#this is my declaration of intent.

[fadewalking]

I will do at least two of the starter calls I owe before I sleep tonight.

[dawnthefluffyduck]

ralsapril day 1 - raven

[britneyshakespeare]

you know something i don't like about modern culture (and i wonder to what extent the prevalence of dating apps has to do with it) is that you're, seemingly, not supposed to ask people you just meet in real life on a date anymore? you're supposed to ask them to see you individually to hang out, and you're not supposed to call it anything...? people act like declaring intent is impolite or something.

this absolutely sucks if you're a woman on the receiving end of this kind of thing all the time, from men you don't wanna see privately that way. i've felt so much guilt about it in my life. whether i say no or yes. i know i'm giving that man hope that it's a date, that i wanna go on a date with him if i agree to see him for coffee or whatever. but if i don't wanna go on this undeclared date, i have to reject the very concept of spending time with him at all, which feels SOOO much meaner and more personal, doesn't it? it feels like that to me. and if i do go, and i don't wanna go on another one (because i never enjoyed the it-pretty-much-being-a-date element of the time), it feels like i'm crushing his hopes after puffing them up just a little bit.

and it's like. "date" is not a dirty word. we have so many expectations nowadays around things. women used to sit around and wait for a man to propose to them, and it would be basically the only decision they could make in their life. not even really the choice to marry, but to whom they get married. and obviously marriage was very serious.

as courtship continued to develop into modern dating and boyfriend/girlfriend culture, it sort of decentralized the importance or marriage and valued getting to know someone you like romantically, with the implicit assumption that you're doing it with the attempt to better choose the 'right one' by spending quality time with them. decent enough. although even the words boyfriend and girlfriend are much more serious than they used to be. they did not always imply a serious commitment like they do today, especially if you're... basically, just not a kid anymore.

people have a certain amount of expectation of what anyone over 18 should do or want to do with a "partner"—like, if this were the 1940s, i would've had several "boyfriends" in my adult life, but i never called them that, and the modern sense of that word would not be accurate. if i went on a date or two and flirted with them, that'd be enough to say "yeah i went out with a boyfriend." i'm mostly indifferent to this change of vocabulary, but the point is i have no word to describe any of those guys that i just gave a chance, never felt much for, and didn't wanna keep seeing. not bad things; it's just experience.

and if we aren't bold enough to call things dates for the sake of the atmosphere not losing the low-stakes nature... it's like, no, it doesn't do that. it's just two people spending time with the elephant in the room. perhaps that makes it feel more relaxed if both people really are doing it with the same intent, let's-just-see-if-we-get-along, figuring out if you like someone you don't really know very well yet. testing it. but like. that can be a date. that's what a lot of dates are. when you meet the person on a dating app and just grab coffee without setting higher expectations, you wouldn't hesitate to call it a date. if it's that person from your college class, that's ruder or more presumptuous, somehow?

a date doesn't have to be a candlelit dinner with the violinist standing by. a date doesn't have to be high romance. a date doesn't have to end with a kiss or lead to a commitment, if things go decently. a date certainly doesn't have to result in two people having sex. a date can be nonchalant and friendly and just trying to discover if you have any chemistry with this person who piqued your interest. why is that NOT the initial expectation anymore? why is "date" a dirty word? why?

[simplybybea]

Did this before I'd even finished Prodigy season 2 so here is some angsty commitment rock and its tether to a ghostly Chakotay trying to get home.

Digital oil and Janeway asking the universe desperately to send him home to her.

[afurtivecake]

Ok but, now that I've reread TFC, I don't think Kevin and Wymack were the first ones to realize Andrew and Neil had a thing going on. I think that honour should go to Roland for figuring it out in that very first book.

[text: "Roland the bartender was on duty again. Judging by the look on his face, he remembered Neil and couldn't believe he'd returned."]

Roland knows Andrew. He may not understand him but he knows him. You cannot tell me that Roland did not guess immediately the moment he saw Andrew dragging Neil to the bar with him like a dog dragging along its favourite toy. Any doubts he might have had would have been blown away the moment Andrew came back for more drinks and a convenient shag.

Yea, sorry, but that's 100% what they were doing in that good half hour it took Andrew to get that second round of drinks.

What clearly happened was that Andrew heard Nicky joke about quickies with Neil earlier and then found the easiest person to vent some of that jealous frustration with at his earliest convenience.

It's all in the text, I swear:

[text: "Aaron arched an eyebrow at Nicky. "Drown in the toilet?"/"Even quickies take time, you know," Nicky said."]

[text: "...the entire half-hour Andrew was gone. Neil was starting to thin Andrew had gotten lost on his way back from the bar when Andrew finally returned with a load of drinks."]

[mortalscience]

Law and Order Criminal Intent - s01e18 -Maledictus Bobby is staring closely inside of a box. Eames: You lose a contact lens? Bobby just looks at her. --- Eames: If you tell me you can read Russian… Bobby just looks at her.  Eames: Oh brother.

[kindaorangey]

also i'm coming out as a feverent maharet x jesse supporter. i don't give a fuck that one is technically the other's distant descendant or that in many ways it's basically selfcest. i want to see toxic vaguely incestuous yuri on my screen. do u hear me rolin

[mumblelard]

the lodger's new roommate or the lodger's old roommate, a tale of woe

i mounted them using the forty pound command strips and the lodger ripped them down thrice. message received

also, i'm into site specific maps lately and thinking a lot about hand drawn maps. i drew a map of the roads between my girlfriend's house and mine and i like how it turned out

i treated myself to early solstice presents this week: fancy new earbuds that sound so good, new trail shoes, a pink krink k-42 with an opacity that will make you swoon, and a t-shirt by an artist i like. i am still struggling with wanting stuff

i hosted all four of finn's cats yesterday while pest control treated their building. we had a nice visit. kreg keeps saying she wants to live here but i know she would miss her finnie

it got in the high fifties yesterday. i opened all my windows to let the fresh air flow and did a big clean. it was such a pretty day

i have been writing more poems lately. they are built like tiny verbal wunderkammer and filled with bright treasures i find on my rambles. i think, with practice, they are getting better

i'm making cornbread stuffing, green bean casserole, mashed potatoes, and roasted chicken this weekend. a makeup dinner for the traditional thanksgiving feast i missed last month

this year has been so packed full of change for me. a struggle that has plagued me for the last four years ended in a most dramatic way. a brutal passage that i survived, mostly, intact. i wish it could have ended some other way, but at least now, it's finally over

[wonderful-meganekko]

Can I just say thanks for your glasses positivity? I don't wear glasses yet but it's very likely I will in the future, and your posts about how cute they are make me happy <3

i find it hard to argue that what i post falls under glasses positivity mostly because i believe fetishism of a trait is nominally not the same as normalizing it. like, i wouldnt say that a person who fetishizes fat people is spreading 'fat body positivity' as much as they are just being horny about it.

best sign of this would be the fact that I have never brought up any flavor "boys with glasses" in any posts throughout the entire life of this blog (and probably never will unless asked) because i'm not attracted to guys, and thus it changes nothing to me.

i also have a hard time calling what i do 'fetishism' but i think that label is at least closer to the truth than the opposite. anyway the point im getting at is that we are not here to spread glasses positivity we are here to spread glasses supremacy.

[fadewalking]

today's goal is to restructure my blog & tags

[twilightichor]

Inbox call. Give this a ♥︎ for a smol IC ask!

[basedonconjecture]

Goals today:

1. Finish chapter 13 of Find You

2. Post another set of answers to Rook character questions (tbd)

3. Start DA2

[lizasweetling]

OK FROTHING AT THE MOUTH NOW

"something to fight for" and the dance are definitely the most overt examples but I am vibrating about this! I have so many thoughts I can't hardly begin to express!!!

[lexydakitten]

friends are great and i love them and i mean it . i was talking to two of my friends earlier and i dont quite remember why but i went and said deadpan, "they better come and kill me with their bare hands if they want me dead so bad" and both of them immediately and unanimously decided that it was Freaky actually

[collateral-joy]

I aim to become my generation’s leading SCTV expert

[unofficialadamtaurus]

what they don't tell you about migraines is how god damn fucking annoying they are