#this is how high the bar is for any potential romantic partner lol

[papirouge]

there's not a single day going without me thinking about that girl who said my man's type was Jesus

bless her, wherever she is 🤍

[tenacityblitz]

SHIPPING INFO MEME

Answer the following for your muse so people know how shipping works on your blog.

WHAT IS YOUR OTP FOR YOUR CHARACTER?:

At the moment I have three: Kacchako Todobaku Kiribaku (that's the order in which I got into the ships at).

WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO WRITE WHEN IT COMES TO SHIPPING?:

Pretty much anything. Only thing I'm not down for is cheating because Bakugou would never actually do that nor would he have the tolerance for anyone who cheated on him. One of the quickest ways to lose him in a relationship.

HOW LARGE DOES THE AGE GAP HAVE TO BE TO MAKE IT UNCOMFORTABLE?:

I'd say high school age as far as canon verse goes. Class A is in the second half of their first year as far as I know, and while I doubt he'd consider dating a third year it's hardly unusual for first and third years to date in Japan for real. So it's technically on the table but just really unlikely to happen. For Bakugou's pro hero verse, I guess no more than 2-3 years below and 4-5 years above. Bakugou's overall pretty hard to get a ship going with and I think he needs someone in a similar age range for him to be comfortable with the idea of a romantic relationship.

ARE YOU SELECTIVE WHEN SHIPPING?:

I think everyone is to a degree. You want to like and enjoy the writing/portrayal of the other person you're potentially shipping with, you need to mesh well mun to mun and want to talk ooc a lot bc god knows shipping comes with a lot of plotting/discussion, but your writing styles need to mesh as well just to make threads and rp's flow smoothly. So I know what I'd look for in an ideal ship partner but I'm not ridiculously picky.

HOW FAR DO STEAMY MOMENTS HAVE TO GO BEFORE THEY ARE CONSIDERED NS/FW?:

Personal opinion is clothes start coming off or hands start wandering on purpose. That's just a broad opinion on any ship a person could write whether it's RP's on Tumblr or a fic on AO3. Kissing/making out��isn't something I'd personally consider nsfw.

WHO ARE OTHER CHARACTERS YOU SHIP YOUR CHARACTER WITH?:

Actively, just Uraraka Todoroki and Kirishima (i.e. I currently write/rp it with people). I've jokingly discussed Bakugou/Shinsou with @shintsohi and I'm definitely open to giving that ship a try in the pro hero verse once Shinsou and Bakugou have known each other for awhile. I've also jokingly but seriously discussed Bakugou/Melissa with @inventii and we all gotta get on plotting that bc one way ticket to rarepair land lmao.

DOES ONE HAVE TO ASK TO SHIP WITH YOU?:

Absolutely, if only because Bakugou needs a lot of time to warm up to another character just as a friend, let alone inch towards any romantic inclinations. There's gotta be a lot of plotting (especially for characters Bakugou's had little to no interaction with thus far in the anime & manga) just to make things plausible for me as the Bakugou half of the ship. While I'm fine with pre-established stuff with some plotting, still being asked is nice since Bakugou's certainly not gonna date just anyone who comes his way lol.

HOW OFTEN DO YOU LIKE TO SHIP?

I enjoy it a lot but it's not my priority on Bakugou's blog since he's not easy to ship with. Blasty Mcsplode needs lots of convincing that love & romance is worth his time.

ARE YOU SHIP OBSESSED OR SHIP MORE-OR-LESS?:

I'd say somewhere in between? I absolutely love writing ships and seeing the character development that comes with them, but Bakugou being a difficult character to ship with definitely means there's extensive time needed to build a good one up and not every character in BNHA is one I think he'd mesh well with romantically. So I love my ships but I'm also realistic with my viewpoint on Bakugou in relationships.

ARE YOU MULTISHIP?:

Absolutely. The only aspect I'm not on Tumblr is I'm Todobaku exclusive with @inanthesis and have been for a couple months. Discord's a whole other separate writing platform where I'm basically no holds barred with my writing.

WHAT IS/ARE YOUR FAVOURITE SHIP(S) IN YOUR CURRENT FANDOM?:

I'm just putting all the ships I actively ship/enjoy/look at or for content for on even a semi-regular basis: Kacchako, Todobaku, Kiribaku, Camiida, Todomomo, Kamijirou, Kirichako (Kiri/Baku/Ura). I'm probably forgetting one or two but that's what I got off the top of my head.

FINALLY, HOW DOES ONE SHIP WITH YOU?:

Come into my IM's and be like hey bitch let's get blasty mcsplode soft like his hair' lmao. I'm open to all suggestions for a ship. I may not necessarily ultimately think Bakugou's shippable with the character but the only way you'll know is asking me and having us discuss and try stuff out!

[madara-fate]

Now that Darling in the Franxx is over, could you rank the characters from least to most favorite and why? as well as your opinions about the endgames.

I guess I’ll just stick to the characters from the main group. In which case:

10. Miku - She definitely had the least focus out of all of them and I therefore had the least reason to really care much about her. During the few times where she did get some attention, she didn’t really resonate with me. She just seemed like the typical tsundere with pigtails, and that’s unfortunate considering how a certain other girl with pigtails from an earlier anime by Studio Trigger…

Was by far the best thing about the show, bar none. Nico was absolutely amazing in Kiznaiver (and not just because of how adorable she was!!!), and Miku just kinda disappointed me in comparison. 

9. Futoshi - I had nothing to really say about him prior to episode 11, and then during said episode he annoyed me with his possessive clingyness and his primitive ideals about how the worst thing a man could possibly do is to hurt a girl because that’s just completely untrue, and overly chivalrous sentiments such as this just annoy me, but I digress. He showed a lot of growth following this, but I just wish we got to see more of him and Ikuno interacting as partners, because they weren’t ever really depicted as “partners”, but more like two people who just happened to operate the same FranXX. That was rather disappointing, because I feel like two people who were as different as Ikuno and Futoshi could have made for a very interesting dynamic.

8. Hiro - I won’t call him bland, but I just didn’t find him interesting at all. He had a few good quotes here and there, with perhaps one of my favourite quotes in the whole show coming in episode 21 where Hiro said “I don’t live to fight anymore, I’m going to fight to live”. That was a very good line for him and was very applicable to all of them. But overall I just found Hiro to be rather “meh”.

7. Kokoro - I liked how as the show went on, she grew out of her shell and stopped hiding behind a smiling face that just went along with whatever her peers desired. She began to be more assertive, both in regards to voicing her opinions and in her romantic advances towards Mitsuru (a lot of which was actually influenced by him from their talks in the greenhouse), and this was nice to see. She obviously didn’t go about voicing her desire to partner with Mitsuru in the best way because she broke her promise with Futoshi in the process, but she acknowledged this and didn’t make excuses for her actions, which was commendable. She followed her heart and actively went after what she wanted, which in itself is admirable considering how they were brought up.

6. Ichigo - She was a character that intrigued me because I was always interested to see how she’d react to certain situations. I found her to be a good balance; she wasn’t the standard tsundere like Miku, she wasn’t the standard “waifu” like Kokoro, and she wasn’t quiet and reserved like Ikuno. I found this balance to be very appealing, and I think this balance of her character was what made her a good leader. She obviously made a few mistakes during episode 14, but what transpired during said episode was every bit Hiro and Zero Two’s fault as it was her’s, and her actions were very understandable under the circumstances, so I never held any sort of grudge. Besides, she then demonstrated a lot of character in the ensuing episodes, so it’s all good.

5. Zero Two - She was the character that added the “spice” to the series, which is always a plus in my book. She was unpredictable and captivating, which always made for high quality viewing and entertainment, and she ticked the box which I always find the most important when determining how much I like a character - their ability to retain my interest and attention. There were instances in which she irritated me though, such as in episode 14 where rather than simply clarifying to Ichigo that her outlook on Hiro had changed after discovering that he was the darling from her past, she instead decided to continue acting like she didn’t care and that Hiro was still expendable to her, which was what caused Ichigo to act obnoxiously stubborn in the first place:

That was utterly stupid on her part… But I digress. Zero Two was undoubtedly the heart and soul of the show. She made the show what it was.

4. Zorome - Towards the beginning of the show, I never would have imagined that he and Mitsuru would end up becoming two of my favourite characters, because they were both such pricks, lol. But I guess character development is a great thing eh? Like Miku, he didn’t really get too much focus, but unlike Miku, the focus that he did get resonated with me very much. Once you get past the brash exterior, you can see how much of a caring person he can be, with a good example being when he shed tears for Futoshi because he was so worried about his friend’s health in episode 16. I really wish that his fascination with being an adult could have been explored further, because episode 10 was very interesting. His conversation with the unnamed elderly woman caught my attention greatly, not least because Zorome found her to be inexplicably familiar. Alas, this was never really touched upon again, which is a shame. That plot point had a lot of potential.

3. Ikuno - With her, I always felt that there was so much more to her beneath that stoic facade, but as the episodes went by I felt that it grew increasingly less likely that she’d reach the potential that she had as a character. Thankfully, the 2nd half of the show showcased Ikuno in a really powerful fashion. Her confession to Ichigo was so well done because the manner in which she explained herself was just so understandable, saying things like how frustrated she felt that the boys were able to ride with her just because of their gender, which is something she could obviously do nothing about. I just found myself nodding the entire way through, and following this, she undoubtedly became one of the MVPs of the group. I don’t think the importance of the research that she conducted following Hiro and Zero Two’s separation from the group can be stressed enough. Hopefully she spent the remainder of her days happy with Naomi by her side, it’d be no less than she deserves.

2. Goro - If there was ever a character who remained consistently great throughout the entire duration of a show, Goro would be up there. He and Ikuno were the only two characters who never annoyed me once throughout the whole show, not even a little bit. But what puts Goro above Ikuno for me was that he was a great character from start to finish, whereas Ikuno took a while to get there. There wasn’t much development to speak of with him, but when you start off great, then this isn’t exactly a requirement. He was the constant voice of reason for the group; he was that safety net which assured you that no matter how mental the group may act, Goro would always be there to bring them back down to earth, and I really appreciated that. 

1. Mitsuru - This guy was development personified, seriously. His transformation from the difficult and pompous person he was at the beginning, to the kind and compassionate person he became later on was astounding :

It was essentially like watching two completely different characters. A lot of his development can be owed to Kokoro, because much like how he helped her break out of her shell by influencing her to speak her mind and become more assertive, she helped him recover from his self loathing as a pilot, and through her unwavering belief in him, he was able to regain the belief in himself. And in doing so, his conceited attitude began to wane, and in it’s place emerged a bundle of fluff who would become “Papa No.1″.

As for the endgames, the pairings were to be expected. I couldn’t be certain of whether a relationship would be canonised between the Goro-Ichigo-Ikuno triangle, but I have no issues with the conclusion.

The reincarnation thing with Hiro and Zero Two understandably caused a lot of controversy but I had no real problems with it to be honest. Maybe because I had already resigned myself to accepting the likelihood that the two of them wouldn’t be getting the standard “happy” ending, long before episode 24. This made it a lot easier for me to accept the ending for what it was, and appreciate the journey that all of them had gone through during the course of the show:

Still though, even without Hiro and Zero Two’s story concluding in a standard happy ending, they were at least able to have a second chance to spend their lives together in peace and happiness, without the hindrances that came with being nurtured in a dystopian state where you’re bred to pilot and nothing more.

[keenregine]

Unpopular opinion, public helmets are gross Even during the entire trip to Barcelona or prior to that, there was no made up detailed itinerary or whatsoever, but somehow we survived systematically. In a sense that we’re both satisfied with the places we went or perhaps there’s a hope that we can comeback next time if we’re both allowed to. This is not gonna be told in an elaborate manner *I’ll try my best* on how Alex and I became official boyfriend/girlfriend. Although I have told this story so many times to those who asked me in person. So here goes. Alex is a guy and I’m a girl and we’re both single in one of the most romantic city in the world. The end. Lol just kidding. I honestly don’t know how to make this comprehensive. He was my schoolmate in high school *I was one year his senior, therefore I’m his ate lol* and we were friends since then, we hang out after school, talk a little and that’s it, not romantically linked or anything not even having constant communication of some sort. Just two plain friends. We hangout once when I was in second year college, we went to a bar with one of my girlfriends but then again we didn’t really became an item. That was 14 years ago, imagine. I mean, I’m now re-realizing how old I really am and it’s dreadful. Lol. Anyways, years passed, we both finished college and started working, again we haven’t spoken to each other at length during these times, we’re both running our own private lives. Although we’re friends on Facebook, the only way we have an update on each other. And that’s how I knew he moved to Spain with his family for quite some time. We chat briefly and told me he just broke up with his ex. The guy was devastated but on the process of moving on. Even then, we mutually still don’t foresee each other as potential partner. Additionally, he’s one of those guy friends that I feel safe and comfortable hanging out with because I’m sure he won’t take advantage of any kind. He’ s seeing on my timeline that I climb mountains, oh how I miss those days. And he asked me if I could take him in one of those. .mountains. He was currently on vacation same time as I was so then we climbed as joiners. We went out again for the second time, I’m not sure which one came first the mountain or this. We met at this Korean grill restaurant then KTV with some drinks. Chit chat here and there, catching up during those idle times. Oh he invited me again to drink outside with his friends, now my timeline is all messed up, not sure which particular order, forgive me. But those was our friendly date episodes. I said I’ll try my best not to discuss this ever so elaborate. As I mentioned before, prior traveling to Spain which I told him about where I asked him if he could accompany me on his free time. This part of the story is significant because this is where he asked *I thought he was joking, because we both never considered before* if we can try to be ‘together’ as a ‘couple’. He asked me this when I was waiting for my visa, when I was still in Saudi, like months prior. ok I made that clear enough. I was skeptical at first aka trust issues. lol. Inevitable. He keeps on dropping hints that he was interested on pursuing me. On my perspective, maybe he was just trying to play it cool or whatever because I only see him as a friend. And I don’t want to ruin that by stepping up to another level or if things went sour and didn’t go as planned. But in the end, I just answered a simple 'okay' on what he asked. I thought, maybe he might lose interest once he get to know me on a deeper level. Or so I hope. Girls with their overthinking abilities huh. Let’s go. So, to proceed with our day 3 in Barca. Yes, I need to tell that back story first to create a viable image and to make everything easier and comprehensive because this is the part where he personally asked me what he ‘asked’ me if he could court me. I was touched with his old school but sweet gesture. But first, earlier that day we woke up early and went to Park Guell, Gaudi’s meticulous colored broken glass trademark. With all these vast architecturally pleasing structures for which he created and blueprint on his own. I love how he put particular meaning into small details and symbols, every little thing has its own enitire explanation, there's no accident or just because in what he does, that's why audioguides is very important for me. I would never have second thoughts on grabbing the opportunity. It's a whole different experience when you look at it plainly versus listening to the history beyond the great wonder. Stones, glass, man made rock formations, like how can possibly a mind of one person think of all these. Total genius! Not only this but including the other structures he made outside the perimeter most especially the La Sagrada Familia that I can’t quite move on from, like the ongoing construction that’s still well underway. We talk at length about our past during our walk in the astonishing park, although it’s not healthy but it would make you fully understand about how a person perceive the present and what they went through. We learned so many things about each other, not only the bitter past but also our preferences and expectations. But of course the best way to do that is? Learn on the job, correct! Later on, we spoke so many about what happened before this and that, except for the present. The ‘about us’ part. I completely thought he forgotten about the thing he asked me because it has been days since I arrived in Spain and there was no mention about it again, I was kinda hoping to keep everything as it is so as to not make our friendship complicated. Or maybe just like what I expected, he has a sudden change of mind when he get to know me further. Before this, people here in Spain that we know keep telling me why can’t we be just together, we’re both single and good looking lol so what’s stopping us. For that, I always have the same honest to God answer “We’re just friends, I don’t see him that way, he’s like a brother to me”. Oh really. I have no expectations of any sort, no pre made up pictures in my mind. But it came to me that he is actually potential partner, this is after few days of hanging out and after he asked me sincerely. He’s nice and polite in general, he has a clean record relationships, he’s 30 and doesn’t have a kid from the past *most important point* lol nor previously married, his interests are in some level with mine, he’s never bored going with me to the museums and stare long at those paintings, patiently listening to the the backstories that I know. I never noticed but he has dimples when he smile fully, he’s tall and the body physique is just ugh, well we ate more frequently so that dad tummy is quite catching up. But that’s normal and trending these days anyway. And many other things and it’s not always about the good things, imperfections may arise but even so. After some time of exposing ourselves in public, a lot of people *our mutual friends* are congratulating us so and so. Similar to movies, he has a vast of great reviews, saying he's known to be nice even before, not arrogant or too confident even though he joined the varsity volleyball in high school, which I vaguely remembered. And lot of girls are after him but he never took advantage or played around, so it's one hell of a gold stamp if you ask me. He admitted that he liked me since high school until during those several ‘friendly dates’ we had, but he’s only too shy to tell and make porma because apparently I was too snobby. We felt like this is the perfect timing for us both, hence the universe conspires. We continue on with our next day finally as a couple, no quote unquote. It’s official, I’m a relationship girl again! Woohoo! Hope this goes well. Relationship girl is also the over-thinker girl. Lol. Our next sightseeing venture was this breath taking view of Montserrat. There are options on how you want to get to the summit. For the common tourist like us, a cable car and train is available for your comfortable needs. Or if you're a hardcore adventure seeker why pay and take a ride when you can climb all the way up that would take probably half a day reaching the top. hehe One thing I like about Barcelona is the experience of all things environment wise. It has a perfect balance of beach and mountains in one same place. Plus it never runs out of art, history, architecture and food. It’s almost unimaginable how a structure is built and sits perfectly on the mountain with a massive Baroque-inspired church. Therefore I conclude, nothing is impossible for the Catalans. We tried to regain our climbing strength by reaching until halfway through the peak, but we both could not. Apart from lack of exercise and training, it was scorching hot and we didn’t put on sunscreen. We went at the hostel in the afternoon and for the last time, went back to the beach for some late night hang out. I’m not making any sense now am I. There’s a tiny little incident I forgot to tell during our first day. Electric scooter are ever so popular in Barca that we decided to rent out for fun, helmets were given for safety precautions. As we go along the streets, we saw other riders not wearing their helmets. We felt like it’s not really necessary anyway plus the smell is weird so we just hang it on our elbows. Many of us our riding altogether, almost bumping into each other upon turning the corner we were caught by the local police. Getting away with this kind of violation is nearly impossible, together with us are two French couples who did the same thing, not wearing helmets. The police gave us violation tickets, according to the policy ‘tourists’ riding rented scooters are obligated to wear helmets. Alex however tried to explain that he’s a Spanish resident that could exempt him with receiving the ticket, the good hearted police lessen the ticket to only one that’s suppose to be for us both, the hefty charge was 50 euros payable through some type of bank whatever. They suck out all the fun riding the scooter, so even though we still have time remaining, we return it early. lol. Lesson learned. Just don’t ride the freaking scooters. Ever. For the second time.

[d4isy-pusher]

All of them :}}}}

WHY DO YOU HURT ME IN THIS WAY

Let’s start with a tricky one; what is the real reason you are confused right now?

i dont know whether to get rid of certain people or not

Do you ever get “good morning” texts from anyone?

sometimes

If your significant other smoked pot, would you care?

eh. id disapprove but i wouldnt go off the rails

Do you find it easy to trust others?

no LOL

What were you doing at 11PM last night?

playing stardew valley on the xbox, i got an iridium bar be proud of me

You’re drunk and lost walking down the road; who is with you?

I AM 13

What would you do if you found out you had been cheated on?

i just get really pissed and cut off the person

Are you close with your dad?

yea

I bet you kissed someone last night, right?

...no

What are you listening to?

You can only drink ONE liquid for the rest of your life - what is it?

Do you like hickeys?

i wouldnt know

What time do you go to bed?

it varies

Is there someone who continuously lets you down?

yeah😔

Can you text as quickly with one hand as you do both?

no

Do you always answer your texts?

sometimes i get overwhelmed but yea i try

Do you hate the person you fell the hardest for?

iiiiiiiiii dont think so?

When was the last time you talked to one of your best friends?

todayayaya @quackbug

Is there someone that makes you happy every time you see them?

@katmeeliaz no homo💖

What was your last thought before you went to bed last night?

...I DONT KNOW??

Is anyone else in the room with you?

im on my couch rn so yea my dad's in the living room

Do you believe what goes around comes around?

depends.

Were you happier four months ago than you are now?

no, i was pretty miserable

Is there someone you wish you could fix things with?

yes, but i dont know if they would care if i tried

In the past week, have you cried?

ive come close, but no

What colour is the shirt you are wearing?

bl00

Do people ever call you by your last name?

never. HAHA

Is anyone ignoring you right now?

oh for sure </3

Do you have a best friend?

@quackbug heyyyyyyy

Would it be hard seeing someone else kiss the last person you kissed?

i cant even remember the last person i kissed so @katmeeliaz 💋 and no

Who was your last call/text message from?

bug sent me this and they were also my last call

Are you mad at anyone?

multiple

Have you ever kissed someone older than you?

yea

How old will the last person you kissed be on his/her next birthday?

rainy gon be 14 wooooooo

How many more days until your birthday?

273. LMAO

Do you have any summer plans yet?

yea im goin to hawaii bitch

Do you have any good friends of the opposite sex?

julian n russell

Are you keeping anything from your best friend(s) now?

😐

Do you have a secret that you’ve never told anyone?

i thought everyone did??

Have you ever regretted kissing someone?

yea

Do you think age matters in relationships?

depends on the mental age of both people, and whether or not its legal so i dont know

Are you available?

...i suppose? i dont know the context

How many people have you had real, strong feelings for since high school ended?

sits in middle school

If you had to get a piercing (not ears), what would you get?

im a pussy i hate that stuff so i have no idea

Do you believe exes can be friends?

yea! although it depends on the terms you left on

Do you regret anything?

many things

Honestly, what’s on your mind right now?

my dumbass read that and my mind went "DICK" so now i gotta say dick i hate it here

Did you ever lose a best friend?

mhm

Was your last kiss a mistake?

nop

Why aren’t you pursuing the person you like?

i dont have one thats why

Has the last person you kissed ever seen you cry?

heard, yes

Do you still talk with the person you LAST kissed?

yes

What was the last thing you ate?

dowitos

Did you get any compliments today?

got called creative,, so yea

Where are you going on your next vacation?

not sure, we'll see

Do you own anything from other countries?

yea i have some stuff from ireland, im in the us

Are most of your friend guys or girls?

gals

Where have you lived most of your life?

i aint ANSWERIN THAT SHIT CUZ I STILL LIVE THERE

When was the last time you took a long drive?

god knows how long ago sweats

Have you ever played Spin the Bottle?

no and i dont think i ever will bc haha that shit scary

Have you ever TPd someone’s house?

ive watched and thought it was funny

Who do you text the most?

@katmeeliaz we have like 900 messages a day

What was the last movie you saw?

ffffffffuck uh I DONT REMEMBER OOPS

What’s preventing your current boyfriend/girlfriend from going back to their ex?

my what now

How many boyfriends/girlfriends did you have in 2011?

i was deadass 3 years old

Is the last person you kissed younger than you?

cuz of our birthdays yea

Do you curse around your parents?

yeah LMAO

Are you happy with where you live?

oh yeah for sure i love it here

Picture of yourself?

i dont think ive ever seriously taken a picture of myself so have my bird

Are you a monogamous person or do you believe in open-ended relationships?

ive only been in one relationship so idk

Have you ever been dumped?

in a way

What do you most like about making out?

never kissed someone romantically irl before so shrug

Have you ever casually made out with someone who you weren’t seriously involved with?

i personally think that shit's gross i would wanna save that for someone special :(

When you kiss someone for the first time, is it usually you who initiates it or the other?

iiiiiiiiiii do not remember

What part of a person’s body do you find most attractive?

idk i guess eyes? i like eyes in multiple contexts

Who was the last person you talked to last night before you went to bed?

i believe it was bug i do not remember

Had sex with someone you knew less than an hour?

😐

Had sex with someone you didn’t know their name?

😐😐😐😐😐

What makes your heart flutter and brings a big cheesy smile to your face

im super weak to people telling me they look up to me n shit that makes my heart die

Would you get involved with someone if they had a child already?

what fuckin 13-15 year old am i gonna know who has a kid

Has someone who had a crush on you ever confessed to you?

yes and my response was hazbin hotel memes, we still talk about it cuz it was funny

Do you tell a lot of people when you have a crush?

i dont ever really have crushes like i rlly think i might be aromantic

Do you miss your last sweetie?

as a friend? yea. as a partner? nop

Last time you slow danced with someone?

in a past life i guess

Have you ever ‘dated’ someone you’ve never met?

my friends' ocs yea

How can I win your heart?

i dont know myself well enough to say

What is your astrological sign?

fis- pisces

What were you doing last night at 12 AM?

still playin that stardew valley

Do you cook?

yea!

Have you ever gotten back in touch with an old flame after a time of more than 3 months of no communication?

yeah LOL it was like 9 months of no talking and we just saw each other like ":0000 BRO IS THAT YOU"

If you’re single right now, do you wish you were in a relationship?

no, i dont need one to be happy

Do you prefer to date various people or do you pretty much fall into monogamous relationships quickly?

cant say

What physical traits do you look for in a potential interest?

nice hands,,,u gotta have nice hands so i can hold em

Name four things that you wish you had!

i cant name four, but

i want this. like pls. can i just have this on my desk or something i want it im begging

Are you a player?

no

Have you ever kissed 2 people in one day?

no?

Are you a tease?

yea :]] in a friendly way tho

Ever meet anyone you met on Tumblr?

not yet but someday i will go to ihop with @quackbug and get cupcake pancakes

Have you ever been deeply in love with someone?

yea! its a nice feeling

Anybody on Tumblr that you’d go on a date with?

@katmeeliaz platonically

Hugs or Kisses?

hugs..i havent been kissed enough to prefer em

Are you too shy to ask someone out?

i dont really ask people out anyways

The first thing you notice about the opposite sex?

for some reason manly guys dont interest me i want a small sweetie that i can cuddl so i guess that i mean why u think he exist

Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you babe?

"bae/babe" makes me want to crumple into a ball so no

If a sexy person was pursuing you, but you knew he/she was in relationship, would you go for it?

no because if they're being unfaithful to their partner i doubt they're very smart

Do you flirt a lot?

in a jokin way yea

Your last kiss?

@katmeeliaz platonically

Have you kissed more than 5 people since the start of 2012?

no

Have you kissed anyone in the past month?

mhm

If you could kiss anyone who would it be?

Do you know who you’ll kiss next?

shrug

Does someone like you currently?

maybe, i wouldnt know

Do you currently have feelings for anyone?

nah

Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

shrug again

Ever made out with just a friend?

virtually yeah but it was more of a joking thing HAHAH

Are you happier single or in a relationship?

a relationship is just a nice thing to add into your life, it wont bring you happiness, your life can be just as happy without someone if you live it correctly

[againjack]

Once upon a dream

Colby ended up back in town Wednesday due to the car drama. We had chatted about seeing a movie, and had feared it would be leaving theaters soon. So while neither of us HAD to see the other that evening, and I had confirmed the movie would be around at least another week or so, he really wanted to get together. I was supposed to be in a meeting, but figured I wasn’t necessary and skipped it. 

He met me at the door with a big hug and lovely kiss. Oh how I had missed him, and he clearly missed me. At that point it was two weeks and a day since we had last seen each other. 

We chilled and talked for a bit after I put some groceries away that I had picked up on the way to his place away. (More nesting on my part - ensuring I have breakfast as well as salty and sweet snacks at his place. I also picked up a few things he had asked me to, since he literally had gotten back two hours before hand and I had offered.) He was clearly exhausted and sorta surprised when I snuggled up to him like a cat, conforming to how he was sitting. I was surprised that he didn’t share his dramas, since he had alluded to them at various points either via text/chat/phone conversations. 

When he decided we should head to the theater he asked me to drive, since after 5 hours he was done.:P I complied. He was amused at how I cleaned out the front seat from dog and random other stuff. Even being tired he was a good navigator, since he wanted me to go a specific way. This bodes well for whenever we do a road trip together. (Note: aka checklist item for long term potential.) 

While in line for popcorn, because he insists on it and was shocked I avoid it, we had some interesting discussions. I mentioned how I had told my parents about him based upon our discussions at the french restaurant. He wasn’t sure what I was referring to. I was all awkward and said that I must be one of those women who reads into things too much, but standing in line with people all around us was not the time or place to have that discussion. 

We had some very interesting discussions about the movie afterwards. It was nice to have such a varied and in depth analysis with so many references that we both understood. It was nice to have such an intellectual discussion with a hint of silliness. It was... awesome. An item on my long term potential checklist I didn’t know I had and needed. An item that was placed there from my exhusband who set a high bar there. :P

Back at his place we had dinner. We sat and chatted for a bit, he putzed at something while I nuked the casserole. It felt lopsided and very traditional gender roles. Dinner wasn’t anything that stood out from our conversation. After dinner he just sat there and chatted at me while I began to clean up. I started to feel resentful that it felt like more gender stereotype roles. He did eventually bring his own dishes in and took care of them. This is definitely a point to discuss in the (near) future. 

We walked his dog and I commented about an email I had sent earlier. I am trying to “manage” him, like one would with your boss at work - present options or situations ahead of time to give them time to think things through and be ready to make a plan/decision/action when the time comes. This email was about my birthday in two weeks. The email was that I wasn’t sure if he had made note of it when it was brought up off hand months ago. That I wasn’t expecting anything from him (except maybe a card.) That I know he has a lot on his plate and unknowns (like he has to go back to SC to pick up his car if it is repaired.) But I wanted to make plans and wanted to know IF he had any ideas or wanted me to be available for him to do something with. That way if he couldn’t/didn’t it was ok and I could make other plans. He said he had scanned it and was thinking about it. He said he appreciated my ‘managing’ him.

He was putzing some more after walking the dog, so I pulled out the book I am studying to make notecards as part of my study process. After a few minutes he noticed and seemed taken aback. I told him that I expected he would focus on things, so I brought something to do in the mean time. He knows my test is coming up (exactly a month from today!) and that I’ve got a lot of responsibility with work and my synagogue in the next few weeks as well. I told him that I understand how present he is when with me, and I want to give him the same. That I only wanted to do the cards while he was busy with something else. He said he understood but gave an air of being disappointed and maybe hurt.  He went upstairs to get ready for bed. 

I finished the card I was on, then grabbed a different book and notebook for notes so I could read while he got ready. He was unpacking his bag while I read, and he tossed something at me while he walked to the bathroom. I looked up confused. He said that it was sort of an early birthday present. I blinked and asked him if he wanted me to open it then or to wait - he said it was up to me. (At this point I was wondering if this was my only gift from him or if it was a prelude. I also wonder if it was meant to be something else but due to the bday talk earlier he decided to call it that. :\ ) 

I decided to open it right then, since I feel it is important to open a gift from someone in front of them and I wasn’t sure if we would be together on my bday or not. It was a beautiful scarf. Hand dyed indigo cotton scarf. So soft and beautiful. He had left the price tag on it, and it was way more than I would have paid - even being artisan and expensive materials.:P But that is the definition of a gift, right? Something you want but wouldn’t buy for yourself. 

It was funny how after that we discussed why he chose that one over other patterns - like one too polkadoty, another being very tallis like... He was obviously pleased with my reaction. 

Part of why I wonder about if it was intended as a bday gift or for that evening was he seemed miffed that I was studying/reading rather than puppy dog following him around with him as my sole attention. Part of our conversation after I thanked him and was playing with the scarf he said some very interesting things. He thanked me for sticking by him the past few months that his life was way more crazy than normal. He showed in his voice, face, and mannerisms that it meant a lot to him and he felt it was special and rare. That he didn’t expect it and was surprised and values that. I joked how I have the patience of a saint, and told him how awesome and special he is and what I think we have together is. I focused more on him than us. I feel like he is getting closer to saying he loves me, and I’m not sure if what I say/do encourages or pushes that away. 

On the radio the other day was a discussion about a study about when in a relationship people say I love you for the first time. Most people it is an even split between the first week or at the 3 month mark. Only 5% took longer than three months. It really made me think about how I am and when I say it, as well as when my previous partners have said it. The whole world (that reads this or talks to me) knows how I fell in love instantly with Colby and it has only deepened and become more real over time. (The radio personalities reacted like most people that if someone says I love you in the first week it is a huge red flag and to run! So I am glad that while I have felt that way I haven’t said it.) It has been over three months since we met, and we are 10 days from the three months after our first date. I’m really curious when he will say it and it is getting harder for me to wait. I’ve been alluding to it, but occasionally saying things like, “good morning, luv.” 

A part of me is wondering with his being a self proclaimed romantic if he is saving his declaration of love - or sex - for my birthday. Being a romantic myself, and being that the first time is special, I think we are on the same wavelength. Of course, I could just be building castles in the clouds. 

When he laid down he said the light didn’t bother him, but it clearly did. So I gave up on reading and snuggled up with him. It was clear he missed that, even though he didn’t say anything.  While snuggled up before he fell asleep I joked that he is off the hook for cake and flowers (that I had mentioned in the email as suggestions for my bday.) More of how I think he missed me, when I rolled over to my side of the (king sized bed) because he kept moving (while sound asleep) to be closer to me or to touch me (his foot to my leg, his back to my side/back...) He hasn’t moved to the middle of the bed like that before. 

In the morning he noticed and seemed to like that I was wearing the scarf. He also was clearly having trouble with the idea of us parting ways for work. He was still on island time and thinking he was on vacation, wanting to just take his time and chill with me. :)

We have chatted a lot more through the days. Probably both because I gave him a stern but lightish poke about going days without contact again, as well as now that he was back to normal and not on vacation and with family I reached out more. I found myself wrapping the scarf around my shoulders, like a pashmina/shawl, and pulling it tight, imagining it was him hugging/holding me. I decided to be a romantic dork and told him that, his response was a smile. Since he is such a romantic I know he really appreciated that thought and that I told him too. 

We don’t have plans of when to see each other next, but I feel no worries right now. I am still on the Colby-high though. :P 

Today while chatting he sent me a link about Harry Potter erotica. (An article about a guy who thought he bought the series to read when instead he bought erotic fanfic and had no clue until talking to a friend about book 5. Hilarious article and I really want to read that fanfic series. lol) I told him I wanted to read it, and told him that he isn’t helping with my keeping at his pace - that I was turned on and really wanted him. I took it a bit further, saying how was naturally extra horny due to being midcycle, though it would be hard for him to know since I have a consistently high appetite. lol (Sorta to explain why I playfully bit his ear Wednesday night. >><<) 

I feel like we have slipped a wee bit deeper into being a couple and being comfortable with each other. I feel a bit more solid about how he feels and what I mean to him.