#unrelated but this is similarly how i write in my research papers VAGAUHSHDJD at least the length of each paragraph

[sealovinq]

not to boast or make anyone jealous, but actually i'm so glad i got into a real life relationship. self shippers, myself included, tend to focus only on the lovey dovey stuff. because who would willingly make up a scenario where you and your partner have to fight/argue, right? unless you're the type to really dig into your lore and show how your relationship was developed and strengthened, that's cool too. it's just something i noticed within the community — how the majority usually concentrate on the bright side of our relationships with our f/o's, which is absolutely valid and i don't discriminate anyone who does, nor do i implore anyone to start putting conflict between them and their f/o's.

my point is, i'm glad i got to experience both the ups and downs with my real life partner. as an active self shipper before getting into the love life, i had to lower down A LOT of my expectations. the expectations that i built due to self shipping. due to how i imagine my f/o's would be like. of course, i already knew every relationship has its rocky road and it would eventually come to the point where i and my partner would argue, but it really opened my eyes to how every problem we encounter in our relationship is a stepping stone to further nurturing and strengthening our bond and love. it takes the commitment to stay and continue to love despite all the flaws and mistakes that were made.

there will be moments of doubt where we question if we really deserve each other or not, but each time, we convince the other that it doesn't really matter and it would hurt more if we were to separate. we stay and fix it together, even if it was hurtful at first. it's genuinely the embodiment of the "it's rotten work." "not to me. not if it's you." quote.

and i enjoy implementing that to the lore with my f/o's. because i personally have experienced it and can say it's true with full confidence. it's true that i won't always agree with my f/o, that i won't always be happy with how my f/o acts, that i won't always satisfy my f/o's needs. and that's okay, that doesn't mean it's the end of our relationship. i and my f/o talk through it, we fix it, we offer solutions, we apologize, we improve. and that enhances the bond and love i have with and for my f/o even more. it also shows how real (emphasis on real) our relationship is — it's not always going to be sunshine and rainbows, a rainstorm would come but a rainbow will eventually appear.

i'm not disregarding angst, though — i'm specifically talking about arguing/fighting and the commitment to go through it with your f/o's. but that's just me and my opinion. :]