#tw; fertility issues

[terrence-silver]

If beloved had an IUD because she wants to have babies later in their marriage and Terry wanted babies now, would he force her to have it taken out?

Not just have it taken out; man ritualistically burns the damn thing in the fireplace and cackles into his chin as it happens for all we know because that's the enemy right there. That's what was preventing him from having what he wants. That's what was invading beloved's body and now, he's destroyed it.

[stefsimz]

definitely spending more time at the hospital than she'd like to, but getting closer and closer to having her dream baby👩🏼‍🍼

[simswoon]

My babies have been struggling to get pregnant :(

[strange-doll-child]

Me when I'm in a bad mood, so now she needs to suffer because of it

[jen-with-a-pen]

pre-op appointment for laparoscopy is this afternoon. anxious but not afraid anymore. just hoping we can do it somewhat soon so I can stop feeling like wolverine is using my abdomen and pelvis as a goddamn punching bag (and not in the good way)

[workinprogress14]

tw: fertility

This is something really personal, and I’ve chosen to keep this very private with people that know me in real life, but I need a safe place to share this.

I had a miscarriage three weeks ago.

The pregnancy wasn’t planned, but the loss has been so hard to cope with. Some days I hold it together okay. Some days I’m a weeping, falling apart mess. Also my libido has been so incredibly low since the miscarriage and I honestly just don’t feel like myself sexually right now.

I have a ton of DMs I haven’t responded to cause I just haven’t had the strength, so if I haven’t responded, I’m sorry. I’m not ignoring you. I don’t know when I’ll be back to normal, but that’s what’s been going on in my life.

[barefootbaltimore]

I gotta fucking tell someone so I guess my public diary is a good place. I had a false positive pregnancy test, and it's really taken the wind out of my sails. We've been trying for so fucking long, almost a year. Everyone else in my family is pregnant all the time, by accident even! But I try for a year and nothing. So anyway I'm doing great.

[zuppizup]

DVD commentary ask game

Found family, a simple life and fuel the pure etc what gave you the idea for those?

That entire series started as just a random idea for the one shot, Found Family. I’d seen a lot of Rayllum baby fics, but I hadn’t seen one that featured an adopted child. Considering the family dynamics both Callum and Rayla grew up in, they both struck me as people who’d be very open to adoption. Once the idea for giving them an adopted kid started marinating in my mind, naturally a fic resulted. I did consider having them simply elect to adopt without having fertility issues, but that was also something I hadn’t seen in fic (and is very, very common) so I decided to combine the ideas into a oneshot.

That I fully intended on leaving there. 😅

A Simple Life I suppose evolved from the reaction to Found Family. The idea of adopted Rayllum parents seemed to resonate with some people and I got a bunch of ideas from comments and asks and random little oneshots sprouted from there.

Fuel the Pyre essentially came about for two reasons. One of them was people seeming to kinda not get that Tio is Rayla and Callum’s real child. I do occasionally get comments enquiring about when they’re have a “real” baby and, while I get people don’t mean to offend when they say stuff like this, adopted kids are the “real” kids of their parents, regardless of if they go onto have biological children or not.

But mostly, I wanted to push Callum and Rayla to their limits. They’re absolutely ride or die for each other, but I thought it would be interesting to explore what would happen when they were forced into a situation where they had to chose between each other and their child. I also thought it would be interesting to explore the political implications of having an adopted child in line to the throne. Obviously Tio is waaaay down the line, but I thought it would be “fun” to add a spanner to the works regarding rumours that might result from the whole complicated family situation.

DVD Commentary Ask Game

[potionio]

Sometimes you need a bit of a nap to handle news.

[yourfavoritehorseman]

I need to vent about something so maybe I can quit dwelling on it and actually write the fics I've been working on:

Some time ago, I was having a conversation with someone who I thought was something akin to a friend. We mostly just worked together, but we used to bitch to one another a lot. It was cathartic.

We've also both have fertility issues. She does have two children, though. Both are from a previous relationship and she's thus far been unable to conceive with her current husband. The doctor's she spoken with haven't had any definitive answers as to why. She's also had to deal with miscarriages, which I wouldn't wish on anyone.

A lot of my issues stem from PCOS. My condition was left unchecked for years due to my family being unwilling to take me to the doctor to find out why I was having some of the symptoms (lack of period or extremely painful period when I do get it to name a few). I'm not quite 30, but my OB warned that it's a very real possibility that I may have to get a hysterotomy in the near future to avoid significant health problems.

I'm trying to make peace with it. Having children isn't exactly my number on goal right now, but there's something about the idea that it may not be an option to me that's sort of final and sad. The added pressure of having relatives and in-laws make it seem as if this thing that's happening to you is just an excuse is another matter altogether.

Anyway, one day this person and I were venting to one another. She turns to me and says with her entire chest, "I do think it's much harder on me because you've never had children. You don't have to wonder why you can't have them with the man you love, but managed to conceive for someone who's a part-time father."

I was stunned. Firstly, I didn't realize it was contest. I genuinely thought we both understood the other. Secondly, I can't fathom how it's easier to possibly never have the choice.

The idea that maybe I'm being selfish and depriving my husband of being a father has crossed my mind several times. He's never made me feel this way, but I know he wanted children at one time.

I do admit maybe it's harder for her because she wants it more than me. Motherhood seems to be where she particularly finds fulfillment and I've never needed it for that purpose. Still, to be dismissed that way was like a hardy slap to the face. Trying to come to terms with this while also being told it's not that bad is a worse feeling that I expected. Plus, I get the added bonus more pressure being on me to conceive before "it's too late." Maybe a hysterectomy would be a small blessing because then I would know it isn't happening and wouldn't even feel like talking about it anymore.

[rockets-and-raccoons]

Me @ myself: you deserved better than to find out you have an abnormally small uterus that has "future reproductive implications" through reading a copy of your medical file.

Me @ myself: you deserved to find out from the doctor the day that was written. You did not deserve to find out 5 years later by accident.

[the-smallest-star]

Gillian's secret

Gillian and Peckrin did have trouble having babies. Doctors said the chance of Peckrin impregnating Gillian were low.

Upset and wanting kids to complete the 'perfect family image', on a drunken night out Gillian did have sex with someone. Someone she doesn't really remember. Shortly after, it was confirmed she was pregnant, and she carried this secret with her and let Peckrin raise her twins as his own.

Peckrin is not their biological father.

[atasteforsuicidal]

tumblr needs more virgin river, like. plssss.

Like, even if you don't want the cheese and the drama (this is like 5 straight seasons of peak Hallmark movie drama/romance), there are two confirmed wlw (Hannah and Ava) and at least one mlm couple (Johnny and Adrian) (so far these are all more background characters, but it gives me hope for future seasons, and, also, like, small town that you'd expect to be super conservative and bigoted, but overall really not!), a lot of seniors and older adults who are reasonably fully-formed characters and get to be in proper romantic relationships, medical drama, awesome family and found-family dynamics, sexy bad-boy trying to turn things around, sexy not-so-bad-boy trying to get his shit together, marine vets with hella ptsd, crime drama, just a whole lot of really attractive cast members, and some gorgeous Canadian views

[brooklynislandgirl]

Honest and embarrassing question . If you ever think about being married, who do you imagine putting a ring on it ?

Be Brave || Accepting

The question hits Beth in just the right way that is blooms into a bittersweet ache in the middle of her chest, spreading a sort of shade throughout the rest of her. The simplest answer screams loudly in her head, echoing through her ears, behind her eyes, and almost makes the marathon sprint to her lips before she is able to rein it back, give it more consideration. "I t'ink everyone fantasises about it a' one point or anoddah in dere life. It sorta comes almos' pre-built as an encouragement, if ya born wahine. An' in some ways I t'ink wantin' t' be wi' da person meant for you is sorta like a biological imperative...but for da soul." Her smile is soft. It carries the weight of an incalculably heavy grief.

"Back in small kid time, I said to my braddah dat some day, was gonna grow up an' marry da shark dat bite me, an' left it's indelible mark. He tole me I nevah could. Dat people an' shark no can marry. Jus' goes t' show dat my braddah nevah really read Hawai'ian legends." She shrugs a shoulder, though it hardly moves. "Den, when I was a lil older... doctah say dere's somet'ing wrong wi' me. Dat I was...well, broken, from a certain point of view. What's really da point in bein' da spare...den da heir...when you no can continue your bloodline? It was made clear t' me dat as far as da Admiral was concerned, I was...useless." When she finally looks up, she doesn't make any significant eye-contact. "I'm not da kine you marry. I'm not even da kine you really wanna date. Mos' people...dey...got mo'beddah options. Dey don' want..." Her. "But dat's not da question, really. I don' imagine, is da answer. Or mebbe, I can't. I don' really see who would want to, or why, or wha' I got to offer dat's beddah dan literally anyone else dey could choose. It would need to be someone I feel connected to on an emotional or spiritual level. Someone who would be willin' to put in da effort t' get to know me. An' den go fardah still, an'...overlook every bad, broken, or sad part of me. Someone who could keep dey word, an' actually...stay."

[bctglrl]

notes about Barbara as Oracle / Post The Killing Joke. 

tw fertility issues tw violence 

babs has bad days where she will return to her wheelchair. 

has experimental technology holding her spine together. her batgirl suit also helps support her spine.

will operate as both oracle and batgirl as needed. (i.e. on the field, someone calls for Oracle's help/information.) 

is open with other heroes about her past as Batgirl / Oracle. Will not go into detail, though most people who she works with already know. 

The bullet had gone "somewhere below her middle," damaging her spine and presumably her uterus. this leaves barbara under the impression she cannot get pregnant, therefore she will not push for protected sex with a romantic partner.

is comfortable with returning to Oracle full time if life permits it. but she would always rather be on the field as Batgirl. 

[kronoose]

Info dumping about the residents of Luc's tower only one of which actually participates in the hunt regularly

Two of which had actual names I didn't write them down tho so they're still their nickname

Doc is getting his own post because he needs an bundle of extra tw and Milton is unimportant

Firstly we've got cooky friendly lesbian granny who can and will kick your ass for messing with her domain(the kitchen) she is a mom figure to Luc and the only one who can full name him they met shortly after he'd joined the Duke gang. She has a goth cottage core (look it up it's so pretty) girlfriend who's a florists she doesn't know cooky works for a serial killer but she does know the adults of the tower they car pool to the gay bar and kink club

Cooky was married to a gay man in her youth they couldn't conceive together due to fertility issues on both sides and very limited sex they split after he came out to her they're still friends in one au said husband is my teacher OC in that au they're besties like they're both incharge of a bunch of queer dumbass's and vent to eachother about their kids

She grows weed and makes adult treats on Fridays this has lead to many goofy lil bits in my fic she doesn't often join in the hunt but occasionally she will just to de stress

Next is Seth aroace sloth Boi they're non-binary

They wear lens less glasses like Connie in Steven universe

They killed their own father because he was a piece of shit this was very much hyped up by all the other named charecters.

They are the towers unofficial welcoming committee

They do not participate in the hunt they will participate in the pre and post hunt hype fest tho then he takes a nap

Seth can and will fall asleep in the most jump scare positions and places

Next the only OC I've never been able to pic crew

Ben the mom of the tower and everyones hype man. Ben is part bear and I believe he was once a bear in the 2sLGBTQ way but I couldn't find an answer conclusively enough if other people under the queer umbrella could use the term or if it was just gays so he's just the mama bear in the Physical sense

Ben is the second successful transformation Luc did they're child hood friends they briefly dated but realized they were just doing everything the same except with more kisses and we're like nah bro friends only

Ben is demibi ace

Ben is the only one I still use a face claim for

He was the one to bring Dani and Luc to the Duke gang

His dad 'vanished' the day after Ben came out to him it didn't go well Luc doesn't take well to his family being hurt his dad was doc's first live test for his skin

Ben is the only one who knows what happened to Luc's eye other than Dani

Next Jules the only named child in the tower

My brain was like what if the bigots got confronted with their child self as I was listening to Nightcore and I was like yes that anime person shall be them

Jules has a different name for each set of pronouns they use (he Julian/she Julia/they Jules)

They were born in the tower and home schooled there father was a werewolf mother was a shape Shifter

They were sent to normal school and promptly expelled for figthing and arson

The figthing was self defense the arson was for funsies

They can turn into child versions of people

They have not killed yet

Both of their parents fucking bounced so Jules was communally raised

Damian is Luc's demon who he summoned by accident the summoning was intentional he just got the wrong demon

Damian is kinda bassed off the black Butler demons

Damian is Demiace realizing both labels while listening to people gossip about their love lives and being like that's not me