#this is why vik shouldn’t give relationship advice

[askviktor]

This is very extreme language from you, Jayce. Are you alright?

If the affection is respectfully expressed and the other responds with ridicule, perhaps that person was never worthy of one’s affection from the start. But, you make a good point: such expression could ruin a good working relationship. This is why I recommend compartmentalization. And, perhaps the addition of extracurriculars, as Jayce suggested, could be helpful in distracting one from feelings which will likely dissipate in time.

Hi Viktor!

you seem like the right kinda person to ask this, I hope it's ok.

I have a bit of a crush on a coworker and I obviously don't want to make her uncomfortable or have it affect our work, but every time we have to work on something together I know I get weird about it. Do you have any suggestions on how to keep things professional? Our projects require a lot of collaboration, so avoiding her is not an option.

In this instance, I believe practicing compartmentalization may be the best course of action. Focus on the task at hand entirely. Speak to her as you might any other respected colleague.

This is naturally easier said than done.

Good luck, my friend.