#tomorrow by tohether

[jamminvroomvroom]

my beloved, I beg you for some lando content after the brilliant race today. I need it to make it to tomorrow- literally any string of words strung tohether, I need to console thay man

working on it anon!! he deserves to be consoled 🥹🥹🥹

[bisluthq]

Omg @ anon who was mean to her bf who got drunk and is talking with his mom, etc. may I please add some things to what Nat said?

1. You said you had tried to hide that part of yourself from him (the angry and mean side - apologies for paraphrasing, I’m tired lol), whether you get back with your bf or not, I’d like to gently suggest instead of trying to “hide” that part of you, to seek some sort of therapy or anger management type thing.

I’m someone who grew up associating anger with violence, because that’s how it was expressed. So I hated being angry and would do anything to avoid it. Then every few months I’d EXPLODE with anger and just rant screaming alone because I’d been holding it in for so long. I’m a long timer with therapy lol so I asked how can I feel anger without being violent. She suggested when I wanted to scream, scream into a pillow, exercise, etc all those things when you feel that burst of it, but most of the anger I had and then exploded was because I was internalising any time I felt even a little bit frustrated, and the root cause was I wasn’t setting or enforcing my boundaries. I would ignore jokes that weren’t funny and I felt hurt by, I picked up the slack of others - I should’ve said ‘hey I don’t like that please don’t say that to me or when I’m around’ and I should’ve asked other people to carry their load and not leave it up to me. Once I started doing that, the outbursts became a lot rarer and I can handle my anger if that makes sense?

You also said you got it from your dad, so you might have some childhood wounds that need addressing and you’d probably find out what your triggers are by talking about it with a good therapist and working through it instead of having to pretend you don’t get super angry and say mean things or whatever - like you can learn to just not do it, instead of hiding that you think it? And it doesn’t make you an asshole for thinking ‘THIS PERSON I LOVE IS AN IDIOT BECAUSE THEY …’ like that’s normal.

Therapy for all! 🩷

2. OMG put distance between you and his mother!!!! Like Nat said, great you get along and great she’s being nice, but ok if you don’t get back with your ex - there’s no reason to talk to her. And I’d bet money she isn’t telling her son to take you back because the 2 of you are being polite! if he brought home woman tomorrow, do you think she would be nice and polite to her? or would she scold her son for moving on and say this new chick isnt as good as you? i dont know any of these people and it doesnt sound like your ex is about to bring someone else home, but if shes nice and normal she probably wants her son to be happy and would be nice to thr new chick.

If you and your ex do get back together and want to be a forever couple, have kids, get married, etc. do you want her expecting to be in the delivery room wheb yoi have a baby? or thinking she has final say on your wedding planning? DO NOT prop her up higher than yourself in this relationship! Because if you start scting like a sexless throuple, your partner will wonder why you turned against his mom because youre not letting her pick your wedding date and she announced your pregnancy on fb before you got to! dont create a monster just becUse you want to stay in his good books!

3. just text him today. dont givr him more time to ppssibly start getting over you by waiting until next week. then it looks like youre only texting for a booty call. you love him, you want to be with him - tell him that! probably not in text lol. but try to see or call him or face time ASAP! Let this be a short blip in your relationhip (if you get back tohether) or at leasy know where yoi stand so you can sfart your healing proxess if he doesnt want to get back together.

good luck and sorry for typos autocorrect has turbed off and it seems i heaviky rely oj it lmao

really solid advice yea

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[n3ongold3n]

Spent half the day weaving tohether a hedgehog shelter (whom we've seennyesterday again :D) from completely unsuitable willow :') I'll post some daylight pictures of the complete thing tomorrow

[alsjeblieft-zeg]

25 of 2022

What’s your favourite flavour of soda, pop or whatever else you call it?

Cherry or peach.

What level of brightness do you usually keep your phone at?

About 70%.

Have you ever attended a religious or private school?

No, but someone I know did.

Do you have any pets and are they cuddly?

I have two cats. One is very cuddly like a teddy bear, one is more cat-like.

What’s the worst job you’ve ever had?

I haven’t really had a bad job, but when I was working in the library, my then-boss liked to act like she was better than everyone around.

How many cars does your household own?

Just one.

Do you know anyone named Edward or any nickname of that?

I remember my uncle was keeping the goats and one of them was named Edward, lol. I know someone whose legal name is Eddy, though, and one Edmund.

What time do you usually have dinner?

6pm, it’s normal here.

Are there any cracks or scuffs on your phone?

Not on the phone itself, but on the cover case.

What’s your favourite meat?

Fish or chicken, if ever. I avoid red meat like a plague.

Do you need glasses to read or drive or need them all the time?

All the time, I’m nearsighted and I have some astigmatism.

How did you celebrate your last New Years Eve?

I was at the hospital, sleeping in my then bed.

Is the internet fast where you live?

Very fast, it’s the city centre.

What is your favourite meal of the day and why?

Lunch because it’s earlier than dinner.

Do you like long surveys or short surveys better?

No preference, but long surveys take longer to fill in by logic.

Xbox, PlayStation or neither?

Neither.

Have you ever been to a cocktail bar?

No, but I’ve been to an Irish pub.

Do you consider yourself a fast typer?

I have a physical disability, but yes.

What’s the best amusement park you’ve ever visited?

I hate amusement parks.

Do you keep the cabinets in your kitchen and bathroom organised?

Usually I do, but we do like a nig cleaning once in a while.

Have you ever had a romantic fling?

Never. I experience romantic feelings rarely and it takes me long time to develop them.

Are you a very forgetful person?

Yeah, my short-term memory sucks. My long-term memory is brilliant, though.

What was the last movie you saw in the cinema?

I don’t go to the cinemas, I have better things to do.

How old were you when you got your first car?

I’ve never had a car completely on my own.

What colour is your shampoo?

...transparent?? Unless you mean the bottle, which is white.

Are you doing anything tomorrow?

Many things. Visiting the insurance company, rehabilitation at the hospital, visiting my workplace.

Do you know anyone who’s gotten pregnant over the age of 40?

Yes, one of my aunts.

Tell me a silly little wive’s tale you believed when you were a child.

That inanimated objects have feelings and can see me. Tnh I still believe in it.

Who does most of the grocery shopping in your home?

Me tohether with my partner.

Have you ever been approached by someone in public preaching about religion?

Yeah, more than once. Mostly by Jehovah’s witnesses.

Are you listening to music right now? If so, what’s the theme of the lyrics?

Yeah, Rock Me Amadeus by Falco. The lyrics are in German, though.

What was the last thing you had to eat?

Chinese takeaway.

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