#this seems like a total nonissue to me but maybe you could get someone R’s close to to ask them if they’re rly ok with it and then—

[pluralaita]

Am I the asshole for making it clear that I will never drive?

We are 17 and our parents have been wanting us to learn to drive. We started to learn in 2022 a bit before I came back from doormacy. Many alters have shown interest in driving and even call it "relaxing."

But around November of 2022 I came back from doormacy and immediately got front stuck. Because of this I got deemed the new host (there's three of us but I'm like the one the fronts all the time)

Our parents have been teaching us to drive very sparely. Due to things like money concerns and just not having the time we only got behind the wheel once in 2023. And even then I forced (let's call them R) R to do it.

I am aboustly afraid of being behind the wheel due to source stuff. Ive sworn that I will never learn to drive. Even being in the car has caused be panic attacks. I am working through it tho but because of the fact that we live in a small town and almost 30 minutes away from the nearest Walmart we need to learn to drive. Especially with us planning to go to college not learning to drive is out of the question for us.

R has stated multiple times that it's ok with driving and that they like it but in no offense to R they have trouble standing up for itself. I don't want to force them to do this but like at the same time me getting behind the wheel would take a lot of work.

So am I the asshole?

** the second NTA option should read NAH