#this community also treats nonbinary people like shit its wild.

[i-miss-my-90gb]

I also love how people on here are like no transmasc people are ever in danger etc blah blah die

[dwarrowdams]

All right party people, it’s Festivus!

Normally I only air one grievance and give a good deal of detail on it, but this has been such a shit year that I can’t limit myself to one thing.

So to end 2020, here is a list of (some of) the things and people that annoy me.

(under the cut because it got VERY LONG)

$600 STIMULUS CHECK.  Like my dudes, what the fuck?  That doesn’t come close to covering my rent.

Congress in general because they dicked around for months and months only to give us money that won’t even come close to covering a month’s expenses

The mouse in my sister’s apartment (I’ve never met it but c’mon, she sees enough mice at work and also she’s a nice lady who shouldn’t have to deal with infestation)

Whoever gave me that stomach bug I got back in March (I cut my trip to Chicago short and was sick for a week and a half and it was not fun)

My DnD companions on Sunday when they almost let my character be carried off by demon vultures

The Wisconsin DWD

Community Advocates (aka the rent assistance org that has been stringing me along for about half a year now)

The human body (we require so much maintenance! who designed this bitch?)

Betsey DeVos

JK Terfling

Jeff Bezos

All those other rich fuckers (I could look them up but they’re not even worth the time)

Whatever part of my body that decided late last year that I should develop a gluten allergy out of fucking nowhere

Landlords

Landlords who hike rent during a pandemic

Landlords who slap their tenants with late fees during a pandemic

My aunt, who continues to not give a fuck about COVID even after both of her daughters got it

The part of my brain that just does not want to read anymore (c’mon fam, at least give me this)

Coarse yarn

People who wear strong perfume

People who use air freshener/scented candles/etc. in highly trafficked areas without checking to see if anyone has a scent sensitivity.

My sinuses

Everyone who flips rabbits onto their backs for non-essential purposes (they’re terrified like that and it should only be done to give them medicine or other such things)

Everyone who decides to release their house rabbits into the wild

Cops

People who simp for cops

Capitalism

People who simp for capitalism

That one guy in my DnD group who is just a big asshole

I refer to him on Twitter as Asshole Ray

Anyone who gets really upset when people point out that Sam and Frodo are totally gay for each other

like who cares if you don’t ship it, but stop harassing the people who do

Whoever decided to take the shot of Thorin blacksmithing toplessly out of The Hobbit

People who act like small businesses don’t have an obligation to treat their employees ethically (they do and if they can’t, maybe they shouldn’t be a business)

Anti-maskers

Donald Trump and everyone who supports him (including those who voted for him, those who worked for/with him, and those who have continued to do or say nothing even after he did clearly fascist things)

Gyms that won’t let you cancel your membership over the phone or internet but instead require you to send certified mail or go down there in person to cancel...even in the middle of a pandemic (looking at you, Planet Fitness)

People who stan thin abled cis white men in dresses, but scoff at transmascs, nonbinary people, and/or men of color who wear dresses.

That one phone worker at Community Advocates who continued to misgender me after I told her that I was nonbinary

Companies that destroy usable items instead of donating them because donating is too much work

Whoever decided that paying rent isn’t enough—I also have to pay to do laundry even though I already pay to live in this building and use its amenities

My cousin’s ex who apparently got mad at her because she called her ADHD partner to wake them up and refused to listen to my cousin’s very reasonable response

(she’s poly fyi so no one was cheating)

Men who are just a little too into WWII

People who assume that medieval people were stupid

People who misuse medieval history in an attempt to support their white supremacist ideas

White supremacists in general

My neighbor who always watches stuff really loudly late at night when I’m trying to sleep

People who wear their masks under their noses

People who use stimulants recreationally

you’re the reason I had to pee in a cup every month for a year just to get the medicine that helps unfuck my brain

Big coffee chains that charge extra for plant-based milks

White Vegans (TM)

[2ofswords]

🔥 Go wild, king

(Trigger warning: discussion of misogyny (first and foremost), sexualization of minors, transphobia and also some classism sprinkled in here because this list wasn’t long enough. Some really gross shit tbh, I am going full vent mode with this one! Please proceed with caution!)

Oh well, I will annoy everyone who follows me and vague about people who will probably never read this by stating that the Hunger Games participation fanfiction (or how it is called in English, I’m not sure, please tell me if you know “^^) on fanfiktion.de is really fucking misogynistic and I hate it even if I write for the fandom. (Like not you my three homies, who follow me here, I am mostly talking about other writers. Also if you are weirded out by me talking past tense: The people in the community I interacted with aren’t really active on there anymore and there is a lot of distance by now.) Like… I don’t only mean the basic stereotypes or shit mostly male writers do, not knowing that a female character can have actual agency and their own thoughts. Oh no! It’s worse! It was growing out of proportion to the point it became unbearable.

Statements like “females have by nature worse chances in the hunger games” were just like… casually thrown around and also written like that in fic. There was a writer who said that female characters – which other people could send in as part of the participation – are worse written than male ones (which as a writer I do not perceive as true and even if it would be, forming a community where creating females becomes uncomfortable it can worsen the characters and/or ward of people who actually want to engage with female characters creating a very vicious circle) and that she cannot write them (which like… is already very misogynistic. It’s not hard, I promise, just write them as FUCKING PEOPLE!) and only accepted male characters at all for a while. And like… one time she made an exception for an all boys arena where there was only one female and she just complained all the time how she wouldn’t make it because she was a girl and got infantilised horribly. That got to the point in the story, where the girl in the story one time slipped on soap because she couldn’t use a shower properly and a male character had to help her because she fell unconscious. I am not making this up! It was… utterly horrible. She also very unceremoniously got literally vaporized the first day in the arena so that was… telling.

There are other problems. There is a lot of the classical weird sexualization which yes, can reach even higher levels of… problematic… if we consider that there are mostly minors in the hunger games. I would love to be fair, a lot of changed rulesets only allowed for older characters, that were more around 20 years old... That wasn’t always the case though and I do remember a fic, where an underage girl provided sexual favours for a higher chance at survival… I think she was sixteen and the guy eighteen… It wasn’t explicit but still… fucking gross! Most of this got sorted into the edgy side of “realism” which tbh is just a very shitty argument in general. You can decide what you fucking put in your story and this shit is entirely unnecessary! It didn’t even further the plot in any way or was discussed healthily, just to make sure, I also check these boxes in my explanation. (Hate, to even feel the need to defend myself making this statement.) So that is probably the height of grossness I remember.

The weird hunt for Mary Sues was also a thing (though who would have guessed?). And since Mary Sue means “I don’t like this character” for many and we do not like the females here, it got thrown around a lot for really minor offences. There was a bad tendency to joke about other people’s characters (and since it is fandom you can guess that some of these people, who send characters in, were very young…) but there was an especially bad trend of female name calling and ridicule, to the point that sometimes you would get female characters send for your story, that were made only to be ridiculed (be it because they acted bitchy (aka were female and had attitude, god forbid!) or too manly (which yes, also has some very bad transphobic implications but let’s spare us this debate right now. This is its own entire can of worms and I could make an entire new post about how transgender and nonbinary people got treated there. Let me just say that there also was a lot of toxic masculinity and gender identity there just fucking sucked). Truth to be told this also was true to other minorities (there was a character whose social accent was the entire joke aside from him being depicted as overtly horny and degrading towards – you guessed it! – female characters, so… that was horrible!). Male characters getting allowed a higher skillset is so normalized that I got numb to it. Like... this legitimately is a hot take for this fandom! Honestly, I got numb to a lot of this shit, in retrospect it is really scary how accustomed you can get to some of this stuff. Like… the ones here are the worst and not the only offenders (and thankfully I was never that blind to notice that this shit is completely fucked up! Thank god!) and like… I could make this post about entirely different topics too, but this issue is by far the… let’s say the most blatant one, and made me realize how bad this shit can get and how awful fiction and real issues can interlock with each other. In hindsight it’s horrible to see.

If one of you finds my tumblr through my fanfiktion.de profile and reads this: Good. Fix your fucking problems! This isn’t okay!