad that I wasn't interested in relationships and both of them seem so understanding of me being aro.

She sometimes just randomly tells me stories of relatives and friends she had that lived fulfilling single lives in order to cheer me up when I lament amatonormativity and loneliness, and perks up whenever she hears real people who share my experience too!

Recently, I've noticed that she likes telling me about characters in the shows she watches that she thinks I'd relate to, and excitedly tells me when a character comes out as ace or aro or aroace.

Just- I'm so lucky to have my mom.

26 notes - Posted November 2, 2022

#2

As much as I like the people firing the gunshots to keep rent low and purity twitter away from tumblr with cringeposting that would make 2012 blush, I feel like it's weirdly equally effective to just show them the cemetery at our backyard and be honest with how tumblr really runs right now since it's also driving those twitterinas away. Like, keep posting cringe of course, but I don't think they'd like us regardless of the amount of superwholock we bring back.

29 notes - Posted November 10, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

Being asexual is actually super fucking awesome in that there's so much diverse experiences within the community and they all subvert society's expectations in some way.

Like it's honestly so awesome that all of us have this unique view and relationship with society that adds more to known conversations and topics that most people may not even have cross their minds.

I just think it's so fucking cool and we should celebrate these diverse experiences more.

259 notes - Posted October 29, 2022

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[aceoffangirls]

I posted 425 times in 2022

That's 415 more posts than 2021!

67 posts created (16%)

358 posts reblogged (84%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@thearoaceplantmom

@daylightsimon

@delusional-mess

@arguablysomaya

@shmaroace

I tagged 113 of my posts in 2022

#asexual - 38 posts

#aroace - 36 posts

#aromantic - 34 posts

#lgbtqia - 28 posts

#ace - 21 posts

#asexuality - 21 posts

#cupioromantic - 15 posts

#aro - 15 posts

#aromantic spectrum - 14 posts

#heartstopper - 11 posts

Longest Tag: 136 characters

#anyone have any good merlin fics where the knights watch all the times merlin almost died as well as all the times he cried i need angst

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Soooo I made another meme

641 notes - Posted August 5, 2022

#4

Happy Ace Week to all my fellow Aces, here is some garlic bread

1,092 notes - Posted October 24, 2022

#3

Can someone make a quiz for ace and aro spec people to tell if they are having a crush or alterous attraction to someone, because I like need help.

1,109 notes - Posted July 29, 2022

#2

You know I think aces are the most chaotic as we basically

Just want to eat cake

Just want to eat garlic bread

Just want to eat really anything

Want a dragon

Plan world domination because we are immune to the human desire of sexual attraction and will soon rule the world and steal everyone's cake and garlic bread

Forget we are asexual because we found someone pretty and go through the realisation for the fifth time that week, that yes sexual attraction is a real thing that people experience

1,293 notes - Posted September 30, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY

Happy Ace day to all my fellow Acespecs

To the Asexuals, Demisexuals, Greysexuals

To the Aceflux’s and cupiosexuals, 

To the lithosexuals, fraysexuals

To all those on the ace spec that I haven't listed 

To the sex favourable. the sex indifferent, the sex repulsed

To those who are acepec: arospec, hetero romantic, bi romantic, homo romantic, pan romantic 

To those still questioning or confused 

To all those who are apart of this community (sorry if I did not list above)

You are all valid and beautiful. 

Happy International Asexual Day 💜 🖤🤍

7,177 notes - Posted April 6, 2022

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[idiedlike50yearsago]

Hey since this hugely popular post is cooled down I wanted to yap about it on alt cause it's so weirdly nostalgic to me

I knew when I made it that I'd get val Stan's out the gate and that is actually exactly what I added the "do y'all see the vision" line for. I have no hate in my heart for val Stan's, I'm nowhere near invested enough in the show anymore to have beef with 1. People who just like his design, 2. People who just like his humor/suaveness or 3. People who are just defensive because they like his writing enough to get weirdly hurt when people talk about hating a villain (it's a villain, people are allowed to hate him, no matter if they like other villains, it is entirely up to personal boundaries and triggers, don't hate people for expressing their feelings towards a character they have every right to dislike. I get that some people are aggressive about it but there's nuance in accepting that me making a meme about personally disliking a character isn't the time for that debate, yk? Separate subject ik, but had to get it out of me)

Basically, a part of the "vision" was that he's easy to hate. It's a ✨Hyperbole✨ I used to express my personal disdain for the fuckbug so I could make others laugh about also hating him. its not meant to be taken so literally that you gotta jump up let me know you're into him lol /t

And the other half of why I added the vision bit was for it being an Aro alastor joke! I was frustrated that I, an AroAce person myself, had to watch one of the only AroAce characters I'd ever seen be mostly engaged with in romantic and sexual ways. I wanted to create content for him that was honest to his identity. Especially when so many people still want to throw all meanings of no verbal literacy, and real world relevancy out the window to scream about how "HeS jUsT AcE, NoT aRo"

See "fandom can't handle asexuality" on YouTube for more on that debate, cause I don't got time for it.

And yk. On top of it. I got AroAce people MAD AT ME for invading the aro tags with this post! A GROWN ASS ADULT ASK BOXED ME ABOUT ITTT, AND GOT IN AN ACTUAL DEBATE WHERE THEY ASSUMED THAT I WAS JUST SOME GOOFY, TWEEN OBSESSED WITH "MY BLORBO" WHO WAS STUPID FOR DEFENDING MY REPRESENTATION THE BEST I COULDDDD. IT WAS SO SILLY AND IMMATURE AND IM STILL SALTY ABOUT IT LMAO.

It was just. So weird to me to watch my own community stereotype and invalidate me. And I don't even blame them! Alastor is so over sexualized that seeing him as ace rep is genuinely hard, ignoring the fact they might hate the show as is. That's how widespread Alastor's Tumblr manification is. It honestly sucks. I get how frustrating it must be to be force fed these scraps of representation, seasoned with R34 and 9999 word ship fics, in a restaurant you don't even like. I get that you're sick of him. And at this point I'm over it. I just. Need to get it out there that for a solid week maybe it did hurt my feelings. Complain about his ass being in the tag everyday of the week, honestly I would remove him from the tag at this point if I could access this account but just understand that behind the stinky man was an AroAce teen trying their best not to hate their identity by making a meme to validate themselves, yk? Aros gotta support Aros even when we don't like each other's fandoms lol.

TLDR: I'm just so nostalgic for me predicting so well that a handful of people just. Wouldn't get the vision. And even tho I'm not really into the show anymore I'll always have my own silly love for this post not in spite of the minor controversy around it, but BECAUSE of it. It's nice too me to have 1. Been straight up about how I felt about something enough to have people be mad at me (even if it was light hearted and sneaky) and 2. To have not wimped out over it. You don't know me well enough to know but that's actually kind of something to note for me. I've always been SOOO aggressively afraid of people disagreeing with me that even tho this was NO WHERE NEAR ENOUGH SERIOUS for me to actually have any real strong feelings about it, I am a little bit proud of myself for not doing the easy thing and deleting it. Especially when I checked Pinterest and saw HOARDS of val fans pissed at me over it lol.

It was just. Such a casual sign of how far I'd come. A tiny little scrap of evidence of how I'm not the weak willed mess of a kid I used to be. Something to look at to know that I'm actually doing pretty okay, yk?

Beautiful to me not because it was a big deal, but beautiful to me because it wasn't. Beautiful to me because for once I didn't have to care.

I could make a post. Make people mad. And move on with my day like any one else.

ESPECIALLY SINCE IT WAS FOR THE EVER SO HATED HAZBIN HOTEL LIKE LETS GO BABY, YOU DIDN'T JUST ANNOY PEOPLE FOR BEING AROACE OR BEING A HATER, YOU ANNOYED PEOPLE FOR LIKING A POORLY WRITTEN SHOW THAT THEY HAD EVER RIGHT TO HATE. YOU'RE THE BASEMENT DWELLING LOSER IN SOMEONE'S STORY AND YOU WERE OKAY WITH THAT, IM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR BEING UNAPOLOGETICALLY INVESTED IN SOMETHING SO HONESTLY MEDIOCRE LMAO

thank you for reading such a dramatic rant, I hope you have great, unapologetically controversial, or cringe day <3

Do y'all see it, do you see the vision

[corelliaxdreaming]

Dear Yuletide Writer

First of all, thank you! I'm pretty easy to please, and I can't wait to see what you come up with for me.

Secondly, I'd love to receive treats from anyone! I forgot to put this in my sign-up, so I hope this counts too.

I'll list my general likes and dislikes, though there are a small number of exceptions in my notes for specific fandoms.

Likes:

~any genre, hard fluff to hard angst

~any rating

~hurt/comfort, especially emotional

~anxious and/or depressed and/or PTSD-suffering characters + supportive partners/friends who are always there for them even if they don't quite understand what they're going through

~porn with feelings

~aromantic spectrum characters, asexual spectrum characters, and/or queerplatonic relationships. I'm aroace and in a QPR myself, so I have a lot of these types of headcanons.

~“unconventional” relationships in general (coparenting while not being involved romantically/sexually, aroallo or alloace relationships, platonic life partners, being close friends with an ex, polyamory, etc etc)

DNWs:

~noncon/dubcon/cheating/violence between requested characters

~amatonormativity (the idea that romantic relationships are more important than other kinds, the assumption that all people desire a romantic relationship and would automatically be happier with one, sort of a form of arophobia)

~compulsory sexuality (the assumption that all people desire sex and would automatically be happier than without it, sort of a form of acephobia)

Now for specific fandom notes:

We Are A Picturesque Small Town And We Refuse To Be The Setting For Your RomCom - Rachel McKenny

(Chet Anderson, Medical Practitioner, Lumber Industry Professional, Billionaire – My gift must feature one or more of my chosen character tags (giver's choice))

I just love the aromantic vibes this one gives off with all the townspeople being so fed up with romance. What if this in fact a town full of arospecs? Perhaps someone comes there looking for romance and finds about this other way of living. Or perhaps a “couple” (or moresome) from the town follows the steps of one of those stereotypical romance storylines, but they’re really in a platonic/queerplatonic relationship? Would especially love to see Chet show up as aromantic and be totally done with the shenanigans as he prosecuting someone for their crimes.

On the other hand, I can see this turning Twilight Zone-esque. Perhaps there literally can’t be romance past the borders of the town. How and why? What happens if someone with romantic feelings enters? (If you choose this, please be careful not to make it arophobic. For example, no insisting/inferring that not having romance in their live is inherently sad/pathetic/unfulfilling/etc for every single person.)

In either case, it would be super fun to see appearances of some of the little details like the specific businesses (especially the combo ones) and literal holidays mentioned in the piece.

Pocahontas (Disney Movies)

(Mrs. Jenkins, John Rolfe, Pocahontas, John Smith – My gift must feature all of my chosen character tags; or it may use exceptions I explain in the form)

For this one, please include Pocahontas and the Johns; Mrs. Jenkins is fun but optional. (Though they're no nominated, appearances from any of the animal characters would also be enjoyed.) Despite knowing it's based on history, I've always been kind of bummed Pocahontas ended up with Rolfe instead of Smith. But last time I watched, I was struck by how much I liked the idea of them as an OT3. Each pair has a fun dynamic between them, and this way, everybody “wins.”

As a side note, I know these movies are based on some contentious real history with all the sharp corners Disney sanded off. I'm not ignoring that, but I am just looking for something set in this fictional version.

Snuggly Pup Palace (Podcast)

(Listener | Pooch Palace Visitor, Heather, Sam, Daisy – My gift must feature one or more of my chosen character tags (giver's choice))

I just want to see something more in this setting with the same sort of chill vibe. Maybe just a slice of life of how the Pooch Palace runs. Maybe a continuation or sequel of the sleepcast itself. Maybe a bit of expansion on Sam and/or Health and how they came to work here and what they think of it. Daisy might be my favorite fictional dog; what an absolute sweetheart.

FAITH (Airdorf Video Games)

(John Ward, Father Garcia, Amy Martin – My gift must feature one or more of my chosen character tags (giver's choice))

For this fandom specifically, canon levels of violence/gore are fine, even between the requested characters. Religious content is also fine, but please nothing overtly preachy. I'm not religious, and I'm not looking to be converted.

John is my favorite here. My Type when it comes to characters is very much “guy who tries so hard to do the right thing and suffers for it and is kind of a real kicked puppy type.” So just, I dunno, anything kind of about that? Or maybe what happened to him after the game? I don't recall which ending is meant to be “canon,” but I like the one where Garcia basically becomes his mentor. I like that take on their relationship, but I'm also not opposed to shipping them. (Big fan of John's more-or-less canon bisexuality.) I'm also a little fascinated by John's relationship with Amy and how easily she forgives him toward the end of the game, even after everything. How did she reach that point? And how much must that have thrown him for a loop?

Merge Mansion (Video Game)

(Maddie Boulton, Rufus, Emilio Costa, Roddy Took – My gift must feature one or more of my chosen character tags (giver's choice)

I know Maddie never realizing that the guys are coming on to her is an ongoing joke, but it really reads are her being aromantic/arospec to me. I'd love to see some exploration of that. Maybe she doesn't know it yet herself? Maybe she talks to Rufus about how she just doesn't understand?

If not, sort of anything that's just fun and light related to this game and not featuring Maddie romance would be great. Maybe something based on one of the events or areas. I know the actual merge gameplay doesn't really convert to real life, but seeing some of those objects might be fun.

Eleanor Rigby - The Beatles (Song)

(Eleanor Rigby, Father McKenzie – My gift must feature one or more of my chosen character tags (giver's choice))

I don't get out much musically, so I've just heard this song for the first time relatively recently (specifically the Cody Fry version) and was kinda fascinated by it. What is Eleanor's story? Does McKenzie really give sermons to an empty church? What is their relationship (now romantic/sexual please!) How lonely are they really? My brain likes the idea that Eleanor might be aro/arospec and alone by choice. (And if you wanna go weird, some dark corner of my brain likes the idea of her face in a jar being literal.)

[arielsojourner]

I posted 1,752 times in 2022

That's 869 more posts than 2021!

22 posts created (1%)

1,730 posts reblogged (99%)

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I tagged 22 of my posts in 2022

#moon knight - 5 posts

#marc spector - 4 posts

#steven grant - 4 posts

#aroace - 3 posts

#asexual - 3 posts

#khonshu - 3 posts

#vader strikes back - 2 posts

#luke and vader save the galaxy - 2 posts

#layla - 2 posts

#youtube - 2 posts

Longest Tag: 67 characters

#this is reigniting my love for ancient egypt from my 7th grade self

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Palpatine: My job is to carry out Senate policy.

Padme: Even if you think it is wrong?

Palpatine: Well, almost all Senate policy is wrong but it is frightfully well carried out.

20 notes - Posted March 5, 2022

#4

Did I stay up way late to watch ep 2 of Moon Knight? Yes, yes I did and it was so worth it!

28 notes - Posted April 6, 2022

#3

Thoughts on rewatching Moon Knight Ep 2 (this time not tired and past midnight)

SPOILERS!

1. Is it just me or when Steven wakes and “opens up” the three pane mirror . . . does that mean he keeps that mirror closed regularly? He has a mirror you have to “open?” I don’t know about you but I don’t have mirrors that open or I keep closed.

2. When getting fired and the boss mentions doctors there is such a defeated look in Steven’s face and then when he sees the brochure . .  I think he’s maybe been there before, had the “doctors” talk before. 

3. God, he talks to the statue man because that’s the only person who LISTENS when he talks. Everyone else ignores, goes away, isn’t interested, belittles him. His only listener (and he mentions that when he looks at the doctor brochure too, that they look like they’re “good listeners”) is a living statute. WTF. This is so so sad. And just having that listener, non judgmental who doesn’t run away or shift expression gives Steven hope.

3. Steven’s “mm-hmm” after Layla says that he is talking to his mom again. Like he’s starting to second guess that too now along with everything/one else.

4. What does it say about the alters if Steven is learning French and Hieroglyphics, things Marc’s wife knows and/or likes/loves. Can the wants and wishes of one alter influence the desires and/or skills of another alter in a system?  Can the things they love about other people become things that other alters embrace? And Layla thinks Marc is playing games with her, sharing knowledge with her about both things when she’s the one who knew that, not Marc. You can see she is feeling a bit pissed but also thinking, what is he playing at?  She huffs a laugh when he praises her knowledge of unilaterals because it is so absurd that Marc keeps playing these games, “pretending” to be this Steven. Why is he praising her? Clumsily flirting with her? Great scene. Great acting all over her body language. 

5. “I would never divorce you.” The earnest words of a man who realizes he DOES have someone in his life, somehow; through all the madness, there is someone there and she knows French poetry like he does and knows her unilaterals and he is CHARMED and he is not letting her go, not if he can legally help it. Awww!  And Layla is just . . . WTF? What does this mean? Divorce papers but unsigned? The accent? Pretending not know? Learning French AND ancient Egyptian? Steven and Marc are the embodiments of mixed messages here. 

6. What I think is strangely hilarious is that Khonshu talking to Steven and saying things like “I am real justice” is like an ordinary person waking up one day and Batman (and I know that Moon Knight is NOT Batman, this is just comparison) is visible and audible only to that person and it is Batman as like a two dimensional character telling you to do things in the name of justice. OMG, realizing he has alters, seeing jackals that don’t appear on camera, meeting his “wife”, realizing he is estranged from his own mom (she never calls back!), finding out that everyone almost EVERYONE is a member of a cult (like invasion of the body snatchers style terror there) everyone is in on it, no one is safe, not even the police, AND he has an ancient Egyptian god that only he sees around him insulting him talking about vengeance . . . no wonder he thinks he’s going mad. Marc is just one thing in all of this. 

7. I don’t know much about Marc’s character so far from the show (no one does, we only have 2 episodes so far) but we know he is concerned about protecting Steven (and giving Steven his props for the punch) and protecting Layla and ordinary citizens (makes sense if he is ex-military) and coming to an end of his servitude to Khonshu, but I think that if Arthur is right, that Khonshu goes for people with a strong moral conscious it is STEVEN’s conscious that attracted him to offer a deal to the dying system.  Like it was Steven who Khonshu sensed as having the moral compass and strength of conscious to be his Fist but now that he has the body, the god mistakenly sees only Marc’s physical strength and military skills, missing all that Steven (and other alters? Jake?  I don’t think the Dylan date was Marc btw, that was totally Jake), brings to the table. Then he does start to perhaps see it, when Steven speaks his mind and is not swayed by Harrow, which is why Steven gets his own suit! Which is why Khonshu allows him and orders him to “Summon the Suit!” when he is falling. Khonshu is still a bastard though, but then most gods are capricious bastards and he will only admit that Marc is “worth protecting.” 

8. I love how when that first cultist grabs Layla Steven hits him saying “get off! get off!” 

9. The scarab must be given. It cannot be taken. Magical rules established. Harrow claims to be a former Avatar of Khonshu. Ammit had at least one avatar who held the cane before Harrow. Ammit was betrayed by one (her first?) avatar. Unclear if Harrow is her avatar or not. Perhaps he could become it if he finds her tomb?

10. The Calvinistic, “saved” ideology (Some are saved, some are damned and it is known before you even are born or commit any crime), and the idea of the day of Ammit’s judgment (Revelations anyone?) in what Harrow says . . . interesting how many parallels to Christian ideologies are in there and clever. Explains how his cult has spread so far and wide. His ideas are easy to swallow when they are mirrored in the West’s Christian ideologies and common tropes and myths. 

11. Great use of sound and showing how when both Marc and Layla are yelling at him in the evil magician’s man cave, that his ears just start ringing and then go muffled. And just like reflections and upside down POV shows how (possibly) unreliable Steven’s sight is (his ability to discern reality) (or conversely how his POV, skewed though it is is MORE accurate), the playing with SOUND goes to the thing about listening. No one listens to Steven. But then Layla gets it and finally uses his name. This is not a game. Steven hasn’t been playing. 

12. “How long you been doing this?”  “I don’t know.  Long time. Long time.”

So this is NOT new and not “brought on by Khonshu” which I’ve heard some youtubers’s mistakenly claim. Nope. This is DID and Marc has been aware of this for a long time. 

13. Khonshu threatens Marc that he shouldn’t want to part ways from him because you “may not like my next candidate” and indicating “she” is near and dear to him but wouldn’t it be a trip if in the end Marc ends the deal and Khonshu promises Layla is safe from him only for Khonshu to claim Steven or Jake or another alter? 

14. The ruined room in Egypt. Reflective surfaces smashed or knocked over (the lamp, the chair? the plate, the mirror cracked and covered). Steven is not stopping. 

15. I love how Egypt is not SEPIA toned or washed out with orange/brown filter! Yes! Thank you! I see blues and greens and reds and whites. 

16. End credits and the new song. LOVE The images.

33 notes - Posted April 10, 2022

#2

My spoiler free reaction to Moon Knight before the end credit scene:

My spoiler free reaction to the end credit scene of Moon Knight:

Also Layla is awesome.

54 notes - Posted May 4, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

Is Koisenu Futari, the new JDrama with two AroAce main characters my new obsession? 

Yes, yes it is.

2 episodes in and I already think there are some beautiful lines that should become ubiquitous in the aro/ace community including, but not limited to:

“I like crab” to communicate, yes I will meet your family who has allo expectations of everyone you meet to support you.

“Building/having your castle” to mean creating your adult life with the things you want in it that do not automatically have to follow an allo or heteronormative pattern of romance, marriage, kids.

“Would you become a family with me?" is such a beautiful phrase to reflect a desire to connect with one another that has nothing to do with romance and/or sex unless the parties so choose.

Seeing the “merit” of one another. Having you in my life means I don’t have to be “lonely alone.” It means I can avoid the “nuisance of the neighbors” and it means that it is worth the effort to make udon for breakfast.   I don’t even know what udon is but it sounds wonderful.

References to the “hamster shirt” as shorthand for I find X type of physical contact not to my taste.

I hope these and other bits of beautiful dialogue become as meaningful as cake and garlic bread and dragons to us all.  What ones did you see/hear that spoke to you?

65 notes - Posted February 19, 2022

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I posted 398 times in 2022

That's 398 more posts than 2021!

61 posts created (15%)

337 posts reblogged (85%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

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I tagged 354 of my posts in 2022

Only 11% of my posts had no tags

#aa mine - 181 posts

#reblog - 112 posts

#aromantic - 94 posts

#aro - 54 posts

#aroace - 34 posts

#aplatonic - 31 posts

#loveless aro - 25 posts

#loveless - 24 posts

#asexual - 23 posts

#ace - 19 posts

Longest Tag: 132 characters

#not at me imagining getting married and leaving home and sharing a bed with an absolute stranger and finding it absolutely repulsive

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Signs you are aroace:

- perpetual boredom

- you have an eye for quality

- you struggle to make posts like this

(unreliable source suggests 89% accuracy)

18 notes - Posted July 1, 2022

#4

Perks of interacting with aspecs online:

- You can talk and have fun without being worried of unflattering advances

- There’s an automatic solidarity established 

- +1 new ally attained 

- You can be nice and compliment each other without the worry of it getting mistaken as flirting

- A kinship you rarely (or never) find irl

(feel free to add more >.<)

28 notes - Posted May 8, 2022

#3

Peace

So I see tumblr has been giving me daily prompts as part of the mental health month so thought to post a little entry:

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about”

- Rumi

Peace is that I think. When you’re able to lie down on that metaphorical grass unrestrained. It’s the serenity that comes with knowing that you or someone has got you. Hence, it can be found in crisis too I believe. It’s feeling all the weight disintegrate from your mind loosening the taut braincells. Peace is the small smile that grazes your lips on a nice dewy morning. Peace is knowing you’re on the right path🤍✌🏽

74 notes - Posted May 3, 2022

#2

Koisenu Futari

Finished watching koisenu futari. The moment I saw it on tumblr I knew I had to watch it and to no one's surprise it has been life-changing. Representation wise and story wise it just kept getting better all the way. I had a smile on my face throughout, while different emotions flickered in my eyes.

Within 4 hours, they tackled so many of the jabs aro/ace and loveless people get, it got sort of overwhelming. And the fact that they did it without being insensitive towards any of the downplayed identities. Without using the ‘we can still feel xxx love' or 'we can still form xxx relationships’ to validate aspecs. Cause no matter where you lie on the ace/aro/apl spectrums, you shouldn't have to be redeemed. The variety of interpersonal relationships portrayed was just chef’s kiss. The entire scene of Sakuko in the aspec club. How one pair of people only called each other when they needed help and still referred to each other as family. Seeing that made me incredibly happy, as an aplatonic that desires some form of a comradeship. Reminded me once again that it’s okay to work out something out of the norm, as long as it’s comfortable for me and those involved.

Personally, as someone with zero allies in real life, I've depended solely on myself for reassurance. So it gets exhausting. Terribly so. Figuring out that you greatly differ from the majority at a young age and battling the perpetual estrangement that follows. Realizing that apart from my family and a few friends no one might ever get to see certain sides of me. Only to get heart broken by my parents who may never truly understand me. For all the times I felt hopeless, every night I spend scrolling through tumblr and aven forums unable to fall asleep. All the instances I thought of coming out to my brother and parents, except dint because I was waiting to reach an age at which my words would hold more credibility. Dealing with the incessant triggers strewn around carelessly. For every single time I felt compelled to justify my experiences and orientations, my right to know myself, when my touch-aversion and lovelessness felt like a disability. The sheer horror and befuddlement that crept up to me while watching the news, finding out about the monstrosities that happened to young girls , children and women. None of it comes from trauma, but without me knowing, at some point, being this way became my trauma. All of it has been portrayed awesomely by this show. It reminded me that although it may seem that way for now, I'm not alone and will eventually find more people like me.

I enjoyed all the characters in the story cause despite their initial bad responses towards their beliefs getting challenged, they were willing to learn. Willing to accept even if they dint necessarily understand. Some even eager to learn more (spoiler: Kazu). But most importantly watching this made of realize just how many tropes could come up if we experimented with aroace characters. We only get crumbs of representation but just IMAGINE the countless plotlines and relationship dynamics we could come up with for aspec characters!!! Including the fake dating trope, lovers to realizing you're aspec to becoming allies trope and so much more. There is so much waiting to be explored. I'm tired of watching people marvelling about love. Now can we please explore lovelessness? I tell you IT'S JUST AS EXTENSIVE as the mighty love itself.

This is probably my hundredth time editing this post. I just can’t finish expressing what I feel about this. Each time feels as though I’m missing out on something. The ending was the most best and perfect ending to ever exist. In the end, home is just somewhere you can return to, someone you can split chores with, someone that motivates you to try out intense recipes (cause when you get to share the food you make is when you reach true content of a successful recipe), someone to help you with your vegetable garden and house maintenance. Someone you can go shopping with. It’s literally anything you want it to be. A family (subject to change) is what you want it to be.

The many times the words aromantic and asexual was shown on screen was simply immaculate. Each and every word uttered by Takahashi deserves a separate frame. From his dream of building a vegetable kingdom to his eccentric udon making tactics. Plus yes, his love for crabs. Can't miss out on that. Sakuko's amiability, love for long coats and Kazu's neverending absorptivity topped off by Maya's affection for pandas.

I give this show an absolute 10/10. Someone is saying we should replace 'sending love' with 'sending cabbages' among aroaces omg that sounds amazing.😭 Underrated vegetable cabbage supremacists please gather around immediately

Okay I'm finishing off, as for my last words: Yeah. People who can't fall in love exist. I'm one of them. But that's not the point. The point is

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89 notes - Posted April 9, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

So I'd changed schools this year (junior in highschool), and just a few days ago i overheard a couple of my classmates talking about the lbtqia+ community and asked them if they knew what the 'a' in the acronym stood for, the first answer was asexual, to which i proceeded to tell em it stood for aromantic, agender and some other a-specs, from how they were so eager to learn i went 'wanna know a fun fact?' and came out to them as aroace (later greyapl as well). They told me that now that they know, it kind of made sense lolol. And today in the break while i was reading my book they came up to me asked how their favorite aroace was doing :/ and what my fav flag was

Today again, in the bus i asked another one of my classmates if she knew what the 'a' in the acronym stood for, first answer was agender, i was totally blown away, went woahhhh and proceeded to say what else it stood for. Then. . . she said at one point she thought she was aro. At that point i was enchanted, I Am Aromantic! i told her. we talked about it for a bit, when i discovered and identified with the terms etc. until my stop came. I told her how important that conversation was for me cause I'd never spoken about it to people irl, much less even meet people who knew the terms. She said she was touched. I said, no I am touched.

If those two interactions dint light up my entire car ride (yeah someone has to pick me from the bus stop, school bus sucks ); back home, rest of the day, coming weekend, next week and possibly this entire month. One of them is bi and another bi questioning (the one who questioned being aro). For once, perhaps the first time, to be myself, even if i wasn't trying to be anything else, to have people know, perceive me for what i am, i dint know what sort of weight it had on my shoulders until it was lifted away. Awesome people exist, just met some the past couple weeks and now will always remember these encounters as my first major coming out (i had already to my friends but this one felt different). I was overcome with so much elation, relief, happiness, joy, satisfaction, bliss, peace i wanted to scream it out. So here it is, it's not that hopeless after all

528 notes - Posted August 6, 2022

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[himbirch]

(first off, i havent watched hazbin so im ignoring the alastor part of this)

A few things!

Prospero is confirmed aromantic, not asexual. Kind of embarrassing to be complaining about erasure in the same breath as ignoring his canonically unconfirmed sexuality in favor of your dogma.

Please stop pretending that the entire aroace community is a united front and on your side, because a lot of us either don't give a shit or enjoy exploring the nuances of aromantic love and relationships through media (i really don't see why that's a bad thing).

"what about those who don't?" what about those who do? don't you see that by complaining that about erasure of aroaces that feel no attraction you're kind of erasing those of us that do feel attraction? there are so many ways to be on the aroace spectrum, and they ALL deserve to be represented. furthermore, one can be in a relationship while not being attracted to the other party.

I agree that completely ignoring aromantic/asexual identity completely is erasure, but you can ship aromantic/asexual characters without erasing their identity, and attempting to ban all shipping of aro/ace characters through some form of attempted moral superiority is not only impossible (it's the internet) but unproductive for the community at large.

also, and this is less important in my opinion, but there is official rednflynn art of prospero kissing a man. he's not a celibate monk whose character hinges on never touching or enjoying the company of another human being, and its not a crime to play with his relationships to other characters. (especially because it's all hypothetical. its not like prospero is making out with montresor in the comic guys, chill please)

side note, prospero HAS shown interest in platonic relationships. not super much, because they're in a fight to the death arena sort of thing, but he considers allying with lenore and he and annabel literally have tea parties lol (also he's the only one to hug her in the entire comic besides lenore and ira (and ada i guess if you count her, but annabel was uncomfortable with that))

anyways, while i completely understand not being on board with certain ships and seeing certain added traits as irritating mischaracterizations (trust me, i get upset about a lot of random stuff. i know its difficult to scroll past), just because you personally don't like it doesn't mean that people who ship prospero are immoral and deplorable. (and even if they were, we all know damn well people would still do it) please, for your own good, block prospero ship tags and scroll past the stuff you do see. let people enjoy his character their way, and you can enjoy it yours. love is love, we're all in this fandom and community together and even though we don't all agree, that's part of the beauty of it.

and before aaaanyone says i have no right to speak on this, i am on the aroace spectrum and am fully within my rights to have an opinion on this. you don't have to agree with me, but be respectful about it pretty please <3

I'm so fucking sick of you shipping aroace characters when they've clearly shown ZERO interest in romantic/sexual relationships LET ALONE PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS. "Well they're fictional" you wouldn't ship a lesbian character with a straight man would you? "Aces/Aros can still feel love" true, but what about those who don't? Do you just completely ignore them? Alastor has shown so many times that he wants nothing to do with these kind of stuff yet you still keep shipping him with Charlie, Lucifer etc. Prospero too. We're so happy to get the little representation we can get and yet you keep erasing us.

[phecdasolar]

I posted 5,325 times in 2022

That's 1,759 more posts than 2021!

121 posts created (2%)

5,204 posts reblogged (98%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@phecdasolar

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I tagged 735 of my posts in 2022

#i speak - 174 posts

#rottmnt - 76 posts

#toh spoilers - 76 posts

#save rottmnt - 58 posts

#save for later - 36 posts

#the owl house spoilers - 35 posts

#lego monkie kid - 33 posts

#important - 29 posts

#liveblogging - 27 posts

#nwh spoilers - 26 posts

Longest Tag: 137 characters

#bill then proceeds to keep watch over this odd but adorable kid and if anyone asks this is all part of a plan for a bigger betrayal later

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Six eared Macaque? I’m sorry do you mean

✨Axolotl Monkey✨

77 notes - Posted March 18, 2022

#4

I wish all the Twitter Dream antis a very death is too kind a fate for you

(^^) <3

90 notes - Posted October 2, 2022

#3

WHOOP WHOOP

We’re doing great guys! But sad news for Twitter, it’s no longer trending in the US :( not even anywhere in the top 30.

Like I said, we’re doing a fantastic job here but we need to focus on getting Rottmnt trending back on Twitter because unfortunately if I’m being honest, that’s where it’s gonna be noticed more.

We pride ourselves on being that one site that everyone thinks is dead or won’t touch with a 50 ft pole but this is the one time that it might do us more harm than good :(

We need to bring the fight back to Twitter.

147 notes - Posted August 9, 2022

#2

Heyo hermitblr/mcytblr I request any fics you have of Mumbo Jumbo absolutely destroying Samgladiator <3

Like full on just obliterating him

Physically, mentally, psychologically, etc I just want to see the feral, protective rage of Mumbo unleashed on this guy when he finds out what happened to Grian during YHS

The fictional people please, I feel like I need to specify this anywho thank youuu

157 notes - Posted July 7, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

I showed my mom the Jaiden Aroace video, bc awhile back we had a conversation about that stuff and she really had no idea what any of that was and didn’t really get it and I’m not exactly aro or ace so I couldn’t really explain it her all that well :/

So I saw Jaiden’s video and was like; Hey, this is a perfect opportunity to help mom understand it better with someone who is actually capable of explaining it better than I can!

And she did have a few questions and opinions about it but she reacted really positively to it! I asked her after we watched the video if she understood it all better and she said yeah, it helped her a lot!

So if my White Christian Mom can understand Aromanticism and Asexuality and react to it in a largely positive way, then there is literally no reason you aro/acepobes out there can’t :P

315 notes - Posted March 22, 2022

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I posted 56 times in 2022

That's 56 more posts than 2021!

26 posts created (46%)

30 posts reblogged (54%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

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I tagged 26 of my posts in 2022

#aroace - 17 posts

#acearo - 15 posts

#asexual - 13 posts

#ace - 12 posts

#aromantic - 11 posts

#aro - 11 posts

#aromantism - 10 posts

#aro pride - 10 posts

#actually asexual - 10 posts

#aspec - 7 posts

Longest Tag: 91 characters

#all this time i was disgusted with even the idea of romance in pop culture and in real life

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Maybe its an aro thing but unpredictable kissing scenes when the enemies are attacking them is the worst way the writers destroy the entire movie for me.

24 notes - Posted February 14, 2022

#4

As an aroace, I'm not a big fan of romance or drama, especially high school drama. But Heartstopper was exceptional.

It was beautiful.

It felt real.

It represented the struggles of the whole LGBTQIA+ community amazingly.

Long story short. It's AWESOME.

P.S.- I'm still not over this show. Waiting for season 2 eagerly.

31 notes - Posted July 20, 2022

#3

Finished HEARTSTOPPER yesterday night and cried the entire rest of the night. Well, gotta say pretty good rest I got from that without sleeping.

Anyway, AMAZING CAST and WRITING is just flawless. A must watch.

40 notes - Posted July 16, 2022

#2

I found out that I'm aroace during lockdown. And I was happy and confident AF about my identity. But then the lockdown was over and I entered first year of college and thus met a lot of new people and therefore I realised and noticed quite a few things that made me happy and sad at the same time:

1. That I was much more confident in talking to boys (which I wasn't in high school for some unknown reason).

2. That people, who DESPERATELY wants to be in a relationship, does exist (till high school it was a lot less). And they think that everyone will get into a relationship eventually because people have "needs".

3. I sometimes feel sad that I'll lose my friends because they all value their relationships over friendship. Now giving importance to your partners is great but please don't give any less importance to your friends.

This has been a vent session. Thanks for reading.

51 notes - Posted July 2, 2022

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[brensquared]

ended up glancing through the clay/leb search on twitter and everything was dated from 2019 or 2020, and was suddenly reminded how as soon as it was made clear in canon by caduceus himself and by taliesin, people respected that caduceus is asexual(/aromantic) and basically stopped shipping him?? dont get me wrong im sure theres still stragglers out there holding onto their cad ships, or reworking them to fit with his orientation, but it was just overall a pretty remarkable thing to see happen

its especially interesting (at least to me) how a lot of aspec people clocked cad as being aspec as well, far before it ever came up in game; in particular, I always recall an essay written by @otdderamin (in august 2018!) going over episodes 28-32, where they accurately read between the lines and saw that cad was aroace as well

in the kindest way possible I find it interesting how aspec people recognize our own before allosexual people do, and how often it takes an aspec orientation being explicitly stated before people start to actually Take Notice. (granted im generalizing a bit here and implying that everyone who ever shipped cad is allo, and that everyone who thought he was aspec was Also aspec, which is a huge assumption to make; rather, I'm trying to use this idea to make a point about the ways ppl treat aspec characters.)

recently I saw a fic - which, admittedly, I didnt read - where the author wrote cad into a relationship, and mentioned in the notes how "cad can still be aroace and be in a relationship". I took their tags to mean some kind of queerplatonic relationship, and I genuinely dont think they meant harm or ill will; I also dont know if they were aspec themselves because, again, I didnt read it or look further into it. but that sort of phrasing, and that sort of idea, reminds me a lot of the subtle amatonormativity that heavily impacts aro people in particular. the idea that, even if a person isnt interested in Romance, they must still be paired off in some way, that even if they arent attracted to someone they can still be in a relationship. and that is true, and people exist who live that way, and all the power to em! but it feels somehow strange and inauthentic in this case, with this character, to put him into this sort of position - to me, at least.

ultimately this is all just one guy's musings, having watched and been part of the fandom before and after the orientation reveal. you may agree or disagree with me, and that's fine. i think more of a deep dive may be warranted to try and dissect the relationship between the CR fandom, caduceus, and shipping because I think theres a lot of interesting conclusions in there.