#timetochoose

[lisabmagdalena]

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than hurt yourself trying to put them back together.

So how do you know when to stay and when to walk away?

How do you know when you’re not making mountains out of molehills, but rather simply seeing things for what they are?

After placing myself in this situation more times than I’d like to count, I developed a three-question guide to recognise when enough is enough.

1. Do their actions frequently contradict their words?

Words can be deceiving, because sometimes when we lie to others it’s because we’re also lying to ourselves. Trust actions. That’s where the truth is.

2. Do you frequently make excuses for them, to yourself or others?

If you find yourself often defending the other person, odds are there’s consistently unacceptable behaviour you’re trying to justify.

It’s great to be compassionate, but we need to be compassionate with ourselves first—and that means acknowledging what’s just not okay.

3. Does this person turn things around on you, as if their actions are your fault?

It can be difficult to recognise those consistently unacceptable actions if you convince yourself you’re somehow responsible for them.

In other words, you might justify their mistreatment because they try to make you feel like you’re the “wrong one” or the “crazy one.”

When someone truly cares, they don’t use your imperfections to justify neglect or emotional blackmail.

I formerly found myself in quite a few relationships like this, likely because I was recreating the dynamics of a core relationship from my childhood.

There came a point when I realised that people who truly respected me wouldn’t let my weaknesses become an excuse to intimidate or disparage me.

No matter what you’ve done or how you sometimes struggle, you deserve to be in healthy relationships with people who treat you well.

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Lisa ♥️ xx

#ShouldILeave #Leaving #DecisionTime #MakingADecision #ToughDecisions #LifeDecisions #TimeToGo #ShouldIGo #StayingOrLeaving #LeaveOrStay #TimeToChoose #LeavingBehind #lisamagdalena #coaching

[go-erika-bost-world]

#venividivici ✌🏻 #changeinlife #changeintheair #changing #timetochange #timetochoose #timetoact #me #selfietime #selfie https://www.instagram.com/p/CWwAq9QLuGP/?utm_medium=tumblr

[natural-living-processed-world]

Learning to Choose

I want to take a course or three... (hehe) but deciding which ones to actually sign up for is proving to be a daunting task.  There is just SO much information available to us that it makes it hard to decide exactly what to dive into. The absurdity or the situation is not lost on me either. If I had made a commitment to take the first one I came across that I liked, on the first site I found through the public library, I would have finished the course by now. 

That got me thinking about choice. And how not choosing is Still making a choice, only you are removing your desire and your self from the equation. Not making a choice is like tearing the rudder off your ship and just going wherever the sea and the winds take you.  

I have often guilty of not making the choice early enough, firmly enough so my hand is forced to choose the option that is left to me. Not quite rudderless, but definitely not in full control either. This hasn’t always been a bad thing for me either, looking at where my life has taken me and the beauty of some of those non-choice decisions.  

It would be easy to talk myself into the ease of just drifting. In fact I could probably make a good solid argument for it that might even talk the staunchest of planners, the choosiest of choosers in to drifting for a while. 

I am pretty sure now is not the time to drift. For me or for anyone who desires a better world for ourselves and our loved ones.

Now is a window of opportunity to take control of our world,  Now is a time when  we move from merely existing to thriving, to actually LIVING. 

I choose to change my world and how I thrive within it. I choose to rewrite my narrative. From how I earn a living to how I engage in my world. I choose to spend more time with family pursuing passion and connection and less time trading away my TIME for MONEY in a job that doesn’t fulfill me.  Money is a poor exchange for time. 

I don’t know where this choice will lead me, but I know I must make it. I must be committed to it.  The next step for me is taking the next course that interests me, and seeing it through to the end. 

[ritware1850]

Reposted from @poodiemuckle “Since obtaining power, Putin has had two goals: Reconstituting the Soviet Union and weakening Western Democracy. Trump and the GOP have been useful idiots in achieving those goals. Our Democracy has been weakened. Autocracy is literally on the move. Time for Americans to choose.” Source: robreiner/twitter #democracy #autocracy #putin #russia #ukraine #trump #gop #usefulidiots #timetochoose https://www.instagram.com/p/Ca2kFsvljev/?utm_medium=tumblr

[smellycatcreations]

Sometimes when nobody can decide a decision coin is needed to force the hand. #decisioncoins #decisiones #decide #mindmaker #makeupyourmind #choose #timetochoose #yesorno #shallweplaytoday #couples #couplesdecision #lifechoices #livelife #livefortoday #gift #collectorscoin #smellycatcreationsproducts https://www.instagram.com/smelly_cat_creations/p/CZPAl8iDvAO/?utm_medium=tumblr

[matteohudson]

Now Listening: Dee Snider - Leave A Scar. #deesnider #deesniderleaveascar #leaveascar #igottarockagain #allornothingmore #downbutneverout #beforeigo #openseason #silentbattles #cryingforyourlife #inforthekill #timetochoose #she #thereckoning #stand #2021 #2021album #heavymetal #hardrock #shockrock #glammetal #nowlistening #nowplaying https://www.instagram.com/p/CR_0vjoinjR/?utm_medium=tumblr

[pulsepointoils]

Beautiful essential oil daily wellbeing rollerball blends, mix and match your favourites and share with your friends as these make perfect letterbox gifts, favours, cracker inserts and pass it on kindness surprise... So will it be a face oil, a therapeutic blend or a treatment oil? #timetochoose #bestinstore #letterboxgifts #letterboxgift #rollerballblends #inspiredbyflowers #naturalingredientsonly #therapueticrecreation #therapeuticoils #treatmentoils #faceoils #naturalproducts #letsshare #sharethelove❤️ #pulsepointoils #smelltheflowers #smellsamazing #travelsized (at Pulse Point Oils) https://www.instagram.com/p/CO02JuHlD2x/?igshid=1jz07p3qqwjxu

[urfspace]

10 points to anyone who can tell me what #tvshow the #soaphydra comes from. It’s an obscure reference, and it only appears for a moment, so this is kind of a trick question. See hashtags below for the answer... #soap #soapcutting #soapcarving #soapart #soaplove #hydra #3headed #monster #cartoon #cartoonart #illustration #watercolor #inkandwatercolor #3girls #3girlfriends #timetochoose #dilemma #pbs #britishtv #itv #geralddurrell #margo #margaretdurrell #thedurrells #thedurrellsincorfu https://www.instagram.com/p/CH8WszIhJw7/?igshid=19ndqhq9hyxd3

[mymagicpumpkin-blog]

Something weird happens when your mug describes your life... Time to change your current mood...

[silvioantonio93-blog]

C’è un tempo per capire, un tempo per scegliere, un altro per decidere. C’è un tempo che abbiamo vissuto, l’altro che abbiamo perso e un tempo che ci attende❗️ #timetotime #believe #makeitreal #cantwait #timetochoose #pastisgoing #newproject #countdown #italianman ✨🖤 (presso Lake Murray Shores, South Carolina)

[drtravisfox]

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How often are you focusing and holding space of what DOESN’T make you FEEL ALIVE ? - What really makes you feel alive ? Passion, peace, harmony or _______? Sooner or later you will come to know that BEing what you want to feel is the path to LIVING the life you want to experience before is passes you by. What does it take for you to let go into following your heart and get out of your head? - comment below let’s jam on this now ! - #jsyh #jumpstartyourbeing #architectingdreams #ifnotnowwhen #timetochoose #april7th #thejourneybegins #journeyon #travisfox360 (at Marriott LAX - Grand Ballroom) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvW9nM_A8oK/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ur8h0c7vdvli

[campellphoto]

Time to choose! • • #timetochoose #wavewatching #neverstopexploring #atlanticbeach #cantabria #campellphoto #theswell #atlantic #inthelineup #thewait #surf #therightone #spain #ocean #keeptheoceanocean #fujilove (at Cantabria, Spain) https://www.instagram.com/p/BogDqryg1wg/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1buc6uubxs82s

[jaymetalz52]

Time for a #vote! Number 1, 2, 3, 4, or 5? I need #newshoes for my #chrysler300! #timetochoose! #luxury #20s #bigwheels #americanmade #carsponsors #unitedcarnation #moparornocar

[sistersofthehook]

Okay you guys, I need your input please! 😊❤️ I’m trying to decide on buttons for this cowl. A, B or C? * * * * * * * #whichone #opinionsplease #decisionsdecisions #timetochoose #whichbuttons #creativity #craftaholic #crochet #lovewhatido #lovewhatyoudo #diy #craftyheart #makersgonnamake #handmade #handmadewithlove (at Sisters of the Hook)

[bubblegumflavouredbitch]

it's all about the choices. #rightchoices #lifedecisions #xwands #heartyreading #timetochoose

[elisabettaflorenceondemand]

Casciana Terme, Pisa, I told you I live in a beautiful country... #today #keeponrelaxing #terme #spa #casciana #lovewater #feelikeheaven #alley #pisa #lovemycountry #trasformation #timetochoose