#underratedfeelings

[yourownpookie]

Thought I'd never forgive you when i see you again

But i forgot whatever it was when i saw you again.

_agony of love

[notjustpretty-words]

Confused for a reason...

There are times in life where you will be trying so hard to find an answer to a situation that is disturbing your heart, but the simple fact that is making confused and doubt everything is the answer you need to know the truth.

Remember, if it doesn’t bring you peace leave it. Confusion is an answer not just the way to your answer.

[underratedsstuffs-blog]

I still remember our little conversation on the stairs yesterday, you really talked to me. It felt so amazing to have you staring into my eyes and wanting to hear an answer from me ”

– underratedfeelings

[gwensummers]

More happy memories to come, gerls! 😘 #underratedfeelings

[notjustpretty-words]

Remember when...

Anxiety has gone over the roof,

it has overcome compassion and we harm anything around us because we think there won't be any proof.

We believe more in what we are missing than what we really have,

now it is more important about satisfying our own needs and it really it doesn't add.

Just a few months ago we were so caring, loving and thoughtful,

who said that all the good things had to vanish in order to go back to normal?

It doesn't make sense that we want to go back to how we were,

when we already tried to be good and it worked to change, but it doesn't seem to be the thing that we prefer.

Have you heard people saying "the truth always comes out,"

well, it is out.

We are facing life changing movements,

but apparently it was just momentarily and all of it was useless.

We are capable of so much when we get together and care together about the things that really matter.

So, where are you?

Back to "normal"?

For me, nothing seems normal, we are still fighting for the rights of our neighbor,

we are still fighting for everyone's freedom, so we can truly be the change for later.

Feelings are strong during these times, we have the urge to behave just like we used to,

but through all I witnessed the only thing that made us different was believing that we could be considerate.

I understand you if you are feeling trapped in your own mind, trying to get out of where you are just you can feel better about yourself and attempt to be aligned.

But I will tell you one thing you already know, it is time to be selfless, to be filled with love so you can share some.

We need to be together, to remember that taking care of ourselves is caring for others

and to appreciate every day like we won't have another.

Forget just for now about all the material things that made you feel better,

and start paying attention to what really matters and your life won't face just a temporary change but one that is forever.  

♡

ag

[notjustpretty-words]

Testing Waters

All my life I have been told that I should get to know my surroundings before opening myself in that environment, but once I do it seemed like the worst idea ever. If this has happened to you, welcome to the club. 

This is my very first time writing “in public,” but before feeling comfortable, let me test the waters. Feeling exposed isn’t something we all enjoy, but I have been missing my friends and I want to make more; so, I decided to express my feelings online and help myself achieve this goal: new friends, are you there? 

I like to talk about everything, and believe every girl that say this because it is true. We are beautiful beings that love just any topic, as long as it brings some good tea. As you can see in my description, I am your new “tea teller.” I think, I have friends with different age ranges that have made me something close to an expert in spilling the tea. I have grown women as friends, and there is no other group of friends that provides me with such detailed information as that one. I am kidding guy friends, you can be good tea carriers. 

After all, we are all looking for some answers in our conversations. It does not matter what we talk about, we all spill the tea in some way. If not just google “press conference,” and you will find many ways of “gossiping,” professional ways of doing it. 

Don’t feel like my posts will be only about gossip, well yes, but they will be about inside gossips. You ask yourself, what’s that? They are the things that we talk about with people we trust, or things we keep to ourselves and talk about only through texts. They could be our biggest secrets, embarrassments, gossips, or just anything that isn’t appropriate to share according our society. 

No more looking for ways to spill the tea; I will be your way through the journey of looking for answers, showing emotions, talking “bad things,” and anything that comes to your mind right now, and don’t be dirty.

Take those underrated feelings off your chest honey!

[notjustpretty-words]

“Scratch and Win”

I play an online game named 8 Ball Pool by Miniclip (not sponsored, but I wish), it is super entertaining for me. Let me introduce you to today’s topic, aside of complimenting the game. In this game, there’s a another minigame called “Scratch and Win;” it stands for what the name defines: scratch until you completely cleaning the gold on top of the rewards, and if you scratch 3 matching spots then you get the reward (regularly it’s an amount of coins to use later in the game). In life I have been exposed to the “scratch and win” many times, and I don’t always get the reward I am looking for. However, what can I do with the reward I didn’t want to get?

As always, I’ll share with you the meaning of words that I’ll be using for the entire entry. Lexico defines “to be rewarded” as receiving “what one deserves.” This means that the rewards you get in life, good or bad, are significant to your behaviors and accomplishments. Maybe an easier way to understand is through the most used term: karma. Karma is the “destiny or fate, following as effect from cause.” Practically the same meaning as “to be rewarded.”

In my adult life I have got a very interesting demonstrations of karma. When I was a kid, being rewarded was with candy, time with friends or being grounded because I was disobedient. Now, the rewarding system seems the same just ten times harder to assimilate. 

About two years ago, I gave a spin to my life. I decided to keep distance from everything and everyone that were influencing me to get bad karma. It was a moment of my life very similar to the minigame “scratch and win.” I wanted to be happy, and leave all negativism away. I couldn’t deal with more bad rewards. Taking decisions to stay away, and believe that another destiny was meant for me, made me realize that I was lucky to see another perspective beside my personal desire. The one decision that hurt me the most was losing those friends who I thought were family. 

Life works in the best of our interest. Though, we are the ones that decide where to scratch, and somehow we don’t always get what we want to win. Maybe losing my friends was my reward. It looked bad at the time, and it made me doubt the destiny I had picked for myself. But, I am grateful that I can look back and acknowledge that it was the best decision to make for that moment in my life. At the end, I didn’t lose, I won. Even when it hurt to lose something I thought I could have forever, my reward was the perfect plan for my future. 

However, it is totally fair to feel sad and frustrated that you didn’t win what you scratched for. Feelings are our tools to show who we really are, and what we need at the given time. But, we have to remember that everything is temporary. The pain and the joy. While you are getting your reward, reminisce on the consequence of it. If you don’t get what you want, think of the reason you didn’t get it; maybe it’s internal or it could be external. And, if you get what you want, thank life that the desires of your heart were the same as what was destined for you. 

Finally, it is so important to take the first step: accept your reward. Then, look for the solutions and useful facts for the reward you got. Last, thank life for all the consequences, good or bad, because they made you realize what type of reward you deserved. In reality, “scratch and win” conforms a list of steps that help you to know yourself better, and comprehend the value of your past, your present and your future.

[notjustpretty-words]

I Need Extra Closet Space

The only thing that you need to do when you want to get new clothes is going online and start shopping as many things you can afford and like. But, first, we should think if our new additions will fit in our closet. As a lady, I struggle holding myself to buy something before checking for extra room in my closet, and the worst part is that sometimes I buy things that look exactly like something I already had. But, in life, are we checking if we have room for something new, or do we just welcome things without having space for them?

To illustrate, when we finish a meal we make sure to save space for dessert. Then, why is it so hard to save space for new clothes? My dear friends, this is how life works; for some things it’s easier to save space and for others you just keep pilling up, until it’s time to say goodbye. A lot of times we are so focused on what is about to come that we forget that we have to clean out the old ideals, thoughts, and feelings. 

We don’t have to wait for new things to come into our lives to check what we already have in stock. Before welcoming new ideals, thoughts or feelings we should be able to forget and let go all the things that we overthink, things that don’t evolve with us and feelings that make us go back to things we already quit. 

I’m telling you this as person that welcomed many things and feelings that didn’t fit with my taste and beliefs. Now, I am more careful. First, I check if I have room for something new and if I don’t, then I work to check what is already outdated and needs some alternative thinking. All in all, don’t be naive and keep welcoming things that are already outmoded to your present lifestyle. Move on, dust off the old, make some room and add the perfect factors to improve your “stock.”

[notjustpretty-words]

Me, Myself and I

When I understand the power that is within me, I am capable to do unimaginable things.

When I believe in the power within me, I dream bigger and achieve bigger.

When I believe in the power within me, I stop being selfish and jealous of others.

When I believe in the power within me, I am able to forgive because I acknowledge mercy for others.

When I believe in the power within me, I can overcome any obstacle or any hardship I am going through.

When I believe in the power within me, I know that my strength is bigger than anything trying to harm me.

When I believe in the power within me, I am only motivated through love.

When I believe in the power within me, I have peace because I finally understand that I don’t have to look for anything else out there to make me feel complete.

[notjustpretty-words]

Simply Truthful

[notjustpretty-words]

I am Light

Beyond the darkness of the universe,

we can find darkness in souls that are as immerse and infinite as the galaxies in space.

Our truth has become full of lies and corruption,

and in the middle of this our job is to become the brightness needed to change the suggested instruction.

Light can only show its purpose in the middle of darkness,

so, why would we think that we can't be as bright as we are supposed to just so we can be harmless?

The entire purpose to be the light around darkness is to showcase the hidden truth,

and this means fighting our own shadows that with our own light will bring memories that can attach us back to the gloomy booth.

But, if I am truly meant to be bright and dedicated to share my light,

not even shadows provoked by my own light will be able to turn off the power of my brightness, because being the light means being able to fight.

In order to be potent we will need a source of power,

this is one is formed by a multitude of people willing to share their light with others to strength the brightness and be able to empower.

At the end, we need of each other to become bigger and brighter,

darkness is possible to disappear if everyone regardless their backgrounds are willing to be the light and defeat the liar.

"I am the light because once I was saved to never return to darkness, by the one that taught me that leaving my neighbor behind isn't how I become the brightest."

♡

ag

[notjustpretty-words]

Not Everything Is What It Seems To Be

We are prompted to give a name or exemplify an idea about what is in front of us, so we can select the things we want in our lives. This is called stereotyping, and all of us do it even when we don’t realize. I believe it helps us to create boundaries in what we believe, and it makes relationships easier, sometimes. Then, at what point are stereotypes broken?

Before, let’s put on the table all the types of perspectives towards the meaning of stereotype. There’s one definition that caught my attention and it says that stereotype is a “relief printing plate cast in a mold made from composed type or an original plate.” This means that even stereotypes come from something already created. So, there aren’t things that are completely new, or that never existed. We create stereotypes because we already know what made it one.

For example, there is a mother stereotype. Mom stays home. Mom takes care of the kids. Mom knows how to cook. Just like that one stereotype is born, because of activities and images of how a mom should be. With time, we all have realized that not all moms fit the stereotype, maybe dad would fit that stereotype. Simply, the stereotype is broken. 

In life, we give a name or an idea to everything before knowing the real story behind it. We do this to feel safe when we leave our comfort place, but stereotyping can become effective in our own homes, just like the mom example. My point is that not everything is the way it should be. In fact, society has become accepting of individual choice and we embrace the diversity in all behaviors. 

Our emotions are included in this. Now, we feel free to be who we want to be and break all assumptions about stereotypes. Though, I have to accept that stereotypes help a community to build some sense belonging. I have been challenged to this thought, because not everyone feels connected to where they are from.  To illustrate, in my last post I had the chance to answer a pretty great question: what to do when when I look from somewhere, but I don’t feel the connection to it? I bring this up, because we all can look that belong in one stereotype, but we are just a merge of many ideals and cultures that have made the person we are now. 

We see people that look from somewhere and they aren’t from that place. We see behaviors in people that makes us believe they’ll treat us one way, but they end up being someone else. It is not their fault for lying to us, or treating us differently. We are the ones that should comprehend that stereotypes exist to limit ideals, and that every person should feel free to break them at any time. This makes freedom, we make freedom. We are responsible to be aware of everything and everyone that surrounds, because just as I’ve told not everything is what it seems to be. 

[gwensummers]

#underratedfeelings 💕

[gwensummers]

Day off ni enday. #UnderratedFeelings ❤