#tw exclus nonsense

[thegardengrows-infrozenrain]

honestly i’m just impressed nobody got mad at each other in this little exchange lmao

also at least the last question there wasn’t pulling some dumb shit like “i get head jerks trying to understand them grammatically because english is my second language uwu anyways here’s a google docs page using the outdated slur ‘transs-xual’ about why neopronouns bad and don’t exist and anyone who uses them is actually lying and faking - and relatedly, why pansexuals are just oppresing bisexuals but don’t worry i still respect your identity and see you as a real trans person and everything i swear”

like excuse me bringing most of that “wow im surprised that wasn’t [thing here]” out of nowhere but i had a friend who would do exactly that lmao he pissed me off - and he’d claim the head jerks for ANYTHING he didn’t like, something as small as offhandedly mentioning eddsworld ships - not even by name, not in support or against a ship, just vaguely talking about it, because he thought shipping them was uncomfortable (and yet he could have tomxjenae like isn’t that a ship too? but i guess it was only uncomfortable if they were gay 🤷‍♂️)

anyways if any of y’all ever come across him his username on reddit is SkullFaceY (at least, it was the last time i checked, not sure if he’s made a new acc or anything) and his username on discord is currently RavenBird (not sure if he uses it anywhere else so hence clarifying it’s his disc and also not putting a tag) he’s an exclusionist dickhole and he used to be kind of popular for a brief moment on the eddsworld subreddit with his stupid comic “eddsworld after serena” or whatever it was called, which was a collaboration with someone else (though i can’t remember who) for this entire like au called “eddsworld coca cola” or something (which was later cancelled because he and the other person had lost interest)

oh yeah and he also did s-xual roleplay with a literal 12 year old where jenae was after the crossworld au tom and he’d have jenae do weird creepy shit like c-m in crossworld!tom’s hot chocolate and force him to wear a skirt and stuff like that but that’s neither here nor there

serious question here : how do neopronouns work. how can you say them in a sentence without laughing.

well i was excited about this ask until that last sentence but i'll explain anyways. you use them just like you would use regular pronouns. for example: i use vamp pronouns so people would say:

"wow i really like vamps style"

"im gonna go stay at my friends house. vamp is gonna dye my hair."

it's very easy! and as for your last "question," i can say them without laughing because i respect others and their identity.

[gaybian-culture-is]

alright really don’t have the patience for this, if y’all don’t mind i’d like to ask that you block sequoyahfoxx since apparently they thought spamming one of my posts with a shitload of exclusionist rhetoric would mean anything. i’ve blocked them across all of our blogs but i don’t want any of y’all to have to deal with that if they’re targeting this blog too (if you take being blocked by us as a good thing then idrc tbh. i’m just trying to protect people from y’all because you harassed us instead of blocking and moving on like a mature individual)

exclusionists i seriously do not know why you’re still trying. frankly you aren’t worth listening to considering you like dedicating entire carrds and essays to “debunking” people’s existence or whatever the hell that means. why do you think i’m going to let you stay and spread bullshit on the notes of our posts and potentially harm our followers? real talk why do you care so much about victim blaming other queer people for your problems when there’s actual activism you could be doing. if your support of queer people is conditional, you’re a queerphobe and don’t support queer rights. now for the love of god please shut up and stop harassing people over this, especially minors (most of us in our system our minors if you checked our intro post or the padlet). not to mention i could report you to staff for harassment because you’re actively breaking our dni just to tell us we’re invalid or whatever the hell you come up with

said this before and i’m going to say this again - if you have enough time to scream at and “educate” a minor on how “harmful” and “gross” and “predatory” their identity is, then maybe you should think about why that is for a second and maybe take a break. and perhaps educate yourself and actually ask people why they identify that way instead of calling them nasty shit for the way they identify, like queerphobes. it’s genuinely sad that you still think i’m going to care after we were ostracized and shit talked constantly by our previous group of friends just because Ivy identified as a lesbivincian along with all the other shit we’ve dealt with because of similar groups we were in, because trauma does some shit to you and i can assure you i’m dropping your bullshit off too.

- not signing off who for personal reasons

[femmesandhoney]

how did you become a radfem? was your journey like kronkk’s?

im not wholly familiar with kronkks personal experiences to becoming a radfem actually! me myself, i was always never a full force tra or anything. i labeled myself more of an exclus if u know what that entails. i mainly hung out on exclus twt with other lesbians who ran in those circles. after awhile i noticed a sharp turn in lesbians getting harassed if they didn't always include tw in their definitions of lesbianism, if they spoke about liking women and female bodies, and basically it felt like absolutely everyone was walking on glass at all times. it was sad because this was one of the first lesbian spaces i made friends in, but they all mostly got sucked into full on "inclus" libfem stuff because they couldn't take all the daily hate they got for standing up for their opinions about the lgbt community. anyways, i eventually just reached a breaking point of realizing how goddam awful, toxic, and bullshit most libfem arguments and people were when it came to lgbt and feminist topics.

on tumblr, i was simultaneously already following some wonderful gnc lesbians and women, none were/are proclaimed radfems btw, but did interact with and lead me to some actually radfem blogs! one of the first radfem blogs i read secretly was terfmomo, miss her. this eventually helped me answer a lot of my questions i had like why the lesbian community seemed to be eating itself alive, full of paranoia and surveillance and fear all the time. it kinda all started to just make sense to me. i had an easier time understanding radfem theory tho i think bc i was never hugely indoctrinated or whatever into tra nonsense to such an extreme. also one of the main arguments that kept me trying to believe was the "science" behind being trans, but i eventually did more digging thanks to radfems and realized the science was bullshit or didnt exist. and that basically cemented it for me.

so basically i joined for the lesbian and trans discourse and understanding, but then got to learn all about radical feminist theory and meet a wonderful group of women on radblr.

[my-body-your-temple]

⭕️Dms/Askbox are completely open, all posts are rebloggable unless tagged otherwise⭕️

- just call me Cosmic on here

- He/It/Vi

- Transmasc mlm (single, not looking for long distance)

- 19

- glitchcore, traumacore, webcore, red aesthetic

- Bipolar, PTSD, ADHD

DNI:

- Basic dni criteria

- Terfs/SWerfs/any of that nonsense

- Exclus

- Proship

I’m bad at tws, so overall blog tw for:

- Self harm, including photos of my own

- Suicide/Suicidal thoughts

- Ventposting

- Obsessive love/Obsession (BPD fp)

- EDposting/Ana/weight talk (usually tagged)

✨#weather is anything relating to my favorite person, if anyone’s wondering what that tag’s about.

✨sometimes i post edits/art/poetry that i made, anything artsy that i make myself is tagged #cache

✨i am FTM trans and on T, sometimes i post about trans stuff and how T is going, #tranny tag is where i put all of that (if you have a problem with the word tranny, or faggot for that matter, just don’t follow because i do say both-i can reclaim them, and i do so happily)

[baby1967impala]

Okay but I call myself queer and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself

What is or isn’t a slur can be highly contextual, y'all.

“Jonny Sims bummed a fag off my ma” doesn’t contain a slur, but “What are you, some kind of fag?” does.

“Queer studies”, “the queer community” and “I’m queer”? Not a slur. Some bigot calling you a “dirty queer”? Slur.

“Be gay, do crimes” and “He’s gay” ≠ slur, but “Ew, that’s so gay” = slur.

In conclusion, stop buying into this fucking “q slur” bullshit. Queer people talking about the queer community aren’t using it as a slur any more than a gay man calling himself gay is using that term as a slur.

[aromoji]

FAQ

(Pwease no rebloggy, this is subject to change)

[Insert any invasive question about my ethnicity]

I’m Ghanaian American. My parents were born in Ghana and I was born here. For some reason both black Africans and black Americans seem to have a problem with that. I will not elaborate on this.

I sent you an ask and you never answered it!

It’s likely that

I never got it

You were blocked 

I’ve already answered this

It’s a random positivity ask (which I appreciate but not sure how to respond to those)

You were rude in your ask and I didn’t feel like answering

I forgot until it was too late, which happens when my inbox gets a lot of asks at a time.

You sent it to the wrong blog (I.e, sending asks about my ocs to this blog instead of @ochood )

Non is just a prefix, black people don’t have a monopoly on the term! I suppose you think nonbinary people are racist huh?

This person explains it better than I can. Plus we’re talking about marginalized groups here. Black people are a marginalized group. Binary people as a whole are not so the term nonbinary isn’t appropriative at all. Also shut up, racist.

Follow up: If we can’t use non-[marginalized group], what can we use instead?

There are other words to describe the people you’re talking about

non-transfem- TME

non-lgbt- cishet, or people who aren’t lgbt

non trans - cis

etc

Black people don’t have a monopoly on the acronym nb! I’ll call myself nb if I want to!

I’m always gonna mean nonblack when I use the acronym nb. Die mad about it.

Hey, the op is [insert post] is [someone on my dni]!

I usually double check myself, just to be sure. If the person’s url is uncensored I’m not going to post the ask

Have you heard about [someone who is mutuals with someone who is mutuals with someone I’m loosely connected with]?

Most likely, no. And unless they’re an immediate danger to someone or they’ve got my name in their mouth, I don’t care.

Are you an anti?

Yes. Here’s why

Please don’t send asks about this

Are you an inclusionist/exclusionist?

Yes and no. I do think aces + aros are lgbt but they still should have spaces outside of the lgbt community because they have issues that both overlap with the lgbt community but are also different as well. Idk wtf is going on with the inclus community, but exclus are nonetheless insufferable, I’ve never met a single ‘respectful’ exclusionist who doesn’t thinks unironically calling themselves an aphobe is a personality trait or doesn’t reblog from people who feel that way. As someone who’s definetly not cishet in any sense of the word, I don’t believe the acecourse is about the “cishet aces and aros” like they claim.

Also as an addendum: I don’t like being called queer nor do I agree with calling people who do not reclaim the term as such, but that doesn’t mean people who are comfortable with the label shouldnt be allowed to reclaim it for themselves and take pride in it. Unironically calling yourself a queerphobe is cringe bro, and calling people “kweers” is disrespectful to asian queer people who use it as a personal identity

I’m also pro-pansexuality, no I don’t think pan people oppress or harm me as a bi (and trans) person. Yes, they should check their transphobia, but that is the case for people of any orientation.

Please don’t send asks about this. I am not a discourse blog, and I’m trying to stay as far away from any lgbt related discourse as possible, but I want to makae my stances clear for anyone that wants to follow me and must know before doing so. 

Do you need dysphoria to be trans?

No. Next question. 

Please don’t send asks about this

Are you pro/anti mogai?

I dont personally engage with the mogai community (and I’m pretty sure a lot of the identies people make fun of are literal trolls. Come on, no one’s actually calling themselves audiosexual...right?) but people who use mogai as an insult or run flop accounts  are cringe.

Please don’t send asks about this

Why do you continue to use the ace flag even though known homophobe David Jay made it?

He didn’t. It was created by a user named standup on the AVEN website, who has no connection to David Jay himself. A lot of aces don’t even know who the fuck this person is anyways.

Edit: I no longer identify as ace but this still stands.

Please don’t send asks about this.

Do you know who [x person/group/thing] is?

Most likely no. Not to sound like a hipster but I dont usually keep up to date with trends. If I do hear about something, it’s most likely from twitter or instagram.

Is x AAVE?

I have a tag dedicated to what is and is not aave.I know some things overlap with southern culture but others are specifically for black people. No, I can’t tell you how to stop using AAVE.

Hey, I can’t see your blog or reblog your posts!

You were blocked. And now you’re block evading. I don’t remeber why I specifically blocked a user, but it’s most likely because you’re on my dni.

But I’m not on your dni?

You probably said or did something annoying then. Lol.  Or you’ve added a stupid comment to someone else’s posts and I don’t want that nonsense on mine, so I blocked preemptively.

There’s the occasionaly chance while I was blocking people on a spree in the notes of a bad post you may have gotten caught in the fray, and if so, I apologize.

However, there’s also a chance you also blocked me on @mojiis and yet continued to interact here. So I blocked back.

Can you tag x?

I have a list of things I usually tag because they come up on this blog a lot.  I cannot do catch all tags, as I have way too many followers for that. The closest thing to that is the “ask to tag” tag when there’s something potentially triggering but I’m not sure what it is. Everything is tagged as “x tw”. If something is extremely triggering, I’ll tag it as “major tw”

Do you tag slurs?

I’ve decided in order to be fair I’m tagging any possible lgbt related slur as the letter itself. Hopefully those who dont want to see it will have it black listed and I wont offend the people who reclaim it. I don’t tag the n word, as I reclaim that one. I always tag the r slur

Can I message you about something/someone?

Unless you’re a mutual, most likely no. My DMs are only open to mutuals. 

Do you want to be mutuals?

 I don’t usually follow back people who follow me, especially if you’re under 17. I’m sure you’re a nice person, but don’t post about things I’m interested in.

Can you give me advice on x?

Most likely not, because I’m not an expert or an advice blog. I’ll try, but dont take my word for it. I’m also tme, ablebodied, not jewish, singlet, etc, so I’m not able to accurately answer questions about transmisogyny,  (physical?) ableism, antisemeitsm, “sycourse”, etc. 

I might be able to give advice on school related stuff, but remember that students are not a monolith, and what worked for me may not work for someone else.

What’s your main blog?

If you know, you know.

Why do you continuously move mains/change urls/update themes?

I’m inconsitent. Plus someone is stalking me.

Can I tag you in posts I think I’d like?

Of course!

[somescenecatholic]

tw: bigotry

exclus=nonsense

what's so hard abt loving ppl, jeez. TERFs and truscum need to do some maturing

terfs in the discourse tag

We have terfs who admit that ace discourse was their first step towards radfem ideas. We’ve had multiple break downs of how terfs and radfems try to radialize other people by using ace/bi/pan/nb/queer/etc. discourse. We’ve had multiple break downs of how popular exclusionist arguments use the same faulty logic and arguments that radfems use.

Can exclusionists maybe finally admit that this is a problem and either drop the discourse entirely or try to come up with arguments that aren’t copied from radfems?