#this is also why its baffling when people say negative stuff towards the term qpr existing

[thedeafprophet]

Its perhaps my tism' related need for terms but i always struggle a bit with how undefined the term 'friend' is used for relationships, esp as an aro person who deeply values platonic relationship

what i mean is that it doesnt quite compute that 'person you vaguely know and have been friendly with for a bit' and 'person you have a deep emotional connection and spend much of your free time with/would consider moving for' level of relationship are both considered 'friends'. those are two very different things, and while both are important, dont quite mesh to be considered on the same level.

i like the term aqauintance but it sometimes seems to be considered negative if you use it for someone in some spaces. but im often left floundering when someone i dont really know uses the term friend, when i consider that to be a more serious level of relationship.

i guess it all comes down to struggle with amatonormativity and the downplaying of the importance of friendship.