#waaaah i genuinely do hope this alleviates some of your anxiety tho :(((

[inkykeiji]

Clari! im the anon who added that guy on insta! lately we've been around each other a lot and we just.. idk.. CLICK so well.. idk if i believe at love at first sight but we're soo comfortable around one another so soon. i didnt wait to have sex with him bc honestly the timing "felt right". i just feel like its too good to be true? any advice on how to just go with the flow? i feel im falling hard but hes reciprocating the same energy. i overthink so damn much; its just part of my anxiety :/

aw hi babie!!!

aaaaah first of all i’m so happy for you!!!! i’m glad you took the leap and added him and i’m glad you’ve been spending so much time around/with each other!!!! i think the fact that you click so so so well, like possibly to the point where you’re like ‘wow, have i even gotten along with someone this well this fast?’ is a good sign. don’t worry about the sex; if it felt right to you and you both felt comfortable/ready then there’s no issue at all. your sex life is YOURS and no one else’s opinions should matter. the only thing that matters is that you both felt ready!!! <3

AAAAAAAH okay. i suffer from extreme overthinking too, so i know how annoying and stressful and just,,, pure anxiety inducing it can be. i’ve definitely thunk myself into spirals before. i think, as cheesy as it sounds, it’s important to remember the fragility of life—which is to say, try your best to live your life day-to-day without overthinking about what might happen in the future (easier said than done, i KNOW >.<). but, truly, you never know what could happen, so try to just live in the moment and enjoy your time with him right now. i’m someone who believes in giving everyone the benefit of the doubt, so even though it’s scary, especially if you’ve been hurt before, believe that his feelings are genuine. he’s given you absolutely zero reasons to think otherwise!!

i think (and i may be wrong so please feel free to correct me if i am of course!!) what’s happening here is, he’s very very quickly becoming someone important to you, and that IS scary—that’s scary no matter how slow or quick it happens. because the moment you realize someone means a lot to you, you also realize how much it would hurt to lose them, or upset them etc etc etc. but we are humans, and relationships are one of the most important parts in our lives, so we must take these risks. they are almost always worth it. additionally, the only alternative is to isolate ourselves and not form meaningful relationships in fear of being hurt. life is too short to live in fear, you know?

give him a chance, let yourself fall, enjoy the fall!! live life one day at a time and genuinely try to enjoy each one. savour your moments together, have fun! falling for someone and/or building a meaningful relationship is a beautiful thing to experience, so don’t let your anxiety steal that from you!! get to know him more as a person, explore his best qualities, his flaws and faults, his loves and hates, and share your own. i promise you it is not too good to be true, i promise you that you deserve this love and you deserve this happiness. allow yourself to have it.