#thymelady

[summerseachild]

It's so good to see you turn up on my dash and reblogging 9 postS out of 10 from your blog! I hope you and wife are OK, stalking while reblogging says you are.

Ok, so tumblr won’t let me answer this privately because it’s being weird, but it’s good to be here and to hear from you, @thymelady! Never apologize for lots of reboots... that’s how I know I have good taste! 😂 I go through days when I’m on tumblr a LOT and days when I barely log in because What Is Time, but in general we’re doing ok. No one is sick, we still have jobs, we’re eating pretty well, and all of the animals are glad we’re home all the time.

[wah-pah]

I was tagged my the lovely @thymelady. Thank you. :)

Top 3 ships:

1. Monica Geller x Chandler Bing

2. Elizabeth Bennet x Fitzwilliam Darcy

3. Phryne Fisher x Jack Robinson

But the list could go on and on. It seems that there’s something about fictional people falling/being in love for me.  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Last song: Some ‘to sleep’ song on spotify. I’m sorry, I don’t know its name by heart.

Last Movie: Victoria & Abdul.

What food I just ate: It’s not exactly ‘just’, since it was for lunch, but soup, rice and pork. 

I tag @ladyreysolo, @loveforallthingsclassic and @chocksawaychaps. If anyone not tagged feels like doing this, be my gues. 

[doomtwinkie]

Some Halloween-themed art for @thymelady , based on her fic, Familiar Spirit. Abbie and Ichabod as cats. 😺🎃

[lyledebeast]

Three Reasons Why I Love Guy of Gisborne (That Aren’t About His Looks)

There is a popular idea in the RH fandom that people like Guy primarily because Richard Armitage is hot.  I’ve had thoughts about this for a while, but I just caught a glimpse of an old post in which that notion plays a prominent role, and thought, what a good way to procrastinate! 

I’m not about to argue with the observation that Richard Armitage is good looking, and I don’t think may other Guy fans would.  But the idea that this is the main reason why most of us like him is, frankly, wrong.  I would argue that it tells us more about the fans making this claim than it does about Guy fans.

The first two are my personal reasons, which others may or may not share, and a final one that I think probably is a popular, if not the most popular, reason.

1. Guy is a “bad” victim.  I’m in the middle of reading a Charles Dickens novel right now, and while there’s a lot I love about it, the characters who’ve undergone enormous amounts of emotional and physical abuse and remain little saints who never have a bad thought about those who abuse them? Completely unbelievable. Guy isn’t like that.  The complete absence of any compassion towards him when he was vulnerable shows in his lack of compassion for those vulnerable to him. The abuse he endures in his relationship with the sheriff is manifest in a number of ways, one of them being his abusive treatment of others.  I’m not saying this is a redeeming quality; it obviously isn’t.  But it adds something to the character’s complexity that we can see how his behavior does make sense to him in light of his own experience.

2. Guy is negatively affected by his own toxic masculinity.  This is a show that is rife with toxic masculinity, but not only does Guy face consistent consequences for his bad behavior, he’s also unable to recognize his own vulnerability because of self-deception.  It’s very important that he see himself as a person with power and agency, even though he’s mostly lacking in both of those things.  When Marian asks him why he works for the sheriff in 2x6, he replies, “I have no one, so I choose power.”  First, it’s pretty obvious that he doesn’t have power of his own; all of his power comes form his relationship with the sheriff.  Secondly, his not having anyone is not necessarily a choice; he hardly chose for his parents to die.  We don’t really know why he sold Isabella; his reason is that Thornton “offered a good price for you.) Yet if she were so worthless to him, why does he disobey Prince John’s order to kill her, the decision that leads to his arrest?  Why does he give her poison so she can choose her own death? We might ask similar questions about his declaration to Vaisey that he will “take [Marian] by force in 2x13. It’s certainly what Vaisey wants to hear, but it doesn’t ring true coming from a man who so clearly wants Marian to want to be with him.  We see in 1x13 how important pleasing her is to him; not to mention that if he actually wanted to rape her, he’s had two seasons in which to do it.  Mostly notably in this case, though, the sheriff doesn’t believe him.  He reunites her with Robin so they can die together because he knows he can’t fully trust Guy as long as she’s alive.

Maybe Guy actually believes all of these things; maybe he doesn’t.  But all represent his wish to disavow his emotions and vulnerability, which he ultimately fails to do.  What makes these lies most harmful, though, is that others believe them.  His response to Isabella in particular ruins any chance of a reconciliation between them.

3. Guy is someone with a deep capacity for love, in spite of everything.  The most popular Guy and Marian posts feature the scenes in which he jeopardizes his relationship with the sheriff, not to mention his own life, for her, so I don’t feel the need to go into detail about those.  In all we see of his relationship with the sheriff, he’s being taught to value position, wealth, and power, so why would he choose a woman who is constantly flying in the face of the sheriff’s values? Even though she is a noblewoman, her behavior obviously makes her a bad choice considering what Guy is supposed to want.  And yet he falls in love with her, takes all these risks for her, and then pleads for Meg’s life in 3x9 just because she reminds him of Marian.  We don’t know how many years he’s been under the sheriff’s thumb, but given how loyal he is, even at the risk of losing Marian, I gather it has been a while.  And while not all of his horrible treatment of Marian is done at the sheriff’s behest, his love for her is at the heart of all his refusals to comply with the sheriff’s wishes, even after her death.  He is, to be terribly cliched, a cold-hearted man who is transformed by the power of love for a woman, and that’s has always been a popular story with women (even when the man is ugly.  Hi, Mr. Rochester!) 

To bring this to a close, there are a lot of reasons to love this character.  That some fans seize upon Guy’s looks as the most common reason is, to be honest, rather insulting.  There’s nothing wrong with superficial appreciation, but singling that out erases a plethora of more thoughtful reasons.  It’s no surprise to me that this argument is made by fans who minimize Guy’s trauma and abuse, and label those who do examine these things “villain apologists,” take everything he says at face value, and are highly selective in the moments from his relationships that they acknowledge.  I would say that they are the ones who have a superficial appreciation of Guy, not his fans.

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thymelady

replied to your post

“what the shit do I have to do to get GoT off my dash? I have blocked...”

I tag # got and # got spoilers. I hope it helps. <3 Sorry about Twitter, all up in feels. I understand if you mute/unfollow. Stay strong! Six eps this season.

Ahhh don’t mind me being cranky when I actually should have been in bed. People should post/tweet what they like, and I can manage my own consumption thereof! But I do appreciate knowing what hashtags to block.

[qqueenofhades]

I remember reading Ichabbie fic of yours and loving them, but can only find one story on FF and AO3. Is there any chance you'll publish them again?

I think I only posted one of my Ichabbie fics on FF/AO3, yes. But the rest of them are still on my tumblr. Try my ichabbie ff, sleepy hollow fanfiction, or ichabbie tags; I made a masterpost with links once, but those were under my old url, so I am not sure they still work. Of course, the one constant in every fandom/friend I have is that we hate how Sleepy Hollow screwed us over, alas, so I probably won’t go back and upload them separately anywhere else. But yeah, they’re on my tumblr -- you might have to dig a bit, but they are. :)

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Thanks, @thymelady!!!

[mrsmess]

Lane Kim living her best life, for @thymelady

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Name seven comfort films & tag seven people!

Was tagged by @rocknghorss  <3

The Lord of the Rings (trilogy, but it counts as one, right?)

A Little Princess

The Mummy

Fica Comigo Essa Noite

Aladdin

Big Fish

Elizabethtown

I’ll tag: @fatimagic @thymelady @raindropsonwhiskers @ineternity-ao3 @musical-chick-13 @fleetinginfatuation @ladyadelinergrey and whoever else wants to do it!

[daniellesdarrieux]

Tag 8 people you wanna know better game!!

I was tagged by the lovely @classicfilmgemss Thank you so much!!

Favourite colour: Pink and Green

Last song i listened to: 1979 by The Smashing Pumpkins

Favourite Musicians: Trent Reznor

Favourite Songs: Terrible Lie (NIN), 5x10 (Arashi), Road (G.O.D), God of Wine (TEB)........... 

Last film watched: Birds of Prey

Last TV show watched: Itaewon Class, I’m on episode 12 and loving it so far!

Favourite oc: Elizabeth Bennet 5evaaaaaa

Sweet, savoury or spicy: savoury

Sparkling water, tea or coffee: these days I’m mostly drinking grenadine

Pets: my baby Drummer ♥ she is deaf, she has no teeth and she is the best cat in the wooooooooorld and no i don’t accept criticism

tagging: @shinigabi-tan, @olivethomas, @fuzzysebastianstan (alwaaaaays), @hensons, @thymelady, @avasgal, @edithheaddressedme, @hayworthrita

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thymelady replied to your photo:

Phryne has returned to London and this trip has...

My pleasure, dear! :)

[doomtwinkie]

"No Regrets." Happy (early) birthday to my bestie, @thymelady! Here's some fanart from her awesome, modern AU fic, One Last Fling!

[v-as-in-victor]

thymelady replied to your photo “WFH Wednesday look. Since I’m going to class on Tuesday and Thursday...”

So cool, even more so with that gold jacket! ��

Thanks! The whole thing feels pretty rock’n’roll! Which is perfect for my “hardly ever leaving the house” lifestyle.

[ardentaislinn]

“list 6 random facts about yourself and then pass it on to 10 your favourite followers!” 

I was tagged by @leekimdramas and @kdramapit (like, 100 years ago). Thank you so much! Sorry I’m late with the reply

1. I have a Masters in Teaching that I’ve never really used (oops)

2. I will choose savoury over sweet any day. I crave fat and salt way more than sugar.

3. I love lists and spreadsheets. I even have two separate colour-coded spreadsheets of the kdramas I intend to watch, with episode numbers/lengths and all kinds of info on them.

4. I love to travel. If I had more money, I would resolve to visit one new country every year.

5. I recently passed my 5-year anniversary of going vegan!

6. My To Be Read “pile” of books is probably over 3,000 books by now. I have accepted that I’ll never get through all of them, since I just keep buying more.

Ugh, I always find tagging people the hardest part of these things. No pressure if you don’t want to do it! @unbreakablejemmasimmons, @jemmasimmons, @stilettoforbeginners, @heysteverogers, @bookishandbossy, @swallowedsong, @thymelady, @highkingmariot, and whoever wants to do it!

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Rules: attach 10 gifs from 10 of your favorite TV shows and then tag 10 people

Tagged by the marvelous @sneetchstar

I’m tagging @caedmonfaith @majestrixstormbringer @queenandani @avidbeader @writeratheart @rubducked @thymelady @havers-barbara @noisywastelandphilosopher @sleepymr

[mrsmess]

Rules: name 7 comfort films and tag 7 people

Thank you for tagging me, @laughing-at-fate

In no significant order, here are 7 of my favorite comfort movies (but let the record show that there are many – many – more):

1. Thor Ragnarök (2017) - twinsies!

2. Jurassic Park (1993)

3. Dirty Dancing (1987)

4. Pacific Rim (2013)

5. Sirens (1994)

6. Singles (1992)

7. The Big Lebowski (1998)

I don’t know ’bout you, but I take comfort in that.

No way I’m tagging 7 people though. 3 is the magic number. @shilohhdoesntcare @thymelady @willowswasteoftime obv no pressure whatsoever <3