#unapologetic-autie

[unapologetic-autie]

Fellow "I can use all the sarcasm I want, but I'll take someone else using it completely seriously" autistics assemble

Other neurodivergent people obviously welcome too, this isn't an exclusively autistic issue 🤝 (to be fair most things aren't)

[unapologetic-autie]

This is a clear misconception about autistic people. It shows that many people view autistic people as inherently unhappy, that you can't be autistic without feeling awful because of it.

The people who hold this kind of mindset are often the reason why autistic people are miserable. If we're taught that autism is a part of us that we should feel ashamed of, then we will be ashamed of it. And if you're ashamed of the way that your brain is wired you're gonna be pretty miserable. So because displeasure is a common occurrence in autistic people when we're forced to live in a society that won't adapt itself to our needs, there's now a common misconception that autism = misery, and that is wrong. Neurotypical people have no right to speak over neurodivergent people when we say that we aren't ashamed of our neurodivergence. We can speak for ourselves- we don't need you to be the voice for us.

“That’s right…. my son’s paediatrician says that my autistic way of parenting supports my son too well for him to be traumatised enough for a diagnosis, so we should let school traumatise him and come back later…

…Which brings me to thinking about how we identify autism in the children who are now being raised by autistic parents in a respectful and supportive way. The children who have experienced acceptance of their autistic neurology from birth and who have never been exposed to harmful therapies.

Autistic children raised by accepting parents, often autistic themselves.”

[gender-isnt-my-jam]

@mentally-fuckednpink tagged me in a ‘get to know you’ post?? i think thats what it was called. Anyway, i have no idea how to do these, so wish me luck!!!!

Rules: tag 10 people you want to get to know better 

Relationship status: Single and does not wish to mingle

 Favourite colour: Green (at the moment anyway) 

3 favorite foods: Grilled cheese sandwiches, Salt water taffy, and my homemade bread!!!!!

Song stuck in my head: 1816, the year without a summer by Rasputina

 Last song I listened to: Born2Run by Penelope Scott

 Time: 5:08 pm 

Dream trip: Norway!!!!!

Tagging: @hypereactive @thechangeling @chaotic-and-shady-cat @unapologetic-autie @ti-bae-rius @appa-slut  @sweetcabbageprince  andddd thats it. I am a rule breaker lol

[beatles-bum]

PSA

So I've made a couple new blogs and I just wanted to post about them here bc why the hell not sooo here goes

@unapologetic-autie: my blog about neurodiversity (though I mostly focus on autism because that's what applies to me personally). I've noticed that there's a lot of misinformation surrounding autism and neurodiversity in general so I wanted to take part in sort of counteracting that, I guess, so here we are

@antmus-ic: my blog about music. I'm probably gonna try to focus on '70s-'90s music specifically but if I end up posting about older or newer stuff than that, then so be it

@jrhold-writes: my writing blog. As of right now it's just memes about writing and prompts and stuff, but eventually, I'll be putting poetry and fanfiction on there.

@p-eterparkour: my marvel account. This'll probably be for the Marvel posts that have less crackhead energy, lmao, and it'll probably be more comics and non-mcu (x-men, fantastic four, etc) marvel stuff

Also, just a note- this account will still be my main account for anything personal or random that doesn't fall into any of the categories of the above accounts, and if you look at the new accounts, you'll see that I reblog stuff that I posted on here that I believe should be on my new accounts. That's not me trying to self promo, that's me trying to actually get stuff on those accounts while I try to think of more original stuff to make.

Anyways yeah. ✌🏻

[alexeiadrae]

30 Days of Autism Acceptance: Day 1

I’m doing the 30 Days of Autism Acceptance meme from @autie-jake.

April 1: Introduce yourself. Talk about who you are as a person.

I go by alexeiadrae on Tumblr, my real name is rather unique and since I work as a counselor I don’t want a client finding out about my life in fandom so I only share it with people I am 100% sure aren’t clients, lol. And yes, I am a counselor who is also autistic (also, I am not the only one, it is not an uncommon field for women autistics), and being autistic gives me strengths as a counselor that neurotypicals don’t have. I am in private practice. I don’t really have the skills to climb a career ladder.

I have two children (ages 8, and turning 5 on Saturday), both of whom are autistic. I’ve been married for 11 years, together with him for 16 years. It’s hard to say if my husband is on the spectrum. He had a stroke when he was 3 which killed half of his brain, and while children that young can survive such a traumatic brain injury, they tend to take things extremely literally, which is another autism trait, so with him it’s hard to say what is brain injury versus potential autism. So while he may not be autistic, he’s also not neurotypical. We’re definitely a quirky family!

I write to manage my to manage my anxiety and to clearly mark between working time and free time. Listening to people’s history and traumas all the time, it can be hard to turn it off, and writing helps me to do that. I love music, though since my kids were born I’ve not had the time I used to. I play the violin and sing, dabble a bit with the piano and harp. My son has recently started to play guitar and now that I’m helping him practice I wish I’d given it a chance when I was growing up. I also love to read.

I love nature and going hiking. I have a strong thirst for social justice. I’m an unapologetic feminist and a Secular Humanist.

People who know me describe me as calm, a bit Vulcan like, with one helluva blank stare and a bit of an enigma. I’ve come to realize that’s the mask I put on. Writing is where what is who I am beneath the mask comes out.

[thatqueercryptid]

this is for 30 days of autism acceptance 2022 by @autie-j and @lesmiserabby April 2: What autistic pride/autism acceptance month means to you.

To me autism acceptance month is a way for us to communicate with others, to force allistics to see us when normally wed just be ignored, but also for us, to be as loudly and unapologetically ourselves as we can, and i dont think we should need specifically to do so during this month and no other but in the society that we live in this is often the case that it isnt safe for us to do so and even during this month it isnt always safe which is why its so important. if we cant make people see and pay attention to us then theyll always just ignore us and itll never be safe for us to be ourselves and so it needs to be both because without one we cant ever really have the other i dont think, not truly for everyone anyway.

[unapologetic-autie]

Happy autism awareness acceptance month!

Some things for allistic allies to keep in mind this month-

We do not want, nor need, to be cured of our autism. That doesn't go to say that we never have difficulties in life associated with it, just that it's an important factor of who we are. When you refer to autism, you're not just talking about a couple genes in our genome or something, we're referring to the way our entire brain is wired. It's an integral part of what makes us unique, so if you wanted to cure an autistic person of their autism, they would not be the same person that they were before.

In general, the autistic community as a whole tends to prefer identity first language ("autistic person") rather than person-first ("person with Autism," "has autism"). This sort of ties into my last point about cure rhetoric, as it's often used with the intent of separating the person from their autism to make curing it seem more possible. Also, it just makes more sense grammatically. If you wanna say that you're tall, you don't say "I'm have tallness," you just say "I'm tall." Autism is a trait in the same manner as tallness, so why not use the same language to refer to it that we use for almost any other trait?

DO NOT SUPPORT AUTISM SPEAKS. They are a hate group that spreads harmful messages of autism being this horrible, awful disease that needs to be cured, and very little of the money that they receive goes to actual research (and the research that they DO carry out is done with the goal of finding a cure). Instead, try donating to Autism Self Advocacy Network. They're run by actually autistic people and fight for equality for neurodivergent people.

For the last point- that means no puzzle pieces. Autistic people strongly dislike the imagery of the puzzle piece being used to represent us because it sends the message that we're"missing a piece" or whatever, and the movement was started by A$. It also means no lighting it up blue, as that was also a movement started by them. If you want to show your support for the autistic community, try an infinity symbol and either rainbow (to show that neurodiversity is a spectrum), gold (specifically for autism because the atomic symbol for gold is Au, hence my icon on here), or red (I'm not sure of the origin of this one so if anyone has a link they can send me with that information, please do!) instead of blue. Lastly, it means fighting for autism acceptance rather than awareness, because the word "awareness" has negative connotations that can be associated with cure rhetoric

Above all else, LISTEN TO AUTISTIC VOICES. If the autistic community takes issue with something, the right thing to do would be to listen to us when we explain why that is. Don't try and speak over us if you disagree, because it's really easy for you to not understand why we take issue with something when you're not a part of the community that it affects. That being said, if you're confused by something, PLEASE ask questions! We're more than willing to help you learn so long as you approach it with an open mind and a positive attitude, and asking questions shows that you want to know more about it, so you must care about the issue. That's always a good thing to see.

The fight for autism acceptance is NOT limited to just April! It continues all year round! Organizations that further the issue of equal rights for neurodiverse people need support the other 11 months out of the year too, so show your support beyond this month if you can

I'm planning on making individual posts about each of these topics that go more in depth and providing links for those who want to learn more, but I figured I'd just make a sort of masterpost for the beginning of the month

[unapologetic-autie]

Autism and technology:

Screen brightness turned all the way down; still not dark enough

Blue light filter on 24/7

Brain: "hey maybe we wouldn't get such bad headaches if we weren't on our devices so much"

Also brain 30 seconds after putting device down: "I NEED STIMULATION"

"Why doesn't this app have a dark mode"

Phone is either 3 millimeters away from your face or across the room, no in between

*opens app* *gets distracted by something on it* *forgets why you were on the app*

Feel free to add more

[unapologetic-autie]

Friendly note for neurotypicals

No matter how you intended them, the following responses to someone telling you that they're autistic, and anything similar to them, are not compliments:

"I never would've guessed!"

"You don't look/seem autistic!"

"Really? But you're so smart/independent/*insert any other positive adjective*!"

"Oh, you must be high functioning, then"

Fellow auties, reblog with your additions to this list. This is all I could think of atm.

[unapologetic-autie]

i’m sorry i didn’t know that was a autism thing, is it also an adhd thing because that might explain it more for me?

I can see it being for all of those tbh, no need to apologize lmao. There tends to be a lot of overlap between those three things (especially autism and adhd because, fun fact, autism is commonly misdiagnosed as adhd in females) so it's not like it exclusively belongs to people with one of those things. It could also just be because a lot of autistic or adhd people are probably depressed because we live in a society that favors neurotypicals over neurodivergent individuals lmao

[unapologetic-autie]

You also see this a lot with special interests. If a neurotypical is really into something, that's fine- they're just really curious and dedicated. But when a neurodivergent person has a special interest, suddenly they have "narrow interests" and "are too obsessed with things." There's no need to police just how "obsessed" with something that people are allowed to be- just let people be passionate about things that interest them whether they're NT or not, period.

You ever think about the fact that neurodivergent people are commonly made fun of for stimming, but once stimmy videos were rebranded as ASMR or "weirdly satisfying," suddenly it's normalized in our culture?

But only that specific kind of stimming. We still can't fidget or use toys other than fidget spinners to stim because that's weird, it makes the fact that we're ND too obvious.

Yeah, I think about that a lot, and it pisses me off.

*** I'm not saying that neurotypicals aren't allowed to enjoy ASMR or weirdly satisfying videos or fidget toys of any kind because they can be calming to people even if they aren't autistic or ADHD or anything like that, but I'm saying that it's really hypocritical that neurodivergent people are made fun of for this kind of thing when it's become a normalized part of even neurotypical culture ***