#tw nonsexual mommy kink

[artificialqueens]

Robin in the Rain (Branjie) - writworm42

A/N: Title taken from the Raffi song of the same name. For all of you who have been asking for more non-sexual cgl! Thank you to grapefruit for beta-ing :)

“Mommy, Mommy, look!”

Brooke looked up from her work to see Vanessa at the window, face pressed up against the glass, breath fogging it slightly.

“What is it, baby?” she slid her laptop aside, standing up to come over behind the smaller queen.

“Rain!” Vanessa bounced excitedly on her toes, and Brooke laughed. Big Vanessa always claimed to hate the rain, but there was nothing little Vanessa seemed to love more than the sight of puddles accumulating on the ground, the smell of fresh earth and the squelch of mud underneath her boots. It was absolutely adorable and admittedly infectious; Brooke couldn’t help but feel a little giddy herself as they looked out towards the city together, watching the tops of trees bend underneath the downpour, fat drops of water hitting the ground and rippling the surface of shallow, quickly-growing puddles.

“Mommy, can we go?” Brooke looked down with a start at Vanessa, whose eyes were as wide with excitement and hope as her Chicklet smile. Brooke chewed her lip.

“Are you sure, baby? Auntie Kiki will be coming in fifteen minutes, you don’t want to get big again before then?” A’Keria had been on vacation with her nephew for the last few weeks, and both Vanessa and Brooke had been feeling the Southern queen’s loss pretty hard. A’Keria was the kind of friend who called every day, who was always up in people’s business and meddling where she shouldn’t have been, usually to surprisingly good but nonetheless hilarious results.

I’m that one aunt at the reunion, you know, the one who got on the white church gloves and the pussycat wigs, sittin’ on the couch just listenin’ to all the bullshit and judgin’ y’all behind her tea and readin’ glasses?

But as much of a busybody as A'Keria was, she was never judgmental, and her sense of love for Vanessa and ‘pisces sensitivity’ meant that they could tell her anything, and she’d accept it all with open ears and a patient smile.

Which was why when Vanessa shook her head, insisting she wanted to stay little and play in the rain with or without A’Keria present, Brooke caved, grabbing her phone to warn A’Keria about what she’d see.

The truth was, A’Keria had already seen Vanessa in her littlespace; in fact, there were a few times when Vanessa had dropped and Brooke was too busy to play along where A’Keria had stepped in and babysat. She never seemed to mind; rather, she often teased that Vanessa was a big baby anyway, and that she was far less annoying with a pacifier shutting her up.

So when A’Keria showed up fifteen minutes later with a big box of animal crackers, Brooke was nothing but grateful.

“Auntie, auntie!” Vanessa came rushing the minute A’Keria stepped through the door, immediately tackling her in a big hug. “Mommy says we can play in the rain! Can you play too?” A’Keria chuckled.

“You bet your cute little tush I can, baby. But first, we gotta put on your boots and coat, right?”

Vanessa didn’t need any further cueing; within a few minutes, she had ‘helped’ Brooke put on her boots and rain-coat (little Vanessa was never very coordinated, and always seemed to mix up her right and left feet), and the three of them had made their way outside, down to their building’s parking lot. It wasn’t the safest setting, sure, but there were limits to what Brooke could allow; as much as they liked to think of home as a safe haven, if they ventured outside, they could never be sure who would clock them, how fast the fans would jump on a chance to spread pictures and rumours around.

“You know, you ain’t gotta worry as much about her as I know you do.” A’Keria came up next to Brooke in the building’s back alcove, watching carefully as Vanessa ran ahead, diving boots-first into the very first puddle she set her happy little eyes on. Brooke laughed softly and shook her head.

“I can’t help it. I mean, just look at her.” she let her eyes trail over Vanessa, then realized with a jolt that the smaller queen wasn’t wearing her hood. A’Keria laughed loudly as Brooke jolted forward, running into the rain to stop Vanessa and pull her hood up over her head, smiling pinching Vanessa’s cheek before letting her turn back to her game.

“You were saying?” A’Keria cocked an eyebrow, joining Brooke next to Vanessa, both of them having resigned to the fact that they were destined to get wet.

“I love seeing her so happy like this.” Brooke murmured, her whole heart soaring as she watched Vanessa continue to run around, her hands raised above her head in an attempt to ‘catch’ as many droplets as she could. “There’s nothing I wouldn’t do to make sure she can have moments like this.”

“I know.” A’Keria smiled warmly. She seemed like she was going to say something else, but before she had the chance, Brooke surged forward grabbing Vanessa by the waist and pulling her back.

“Baby, don’t touch the worms, they’re dirty!” she scolded. Her worry immediately turned to guilt, though, when Vanessa turned to look up at her, her lip quibbling and eyes as big as dinner plates.

“Oh no, baby, don’t cry.” she softened, clicking her tongue as she brought Vanessa in for a tight hug. “Mommy’s so sorry for yelling. I was just worried.”

She felt Vanessa’s hands on her back and face burrowed in her shoulder, and relaxed a little, patting the smaller queen’s back, rocking her a little back and forth on their feet.

“Why don’t you show mommy the worms and we can look at them instead of touching them? And Auntie Kiki can see them too?”

Just like that, everything was okay again, and Vanessa was back to her normal, cheery little self, excitedly chattering about the worms and giggling while helping Brooke and A’Keria come up with names, stories, and personalities for their new wriggly friends.

–“Nice to have some grown-up time, huh?” A’Keria grinned as she sat down at the kitchen table across from Brooke, who rolled her eyes as she sipped her hot chocolate. Once they had come in from the rain, Brooke had towelled Vanessa off, changed her into her pajamas, and tucked her into bed with her pacifier, teddy bear, and a mug of hot chocolate, then sat down to spend some time with A’Keria while her baby slept the afternoon off.

“I can see why you like this so much.” A’Keria continued, taking a sip from her own piping mug. “I ain’t never seen you two lookin’ so happy together. And that’s sayin’ something, ‘cause the way you two are when you both normal, girl, I could vomit.” Brooke laughed but said nothing.

They were happy together. And this thing they had started, this dynamic or relationship or bond, whatever anyone wanted to call it, had only ever brought them closer.

There was a whimper on the other side of the door, and Brooke immediately snapped to attention.

“Sounds like someone wants a cuddle.” A’Keria laughed softly, shaking her head in amusement at Brooke’s reaction. “Go, it’s okay. I been here for a while anyway, I should get going. Talk to you later?”

Brooke smiled gratefully, already on her way over to the bedroom as A’Keria made her way towards the front door to let herself out. “See you tomorrow, A’Keria.”

She fell asleep with Vanessa in her arms, heartbeats synced as they both nestled into each other, enjoying the warm feeling of being held and supported.

Outside, the rain continued to pound on, tapping out a gentle rhythm on their window and washing the earth clean.

[ardengrimm]

Tw: mention of k!nk

Cgl vs. Cglre

Cgl/ddlg/mdlb/etc:

• Stands for caregiver little

• Can be sexual or not

• Is considered under the bdsm umbrella

• Often comes with age play

• Considered kink

• Voluntary

• 18+ only

• Power exchange (ex. Dom, sub, or switch)

• has a cg who is a dom

Cglre:

• Stands for caregiver little regression

• 100% nonsexual

• Is not part of bdsm

• Not ageplay but regression

• Nonsexual coping mechanism

• Voluntary or involuntary

• Minor friendly

• No power exchange

• Has a cg that is not a dom

* Age regression:

1. when you revert back to a childlike state of mind voluntarily or involuntarily (pure and impure). It is usually used as a coping mechanism for those with mental health issues, disabilities or who have a past trauma. It can be a conscious coping mechanism or it could be an involuntary coping mechanism where the brain involuntarily reverts back to a younger state in a state of stress.

2. Sometimes used by kink to mean a certain kind of hypnosis therapy that is used most likely for sexual reasons.

*Little:

1. a submissive headspace involved in the kink community (BDSM).

2. sometimes used by age regressors to mean that they regress to a littler or smaller age. However, the term little has been overrun by the kink community and is a gamble to whether age regressors are safe or not from kink.

3. A term for minors and DID systems.

*Cgl- known as DDLG, MDLB, etc. This is strictly 18+ (No minors allowed) It is when two adults come together and consentually create a power dynamic that involves rules and punishments. One is a Dominant (usually a daddy or mommy Dom) and the other the submissive (little girl/little one/little boy). The little (submissive) is aware they are an adult but ageplays or roleplays the role of a little. This can be sexual or non sexual. However, this is Not the same as age regression and should be kept completely separate.

* cross-tagging: when someone tags a post about one thing with tags about something else, usually about something N5FW. This can be done by k!nksters, or even by well-meaning age regressors.

*I hope this helps and is an informative read.*

[regressionuncensored]

Why I Left Agere...

I’m submitting this on anonymous because I do not feel comfortable giving out my new URL– especially with this controversial opinion I’m about to give. I don’t think age regression is healthy. My therapist did not think my age regression was healthy. Over the three years I’ve been in this community I have not improved mentally by any margin– and here is my story. TW: grooming mentions, swearing, pedophilia mentions, mental illness mentions, possible sexual assault mentions. Read with caution if you’re triggered by any of these things. I will jump right into this without making introductory small talk. I have OCD. I have the delusion of being dirty by even thinking of sexuality in any form. The forced sexualization of agere (even if it’s claimed to be “nonsexual”) is too much for me to handle, and it’s very clear that it overlaps with kink in many areas even if you don’t want it to, or say it doesn’t for you. Somehow, saying your regression isn’t sexual has wrapped around and become sexual again– read in between the lines of any cg / little post and you’ll see what I mean. Anyway, daddy / mommy / caregiver– rather we like it or not– are terms associated with kink and they have been for several years, even before agere. The only time it isn’t is when actual, real children use it as a nickname for a parental figure, or if a person is giving care to someone who is physically unable to help themselves for a medical reason. This is the only time the term is not sexualized because people don’t know about age regression and they more than likely never will. Secondly, the amount of minor and adult relationships in cglre are ridiculous (you all know very well who I’m talking about)– but as an added example, remember the eighteen year old being groomed by a twenty eight year old and none of you said anything about it because it was “not sexual”? Yeah. “BUT SHE WAS EIGHTEEN WAAAHHHHH” I don’t give a fuck, that’s no excuse for a twenty eight year old to be interested in someone of that age and if you disagree you need to rethink your life. Cglre is grossly predatory from my experiences and the things I have witnessed there have made me report multiple blogs to NCMEC because that’s how disgusting it is, and every single cg needs to think hard about their interactions towards minors (THAT INCLUDES EIGHTEEN YEAR OLDS). Adults (AKA people in their late twenties and early thirties in this case) in this community should be absolutely ashamed for interacting with minors– and I’ll be watching the notes of this post, too! I’ll report you if I have to! Not to mention when Tumblr blocked the tag for adult content it was for a reason. “C” “G” “L”. Caregiver/little. Aka a kink with a power exchange. You can’t slap “regression” on the end and expect it to magically become safe for work… look at your tag for fuck sakes. People are constantly cross tagging it with kink tags. It was a mistake right from the beginning and everyone refuses to acknowledge it because it’s inconvenient for them to– just like me having this opinion is also inconvenient for them. As for chire, it fell apart way back when mod wolf got called out for being a pedophile and Donut got called out for being a mega jerk. The new chire community is empty and is filled with recycled ideas from 2017. It’s dying, and I think it should stay that way, but I have to applaud them for actually trying to keep kink out of their coping mechanism by not using the word CGL– other than that, it’s the same community as cglre, but it’s more successful for being safe for minors, where cglre is not (and still is not) and has failed miserably at doing so, despite the many block lists the community has created. Let’s not even mention their allowing of truscum and transmeds and how they did absolutely nothing to keep their trans members safe– I see you, cglre mods! Averting your eyes has been the death of your community, and the reason for this entire letter. Don’t even try to tell anyone in cglre this, though. They’ll just act like literal children… but, like, accurately for once, unlike the cheap baby talk they always use. They just plug their ears and go “Nwooooooo it’s not bwecause it’s rwegression and you’re just a bwig fwat mweanie head :((((((( I’ll tell my dwaddy on you.” The cringe writes itself and I don’t even support cringe culture. That’s not even a healthy way to think, by the way. You just decided it was to go along with the majority’s opinion. Regression is so harmful, especially for people like me who already have issues becoming adults due to my BPD. I am leaving this entire community utterly upset for what it’s done to me– and to see minors regressing to a younger age WHEN THEY’RE ALREADY MINORS is absolutely ridiculous. There are better, healthier coping mechanisms than sticking a pacifier in your mouth and calling your musky-husky-two-month-old-boyfriend “daddy”. Take a walk. Learn to knit. Bake cookies. Practice mindfulness and thought correction. Do CBT and DBT. Literally any of those are better than regressing– any good, licensed therapist will tell you this. Mine did. If yours didn’t, find a better one. You are only hurting yourself by regressing. You are only hurting yourself by refusing to grow up and be an actual, functioning adult in society– and if you can do that and regress? Good for you. The fourteen year olds in your communities can't– and they especially can’t have caregivers (especially when none of you can take care of yourselves at that age already), otherwise you may need to report that to the authorities. I know no one in this community will, though, because the last person who did that was chased out of your community. I saw it with my own two eyes. There is also a reason porn bots and daddy dom blogs follow you against your will. It’s because, rather you like it or not, are participating in age play at the end of the day. Not all age play is sexual but it is most definitely a kink and I highly recommend the Wikipedia article on it, as it provides accurate information to what everyone is really participating in (look, I’ll even tell you if you’re lazy or angry at me to click: Ageplay or age play is a form of roleplaying in which an individual acts or treats another as if they were a different age… wow, sounds very familiar, eh?). It’s really all regression is– age play made out to be therapeutic, but in reality, holds people back from accepting their problems and permanently harms their state of mind. Is it really any surprise that people who act like children will also do so when shown the cold, hard facts? Amazing, really. And to be honest- this is just my opinion– there’s nothing normal or therapeutic about a thirty four year old wearing a diaper and sucking on a pacifier claiming their healing from past trauma. I won’t believe you for a single second if you told me that. It’s not healthy. I don’t see any of that stuff outside Tumblr (except a poorly written and unsourced Wikipedia article) unless it’s attached to age play or ABDL– and that’s the facts. Not to mention the original age regression article specifically fucking states that it’s a hypnosis technique used in therapy, but is incredibly controversial as it provides negative results most of the time. Do your research– I know you won’t, though, or else you’ll get five page call out and get suicide baited off your blog (way to go, cglre. Suicide bait the people who don’t need it unlike, you know, TERFs or MAPs). Anyway I’m going to wrap this lengthy ramble up here and watch all the anons come in and attack me. Worst case scenario they’ll poorly dissect my letter without textbook psychology sources and think that they won– the equivalent to the pigeon shitting all over the chessboard quote. Sorry for the oncoming shitstorm in your inbox… remember to block if you have to. I know I have.

Love, A very hurt and tired former member of the agere community.

_______________________________________________________ I agree with some of what you said but I think there are some main things I need to point out.

1. I think your mental illness is changing how you perceive things. I have ocd and I am scared of animals cus I think they are contaminated but I decide to examine why I am having these fears and challenge myself because I could not live well if I didn’t. 

2. I regressed when I was younger like an actual kid. From guess what? Trauma!!! Yeah I was stuck at a younger age and guess what I am now! I have been in therapy since I was four but regression does actually help me. I don’t think regression on it’s own fixes anything but along with therapy (I currently do DBT) I think it’s fine!  3. Just cus you think it’s weird does not make it bad. Maybe a grown adult never had any trauma resolved (or just thinks it’s fun) and it relaxes them. Then WHO CARES if they don’t think it’s kink and they are not being sexual in anyway then WHO CARES. I am sorry but by saying regression is ageplay (even nonsexual) is sexualizeing people who regress. 

4. Kink is not bad and even if it is it’s not your job to tell them. I mean people are drug addicts and that’s bad but I don’t make it my job to tell them that it is. I mean there are people who use drugs (like drugs and alcohol) and are fine! Even if you think drugs are gross if people are not addicted then it does not matter. Like with anything weather pain or smoking weed if you are doing it for the wrong reasons. (not mentally stable, a minor etc) then yeah it’s bad but the average person who has a few drinks a week or even one drink a day is not actually in harm's way and does not need your input. (for anyone who didn’t follow drugs are kink I know bad analogy cus kink is even less harmful but whatever.)

Yes I think we need to protect minors and maybe even age gate it a bit (like I see 11 year olds here and like I was not mature enough to be here at 14 soo) but I think what everyone here is tired of is being told we are gross. That we are sick, crazy, stupid, sexual etc by everyone. Look I don’t like agere either i’m going to kink as soon as I can cus that’s what fits me better but making people feel gross fixes nothing it just sorta makes you annoying. CGLRE (you have a clear bias for chire even though I know you have issues with them too) has worked hard to be a safe place. I know kinksters and miseducated regressors might use the wrong tags but the issue is them not cglre and people can be non comm if cglre is not for them. Why not educate I mean I write stuff on this blog hopefully to show and honest side of agere and I want to educate not shame. Also it’s kinda hard to have a nonsexual kink that you do alone (most of the time) with no power exchange......well i’ve rambled enough but I think you get my point. There is nuance to this issue and people need to know both sides. My side has points and so does yours but people need to hear both and I really don’t suggest shame as your vehicle to get your point across-Lyra

[ardengrimm]

(Redo)

Tw: mention of k!nk

Cgl vs. Cglre

Cgl/ddlg/mdlb/etc:

• Stands for caregiver little

• Can be sexual or not

• Is considered under the bdsm umbrella

• Often comes with age play

• Considered kink

• Voluntary

• 18+ only

• Power exchange (ex. Dom, sub, or switch)

• has a cg who is a dom

Cglre:

• Stands for caregiver little regression

• 100% nonsexual

• Is not part of bdsm

• Not ageplay but regression

• Nonsexual coping mechanism

• Voluntary or involuntary

• Minor friendly

• No power exchange

• Has a cg that is not a dom

* Age regression:

1. when you revert back to a childlike state of mind voluntarily or involuntarily (pure and impure). It is usually used as a coping mechanism for those with mental health issues, disabilities or who have a past trauma. It can be a conscious coping mechanism or it could be an involuntary coping mechanism where the brain involuntarily reverts back to a younger state in a state of stress.

2. Sometimes used by kink to mean a certain kind of hypnosis therapy that is used most likely for sexual reasons.

*Little:

1. a submissive headspace involved in the kink community (BDSM).

2. sometimes used by age regressors to mean that they regress to a littler or smaller age. However, the term little has been overrun by the kink community and is a gamble to whether age regressors are safe or not from kink.

3. A term for minors and DID systems.

*Cgl- known as DDLG, MDLB, etc. This is strictly 18+ (No minors allowed) It is when two adults come together and consentually create a power dynamic that involves rules and punishments. One is a Dominant (usually a daddy or mommy Dom) and the other the submissive (little girl/little one/little boy). The little (submissive) is aware they are an adult but ageplays or roleplays the role of a little. This can be sexual or non sexual. However, this is Not the same as age regression and should be kept completely separate.

* cross-tagging: when someone tags a post about one thing with tags about something else, usually about something N5FW. This can be done by k!nksters, or even by well-meaning age regressors.

*I hope this helps and is an informative read.*