#triggering phrases

[furiousgoldfish]

"Nobody is going to save you, nobody is gonna help you, nobody is going to care that you're still stuck in the past" But it should happen! Have you considered that maybe all of these things should happen?? Why are you rubbing in my face that we live in a world where people will abuse you and nobody will help you or even care about you afterwards? What's there to be smug about?

Being hopeful that help exists and that some people will care about our pain is what we hold onto, to survive this! It's normal, human, natural and it shows some faith in humanity! What is fun about telling us there's no humanity on this world and to stop hoping anyone decent exists? We're already scared of that!

Yes people will care and yes someone will want to help really badly. Some people do take issue with abuse existing in this world and are working to make it better. Since you're not one of them, go enjoy your heartless world.

[maykitz]

if you can stomach it i would recommend watching the body cam footage of the sonya massey killing, i'll try to describe it but it's hardly possible. you can't truly understand the type of extreme, completely volatile aggression that happens with cops if you haven't seen it, and it's captured here very harrowingly.

several officers are in her house, calmly talking with her about her id and vehicle papers for some time. it's routine administrative stuff, no acute danger or stress whatsoever. one of them tells her to take her pot off the stove, remarking that they don't need a fire in the house now, she walks over into the kitchen and complies. he suddenly backs off towards the front door despite already being several feet away. she asks him where he's going, he says "away from your hot, steaming water." she repeats "my hot, steamin' water?" in an amused tone. then adds "i rebuke you in the name of jesus," in a similar tone while pouring the water down the sink. the atmosphere is completely calm, you might even say amiable.

she's at this point still separated from the cops by her kitchen aisle and several feet of additional distance. the cop prompts her to repeat what she said, she repeats her reply about rebuking him in the name of jesus [edit: i didn't phrase this right in the original post; this phrase is not really a joke but rather used similarly to 'perish the thought'- ie rebuking his implication that she would harm them]. she doesn't even realise there's been a complete 180 in his head. he goes "you better fucking not, i will shoot you in your fucking face," she's stunned by the sudden abusive language for half a second, immediately he draws his gun directly at her head, she gets out a panicked "sorry!" and ducks behind the aisle, he rounds the corner into the kitchen specifically to advance right next to her, immediately fires 3 shots at her head from above at minimal distance. she's dead where she stood, or cowered rather, by the sink in her nightgown.

after a few seconds you hear the click of him turning on his body cam, saying "she came at me with a pot of boiling water." for the recording. he also nonchalantly tells his partner there's no need to get a med kit because it was a headshot. it's one of the most clear cut cases ever and it's fully recorded only because his partner did already have the body cam on throughout.

[jmtorres]

so a post wandered across my dash where someone had gotten a transphobic butthole commenting on their fic, and they were asking their followers go tell this person to kill themselves

and i said, have you considered telling people to kill themselves is an abusive tactic and maybe the proportionate response would be to delete the idiotic comment [alas blocking was not available as the coward hadn't logged in]

to their credit, this person blocked me rather than sending me abuse (though if they replied, I can't see it because they blocked, oh well)

but like. it kinda bothers me that someone i follow thought this was cool to reblog. i thought me and my mutuals were on the same page here. we don't tell people to kill themselves. we especially do not incite others to send someone a slew of such messages. we tell bigoted idiots off, block them when possible, report them if we can nail what they said to a hate speech or threat policy.

we do not tell people to kill themselves.

if you think it's acceptable to send someone a "kys" message for literally any reason please go ahead and block me, I don't want to know you.

[sunforgrace]

jensen this is your conscious speaking to you. it is time to release the tapes

[r4c0ons]

A part of ne becomes very patriotic and annoyed when I see RDR art or fics where Irish characters speak Irish.

Lets go on a little history journey shall we

RDR2 is set in 1899 all the Irish characters in the game would have emigrated from Ireland because they wanted to get a better life.

Kieran was born in America. His father emigrated from Ireland possibly after or during the Great Famine.

He cannot speak Irish

His name is not spelt the Irish way

Because he is American.

Seán was born and raised in Ireland. His parents are from Ireland. He is from Donegal. Which was a heavily British county at the time.

He has been to Connemara in Galway with his father as he says it in the game. Connemara is a Gaeltacht. This does not mean he can speak Irish.

He had to have lived in Ireland for at least 15 years to keep the accent but he still would not be able to speak Irish.

As it was dying out.

He maybe could speak a few words or phrases but he would not be fluent.

Molly O'Shea.

Whenever I see art or stories about her when she's talking about being Irish oh I hate it.

She is from Dublin. Which is in the Pale. The area where most British people lived. The richest parts of Ireland. She would not be able to speak Irish.

She hates being irish. She says it multiple times in the game. She moved to America to get a better life because of how bad irish people were treated (which was not much better in America but we will get to that).

She cannot speak Irish her name is not an riish version.

She would also most likely be protestant and get with fights with Seán.

Colm O'Driscoll.

Now we know that Colm is an old man but how old?

He was born in 1845. What year was that? The year the Great Famine begun.

He is (most likely) from Cork. Which is on the west side of Ireland. Not the side you would want to be on during the Famine.

If you don't know what the Famine was here's a little lesson.

The Great Famine begun in 1845 when a potato blight spread across the potato crop causing them to rot and be inedible.

Because the potato was cheap and easy to grow the Irish relied heavily on it.

The average adult male would eat about 12-14 potatoes a day.

Because of thsi over reliance people begun to starve and die.

They had to travel to ports to go on ships -that were often known as coffin boats because of how many people died on them- to escape.

Most people who died were on the west side.

it ended around 1850 but that date is debatable.

He is not going to be able to speak Irish either. He would not be sent to school in these conditions or have time learn it as it is not the main language.

Now. Colm would have been a malnourished child. And because we know he has a brother who moved to America with him when they were both young we can assume that their parents died or sent them off to have a better life and not die in Ireland.

America was not a nice place to be irish at this time.

This sign here. Because of the hundreds of thousands of Irish people emigrating to America during these years the Irish were discriminated againt.

This means that Colm and his brother would have been left on the streets with no job or shelter.

This is why they create the gang. Every irish person that moves ot is born in America cannot get a job so they are invited into the gang. This would provide them with friends shelter and food.

A better option than dying.

Colm also as kieran says is American and dosent want his name to be pronounced in irish is because he hates being irish.

Now onto why irish is not spoken and these characters have some fo the lowest chances of speaking irish in any media.

Modern characters could possibly. Ancient characters could. But not during these times.

When the English first invaded Ireland they put their religion and language onto the Irish.

If you spoke Irish around an English soldier guess what.

You would be killed.

Even when you see irish city names they were all originally in irish. The English solider would come uo to the Irish person, ask where they were, get a reply in irish, write it down as they heard it, and kill the irish.

As a result of this the Irish language died out.

It is only now being slowly reintroduced.

Ive been learning Irish my entire life and I'm not fluent in it.

No Red Dead Redemption character would be able to speak Irish.

Yes Connemara is a Gaeltacht (a place that only speaks irish) and Seán has been there. But it would only be slowly being rebuilt into a Gaeltacht at the time.

NOBODY CAN SPEAK IRISH AND NOBODYS NAME IS SPELT THE IRISH WAY (except sean) THANK YOU.

No hate to anyone who does this btw it's just something that annoys me.

[pawberri]

Me, raising my hand, giggling and blushing during the engineer conference: ermm heheh... so... how does one get put into thgis "CNC machine".....?

[nvathuw]

Ishimondo Week 2024 July 18th: Talentswap / Gifts

[takaraphoenix]

How do you feel about Jordan Parrish? And more specifically, how do you feel about stiles/parrish being shipped together?

It has been seven years since I last saw the show so my memories of everything post season 2 was very hazy (because I saw seasons 1 and 2 four times more often than the rest, I still had good memory of those), so I didn't have many memories of Jordan. And me and my Cupcake only just wrapped season 3 on our rewatch. There isn't a whole lot of Jordan in season 3.

That is the preface to say that I don't have too many feelings about him yet? He's kind of a marshmallow but there hasn't really been meat around his story yet and we haven't reached the Creature Reveal yet either. I do remember overall liking him though.

Due to not having a whole lotta memories of him, I don't have an overall feeling on the ship yet either. Generally, I think there is something very juicy about the deputy falling in love with the sheriff's son. Though I will admit, I am scewering toward older boyfriends for Stiles nowadays, so Jordan's a bit young.

But generally, I'm all in for the majority of Stiles ships - there is only a handful that actively make me feel icky about them and wouldn't want to engage with personally. And, let me be clear, even those I think have a right to exist. I just need to be given the opportunity to avoid them. So, even if I don't end up on board of a ship, the most of my feelings would be "I really don't need to see this and don't want to engage with it, but everyone is free to ship what they want".

[gregrulzok]

Forcing a friend to play Danganronpa THH and MAN, we do NOT talk enough about the fact that Makoto IMMEDIATELY tells the twins apart and clocks the fact that the person he's talking to is NOT, in fact, Junko

And on top of that he just immediately points it out with 0 filter lmao, I know Mukuro was STRESSING

[pyrepostings]

Glasses in whump.

Whumpee who has them taken away/broken early into its long captivity.

Caretaker brings whumpee to get a new prescription after it is rescued, and oh the unintentional trauma triggers there.

Blood pressure cuff. Velcros on and pumps tighter and tighter with every heartbeat-

Things near its eyes, both sticks and paddles to cover them, the lights are suddenly off with a flashlight in its face.

Cold metal devices it's expected to press its face against. Smells like chemicals. Orders given on where to look. To hold still.

Whumpee takes the question of "what's the lowest line you can read?" As a test, and becomes noticeabley distressed when it 'fails'

Eyedrops. Drugs that change its ability to see. Sticky. Lashes clumping together. Hands on its face.

Then in the waiting room, either before the appointment or after while getting the prescription filled, all the glasses on the walls looking looking, staring, eyes watching. Everyone can see whumpee, whumper knows where it is.

This feeling is magnified if video or pictures of its torture were passed around or sold. Everyone can see your pain, the glasses on the walls say. Everyone can see everything you're doing wrong, all the rules you're breaking.

Choosing frames. Paralyzing decision or a gift of choice?

Does whumpee think it deserves the gift of sight?

Everything is too bright after. The new glasses make the world even blurrier as it adjusts.

But in the end, it's all worth it.

[blackbearmagic]

one of the curses I must bear is the fact that I am acutely aware of any time a phrase has the same scansion as "Alexander Hamilton"

[thornsawawa]

when a characters so good i project all my problems onto them

i never draw hunter happy i should fix that probably. poor scug

[official-megumin]

there is always this discourse about if transfem and transmascs have it worse

And like, I know it's not really quantifiable and measureable to find the objective suckiness of being trans.

But like

Man it's gotta suck to be a trans guy. This is coming from the perspective of a trans girl btw.

I know that not all transmascs care about passing and having a "fully male body", like everyone decides for themselves what they wanna do. But let's see this from the perspective from a trans guy who wants to be as close to a cis perisex man as possible, this guy is also perisex afab, meaning normal development and stuff.

Ok, so for this man to "finish" his transition, he would need like, what? 3 surgeries. All of which are gatekept. He would need top surgery, tit chop as you say.

This is already a lot, and it sucks fucking dick that y'all have to wait for that. But other than that already sucky and gatekept surgery, we also have phalloplastry, which many countries including Denmark, doesn't offer at all because it's more complicated than vaginoplastry.

This is also a hugely impactful surgery, and I assume that for many trans men, it also doesn't really feel good enough because no semen and dick pump. Of course I'm no expert, so don't take what I say as gospel, I might flat out be wrong about many things.

But that still isn't it. By now we have moved past surgeries the average transfem would "need"

Like yes, many trans women end up getting BA and FFS to combat dysphoria on top of bottom surgery, but they aren't "required" in the same way. So let's round it out and say one half of both of those surgeries count, so that means that transfems on average get two gender affirming surgeries. Which means that now, transfem and transmasc surgery counts are the same.

But wait, there's more!

There are also hysterectomies to remove the uterus and ovaries. Which again is very extremely gatekept because "devine femininity"(bleugh)

That's three surgeries to transition "normally" for a transmasc versus the two of a transfem, already there it's more sucky.

Of course this is not taking other typically gendered features into account like hip and shoulder width, which is too variable to really take into account here. Also it is not as widely different between the sexes as some people claim.

But this is just the surgery front.

I can't even begin to imagine how dysphoria inducing dealing with menstruation must be to a trans man.

Like periods suck dick, I know that from personal exprience. It hurts like shit for like a week at a time and there's blood everywhere.

But for trans men you add fucking dysphoria on top of that???? Hellish, the female reproductive system is so invasive and intrusive. For transfems we can just y'know, not touch the thingy and we won't have to worry about a visceral bloody reminder every month that stays even after hrt starts.

Really what I want to say is that yea sure maybe transfems struggle more with sexism and such whilst transitioning, I'd argue even that is not quantifiable and will be hugely variable on how the individual looks(speaking from experience as a trans girl who has not once had transphobia aimed at her in person in public from strangers)

But the physical struggle of transitioning? I think that trans masculine transitions take the cake by far here. Like objectively too.

And all the transmascs out there at all, doesn't matter how dysphoric you are, or how far you wanna take your transition. I respect you so god damn much, and I'm in awe of all of you. You're genuinely incredible

[oifaaa]

Gods fucking save me I'm having star wars thoughts again

[our-queer-experience]

idk if this is the place to put this and totally delete it and I’m sorry if not but!!!

I think I have like a maladaptive daydreaming thing going on? I’m not totally sure if that’s the right word but like sometimes I just can’t make it stop with the scenarios in my head, but they’re nice so I don’t mind it, and lately they’ve been about the future, where I pass and I’m on T and post top surgery and it feels so so nice and I’m so excited

and it’s been kind of helping? Like I just feel good today, since thinking about that all day for the past couple days. I dont know if I’m just delusional or not it just feels really nice a little and I wanted to share

on pubmed there are 90 papers on the topic, most of which are done by one person

maldaptive daydreaming has no diagnosis, criteria, or research. it isn’t a disorder, it’s always comorbid with adhd or ocd, it’s a symptom. the same way self harm is a symptom of disorder.

having fantasies or daydreaming on your spare time, especially when they’re having a positive impact, is normal. i’m happy for you! this is a good thing! it’s not maldaptive and its not a disorder. at worse it’s a symptom, at medium it’s a coping mechanism, at best it’s a normal behavior.

it’s ok and normal to have daydreams about your future, and they really can help you out!! i’m happy you’re happy :)

[rhuns-zahnseide]

Zeke + Perspektive