#this is what happens when i'm procrastinating

[lananiscorner]

Eh... this is not so much a "neurotypical" problem as it is a "general conflict management and de-escalation" problem, and it can have multiple reasons. Let's just say person A says person B did something wrong, B wants an explanation and A refuses to give one. This can be for any one of the following reasons:

A is used to good faith attempts at clarifying being met with bad faith/abusive/manipulative attempts to pick their logic apart and/or gaslight them by feigning ignorance/incompetence, and so has taken up a policy of "do not engage". This can be a generally good and healthy approach in many situations (e.g. someone hits on you at a bar, you tell them you're not interested, they ask you why not, you say they're not your type, they ask what exactly makes them not your type, etc. You are now already 2 levels deeper into this conversation than you ever wanted to be and feeling more gang-pressed into giving information, which is triggering your fight or flight instincts).

A is using this withholding of information as a means of emotional manipulation themselves, to keep B from properly articulating their own point/needs/wants/boundaries.

A doesn't quite understand the reasoning for why B is wrong themselves. This is common with social norms and behaviors, which are ingrained in most people at an age when they are too young to reason their way through them. Somebody in the notes mentioned the example of unspoken, nitty-gritty grammar rules, like how you would say "the big red truck" but not "the red big truck" and how to a non-native speaker this rule doesn't make sense. Sometimes the answer really is just "because" and nobody likes being grilled for information that they themselves don't have. It feels like being interrogated rather than having a conversation.

People who are good at something generally underestimate the knowledge/skill base of people who are not good at it. Y'all know that meme where the two scientists go "we have to be careful, most people probably only know X and maybe a bit of Y", where X and Y are things that nobody outside that field of study would know? This is the same thing. Sometimes people genuinely don't understand how specific you need them to be. Easy example: I grew in a culture that values punctuality. You show up to everything ideally 5-10 minutes before it starts. But I have one friend who absolutely hated that, who was constantly stressed out if I arrived at her place 5 minutes early, and I genuinely did not understand why this was such a problem for her and why she couldn't just prep for guests earlier (we had both grown up in this culture), until she explained to me in great detail how her mind would just use that extra time to find increasingly minute, procrastinating details to hyper focus on and lose track of time, giving me a few examples of such issues. That last bit was what was needed to make my brain go "oh, that's why, ok, I'll try to show up *shudders* 10 minutes late in the future".

They are low on spoons and don't have the time/energy needed to get into a longer conversation. This gets progressively worse the more introverted a person is.

Scenario 1, 3 and 4 are generally resolved fairly easily by being very upfront, but calm about it: "A, I like you and I want to do right by you, but I really, genuinely mean it when I say that I don't know what I did wrong. My brain is currently desperately trying to trace back every step that has happened and to find out what went wrong, and it can't, so clearly I'm missing some steps. Please explain it to me like you would explain it to some space alien that has just been dropped on Earth and has never been in situation X before, so I can do better next time."

At this point, if it's scenario 5 (no time/energy), Person A will usually say so (sometimes rudely, depending on how close they are to what Captain Awkward lovingly calls the Bitch Eating Crackers level of mental spoons exhaustion). This is a good point to ask " Okay, I understand. I'll ask some other time, when you have more time/energy if that's okay with you."

And if the answer you get then is some variation of "no it's fucking not, we're done talking about this ever", then you know that, at the very least, this person does not consider you important/worthwhile enough to set aside two minutes of their time to help you understand something, even when they have the time/energy.

And if you keep on running into this with the same person multiple times, then I'm sorry to say, it's likely scenario 2.

[brookediamonds]

your love is my drug | Axel Kovačević x Fem! Reader

Summary: After a rough day at school and it being that time of the month, you head to the empty dojo to release some stress. Luckily your boyfriend is there to brighten your day.

based off this post

Word Count: 737 Warnings: none, cute fluff!

pic cred: me and my laptop lol

You let out frustrating breaths as you laid harsh strike combos into the punching bag sending it flying all around you.

Today ran through your head, keeping a heated tension coursing through you.

"Kiah!" You yelled finishing your routine off with a roundhouse.

"Damn," you hear from behind you. Axel steps around the white bag, placing a hand on it to keep it steady. "Glad I'm not the punching bag."

You huffed blowing a stray of hair away from your face, before punching the bag again.

"Bad day," you mutter, your eyes never leaving the bag in front of you.

"I see that," Axel acknowledges coming up to hold the bag for you. "What happened?"

Taking a step back to catch your breath, you rest your hands on your hips, recaping your day to him.

"I got a C-minus on that history essay from last week, because I procrastinated," you begin to count your fingers. "Spilled half of my very hot coffee on my jacket this morning."

Axel grimaces at your mentions knowing you hated getting anything under an 'A' in school and remembers your jacket is a light shade of grey.

"And to top it off, I got my lovely visit from mother nature today," you vaguely gesture to the lower bottom of your body. "So there's that."

Your boyfriend frowns letting go of the bag to walk over to you. Unable to stop the tight feeling in your chest, tears sprung up to your eyes as your hormones got the best of you.

"I'm sorry, my love," Axel reaches out for you, gently pulling you into his warm embrace. You fell into him, arms wrapping around his backside as you laid the side of your face on his chest.

Axel strokes your back softly, letting you shed a few tears from the day you've had, gently pecking the top of your head.

Pulling back slightly in his arms, you tilt your head up to meet his concerned gaze.

"Thanks," you whisper with a small sniffle. He reaches up, cupping the side of your face, his thumb wiping away at your stray tears.

Axel smiled tenderly, his hand lingering on your cheek for a moment before his expression shifted. You furrowed your eyebrows as he takes a step back from you.

"Alright,” he announced, cracking his knuckles dramatically. “There’s only one way to fix this."

"What are you?—" You begin to ask as Axel grabbed his phone, tapping at the screen a few times before setting it down on the sparring deck next to you.

The song 'Your Love is My Drug' by Kesha blared from his device, Axel bringing his arms up to move oddly, his body swaying in an uncoordinated yet oddly determined manner

"Axel....what the hell are you doing?" You can't help the snort that fell from your lips.

He stops mid hip-thrust stopping to look at you with a huge grin. "Cheering you up by dancing the bad day away!"

"You look like you're having a stroke," you giggled watching as he continued to dance ridiculously around you.

Your laughs filled the air, Axel smiling in satisfaction as he spins around one last time.

"There she is," he cooes, stepping forward to pull you back into his arms.

You sighed, but this time, it wasn’t out of frustration. Leaning into him, you let your arms wrap around his neck as his warmth surrounded you once more.

"Feel at least a little better?" He asks looking down at you with his adoring gaze, lazily swaying you both back and forth.

You nodded with a small grin on your face. "Definitely"

Axel gives you a soft peck on your lips, squeezing your hips lightly.

"How about some donuts and a movie at my place?" Your boyfriend suggests sweetly. "You left your heating pad there from last time."

It's like the sun came out when the proposition left his mouth, your gathering your school bag and phone from the ground immediately.

"I'm ready," you grinned up at the tall blue eyed boy, taking his hand that he held out for you.

As you and Axel walked hand in hand to your cars, a comfortable silence settling between you, the sky painted in hues of orange and pink, he suddenly glanced at you with a smirk.

"You know," he mused, squeezing your fingers, "if you're ever feeling down, my dance services are always available. I do take requests."

You chuckled, shaking your head at his silliness. "Good to know, baby."

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@obsidian-fury

(A/n: Sorry it's short, I'm trying to put this one out fast and want to come up with something cute for valentines day, and then need to start working on the continuation of 'who's the cute boy.' Y'all, I'm sick, I'm un-well, did part 3 seem kind of rushed? Still processing everything that happened. ALSO TANNER AND MARY?? I used to love watching Mary's youtube videos and thought they were so cute, I love that they're together!!)

[mayhemspreadingguy]

@magnusbae pitched the idea of Dream with curly hair

So here's a silly doodle of his hair curling up when he's happy 😌💕

[fvedyetor]

ok i may make a longer/better post depending on what happens in tomorrow's chapter but i want to get this bit out before then:

i think fyodor is heading back to france to get sigma

"ultra high speed aircraft" for what. for what else other than to go back to france and get sigma.

fukuzawa says fyodor will use it to escape and hide away while the rest of the world has its war, and fyodor himself does say it's time for him to go sleep but. hes gotta go back for sigma first.

at first i was confused because fyodor never seemed to get the book? like he said he was trying to? and then he was getting fast airplane which would be unneeded for book-searching because he's already in yokohama but... im sure things will make sense eventually. and-

fyodor is a known liar and gaslighter and sadistic tease. we must remember this when analyzing his character. like so:

asagiri has implied sigma's character is very important in some interviews. no way he isn't opening his eyes again. and fyodor is known liar so he could definitely be just saying this to divert attention from sigma so none of his secrets get out.

although we don't know the full scope of fyodor's ideas and plans, sigma does. and if the ada has any chance of defeating fyodor once and for all, they would likely need sigma.

fyodor may have created gozen and planted all the seeds for his war, but he needs to tie up all loose ends. which includes sigma.

this is risky though!! because dazai and chuuya have discovered "fyodor's" dead body and with their intelligence they could at least determine that that's a result of fyodor's true ability and that dazai is the one who needs to kill fyodor once and for all.

and where is dazai? meursault. and where is sigma- fyodor's last loose end-? meursault. going back to get sigma is risky.

i don't think fyodor will get to france in tomorrow's chapter, given that last chapter was left off with fyodor standing between 2 gozens and atsushi about to attack to get the page he supposedly has (i dont think he has a page).

it's also important to note that we haven't seen atsushi and akutugawa's exchange from the anime cliffhanger. that scene had 1 gozen and just atsushi and aku focused on that gozen. it seems fyodor will be gone by then. so he will at least get on the plane soon.

though also bones likes to change stuff from the manga so i cant make any solid predictions regarding that >:(

ANYWAYS i dont think we'll see sigma in the next chapter, and we won't see him until fyodor goes to pick him up or asagiri gives us more fyodor backstory through sigma's ability. but i do think fyodor will be heading to france, and relatively soon.

tl;dr sigma is sleeping and fyodor says he's gonna sleep too so he's going back to france to get sigma for a sleepover

[bjorkshire-pudding]

Here's what I was doing while I was supposed to be working on my fics

Don't ask me, I don't know either it's been a really weird day

[notanotherinfjblog]

Productivity

ENTJ: Do you know those moments when you’ve got so much to do that you have no idea where to even start and so you start making a list of things that are too unimportant to waste your time on right now? But at the same time you’re wasting time by not working on the things that actually are important. You’re just making lists of all the tiny aspects of your work that you can throw out just to make yourself feel like you’re doing something.

INFJ: No, I don’t know those moments. I’m less productive, you see. When I’m overwhelmed by all the stuff I have to do, I panic and stare at the wall for three hours.

ENTJ: You’ve been doing that a lot lately, haven’t you?

INFJ: ... yes.

[forcebookish]

idk how gmeme's contract with viki works, if they get paid for every stream, but i am never going to buy a subscription so they've definitely lost thousands of dollars worth of ad revenue from me alone lmao

[daisywords]

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[keeps-ache]

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[non-un-topo]

"It's not dysphoria" I say as I write an entire assignment on my own invisible queerness and gender identity, and as I feel like tearing my skin off and crawling into a cave forever

[partywithponies]

I've found high quality publicity shots of Phil and Keeley's Heartbeat characters, it's all over for me.

[moonchild-in-blue]

Why did I just notice that the piano on Drag Me Under by Sleep Token is pretty much the intro to Fallen Down (Undertale), but slowed down?

[spamtoon]

(Out of nowhere, you are approached by a familiar lightbulb-headed Cog.)

Ah, it's you, cat. Thinking you're oh-so-slick. Muttering and whispering under those raggedy whiskers of yours... Thinking I am unable to hear it all...

Well, you've simply underestimated my fantastic hearing. You probably want to know the reason why I'm here, taking a 'break' from my incredibly important scientific breakthroughs? It's quite simple, really!

(She gets close, and squints her eyes.)

I know what you are.

Farewell, now!

(She then leaves the way she came from.)

(Spam giggles immensely, covering her face... it always seems like she's giggling, isn't she? This lasts... at least thirty seconds. Longer than usual.)

And I know what I am too, Sparky! You broke through something, that's for sure. Really, broke through...

(She looks down, continuing to laugh nervously.)

You know, I find it odd you Havent tried to bulb blast me into the stratosphere by now. I mean knowing how you acted with Frostbite. Is there something peculiar about me that you perhaps can't quite track? Something about me that you... don't know what I am?

I know, I know, I'm talking to nobody again. But you were there when I had a moment today with the one the only Frostbite The Bravecog. You may be remaining. Lurking in the shadows. Knowing about these thoughts that I'm thinking.

(The giggling resumes, lasting far shorter this time.)

Your brother's a piece of fucking barp, by the way

(She braces for impact for a few seconds, wincing while smiling, before comically looking around to realize nobody's there. She sighs.)

Wow, okay maybe toony superhero show logic doesn't apply in this situation. Cool.

WAIT I JUST FUCKING REALIZED WHAT SHE MEANT but like. Dude if she meant that then what's the point I mean the whole ahh sellbot department barping knows unless you're Really low on the ladder. Heheh... maybe she did mean what I thought she meant.

Oh i'm so fucking screwed. What kind of bitch gets filament fever

[kuiinncedes]

what do u meannnnnnn i'm abt to be post college graduation 🧍🏻‍♀️🧍🏻‍♀️🧍🏻‍♀️

[fragileizywriting]

ANSWERED ALL OF MY COMMENTS BABYYY OOOOHOOOHOOOOOOOOOOO

[talkorsomething]

Me when everything is hard & i know why and i just have to get over myself But Also